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Starting to cheat?
June 20 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
probably the same parcentage as women that do.. LRE
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well spotted. Cheers Wilds
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RHP User
17 years ago
Why is it always the guys that get picked on in here, amazes me, women are not all sweet and innocent as everyone predicts them to be, trust me, i know a few who people think the sun shines out of their backsides but little do they know.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would say from the amount of girls not following up on dates, that it is all about the need of feeling wanted and desired. It is a human desire to be desired. I a guy or girl get attention from here maybe they will have no need for touch from another. although this is miss leading and pisses a fare few of members off. they aren't going to tell you because them people wont chase and show interest. This goes for guys and girls. Im upfront when people ask my situation and I have friends on here that know where Im at. Although I meet and cheat (if thats what it is) they know my wife and yes I have met some of there friends for benifits. We ALL have needs and if they were met at home with respective partners, things would be different. for example I chat, meet and Yes! NOT cheat sex in the city prety much covered why a male will cheat and I've seen why a lady will cheat. It is as explaned above. Have fun play safe be prepared to accept the consiquences. Guru xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
I dont think Lithium intended it to be an insult to men, just asking how they feel about it and after all this is "girls ask" so would be silly to ask what women think....although i do have first hand knowledge that even what appear to be the nicest,kindest,blah,blah guys still cheat. (as with women) lol... :) I met my ex which is also the father of my 2yr old daughter, we met on a similar site around 2001 after chatting for a couple of months and he was married and ironically had a 2yr old daughter at the time, I dont condone cheating at all, it was convenient at the time to have sex with someone whom i didnt think would want anything else from me, that was until he started sending flowers, the whole movie style deliveries and id never exerienced anything like it and even though it ended crappy i was a loud and proud man hater and he opened my eyes that not all men were like that........He treated me like a princess. Well obviously he isnt that great if he could do what he did to his family, at the time i didnt know what it felt like to be a parent. He did the right thing and admitted all to his wife and they separated immediately and next thing we were living together. Anyway sorry got side tracked, i dont think he intended to fall in love with me as i didnt with him so yeah he set out to cheat but it led much further, and when youre cheating or being cheated on thats always a risk u take, u cant choose who u love and you cant choose who your partner loves.. Cheating is wrong to begin with but once youre in that situation its not so black and white when feelings start getting involved. Judge not lest the be judged yourself (men and women!)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Good point sugar blue, I am outta here, bye
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deltoid
16 years ago
What about the women here who are in relationships and "cheating" by chatting/flirting/swapping pics? Or is it OK when women do this but cheating when men do it. There are men and women here who are carrying out online fantasies without any intention of taking things further. Just as there are men and women here who are cheating on partners for various reasons, maybe they are in relationships where regardless of the effort they put in their partner has absolutely no interest in sex at all Or maybe they are just playing out some online fantasy for a bit of spice in their lives, something they may or may not see anything wrong with. Or maybe they are just the type of person who regardless of what their partner does or does not do are habitual cheaters. It is though very narrow minded to think any of this behavior is limited to just men.
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RHP User
16 years ago
wow you people sure know how to turn nothing into something, i DID not say that it is only men that cheat. i did not say anything even remotely close to that. i havent written a statement. it was a question, to the guys, about guys behaviours because i know how women behave and more importantly i dont give SHIT because i'm not dating a woman. yes women cheat thats not the issue here. read my post properly, get a grip and reply to the subject at hand or dont reply at all?!
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you are going to reply to a post why dont u actually read it all before jumping to conclusions, both lithium and myself made it clear that it wasnt a man/woman thing just that the question was being asked to men. After all this section is GIRLS ASK.....A Place for women to ask men all the questions they would like answers to, or didnt you read that part either?? Perhaps if you took it to heart it is you with the problem. If i were a man i would take the oppourtunity to be honest and share so women can change their views and learn more about each other just like men asking women questions. If we assumed all those stereotypes were correct why would us girls even bother asking the questions?? Im so sick of men getting all "yeah but women do it to" like every question we ask is a sexist statement when women (for the majority) are really just asking men questions, asking for their opinions and experiences, not asking for defensive and arguementative responses. Both men and women have vintage stereotypes of each but without asking questions or answering questions honestly how in the hell are those stereotypes meant to de-bunked??
