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Stalker...maybe trouble?
October 14 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im very sorry to hear this... I posted this on another forum a few weeks ago and it was a fellow RHP member who told me of this "trick" so this could be how your "stalker" got your real name etc... You dont say if he has your mobile number so Im only assuming but please see below Now I know this works for users of Iphone - not sure about other types of phones If you have the Facebook App on Iphone, it can connect thru the contacts on your phone So (and this does work).... try this... A person gives you their mobile number for a potential hookup, well you pop their number into your contacts on your Iphone list You then go to your Facebook app on your phone and open it up ...on your FB app there is a tab called "Find Friends" - select that and it will take you to a section called "Find Friends on your phone" Select that tab and viola Your new friend who innocently gave you their mobile number......well you now know everything about them as it will take you to their Facebook page ...name, surname, where they live etc etc...EVERYTHING cause you just connected to their FB account This will only work if 1) The person has a FB account and the security is not tight When this person told me about this , I was blown away and tried it..yep it worked.. .................and my FB account is now tighter than a Pentagon login......or is it ??? So even giving out your mobile phone number for a possible future hookup is fraught with risk And what to do to about this person...IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE...good luck hon
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MsVelvetblue' Im very sorry to hear this... I posted this on another forum a few weeks ago and it was a fellow RHP member who told me of this "trick" so this could be how your "stalker" got your real name etc... You dont say if he has your mobile number so Im only assuming but please see below Now I know this works for users of Iphone - not sure about other types of phones If you have the Facebook App on Iphone, it can connect thru the contacts on your phone So (and this does work).... try this... A person gives you their mobile number for a potential hookup, well you pop their number into your contacts on your Iphone list You then go to your Facebook app on your phone and open it up ...on your FB app there is a tab called "Find Friends" - select that and it will take you to a section called "Find Friends on your phone" Select that tab and viola Your new friend who innocently gave you their mobile number......well you now know everything about them as it will take you to their Facebook page ...name, surname, where they live etc etc...EVERYTHING cause you just connected to their FB account This will only work if 1) The person has a FB account and the security is not tight When this person told me about this , I was blown away and tried it..yep it worked.. .................and my FB account is now tighter than a Pentagon login......or is it ??? So even giving out your mobile phone number for a possible future hookup is fraught with risk And what to do to about this person...IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE...good luck hon
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Thanks Velvet and I can't believe that a hole that big exists and the only thing stopping it is settings for something that not many people would know about any. Am betting thats one of the tricks the HR dept use to monitor employees FB comments.Best of luck with blocking the fruit cake Heavenly and hope you get some good advice from posters.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Block him on Facebook and on your mobile. Unfortunately people can find you on Facebook using your phone number. In your original post it sounds like you are responding to his demands? Ignoring everything is the best thing you can do. This person lives for your responses. Little idea: Buy a 25 dollar prepaid mobile to use for things like RHP. No one will ever track you down again xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
...but I do know what it's like to be blocked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is horrible! I've just tried that thing with facebook! That is kind of scary how easy it is.... *goes and checks her privacy settings on fb* Crazy how easy it is to find out things about people of who you only have their number....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think I've given this guy my number! As I've blocked him I can't see old messages to see if I did. As soon as net is connected at the new house, I'll go online and check settings.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Heavenly75'I don't think I've given this guy my number! As I've blocked him I can't see old messages to see if I did. As soon as net is connected at the new house, I'll go online and check settings. You can also find people on Facebook through their email address. Never use the email address you used to set up your Facebook account on dating sites. On Facebook go to your privacy settings next to the "Home" button, and select "How to connect". You'll see the question "Who can look you up using the email address or phone number you provided?" Make sure it does not say "Everyone". If it does, change it to "Friends". It helps to create a new email address and MSN for things like this. There are some creeps out there. xx
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
How did facebook get your mobile number?
