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April 13 2011

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Allright, situation: I was online this morning and a lady with an awesome profile sent me a flirt saying "you're exactly what I've been looking for, please message me I'm keen." Pretty good right? I mean, for a single guy to receive much attention around here he either has to be Waggy, or well.. connected. So I sent a message explaining who I was and that I'd love to meet her one day and I get a reply indicating she was pretty turned-on and looking for someone right away - awesome! The impossible really is possible it seems! So I reply with some contact details, we speak briefly on the phone, and she explains she's having a woman over this evening but is so turned on by the thought of it that she needs someone now... Oh my god, I nearly came right there and then. I mean, this NEVER happens. She gives me her address and asks if I can bring over a couple of bottles of wine. It seemed strange (I knew then and there that I was being used) but I thought "hey, what the hell - why not?" So, after a quick trip to the bottle-o to pick up a very nice bottle from Marlborough, NZ and another from the Barrossa Valley, SA, I began the 45-minute journey to her house... I arrived at the time I said I would (about 1.5 hours after our phone call) and knocked on the door... no response. I waited a little and knocked again... still nothing. I checked the address again, rang her phone - turned off. I assumed that she may have quickly ducked out to pick something up so I thought I'd wait a few minutes to see. Five minutes later I hear the door open, a female voice, and then a guy with a very red and embarrassed look on his face head down the complex driveway to his car, all as the woman returns inside... I have to admit, I was a bit confused. I've heard of the CI gangbangs and read the profiles of women who want them, but I didn't think I had been invited to one and I'm not sure I really wanted to be - particularly if I'm the poor sap who's solely there to provide the booze. It was embarrassing to drive away from a townhouse complex after being so patently rejected without even talking to the other person, and I'm pretty sure it would have looked suspect to anyone else watching my behaviour as a result. Not to mention the following hour it took me to get home which by then was i peak-hour traffic. So here's my dilemna: How do I tell this chick where to go, without ruining my chances with the remaining handful of women in Brisbane who ACTUALLY ARE looking to meet a guy? I've heard that bad news travels fast around this site, so I don't want to 'shit where I sleep', but I'll feel pretty discriminated against if I have to keep copping this shit from every woman who whimsically wants to meet and then changes her mind. What's a guy to do?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    She found someone that could get there quicker. That is just a nasty thing to do. She could have at least phoned and let you know. I guess that is what happens in these last minute booty calls. Someone finds a closer "call" or they change thier minds. Well Mr McLovin' you have just told us all what has happened so....go ahead and tell her to get lost, find someone else to share that beautiful Malborough wine with. Dont give up on the basis of one nasty experience, there ARE genuine people on this site.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    how do you tell her to get fucked without telling her to get fucked....you write a thread well done Mclovin...you answered your own question what a cow if she found someone closer she should have called and let you know but you know what would have been ideal...when her and the bloke were at the door...instead of sitting in your car, you should have went and said "Hi my names Mclovin, didnt know you were bringing a friend hun, cool im up for it" made her look like a total fool right there and then but you have done the next best thing...you started a forum lol roxxy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Sorry... I do love another persons misfortune. After careful analysis of your story I have deduced that a) You drive too slow b) You spend too much time picking out wine. . The other guy doesn't. . ps - I don't think you need to tell the chick where to go... do you?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Yes he needs to tell her where to go!!! What a bitch seriously... Hope she reads this forum. Sorry to hear this happened and there are some genuine ones out there :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    when some women treat em like that... i wouldn't invite someone over in those circumstances.. but can only imagine... u were slightly p*ssed and embarrassed.. kinda puts you off the next genuine lady I guess

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    mate have look on the bright side you got a couple bottles of wine out of it. not sure about having a go at her maybe just ask what the go is if the excuse is not up to scratch then have a go Cheers L

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Straight away you picked it! "She gives me her address and asks if I can bring over a couple of bottles of wine. It seemed strange (I knew then and there that I was being used) but I thought "hey, what the hell - why not?" Your gut said to you already felt used before you even left your house. I am not saying you shouldn't have gone to check it out anyway, but you should have been prepared for it not to pan out because STRAIGHT AWAY you found the situation to be strange... So go with what your gut and head is saying, don't be surprised that it was suss. Some people are genuine and some people are just out to scratch their itch how they want and when they want trampling all over anyone to get there... Like Roxxy said the forum is sweet revenge (what is her handle?? hehe) No block the bitch!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'kate_08'Yes he needs to tell her where to go!!! I was just thinking it's a bit like handing in your resignation when your boss just fired you. But I can't argue with a girl in a pair of cute pink pj's.. so I won't.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    The story of internet dating continues, if you want to meet real people you should simply come to CI and meet them there, it is not all sex , and you just might get to meet someone that is real and not a fake person wasting your time.Get out and meet people, dont sit on computer answering flirts, i get hundreds every week and would never take them seriously, it is just a cheap way , if they spent the money and sent you a message i would think they were serious, but a flirt is just that a flirt, doesnt mean they are really serious i have found.Dont think just cause people advertise Gangbangs you have to participate at CI that is not what we are about.I know of hundreds of people that have been stood up by internet dating, if you really want to meet people go to clubs or house parties, that is where you will find what you are looking for i am sure.Leesa xxx