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RHP User
16 years ago
For me, the opportunity has never really come up, so my intentions haven't been tested. Generally I see this as a site where a guy has to make the majority of the moves, as the girls really do have the power of choice. I do admit the harmless flirting does give me a nice feeling all the same. John
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RHP User
16 years ago
A very interesting post & one that's been on my mind. Wouldn't it be nice to know the answer to that question before you make contact with a person so you know where they're at! For me, it's like this. Been married a LONG time to a wonderful lady who came from an extremely stiff-collared family. She'd never even seen her mum naked that she could remember. Very insecure about her body, and took a long time to loosen up about showing off with the lights on (despite my open adoration for her every facet). The single biggest turn-on I get is from seeing her aroused, but she doesn't like to talk about what turns her on, and.... eh, if you wanna hear my life story you can ask. I really enjoy flirting with the ladies around my life, at work & sport & BBQ's etc, but I would never want to risk falling in love with another woman by taking any of those flirtations any further. What I'm looking for is someone who is just after a good mutually enjoyable romp, with no desire for dinner/drinks/flowers etc. I would need to make emotional connection along with the physical, but an in-the-moment connection, not a life-bonding one. I thought that only men thought this way, but some of the lady's profiles on here made me wonder.
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RHP User
16 years ago
To be truthfull, that may have been me in the past. Perving and hoping that it may happen magically (from behind the LCD) but not upgrading, not intending to waste anyone's time but i guess reluctant to really go for it 100% However I am now serious (in the minority on this site it seems) and not here to be mucked around. As for those that chose a higher than thoust in the gutter attitude.. everyone's situation is differant, so try a mile in my clogs before you casually take a flame to me! It has actually taken me some time to be honest with myself that liberating my sexuality (no not out of the closet just out of vanilla once a month) is good for my physical, mental and relationship health. I am a brutally honest person - to my own detriment at times - but life is not always as black n white as some of these flamers would like to enforce. Call me strange but the reason I seek a casual or Fukbuddy situation is (and this only my view) I would feel far, far more guilty having an affair (which although there have been opportunities I have not accepted) behind my partner's back. Humanoids are messy complicated things and enjoying life to it's fullest (including sex) is so important. If you can minimise the harm to those you love and others on the way through and achieve happiness then that is the combination for you. Anyway life is short, each to their own. Great post BTW
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am a married guy and yes i come on here to find someone to meet,not just to chat to or flirt with.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well for me, initially i stumbled across this site some time ago, and as joined as a non financial, guest member, without my wife knowing- i guess mainly for the 'perv' factor(as most other married men with non-consenting wives would probably admit too also). Just checking out pic's, reading the forum, checking out the profiles etc- not a really a contributing member as such- just another married bloke having a perv. :-D., and feeding a taboo fantasy.. That has changed recently. Like most red blooded married aussie blokes, i too enjoy the freedom that the internet provides to have a sneaky perv, a fact my wife has always known & accepted, but never really indulged in with me. A few months ago, we discovered the joys of digital photography, and decided that as an extention of that, we thought about how much fun it'd be to show a few of our personal pics off. So we put a couple up on a different website that not long after we joined, changed direction to become a more 'safe for work' photo website, so we had no where to show our pics- thats when i remembered RHP. So we joined as a 'premium' financial couple... (although, for one reason or another, we still haven't submitted any pics to the Red Hot Pie gallery- soemthing we'll get around to at some time..) So this site has become something that we now enjoy immensely together. When we joined and filled in our profile together, we thought what better time than now to indulge in another long held fantasy we've discussed(MFM). Yep- strange as it sounds, the thought of sharing and watching her having playtime with another fella, is a long held fantasy of mine, and now is hers too, as it turns out (lucky fella me hey hehe ;-D). Just quietly, the response to our profile has been unbelievably