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Spur of the moment or Book it in?
October 30 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
If a guy cant meet me for drinks only, I loose interest quickly.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Busy to me = I'm just not that into you.... When they disappear and return, it's Mr. Yoyo (something David Copperfield would be proud of) so I give up and want to meet someone organically at least you know it's "A-La Natural". Sometimes it is was it is, with timing. It totally sucks sometimes and other times it doesn't. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Too much bores me to tears... I know and feel if there's a click or not and want to meet. I dislike the dragging on and on and on and on and on....turns me off. I want a man who wants to take the lead. I get bored quickly if they don't, so their loss. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Too much contact can build up too many expectations. It can be exciting and a huge turn on but when nothing comes from it I have to end it. Sometimes life does get in the way of meeting within a few days but it's not always a good idea to chat and text too much before then.
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RHP User
10 years ago
prefer to meet than hover online. I think it gets to a point where sometimes the conversation does lull and you meet and there is nothing left to talk about.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Yes you should be turned off and bothered if they don't bother bother to keep contact? It should be natural flow shouldn't it?? I mean if they just keep in contact when they want, to me it shows signs of selfishness on their behave. You need to put in your own personal boundaries, what you expect and what not expect from word go. If they push those boundaries then it shows signs of disrespecct to you both. I'm not desperate to met someone, but if they shows signs of no interest why carry on?? I've finally clicked to listen as in listen (non verbally and verbally) for signs. HAHA! Exes and being around players have taught me the tricks, took me a while but hey I'm not perfect. So I say thank you to them. ;) Foxy
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inspirit
10 years ago
I am shite for that. I drop off - forget - then get back to them. Some times I drop out of RHP for what ever reasons and pick up where I left off. If they are still keen - well and good - if not - so be it. Doesn't bother me if they drop off either. Timing is not always in line with the planets and stars and we all know the Unicorns seem to fuck up best laid plans.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Sometimes life does get in the way and contact drops away.That happens to us all. The other thing that can occur is that you become Plan B; nearly good enough to meet fairly soon, but I will just check out that other person first because I think they're more my type. There's plenty of folk who run Plan B here.....some run it out to Plan Z ;)
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tempting123
10 years ago
Completely agree with kissk- however i cant imagine you would have had too many experiences with being anything other than Plan A
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DTE_couple
10 years ago
We tend to try and book dates in a week or 2 ahead. As not everyone is available on the same weekend.yes it can be hard to line up your calendar with another couple, just don't give up. we had been chatting with a couple for 12 months and still had not met up with them after lots of chatting and trying to arrange a meet. And we only just met them the other week. So don't be put off by not meeting people within a few messages. But yes sometimes you can be lucky enough to line up a date straight away, but not very often.And we don't feel funny if there has not been a lot of contact in the meantime. But we always confirm a couple days before and then a few hours before. Just so everyone does not get ready and horny for nothing, lol.But we have had spur of the moment meets to and they are just as much fun. We never expect anything and just go with the flow is the best frame of mind to have we think.Stay positive everyone, you will meet up with your elusive couple or single one day.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi, I am driving through town , past where you live. Can I meet you some place on the way so we can shag in the back of my ute? I am thinking, I have no life , so why not? I have to plan, just a little bit as I cannot host so there is no point rocking up to my house with your dick out and ringing my door bell with it. Besides that it takes three days to wax my bits and my legs. These days I really cannot be bothered to drop my draws cause your cute and I have a pussy. I have no idea what people are thinking when they have a day off and want to fit a woman in between waxing the car and fishing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm fairly new and was wondering what was 'normal' re chats etc, good to hear the views of others on it, I thought chat online for a week or so then arrange a meet sounded fair, has worked a couple of times, sometimes not. If they disappear I give them 10 days then delete. We all get busy but if you're really interested a quick hi isn't too hard, I think - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a single parent, I only have time to play 1 night a week and even then a work function or event at my child's school can take out that date. So I have to run a 4 week ahead diary. Which sucks for spontaneity. I am curious whether any other single parents on here have the same problem or if they have found a solution. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are always spur of the moment…if I have to wait till he is back from fly in fly out, holidaying here from another state, travelling etc…I forget them and lose interest quickly.When we get free time, we are looking for THAT week, even that night ……I prefer very little lead up, lots of face pictures and a brief chat about expect ions …them meet….It has never worked for us the other way around.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks so much Guys, its very interesting reading how everyone deals with this issue. Loved your comment LadyTuscan2 - gave me a huge laugh and I agree wholeheartedly. I guess its as much about what feels right at the time than anything, but I agree with missmary also about it not being hard to just say hi if you are interested. Plan Z? Geez, I hope Im not that any time soon....lol.....Again....Thanks people!
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I was s single parent I just gave up...I am not sure whether I chose celibacy,or it chose me xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll take the lead and suggest meeting over a drink or coffee.... If they dither ' or play cute ' they lose me quick smart.. Neither of us have crystal balls and can't predict if its worth going any further or not.. However once face to face is different... Unlike the written word , the eyes are the windows of the soul and don't lie...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have to plan, just a little bit as I cannot host so there is no point rocking up to my house with your dick out and ringing my door bell with it. Everytime i read your posts they crack me up, love your sense of humour. The times that I have met up with people there have been very little lead time, usually within a couple of days and maybe 2 or 3 messages. But like DTE_couple, experiences and preferences may vary between people. It's all about how comfortable you feel about the situation or how ready you are to meet and whether they show the kind of enthusiasm or thoughtfulness in replying as you want. MR
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Simple needs I'm not a single parent but your situation also resonates with us. Our situation is: hubby is a shift worker, who works weekdays and every weekend from 6pm to 6 am or 9 am to 9 pm. His weekends are during the week. I work full time during the day. We have two children, our youngest is 14 and we need babysitters for her. Our oldest doesn't drive yet so we have to take his needs into consideration. So there is no such thing as spontaneous play for us. We plan ahead, yes it can still be sexy because we keep up the sexting and communication, and we are not disappointed when we play. Keep persevering Mary xx
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