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Stood up and annoyed!! Wonder why we bother!.

June 01 2013

Man it kills us we organised and had been speaking to this couple for days in regards to meeting up. Anyway we being down in Byron drove all the way up the Gold Coast to meet this couple. We showed up to the casino as organised to meet and started to have a drink or two while we waited and of corse nervous as you could imagine. Anyway after an hour had passed we messages them to find out where they was ect. No reply we ended up waiting around for about 2 hours having a couple of drinks nothing too much so one of us could still drive. In the end we decided to call it quits. So we drive home which mind you is a 45min maybe an hour drive. When we get home we finally get a text saying "oh sorry guys we forgot all about this and phone wasn't near us when you messages us!" I won't mention names or user names all tho I reckon I should but we are not like that! Just means we won't be talking to them again. So all up we spent about 4 hours including travel and waiting for these guys not to show and it really annoys us that we could of organised something else closer instead of traveling that far? Has this happened anyone before? How do you deal with these people? It just annoys us so much and gets us thinking on who to trust and believe on here because at the moment we took a big step to get things happening and than this happens. Makes us wonder if they was really a couple. And some people wonder why we email back and forth a little bit and confirm via Skype or so before we do anything ( mind you this time we didn't confirm with Skype because we are keen to have some fun). Sorry for the big windge but had to get off our chest. With every email we send we are up front and tell the truth if we are not comfortable with it we say something but just so annoyed.

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RHP User

12 years ago

we have had a similar thing happen several times and we usually have a 2.5 hour travel each way. also people that say can we have face pics but they don't have on their profile, if any pics at all. this scene is starting to annoy us to the point that we are about to get off. If anyone can suggest a solution to problem feel free to put forward.

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On_Safari

12 years ago

I was unable to attend so sent my gorgeous Wingman on his ownsome to fly the flag for us. He had a nice time. Took weeks to find time for both couples but I got to meet them Friday night too. Nice people. Everyone has commitments and stuff going on but courtesy costs nothing. Just be thankful OP that couple/individual onviously weren't going to float your boat and you dodged a bullet in the long run. That's how I'd look at it. Now my question. After meeting, and assuming both couples are interested in each other. (Us being the virgins in this scenario) who broaches the topic of a playdate? Us or wait for them?- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

Forget meeting couples online. It's all too hard and too much work. Go to swingers clubs, RHP meet & greets and to sex parties. This way there will be lots of people to meet & hit it off with, and if you are lucky you will come across a few couples or a party organiser you like. Just keep an open mind. :)

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sweetgem

12 years ago

I don't travel any distance that is longer than 40km from where I live to meet people from online! I chatted to a guy from here a while back, who expected me to drive all the way to Mosman or further out that direction, just for a few hours of sex. I told him politely to FO! Lol I had only traveled a great distance once to meet a man for this kind of fun a few years ago, luckily he was genuine and showed up and we ended up dating each other properly. But that experience had taught me not to be naive or trusting strangers too easily as I could be wasting my own time in traveling at such a long distance for nothing. As for how to deal with those time wasters, I suggest you block them and move on! Not worth the anger or frustration at all as you would only put wrinkles on your own faces while they could be laughing, partying and having fun elsewhere.- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

I'd like to suggest, that if you are going travel any distance to meet, why not have a plan b?? My way of thinking is that if you have a plan b, you're not waiting or relying on someone else to make a great night. Do a little research into what things are available on the same night that can be attended at short notice, that way you get to experience something new and can still walk away with a positive. There's a little saying I like:- By failing to prepare, you prepare to fail. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

You can meet people here, and yes, you are correct in saying you can meet people at swingers clubs and parties! We have made some nice friends on here in the last 4 months and will keep making more as there are real people out on these boards. However its no different then finding people anywhere, you have to wade through the endless amounts of humanity to find the ones that you would actually wish to be friendly with.I know why we are here, its expressed very well in our profile and have no issues with people not agreeing with it. I just believe that expectation out weighs the actuality. People seem not to care about others motives but wish to push there own, when you do that face to face or via a site like RHP, its all the same, however here, if patient, you will find like minded people who are looking for something, its just finding out the day, time and mindset of who you are dealing with.All I can say is, have patience and good luck!