overwhelming. We've had a heap of fun ever since we joined together a month or so ago, replying to messages, sharing pics, msn'ing(is that a word?), and camming with a select few we've met through this site(It is simply not possible to respond to ALL the messages and flirts we recieve). So much so, that the 'fantasy' is know being discussed as a possible viable option for us(lucky me again..). We still haven't taken the plunge and introduced the third dimension to our bedroom, but we sure are enjoying the attention, and meeting & chatting & flirting with strangers in the mean time. Got a little sidetracked there, sorry.. :-D To answer your question- yes, i did initially join to have a little harmless perving & flirting, but i never had any intention on ever straying. Just a little bit of cheeky fun on the side. Completely different story now though :D
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was in that category up until recently. Unfortunatly for me I was caught out which ended our realatioship of 6yrs. I seen the net as not being real at the time and tried explaining it to my now ex. I now realise that the net is real and everything I did was real to her she seen it as I was being unfaithful. I am now single and looking to move forward.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well now you know hey? Smart
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RHP User
16 years ago
I do know now. It is unfortunate I learnt the hard way though. I just have to remember that life goes on..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Flat out getting a reply to a flirt or email!!!Cheat?Yeah,whatever.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Surely for those women who see RHP as cheating then the same is to be said of going to the pub on a Friday afternoon and talking to another woman. My ex had no issue with her going to the pub and talking to others, but heaven forbid if I dared to talk to another woman. Got to the point I recieved a phone call @ work on Friday night @ 5.30, you on your way.... Going to parties with her friends I was ignored so found conversations with others at the party and pointed out my partner in the conversation. I guess I just naturally prefer to talk to women, always ended badly. However only joined RHP after the initial break up, just to see what was out there and reassure myself that I wasn't really abnormal that others felt the same as I do about adult past times. (sex is for fun)
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think if you wouldnt do it with ya partner there its cheating...and u r bein deceptive and lying....i get quite alot of men wanting 2 cheat in my messages n i hope there wives found out and hit them in the back of the head with a fry pan then take everything
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wait BunnyB, A frying pan? That's a bit... errr.... steriotypical isn't it?.. Errr... why engage in domestic violence anyway. Surely, these are not suitable examples of domestic dispute resolution for young people to read. I suggest counselling first :p. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
once a cheat always a cheat............n y waste all that money on a scanpan lol...........hell iv nearly taken 2 my ex with superglue lmfao...........so u wanna hook up then
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RHP User
15 years ago
Niiice one! Quoting 'BUNNY_BOILER' once a cheat always a cheat............n y waste all that money on a scanpan lol...........hell iv nearly taken 2 my ex with superglue lmfao...........so u wanna hook up then
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'BUNNY_BOILER'once a cheat always a cheat............n y waste all that money on a scanpan lol...........hell iv nearly taken 2 my ex with superglue lmfao...........so u wanna hook up then LMFAO... errrr.. you are rather tempting... such a wonderful dry sense of humour and all... but superglue and frypans.... lmfao... that's permanent shit... can I just opt for getting my dick caught in a car door like on the condom add? Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I CAN DO A MEAN FRY UP AFTERWARDS....WHILE YA WAITIN 4 AN AMBULANCE N YA COUNSELLOR 2 COME ALONG......I DONT WATCH MUCH TV.....LOL ACTUALLY I SEEN N THE NEWSPAPER SUM CHICK DID GO AT HER EX WITH SUPERGLUE I THINK SHE GOT A YEAR COMMUNITY SERVICE MAYB......SO IM A BIT BUSY 4 THE NEXT YEAR LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
you people think you have all the answers eh. ok riddle me this your married for 12 years and have 3 kids, your wife sleeps with you 5 times a year, in a good year. A) do you leave her and the kids and 12 years of getting to know some one, your house and your wage etc or, B) join somthing like RHP, live out some fantasy in front of a keyboard, look at what tits and pussy look like, flirt a bit, or C) think im fucked either way, cant realy see a point to keep living
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RHP User
15 years ago