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Ice_Fire
12 years ago
i imagine he searched you by email address, was probably a plesant surprise for him to find your "real profile" with your full name and god knows what other personal information.Facebook makes it SUPER easy for stalker type people to find you and sadly we give them all the info they want and need.I suggest report and block him on facebook and make sure that you have a email address for MSN/Yahoo that you dont use for facebook that way if they search for that email address it wont come up with anything. Also what others have said about the mobile number thing is true too so be careful with that also.good luck and hopefully this guy will get the message and move on now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got stalked once for 9 months, I can still tell you the registration of that person's car and that has stuck in my head since 1994! Stalking is incredibly intrusive, but you know that. I see you are in Taree, NSW has some pretty reasonable laws to combat the problem, they are not always the solution everyone wants or needs, but they are there if you need them. I'll send you a message with a few options and feel free to reply or not as you wish. The BEST advice so far in my opinion is totally ignore this man. Often this behaviour revolves around the payoff of your comments and reactions. Unfortunately not always, but completely ignoring him may well solve the problem, no matter what buttons he pushes, stay isolated. It never hurts to bump up your situational awareness either in every day life. Empathising with you! It's a terrible feeling!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I second everything DeviousMissM has said. To make matters worse, the Facebook people, in their infinite wisdom, have a habit of changing (ie. reducing) security settings without bothering to actually announce it. It sucks, but everyone really (really really!) needs to make it their business to understand the Facebook security settings and keep an eye on them.Can you lodge a complaint about this guy on Facebook somewhere?A few suggestions, though (if you haven't already done them - my apologies if you have):Put as little personal information as possible on Facebook (or any other site, actually). Don't even put your address or phone number. Your real friends will know how to contact you.I'd recommend using a fake name when messaging/meeting up with potential playmates, too. You certainly wouldn't be the only one : ) Later on, after you've established that they're not a psycho, you can decide whether to share your real name or not.Use an email address that is non-identifiable: that is, an email address that doesn't have your real name in it so it can't be traced back to you. Having said that, even if you have a non-identifiable email address, it's possible for your email software to attach your real name to your emails if that's how you initially set it up. It's easily fixed, though.Oh, and don't use the same username for multiple sites, whether it's for something mainstream like Twitter or Pinterest or whatever, or on other dating sites. It's too easy for someone to do a Google search for your username and find all the other sites you're on. Hope this guy takes the hint and it all blows over soon, it's a really crappy situation for you to be in.Take care,Stuck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ins"t the modern day age of technoligy fantastic..the more you look around the more you will see facebook is actually big brother spying on your every move..
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RHP User
12 years ago
May be he doesn't realise you've blocked him yet. Perhaps, rather than saying you can't cam because you've not got net, tell him you're not interested in further contact.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But not from here or any other site. The first was a girl in a wheel chair who used to follow me home from work... No big deal, untill I started waking up in the morning and she'd be parked outside my house. I left town only to come back a year later and she started showing up at my place of work. The second was a gay guy I used to share a house with, I've got no problem with gay men as long they don't try it on me, my gay friends understand that. However, this guy used to crack the shits in a big way when I'd go out with my friends... I moved out and he started showing up work and causing a scene. The last straw was when he assaulted my girlfriend at the time, there was a fight followed by stern words and a call to the police. The third was a jealous ex and another call to the police... It all depends on how harmless or volatile you think they are as to what action you take...
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RHP User
12 years ago
My first stalker was actually my first boyfriend as well! we were in high school and i actually had to take an intervention order out on him because he used to sit outside my bedroom window and peek through my curtains.The seconds was also a short term boyfriend who didn't take me turning down his marriage proposal after 4 months very well. I Had to move house, change my mobile number and he also would sit out the front of a few of my friends houses in the hope that i would show up. Then when he couldn't find me he started stalking my friend! i know how to pick em hey?! lolThe third was only recently. And it he is actually on RHP! we never even met but we did chat a lot and camd too. he is interstate and we had plans of meeting until he stood me up and totally screwed me around. Iv'e got not time for that so i just told him that i was no longer interested. Then it started. the e mails, the texts, the constant skype! every single time i would turn on my computer within a few min he would call.. and call. and call! i got aggressive eventually and told him he needed to leave me alone or i would contact the police. I tried to block him through my network provider but you have to document about 10 instances where the person has harassed you! bloody frustrating! so i just took the ignoring approach. After a few more weeks of the texts, calls, e mails, skyps constantly he has backed off. But only when i stopped replying! u cant reply. i still get a text or e mail about once or twice a fortnight but its finally coming to a close i guess.So my advice would be to totally ignore him. Block him from any angle that you can and then bite your tongueRoxy x
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RHP User
12 years ago
