Stranger Danger

October 21 2013

I have been talking with some female friends and the subject of stranger danger came up . They told of instances where they have felt unsafe when on a meet . Being followed and Even drink spiking had been encountered . Many people on RHP are newly single after long term relationships ending, and may not be as street smart as younger women are today . Have you had any close calls with creeps like this? What are some precautions you take to keep yourself safe on first meets?- Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    11 years ago

    We once had a chap, from the chatroom, follow us to a swingers club where he proceeded to stalk us and a few other couples. He was a psycho, who said not a word. Just followed and stared and got very close. Eventually he was thrown out .- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    looking for a few clues m8 ???   Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    - Always tell a friend (or someone on RHP) where you are, and with whom - Cusually tell your date you have done this - Always have enough money for a taxi, in case you want to leave quickly without being followed - Don't tell your date where you live. I used to tell guys I lived in the suburb next to mine - Never accept a drink that you have not witnessed being poured - Before going to the bathroom make sure your glass is empty, so you can get a fresh one when you come back But most importantly, trust your gut and know it is not rude to make your exit if you're not completely at ease.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' - Always tell a friend (or someone on RHP) where you are, and with whom - Cusually tell your date you have done this - Always have enough money for a taxi, in case you want to leave quickly without being followed - Don't tell your date where you live. I used to tell guys I lived in the suburb next to mine - Never accept a drink that you have not witnessed being poured - Before going to the bathroom make sure your glass is empty, so you can get a fresh one when you come back   But most importantly, trust your gut and know it is not rude to make your exit if you're not completely at ease. great advice there Mes

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I always check the size of their handbags

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have a handbag that could hide a whole body.....not just a strap on! .......- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It's pretty disturbing the sickos that are out there, just read a story today of a taxi driver that took advantage if a drunk girl, absolutely disgraceful there is people out there that are like that - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Funlover xx

  • foreign_lover

    foreign_lover

    11 years ago

    I know i'm being naive when saying that i am expecting everybody here to be responsible and morally correct in dealing with anyone, but what Wingman is saying is downright horrible! Not to mention incredibly stupid as the offender has a profile on here. Ive seen some creeps at the swinger's clubs yes, but that's it.In, fact a friend of mine is on a vanilla dating site and after some flirting she decides she's not interested. This guy suddenly becomes very menacing: hints that he knows her through a friend, can find out where she lives as he's "tech-savvy" and that she's in for some interesting times soon. Had her freaked out of her mind as she has two toddlers! Luckily i went over with her on how much info she gave him and if anything can be traced back (props to Blindman69's thread about privacy and his personal help on that regard) and it seems she did cover herself in pretty well. Nothing happened. The guy looked very upstand-ish. He fit the bill exactly of Christian Bale in American Psycho...You never know who's on the other side and this shits me to no end for obvious and less obvious reasons.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Always meet in very public place if you think you might be uncomfortable... And lastly.... Walk in clutching a baseball bat and say you just came from training.... S'nP O:-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I asked the security to help me walk :p- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My handbag would seriously scare the shit out of you!

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    11 years ago

    It's a little different being a guy looking for girls - you don't get the danger aspect so much. I did however meet someone who turned out to be a complete methhead - their house was more like a heroin den than a house. Protip: if someone asks "is it okay if I light up a little, would you mind?" What they mean is "I can't put the pipe down for even half an hour". - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mes. My ex narrowly avoided being dragged into a car by a "date" She was lucky to get away with a couple of bruises... She should have made a report to the dating site in question and police in my opinion. Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' - Always tell a friend (or someone on RHP) where you are, and with whom - Cusually tell your date you have done this - Always have enough money for a taxi, in case you want to leave quickly without being followed - Don't tell your date where you live. I used to tell guys I lived in the suburb next to mine - Never accept a drink that you have not witnessed being poured - Before going to the bathroom make sure your glass is empty, so you can get a fresh one when you come back   But most importantly, trust your gut and know it is not rude to make your exit if you're not completely at ease.I have made sure to recommend anyone I meet to do the same, tell a friend where she is and with whom, and to make sure she tells them she is home safe, or if she is staying the night. Just to keep someone in the loop. I think this builds trust to hear it from a guy, knowing he is sensible and concerned about her wellbeing. I also cant help but want to make sure that she is doing this as a protocol with other people. As we know, online dating has its inherent risks.

  • wingman2014

    wingman2014

    11 years ago

    Thats a big problem . A victim of this quite often wont report it . Ive been told they feel ashamed for allowing themselves to get into such a situation in the first place and just want the whole incident to go away . Just goes to show that you can screen profiles in fine detail , chat and even meet for a drink but you just don't know for sure what ulterior motives someone may have until it's too late. Sad state of affairs - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Kaleidoscope'I have a handbag that could hide a whole body.....not just a strap on! .......- Posted from rhpmobile Then go for a little boat ride just off the coast ...?   Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes wingman, it can be a scary world out there. That wasn't even the worst experience she's had... I would urge anyone who has been in this situation to report it, to the site and police, you may be helping someone else... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...