Y ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANNA LIVE YA LIFE AT THE CONVENIENCE OF EVERY ONE ELSE ACCEPT YASELF...SO YA COULD ALWAYS GROW SOME BALLS AND BE OPEN AND HONEST AND TELL HER YA SIT ON HERE AND PERV...OR SIT THERE OBVIOUSLY FEELIN MISERABLE AND GUILTY....PERSONALLY I DONT DO GUILT I CANT STAND THE EMOTION AND KINDA WISH THE REST OF THE WORLD WOULD BE LIKE THAT TO...SO PERHAPS YOU SHOULD DO WHAT ACTUALLY MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY (IN I DONT MEAN BEING SLY EITHER) OR COUPLES THERAPY ETC SWEEPIN IT UNDER YA KEYBOARD AINT DOIN MUCH IS IT
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malfun
15 years ago
i have been on this site 4 about 7 years i think. I that time i have only hooked up with 1 lady, oh im single too. on the occasions that i go onto the pie it more of a perve factor these days im not a paid up member so cant contact anyone and cant go into chat. So i tend to have a look to see whos on really and maybe hopefully someday a lady will think hey he's not to bad and send me a msg. as for cheating if others males do what i do it is no different to looking at a playboy magazine or a like and actually you'd get to see more in those that you do on here. if he's married and paid up and is playing up with out his wifes comsent then yerrrrrr hes cheating the rotten bastard. If your marriage isnt good well fix it or get out. ok should i duck for cover now i dont think so lol mal
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RHP User
15 years ago
There really aren't many REAL players out there. I've on met two women who are serious.... It's the old story...all piss and wind. The simple fact is most people are shit scared of not being able to perform. Relax. the person you meet is nervous too, and get on with it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
They've always been referred to as Time Wasters and the covert ones (or cheats as some people say) are collectively screened out by 'No face pic no reply' The element always has and always will be there. Myself No. I grew a conscience in my early 20's as guilt was too crippling for me and that was that. When I was with a woman long term she would be on here with me and some great experiences were had. Now single again, I come to RHP because it is a more candid site where life partners are not the agenda.... we all know why we come here. The vanilla sex of the suburban majority is persued in those other sites where sending a hug gives them a hard-on. I know what I'm looking for and am quick to decypher what I'm not. Dereksdomino knows the score by the look of things. Now I will go and get on with it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
exclusively now...i still like to come into the forums and see what people have to say...and put in my 2 bob's worth at the same time...as i don;t really feel like discussing sexual stuff with either my son or the guys at work...so there!cheersjose...
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2Gether4u
15 years ago
Why cheat when all can play at once
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RHP User
15 years ago
We're with you Lithium... Your question was well thought out and deserves a decent response.. I must admit' I havnt read all the posts ' but has anyone put their hand up and admitted they are the person you are alluding too ? I can imagine there would be plenty of knockers trying to swing the heat away from theirself... We strongly suspect that some of the guys we spoke too are just in here getting their rocks off ' caus it seems that when the crunch comes' they just seem to fade away into cyber space... time wasters... dickheads We need a RHP sinbin... ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
A very wise woman once told me "it doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home".For some people its a porno, for some its a kinky chat, or a RHP forum. If at the end of the day you end up in your partners bed i cant see a problem.Of course if they're your appetiser, as well as your main...you've struck gold!Can't wait to find that one.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey, I have a partner who has male friends she catches up with (with females present) but im not aloud to have female friends or talk to females when she is around or she gets irrate. I think it sucks. I love her but i have to have female contact too. This has driven me to sex sites to flirt and so on. To answer the original qu, if a fem in the same situation as me contacted, i could see myself meeting them anfter chatting and gaining trust in each others descretion.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Lithium'wow you people sure know how to turn nothing into something, i DID not say that it is only men that cheat. i did not say anything even remotely close to that. i havent written a statement. it was a question, to the guys, about guys behaviours because i know how women behave and more importantly i dont give SHIT because i'm not dating a woman. yes women cheat thats not the issue here. read my post properly, get a grip and reply to the subject at hand or dont reply at all?!
