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Staying safe at work.

March 19 2022

Ok this is one for those of you out there who have face pics on your profiles, have you ever had someone turn up at your work and how did you handle it? Backstory: Got an initial message with dick pics & told him no. He then deleted his messages and tried again later, I said no again and reminded him we’d already spoken. He deleted those messages too (I can still see my responses), now he’s approached me again saying he saw me at work and now wants to do this that and the other with me, I said no again and asked him not to approach me at work. He said he might have some fun with me then asked if we could meet away from work and asked me to forget our previous interactions, I again said no and asked him not to bring this to my work, he told me to “stop holding out” and give him a chance, I asked him to assure me he won’t approach me at work and that’s where we’re currently at. To me this is completely inappropriate, I should be able to have pics on my profile without people being creepy like that. I don’t want to raise it with my workplace but the fact is security there is nonexistent and I work alone, granted this person is probably harmless but this has raised some very concerning issues for me, so I’m going to have to say something. Does this happen to other people with face pics or am I just super lucky? How do you protect yourself against weirdos?

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Ex007

3 years ago

You need to report him to RHP so they are aware of this. They will also have his full details. Then block him. I very much doubt he knows where your work unless you told him. If you live in a small town you should never put it in as your location.

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szreya

3 years ago

This is so awful. Not exactly this but i have someone random messaging me on my Insta. I had shared face pic with him after a few interactions and he seemed nice. Dunno why he started messaging on my Instagram despite I am asking not to. Had to block him anyways.

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nightingale8

3 years ago

Inappropriate is putting it kindly. That’s disgusting behaviour. Whoever it is I hope they’re ashamed. Sorry to hear it.

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Flirty2020

3 years ago

It could be a tactic, and a thinly veiled threat, that unless you agree to meet up with him, he will turn up at your place of work and spill the beans that you have a profile on RHP. He probably has no clue where you work, The best thing to do is block him. If he were to find out who you are, and where you work, you could always deny any knowledge of RHP and could simply say that your face photos were stolen off Facebook and used on RHP. There are some weird & desperate ones on here .

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RHP User

3 years ago

Screenshot his convo before he deleted it. If anything happens, you have proof that you told him to stay away from approaching you at work. He could be bluffing, controlling your reactions, just to keep you engaged. But it's best to assume it's true. Stay safe.

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HotAdventures

3 years ago

I’m pretty sure threatening someone (blackmailing) into an unsafe (sexual) situation is against the law. Report the creep to RHP and the police. Maybe they’ll visit him at his work and make him sad .

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Rising_Phoenix

3 years ago

He definitely knows where I work, he named the place and time I was working. He’s now got really out of line with the things he’s said so I’ve got screenshots, will report, block and possibly inform police, I’m gonna sleep on that one and seek more advice. In my years of working there and being on here this is the first worryingly crazy person I’ve encountered so that’s something but wow, what an absolute scumbag.

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loveYOURpleasure

3 years ago

I would suggest asking RHP if they have copies of the (now deleted) messages for the purposes of making a police report. I wouldn’t be overly confident they would but you never know, and even if you don’t decide to make it a police matter at least you’ll have them if you decide to down the track. Personally I would inform the police. Even if they can’t do anything with the information you have, at least in a small town you might get a faster response if (heaven forbid) he does appear at your workplace and you need their assistance. Sorry you are having to go through this.

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RHP User

3 years ago

Oh wow that’s horrible and totally not appropriate or normal. You have said no on multiple occasions and he keeps coming back like some creepy stalker. Unfortunately some ppl think that just because we’re on a site like this we’re fair game - which is NOT the case. Report him to RHP and maybe the police too in case it escalates. Stay safe!

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mikaelT

3 years ago

This is our greatest fear

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ElectricDreamers

3 years ago

He has completely overstepped the mark. I hope you feel safer soon.

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Sawadee

3 years ago

These types are usually gutless wonders. Faceless ppl who thrive on thier anonymous state.. Weeding them out can be hard but they need to be exposed with police intervention if nessasary.. . As they say " no means no " I

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cplusdee

3 years ago

Please keep us updated on how this resolves, very poor behaviour and I hope the support through rhp admin and possibly law enforcement is of a high level.

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

No, that is totally inappropriate! YES! There are a few people from my work on here (mainly males). One I know for sure states he is single on his profile, in real life is married. I know, because I know his wife and she too works in our department. Little does she know! I say nothing. Another male, I have said "NO" too on many, many occasions. He has tried to convience me, that me being on here is putting it out there and his expectation is that I would have sex with him. He even had the hide to state to me, "You are frigid" because I said no to him. Yes, f-ing way! He has stated that to me! He is very creepy and a disgusting pig that has no respect for women. I have stated to him, no one owes him anything and if he continues, I will report him here and to HR. Any one is allowed to be here. It is not ok to shame anyone for being here or other sites. What people do in their own time is their business. The best kept secret is never shared. Ms Foxy

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Rising_Phoenix

3 years ago

Admin have deleted his account and police and work have been informed and shown his photo. I think given that I asked him not to bring it to my workplace and he tried using coercive language like “you have to remember, this is a naughty site, not like RSVP” and “word’s out” that he thought I’d be too scared or embarrassed to tell people what’s happened here. My safety is more important than my ego though so while yes it sucks that I now have to hide on here and tell people out there things I didn’t want them to know I’m obviously going to do it in order to feel a little safer. I worry that he actually is a psycho and will be more angry now but oh well, at least people will know what happened to me if I disappear, lol. I’m not one to give in quietly and thankfully I’m well liked at work and friendly with the local police who also frequent the place so I’m not totally freaking out, more annoyed by the fact I have to change how I operate and watch my back because I said no to having sex to someone. What an absolute cretin.

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Rising_Phoenix

3 years ago

I did consider doing nothing and hoping for the best but advice here and from a couple of people close to me prompted me to go with my gut and let it be known that this creep may be a threat to me. Thank you all for your comments, fingers crossed I don’t hear or see any sign of him again.

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

This is absolutely disgusting and not on. So sorry this is happening to you Phoenix. I've been approached by people from RHP and different sites at work, kids sports, kids schools, shopping. Never in the way you've outlined though. Always very casually and respectfully like you'd meet anyone IRL. I'd report this grub before he causes a great nuisance to you.

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Joeydsyd

3 years ago

Small dick energy for sure. You done the right thing.

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RHP User

3 years ago

Well Rising phoenix, from a male point of view I respect what you have done. Guys just don't seem to know what No means I'm the complete opposite after a few stalking issues from an ex Sex is consensual between 2 adults and it's about respecting another's choices Well done for going to RHP and the Police. I want you to know that not all men are disrespectful or refuse to understand rejection. I hope your future experiences are fulfilling and enjoyable

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AWomanWithNeeds

3 years ago

I used to. I don't particularly care about that, but I had other issues with a persistent person for years, so I just don't.

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Staying safe at work.

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