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  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    14 years ago

    I can sympathise, I've been stood up a couple of times as well, and each time i've had that little "warning light" begin to dimly glow inside the brain but ignored it and continued on with the plan only to find that whaddayaknow, the warning light was right. It's a learning experience tho, I've learned now not to ignore that little bit of intuition, if something feels a bit off to me then I feel like it's safer to assume that it's rancid and avoid it than to dig in and end up with the shits.xx SarahP.S. JG has a point tho, I have a friend that keeps a couple of cases of wine (one red, one white) in the boot of her car so she's always prepared for anything!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable.................................Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Well rather than get all upset about not getting your end away or being beaten to the job Get Even Name and Shame go on tell us what her profile name is wont make a scrap of difference but hey worth a laugh and on the bright side you have a few lovely ladies above thinking poor you so something may come from your wasted efforts yet.. But hey Suck it Up mate and NEXT

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    dont worry, by the time you give up and move on, being stood up will seem the 'norm'. get used to it. theres as many asshole women out there as men, and for whatever reason (it dont matter) they'll run you all around town just to let you down in the end. it happens. life happens. move on.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Good advice all, and thanks for the encouragement. The 'user' is now firmly on my block list. Although I didn't get to kiss on this occassion, I rarely kiss-and-tell, and although there may be a little guilty pleasure in martydom (i.e. naming and shaming this person), it may come at the expense of a valuable lesson for her - one which may not be fully appreciated if she was subjected to abuse or isolation. So, thank you to those who have messaged me revenge suggestions, but I think after my little vent here I'm soothed sufficiently to simply carry on as if nothing ever happened. Happy hunting everyone! McL

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  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable.................................Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason....Is it time to change his undies, perhaps?xx Sarah

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there?? dont worry im told its boring hehee roxxy

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  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    14 years ago

    She sounds like a total flake...move on. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise cos if she acts like this...she probably has all kinds of issues & baggage that you don't want to get involved with! Not worth the dramas!!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have known McLoving, interwebberly speaking for a while now, n I reckon he is a big spunk, and a sweetheart t'boot. Anyone who is geographically able (which I, unfortunately am not) to hang out with this guy should definitely grab the opportunity with both hands. P'raps then, both the hands (and the grabbing) can be put to better use..... ; )

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there?? Quoting 'TassieRose' Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there?? dont worry im told its boring hehee roxxyI WANT ALL THE GOSS!!! There must be SUMFIN juicy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there?? Quoting 'TassieRose' Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'exitonly' go for it................do it in the blokes only section if you feel more comfortable................................. Ten we can get the really bad backstabbing insults and wild come backs happening in a reasonably private forum........just like stalky's nut job stalker.....................she know who she is,as do all the other guys............................ He's only got ONE??? huh. That just doesn't seem right for some reason.... Is it time to change his undies, perhaps? xx Sarah And we can't get there?? dont worry im told its boring hehee roxxyI WANT ALL THE GOSS!!! There must be SUMFIN juicy in Staky's underwear! Maybe it IS time to change his undies?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Ummm, I stood up a guy when I was single aand looking and I felt dreadful for doing so. We chatted on line, chatted on the phone exchanged pics...all excited and ready to go........... Got to the hotel in the city We met And........................................... It was all wrong! I blame the pheromones because I remember he smelled, not a bad smell, just a smell that kept me at arms length from him. I said goodbye and sorry for the inconvenience. I mean what else could I do? Put up with something that didn't feel right? Best just to learn the lesson and walk away.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Man, you got to have some rules... not to preach any morals to the converted here I'd say why would you go to an address which you do not know and you have no idea whom you find there... assuming it would be just a lady on heat that simply could not wait an hour or so - and managed to satisfy herself faster than that - heck, we invented equipment for that purpose; and if you managed to enter for the sole purpose of some bodily pleasure as many others before you (some of which you have just seen leaving the place) then who knows what could you have taken home with you in lieu of your bottles of wine... I'm just saying - choose whom you stick it inot, some of the holes are just not worth it. Sex should be an experience, in every way, and for all your senses, how can you enjoy it in such a rush and so unprepared...? But to each their own, I guess, and what I'm saying, mate, perhaps it turned out for the best for you and you don't even know it. Be sorry for the fucker who took your bullet ;-)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'lilypond'I have known McLoving, interwebberly speaking for a while now, n I reckon he is a big spunk, and a sweetheart t'boot. Anyone who is geographically able (which I, unfortunately am not) to hang out with this guy should definitely grab the opportunity with both hands. P'raps then, both the hands (and the grabbing) can be put to better use..... ; ) Awww, isn't she a cutey! Nice guys in Melbourne, say hello to Lily - she's witty, intelligent and absolutely adorable to chat to. Be good to her!

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