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perthbi50
15 years ago
There is no one reason why a person joins this site or ones of similar ilk. I joined because I am in a sexless marriage however I hang in there for the kids sake (not sure if everyone agrees thats the thing to do but it is my decison). At the same time I miss sex and the closeness that comes with it so I am here to try and find a lady.Yes I want to meet her however sometimes that doesn't work (I have a very good lady friend who happens to be in Queensland - we are still friends regardless of meeting) so you go with the flow.Sorry to ramble but just trying to put my side of the discussion :)Bryn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'thrillme001' Hey, I have a partner who has male friends she catches up with (with females present) but im not aloud to have female friends or talk to females when she is around or she gets irrate. I think it sucks. I love her but i have to have female contact too. This has driven me to sex sites to flirt and so on. To answer the original qu, if a fem in the same situation as me contacted, i could see myself meeting them anfter chatting and gaining trust in each others descretion. Dump that double standard lovin biatch now!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think for myself and many others who love their partner this is a way tofantisise and release what maybe our partners don't understand weather it be a fetish or partners lack of libido or sex drive. for me I wouldn't take that next step just happy with the Chase the flirting etc maybe exchanging pics etc but that's it
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'thrillme001' Hey, I have a partner who has male friends she catches up with (with females present) but im not aloud to have female friends or talk to females when she is around or she gets irrate. I think it sucks. I love her but i have to have female contact too. This has driven me to sex sites to flirt and so on. To answer the original qu, if a fem in the same situation as me contacted, i could see myself meeting them anfter chatting and gaining trust in each others descretion.Hey there thrillI have been in similar situations to this and the double standard issue needs to be discussed openly with ur partner. I think the important thing to keep in mind is yes she is having male contact (as u said with females present) but she isnt seeing them the way u see other women on sex sites eg. in the lingerie or lessSo if ur really unhappy id put it to her that u resent the double standard, because if she catches u on these sites, she will make u out to be the bad guy, which u obviously arent, ur just looking for female interaction, perfectly normal we are fan-fucking-tastic after all Miss F xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
not cheating if partner or wife agrees.but some do .... each 2 their own will get caught if doing wrong thing 2 their relaintship.sorry 4 the spelling.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion , and no -one is right ! We are all conditioned from a young age to believe that this is the wrong thing , the bible makes comment about " covet thy neighbours wife " etc . yes people get hurt , yes some may do it for reasons only for their own greed / pleasure etc . Yes both men and women do it . but who is entitled to judge another when they cannot walk in that persons shoes ? Women by nature are generally the more emotional creature than the men and this is not a critism by any means its a gift of that sex , its just a genetic / conditioning thing and i would guess that maybe why they possibly have a stonger view-point than men . We are all just animals that like to kid ourselves that we are an exception to the rule . Remember cave man ? Hunt , mate , sleep lol - get the picture ? Without getting too personal , think about the bloke that is in a relationship for lets say 20 years , not getting the affection or stimulation he craves regardless on how hard he tries to make things right . Maybe he has children and is torn between keeping the family unit together for their sake rather than just saying to hell with it all . Yet all the while hoping someday he will meet someone that will change his life . Does he leave and maybe never find that person ? Does he sit on the couch and suffer in silence til death because someone told him its the honorable thing to do when he was six ? what may be easy to quantify in black and white is quite often not .
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RHP User
14 years ago
from our perspective the guys 9times out of ten rock up and the girls never or just make excuses and what ever other people do in the way of cheating is up2 them an they live with it after all its a swingers site if u are looking for a partner on here their a plenty single guys that are more then willing iam sure that are lergit or maybe u could be looking in the wrong area hun
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am in the same position. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. And just to raise the ante, if you're a Christian, just looking at another with lustful intentions automatically puts you in the category of adultery, so I was gone long before RHP came along.