it was in the left ear by a malicious african stork at the Royal Melbourne zoo whilst on a school excursion at the ripe old age of 6 and 3 quarters .It made my ear bleed and freeked me out, it freeked the teachers out too, they bought me lollies and gave me lemonade as a form of bribery, I thought that was cool. Some other kids joked about scaling the bear enclosure and scoring big time.It was funny :)☯
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was also more recently storked but that was by a wayward ranga, and way worse :S ☺ℤ
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RHP User
12 years ago
A stalker would do wonders for the ego. If I gained one of those my life would be complete
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can see you
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13'I can see you lol Its amazing what gets in the roof space :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
that is really creepy did u block him on facebook also when he went to add u? I think the best thing u can do is ignore him and hope that he will eventually get the message
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some people make it their business to know other peoples business. It is TOO EASY in todays world to lose your whole identity unless you fall completely off the grid.George Orwell1984Big brother is watching.Had a problem in the states with some fruitcake stalking this young woman in the neighborhood. the cops cannot do anything unless and 'actual' crime is being committed, and it takes a half hour in the country for them to drop their coffee and donuts, get in the squad car and get out there, only to file a report on the aftermath of a murder.so neighbors got together and formed a neighborhood watch group. they surrounded the guys car, stuck a nine millimeter in his face, and told him never to come back because they needed alligator bait.He turned about fifty shades of white and left.you MUST be extremely careful on here also. that is why i was really leery about putting up my facepic. my ex is a stalker, and she wont stalk me, she will stalk the person she THINKS i am seeing, and it is a real problem. i dont fear for myself, and i dont think she is dangerous, she could just make a person really miserable, and sometimes that is all it takes for someone that is weak not to be able to take it and 'check out' on their own to get away from the problem.BE CAREFUL!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry to hear this has happened to you .. it is a most unpleasant experience, but unfortunately one of the realities of the internet. Agree with all the other suggestions but here's a couple more:(1) Do a google search of the email address that this loser has - if it's one you use for other things, you'd be surprised how easy it is to track people with that(2) Do a google search of your mobile number - again, sometimes it's easy to forget it's been put on press releases, work memos etc etcAnd to echo others, use a generic hotmail/live/gmail account for RHP activities that is not linked to anything else; never put an address or phone number on facebook; ensure all your FB settings are set to 'Friends' only and make sure your friends have theirs set to that as well.If it is becoming frightening, threatening, intimidating, would recommend deactivating your facebook for the time-being, changing mobile number (your carrier should do this for free) and if all else fails, involve the police. Stalking is a criminal offence and you do not and should not have to tolerate it.Hope things get better for you
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Have had 2 and Axiom you aren't missing anything wonderful. The first was kinda tame for what came after.....my daughters father affectionately called "Satan". He'd actually come into my office and cause a scene, Friday drinks were a custom, and despite the fact my colleagues and I would change venue every week he'd always end up walking into the venue, order a drink and sit at our table! Needless to say all conversation would cease, I'd drink my drink, nervously smile and leave. He'd follow me home, sit for a while outside then leave. It was uncanny, anytime of day I could leave work to attend meetings, airport drops, errands and he'd be there in the rearview mirror. It started freaking the mature men I worked with out as well when he started coming into work and demanding to see the logbooks of the cars! Lol he didn't know what he was looking at and despite the Manager telling reception to call the police if he continued to show up, they didn't simply because they knew I'd eventuall get it sorted. I'd get calls at work saying he was going to cut my dogs head/ears off and post it to me; it used to upset me; I'd cry which is an emotion he'd feed off. I finally got to the point where I said "stop bloody talking about it and do it dickhead, now if there's nothing else I'm tired of your shit and I'm busy....." lol and because I wasn't reacting anymore 3mths later he moved on. It's true what you are being told Heavenly, he is feeding off your reactions good or bad, because regardless of the response you are still acknowledging him. Mobile phones weren't as prolific back then "thank God". The second is now in a small room with bars with newfound colleagues and caretakers who don't care for him at all. He is banned from all dating sites in this country (not that he'll be going on any anytime soon 😝) and that took another woman and the police for me to organise. It took 3 women and a 17yo girl to take him off the street. And he was a rich businessman, with a twisted outlook. Later diagnosed as a psychopath or politically correct term these days is snti-social personality disorder. Sheesh fckn personality disorder!!! I lived in fear of my life, he'd stolen a set of keys to my car, would break into it and steal money while I'd run in and collect my kid from school. Take the impellor from the pool filter at home, turn off the electricity at the box so I'd get home to a mess in the fridge/freezer especially after a weekend away. He star picketed the aircon units inside the house. Removed bolts from chairs/bedframes so when they'd be used ......pinch my frilly undies, bras, one of each shoe!! Now that shit me bigtime!!! Shit in the letterbox. Send squillions of txts. Hmmmm atleast after 12yrs Satan became normal and we can actually laugh together now (speed wrecks lives too people and he's a nice person now he's not drug f$&d)!!! Lol anyhoo, be careful out there....Obsessive admirers suck.
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razor2000
12 years ago
How'd he manage to shit in the letterbox? Wonder if that talent is helping him on a daily basis now
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