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RHP User

12 years ago

Wow the casino was so noisy last night....but I wouldn't have played anyway. I have heard this though before and I think it is so rude there is no way people forget meets....load of rubbish. Unfortunately there is so much to learn.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Its unavoidable we think. You can't tel who will bail and who won't. Just keep the contact up right until the day so you can kind of lock them in.We've had people bail on us and we generally always drive 3 hrs to play and have to book a hotel. Some people just get nervous which we can understand but they can at least still meet for a drink. Not many people are going to begrudge someone because they are crapping themselves as long as they make the effort.Even the 'I've got my period' excuse isn't the best at the last minute. Once again at least meet for a drink. Just getting to talk to people with similar interests is fun. It doesn't all have to lead to sex.We black the list the people who have stood us up though. Word does get around about people who do 'stand up'. There is one well known couple in Sydney that stand people up and most of us around the same age know who they are. Dodgy.

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Mischeviouslad

12 years ago

I agree with Sirlurk. In the event of a flake out, have a plan B... ie, you have a fun night out anyway and don't just toss in the towel. However.... ..... It's best to prevent flake outs in the first place, and there ARE good ways of finding out their potential to flake, in advance. I've mentioned them before.... so to save others from boredom and to avoid over publicizing the methods, those who are curious can ask directly. DG

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DTE_couple

12 years ago

Quoting 'pizzadog'we have had a similar thing happen several times and we usually have a 2.5 hour travel each way. also people that say can we have face pics but they don't have on their profile, if any pics at all. this scene is starting to annoy us to the point that we are about to get off. If anyone can suggest a solution to problem feel free to put forward. The best thing we can suggest is, host at home yourself, we do this a lot. This way if they don't show at least you still have yourself and your partner. Also we do normally text the day before and then again a few hours before. We do the same if someone else is hosting. And we have gone to every meet we have arranged. Hope this helps

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RHP User

12 years ago

Yes this has happened to us in the early stages of when we first started looking for playmates. We are now so much more switched on in regards to listening to our intuition about people. We now always ensure that myself and the other woman have spoken on the phone at least once before meeting up. I also usually call the day before just to confirm that the catch up is still on. We usually arrange to meet the people half way so it is not a long distance of travel for either party. If for some reason the people don't turn up we don't get angry or upset as we still enjoy our day out together. No shows has strengethened our ability to fine tune what we are looking for and the communication between both parties so for us it has been a very valuable learning experience. Ms NC2147

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rupamohan

12 years ago

We simply re confirm date before start up. When we plan date we tell them date will be reconfirmed on the day and if it can't be reconfirmed it will be canceled that way they can't say our phone was off and we reached to find you missing.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Maybe they got cold feet, but that doesn't excuse them for not making contact with you guys. A little resect goes along way in this lifestyle. As we lead very busy lives, professionally and privately we know what it's like to be time limited, but we always show when we say we are, and if we can't, we reply early on. Try not let this dampen your spirits guys.. :) T&B..

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Fun_playfull_cpl

12 years ago

Thanks guys n girls, everything said is valid points and some of it we did do and some of it we will try now to save us the heart break of happening over and over. Just wanted to touch on one thing from what the_team said " Even the 'I've got my period' excuse isn't the best at the last minute. Once again at least meet for a drink. Just getting to talk to people with similar interests is fun. It doesn't all have to lead to sex." We tend not to meet at this time as for the reason that if we do hit off good with a couple then suddenly we are like sorry we can't do anything because of that time of the month, the other couple may think that we was never or not interested ect. Mind u we would tell them before we meet that it would be a problem and hope they understand but guess we are afraid that once again think we are not interested. Mind you we are not the most experienced people around here with any of this and has only really opened up for us in the past 2 years to the odd few times from pure luck then things led to another and we ended up here and found one it very helpful.

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lilmisssquirt

12 years ago

We usually host at either of our apartments...we are upfront with them, come for a drink and if we don't click then there is no harm done...if we do click then we do like to take it into the bedroom :-D We had 1 bi girl saying she would be over within the hour but never showed...she eventually messages us on here saying she got to the front of our place and then chickened out. We gave her another chance a few weeks later but she didn't show again. Most of the time it's spontaneous for us to invite people over on the day, as we both have housemates and never know if we have the place to ourselves till the day. This time the couple asked us over to their place, which was about 1hr drive...we had swapped pics, asked all the right questions and even in contact via text till 10 mins away. We get to the address they gave us...no lights on, all locked up. We waited, texted and called (25 mins) then decided they must have chickened out. But we never heard from them again to at least apologise. Also met a couple at the wickham and they looked much older than pics sent...also were a lot more experienced then they let on. We went to get drinks and got back to the table and they were gone...no text message or anything either, I thought it was so rude...- Posted from rhpmobile

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chevtrek

12 years ago

I have been swinging as a couple and single over many years call me lucky but this has only happened once..

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RHP User

12 years ago

partys are the way to go!! or dont make plans, i usally just put a post out the day we want to do something the area we are in already... x

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Stood up and annoyed!! Wonder why we bother!.

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