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funmat
14 years ago
i have been on aff, amm, and rhp. i have some great experiences, met REAL ladies and come across a lot of ego-stroking self-absorbed ladies too. all i can say is if you are hear to flirt and stuff people around be straight up in your profile and say what you really want. some have and i applaud them! quite frankly i have better things to do than have-a-perve...... much love to all the REAL people! xoxo
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Master 7057 Its a hard decision,I was married 18 years with two kids and for the last 6-7 yrs i was lucky to have sex half a dozen times a year,during that time i looked at porno etc etc , but never once did i cheat on my wife as i still loved her. But !! after constantly trying to initiate sex and getting constantly rejected you dont even bother any more and thats when your head gets fucked up,in the end i was glad when she told me "I cant have sex with someone i dont love anymore" Yes a bit of a shock and i should have seen it coming.In hindsight i should have left loooong time ago.I have never regreated my decision, even though its been bloody hard sometimes. Life goes on , its not easy to start with, but theres plently to live for, youve go years left to enjoy life .
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your story reads so much like my own safariray its not fumy and after 25 years of quasi celibacy as i never was the sort to cheat,,, well yes it can have some fairly damaging side affects to your self esteem (i wonder how common it is for us guys and girls) and now i find myself here where most just seem to want to chat but go no further or have a yearning to relive there youth with younger guys and girls (nothing wrong with that lol if its your thing).Still have been luckier than most i guess in that i have met a few wonderful ladies on here and some are still treasured friends to this day :-) and i hope to convince more to come out of hiding from behind there screens and see where it goes lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
i used to be the guy u are refering to in this post but someone took a liking to memaybe it wasnt what i expected?maybe it was?but ,,,,,,.......we all have our own stories..reasons....needsi cant explain it.....who can?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see myself as having been on both sides of the fence. My last partner (marriage) had a lot of "hangups" about sex so our sex life was very scant and basic. She hated me watching porn (my only outlet) so I had to be secretive which made me feel like a perv, however - I NEVER cheated on her. I eventually left her and divorced some time ago. I now have a beautiful wife who is the exact opposite in every way - she has helped me become a new person :) The way I see it ...... If you use RHP as a fantasy / ego booster but never physically meet anyone, it is NOT CHEATING. Although my wife and I are VERY active members, I do not mind what is perceived as "time wasters". I understand them and in some ways embrace them. It is a passive or just yoyeuristic outlet for some people. Live and let live - as long as there is no harm being done.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see myself as having been on both sides of the fence. My last partner (marriage) had a lot of "hangups" about sex so our sex life was very scant and basic. She hated me watching porn (my only outlet) so I had to be secretive which made me feel like a perv, however - I NEVER cheated on her. I eventually left her and divorced some time ago. I now have a beautiful wife who is the exact opposite in every way - she has helped me become a new person :) The way I see it ...... If you use RHP as a fantasy / ego booster but never physically meet anyone, it is NOT CHEATING. Although my wife and I are VERY active members, I do not mind what is perceived as "time wasters". I understand them and in some ways embrace them. It is a passive or just yoyeuristic outlet for some people. Live and let live - as long as there is no harm being done.....
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funmat
14 years ago
and what is your opinion if the fantasy/ego-boosters say/act as if they want to meet but really don't want to? just asking?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see myself as having been on both sides of the fence. My last partner (marriage) had a lot of "hangups" about sex so our sex life was very scant and basic. She hated me watching porn (my only outlet) so I had to be secretive which made me feel like a perv, however - I NEVER cheated on her. I eventually left her and divorced some time ago. I now have a beautiful wife who is the exact opposite in every way - she has helped me become a new person :) The way I see it ...... If you use RHP as a fantasy / ego booster but never physically meet anyone, it is NOT CHEATING. Although my wife and I are VERY active members, I do not mind what is perceived as "time wasters". I understand them and in some ways embrace them. It is a passive or just yoyeuristic outlet for some people. Live and let live - as long as there is no harm being done.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe I am too knew to RHP to have been affected by someone who behaves in a way to purposely mislead. I think the only time I would get upset is if we had committed to physically meet up at a time and place and they didnt turn up with no good reason. Has this happened to many people? But just not responding to messages/flirts or being too shy or just unwillling to post pictures doesnt bother me. Its quite apparent that people who dont post pictures get very little attention, maybe thats the way they want it? On a separate note - whats with my posts being repeated mutiple times on the forum??? Wierd!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yep good call, so easy for people to interpret things to suit their own mindset instead of being objective about a situation and i guess thats what being human is all about , would be a boring world otherwise ! dont take other people's comments to heart it 's the topic they are on about more than the author , remember if someone has a problem they own it , not you , its just your choice if you wish to share it ! I make a point of not sharing !! Good on you for a valid question and a relevant topic !!
