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Stopping flirts and messages from people you don't want

August 04 2013

Although we know this has probably been posted before, we can't seem to find a reference, so here it goes. What's the best way to convince people outside your age limit, or who are the wrong sex, or simply not what you are looking for, to not flirt or send message? For example, .... Guys. After we joined, we received dozens of messages from guys, flirts from guys, and private galleries from guys daily, which was initially flattering, until you see your hundredth penis for the day, and become a little de-sensitising. We quickly changed our profile to remove guys, but still seem to get endless amounts of chat requests, play requests and the like. We even stated (we thought clearly) in our profile, that guys shouldn't bother trying, and changed our profile picture, and yet, it continues. And then, there are couples...Don't get me wrong, we want contact from couples, but we stated an age limit based on what we were comfortable with, and yet, still get more from outside that limit than from within. I realise this sounds more than a little naive, but we make a point of reading someone's profile before we act, and if we are outside what they ask for, we do not attempt contact. Based on this, our question is simple, what's the best way to encourage those outside our limits to not contact us? We appreciate the gesture, but for 99% of them, we are simply not interested (although thank you to those guys we have had fun with). This is meant with no disrespect those who are outside our limit, but is it simply the case that they don't read the full profile? We also have to wonder, is it our profile itself? Are we not clear? We certainly don't want to appear negative about those who continue to send messages, and we have blocked many of the insistent ones, but as a couple that is here for a specific purpose, we don't want to mislead others into thinking there is a chance, when in reality there isn't. This is certainly not meant to be negative or a whinge, as we are just noobs to RHP, but are looking for a bit of advice from those who understand where we are coming from. Any ideas?

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RHP User

11 years ago

From our perspective, the worst thing you can do is plaster your profile with "NO SINGLE MEN!!!", "YOU WILL BE BLOCKED" or something equally aggressive and caps locked. You may be justified in doing so, but it has no effect on those you want it to, and it makes you seem jaded and short-fused to those you actually are trying to attract. We like the polite but firm way you've said it on your profile and don't think you should escalate that. The reality is many of the guys sending those messages don't look past the photos and location, so nothing you say in your profile will deter them. For us, we don't get toooooo many unsolicited messages outside of our requirements. We have a brief template reply that we just send back, and a flirt takes 10 seconds to respond to, so it's never been an issue. Tryst & Shout

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On_Safari

11 years ago

Lol where not everyone reads profiles or takes in your stated preferences. It's all good, you just respond to those who meet YOUR criteria. Easy!! Have fun and enjoy.....indy.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Thanks for the opinions. As we were saying, not a whinge, simply a curiosity. Mrs Grabitude certainly finds the attention flattering, but have noticed of recent that it seems like we respond nicely to 5 or 10 flirts/messages for every 1 we are possibly interested in, and to be honest, I don't think we are being that narrow in our choices. I saw 1 profile that bought up a screen that said we were outside the persons requirements (I had ticked over into 36 without thinking), but think that's really impersonal. We were more concerned we were putting out the wrong message, but now, are feeling a little better (constructive criticism still accepted)

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inspirit

11 years ago

I just caught on who it is lol..... Too much cock lately is sending me nutty lol

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think she's trying to cause a derailment... HP xo i'm only here for the forums...

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RHP User

11 years ago

It's easier to just block/delete those who can't read a profile.. Unfortunately it comes with the territory of being on a sex site... People believe that because you're on a sex/dating site they don't have to abide by your list of 'wants/needs'. I used to send 'You don't meet my criteria' replies but I just don't have the time anymore, for every 20 messages I get, one to two are within my criteria.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I understand what ur saying and autho not on the same scale can relate. Now honestly it is what it is, doesn't look like its going to change and I hope it don't. Suck it up.. I've had some good times with women who's criteria I didn't meet.- Posted from rhpmobile

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sweetgem

11 years ago

As long as you've clearly stated in your profile what you're looking for and your preferred age limit, etc. then you don't need to give those ignorant idiots any response or attention! Don't even think to be extra polite and send those who are outside your age group a reply, because your courtesy will be taken for granted! Although it's still happening, it has certainly quiet down a lot since I put in a special note on my profile. I just don't have time for ignorance! 😋- Posted from rhpmobile

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rc_80

11 years ago

We'd love to see a feature where we could 'turn off' our profile to anyone that isn't within our personal preferences. EG: Over or under certain ages, relationship status, location, verified members, etc.

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RHP User

11 years ago

You will never stop it. It's the same as padlocks. They only keep honest people out....- Posted from rhpmobile

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