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RHP User
14 years ago
This thread makes me laugh...I mean, how many times do people have to moralise about the actions of others??It always amazes me that people think they have the right, or the moral high ground to stand in judgement of other peoples life situations and decisions.Even the question that started this thread is inflamatory, the word "cheat" is like a red rag to a bull...and it always seems to be women who use that word.In my personal experience on these sites, both men and women "cheat" on their partners...the reasons for this vary wildly and are often quite sad...I don't make judgements on what people do or why...I don't think I'm better than anyone else, because I know I'm not, I'm just human.Sex is important to me...in fact, it's one of the highest priorities in my life, not the only one admittedly, but it's up near the top of the list. If I decide to "cheat" on my partner, that's my business, and it has stuff all to do with anyone else.Check my profile to see where I'm at...and keep your judgements to yourself...I mean, you are on a Swingers website after all...If you just want to find a "good honest man", then go and look at "moralistic vestal virgins dot com"DH
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'DarkHorse1967'This thread makes me laugh...I mean, how many times do people have to moralise about the actions of others?? It always amazes me that people think they have the right, or the moral high ground to stand in judgement of other peoples life situations and decisions. Even the question that started this thread is inflamatory, the word "cheat" is like a red rag to a bull...and it always seems to be women who use that word. In my personal experience on these sites, both men and women "cheat" on their partners...the reasons for this vary wildly and are often quite sad...I don't make judgements on what people do or why...I don't think I'm better than anyone else, because I know I'm not, I'm just human. Sex is important to me...in fact, it's one of the highest priorities in my life, not the only one admittedly, but it's up near the top of the list. If I decide to "cheat" on my partner, that's my business, and it has stuff all to do with anyone else. Check my profile to see where I'm at...and keep your judgements to yourself...I mean, you are on a Swingers website after all... If you just want to find a "good honest man", then go and look at "moralistic vestal virgins dot com" DH You're a champion. Couldn't have said it better myself. Om
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RHP User
14 years ago
good on ya mate, i thought this site was meant for easy going free thinkers, your comments remind me why i get on here,pull your head out of your ass love and crack a smile, life is short, .. all the best.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I never really understood the online/cyber sex thing. Give me a warm, willing female body over an expressionless keyboard any day. If you can't enliven the mental stimulation that takes sex way beyond the mere physical union of two bodies when interacting face to face and need to hide behind a keyboard I think it is time to seek some counselling.I have come here hopefully to find people I can meet in the flesh and be adventurous with, after many years of being faithful to a woman I loved I've finally decided to unleash the sexual beast and I'll be damned if I do that dick in hand in front of a computer screen.Anyone who is cheating on their partner (man or woman) via cyber sex I urge you to be more open, honest and understanding in your communication with your partner and you may well find there's no need to look elsewhere.
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RogueGeek
14 years ago
CL and I made a date with somebody from RHP for Thursday night. 24 hours before we're supposed to meet he stops replying to our messages and removes our access to his PG. Now, I understand if he got a better offer, or changed his mind or whatever, but a little common curtesy would be appreciated! It would have been our first time and we were both nervous. We also had children and had organised for a babysitter which on a weeknight is no easy feat.I don't care if people are here to chat or perv or whatever. Just don't make a date if you're not going to keep it!Cheers,MS(the female half) Quoting 'SexAndTheParty' Maybe I am too knew to RHP to have been affected by someone who behaves in a way to purposely mislead. I think the only time I would get upset is if we had committed to physically meet up at a time and place and they didnt turn up with no good reason. Has this happened to many people?
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RHP User
14 years ago
If it had of been me you had made a date with I can assure you I would have turned up Silly silly man Hehehe T
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RogueGeek
14 years ago
For those on RHP because they're not getting enough at home, what have you done to pro-actively change things in the home environment to encourage more intimacy and more sex? And by this I don't mean just initiating every time you want to get your socks off.I'm a Mum with two kids, one of whom is special needs. I also study and work part-time. I'm busy! At the end of the day I'm often VERY tired to the point where I don't even want to watch TV... Mess distracts me. If there are dishes on the bench or laundry than needs to be done it is hard for me to push that aside and concerntrate on other things. But all of these things are incidental, and with a little assistance and some time to myself to refocus they can be overcome.For me the biggest challenge of all was overcoming my upbringing. I was raised in a devout Catholic family with ultra-conservative views about sex and marriage. The first few years of my relationship with CL were tained by the guilt I felt for having sex before we were married. It took a lot for me to get over that, and I am the sort of person who regularly questions their beliefs and tries to understand their motivations...Over-coming the sex thing really didn't happen until - quite by accident - I met some people who were very sexual AND very open about it. People who had had more partners than they could count, and engaged in romps with multiple partners at once etc. These were people who loved sex, but were also good people! There is a lot of stigma attached to women who enjoy sex, and I wasn't about to overcome that until I met these people and though, "You know what, they love sex. In all its forms. And they are still good people that I trust and whose friendship I value. That means that I too can enjoy sex in ALL its forms, and still be a trustworthy person". It was a huge breakthough and may seem obvious to some, but it wasn't for me. Once this happened I started talking to CL about it and one thing led to another and now here we are!I guess the point is there are a lot of reasons why partners at home might be 'hung-up' on sex, or have reduced libido, and unless you're prepared to put in the effort to work through it with them (in a safe, non-judgemental, pressure-free environment) then getting your rocks off on RHP is cheating. You're taking a short cut to satisfy your own needs rather than putting in the miles to help somebody with theirs. Quoting 'tooro_tevoli' If it had of been me you had made a date with I can assure you I would have turned up Silly silly man Hehehe T And Tooro - how pissed am I about Thursday knowing I coulda had you instead of staying home and folding washing? BTW - CL loves spas but I've never been a fan. You're welcome to try and convert me though ;)Cheers,MS(the female half)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not unhappy in my marriage..... as a matter of fact, I would say that I am neutral. However, our sex life sucks (no pun intended!). Putting sex aside, I think we have a decent marriage. We don't shout at each, our kids are happy and we are financially comfortable. However, when it comes to sex..... it stinks!!! She is just completely not interested. When the kids were young, I reasoned that's because she was too tired taking care of them. But the story line never changed. She is still tired even though they are a lot older. I am horny all the time. I want to eat some pussy all the time, but the best I have is my right hand and the occasional left hand. I call them Emma and Lauren (my right and my left). Sad to say, I would like to cheat but honestly, too stupid to do so.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ITS NOT IN THE HUMAN NATURE TO BE WITH 1 WOMEN ALL YOUR LIFE UNLIKE MAGGPIES IF THERE PARTNER IS KILLED THE OTHER IS LONLEY FOR THE REST OF THE LIFE MORE PEOPLE SHOULD GET IN TOUCH WITH WHAT THEY WANT AND LIKE FROM SEX IF PEOPLE WERNT SO JUDGE MENTAL YOU WOULD FIND ALOT MORE WOMEN TRYING 3SOMES AND GROUP SEX 90% OF WOMEN I KNOW THAT HAVE HAD MORE THAN ONE GUY TRIES IT AGAIN AND YES ITS ABOUT THEM FEELING COMFORTABLE AND THATS WHATS IMPORTANT
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RHP User
12 years ago
the competition is pretty stiff (excuse the pun) on here, and it seems that if you don't follow up straight away, women lose interest or just get distracted by the 300 other messages !Either that or I am doing something wrong !
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