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Strippers and Bucks Nights...

February 14 2007

I am writing this post in response to something I have felt very passionate about for a long time. Now this being a swingers site where a lot of you partner swap I am probably going to get shot down in flames but hey a good friend once told me that "a faint heart never fucked a bengal tiger." so... here goes.... I am 28 years old and a lot of my friends are getting married and having hens/bucks nights. Call me a prude if you like but I think strippers are completely innappropriate at this time. I think if you are commiting to someone you supposedly love it is unnecessary to have naked women rub themselves up and down on you to celebrate that fact. If a buck went to a nightclub and kissed a random girl that would be considered cheating but society deems it ok to have naked women dance around and put things in themselves etc etc as some sort of a rite of passsage. Now before you all jump on me with the "women go to strippers too" argument. I would like to say that I have attended The Doll House and Bullion and Exotica as well as Collars and Cuffs and Big Mens Tools etc etc and I think it is a completely different thing. Often with male strippers you only see what you would at the beach and it has an entirely different atmosphere compared to the seedy feel at most strip clubs where girls are turning themselves inside out. I think it is wrong and am pissed off that it has become such an accepted thing. So accepted, that I have heard of guys being called poofs if they don’t have strippers at their bucks do. Just because something becomes the norm it does not make it right. I personally have a female friend at the moment who is extremely upset about this issue. Her hubby to be is going off on an all day boat cruise with his closest mates and 3 or 4 girls. She has told me that she knows there will be this hush hush "what happens on tour stays on tour" crap that you guys go on about. However she is too scared to say anything for fear of being called pathetic and a party pooper. Its just a guy thing remember!!! So thats my little rant, am interested to hear peoples viewpoints. and before you start to say that us girls are all too insecure about our own bodies- I read that Eva Longoria, one of the most gorgeous women out there had this same spat with that Tony basketball guy. So there. cheers Goldy xxx (source of Eva Longoria info; very reputable New Idea magazine- lol)

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RHP User

18 years ago

I guess the subject of strippers/ swinging can be ever so related. I understand if girls or guys are uncomfortable with their partner frequenting these kind of establishments but I also feel it is up to the individual couples to set there own boundaries! Some couples love the idea of going to strippers both together and seperately. Some couples love the idea of each other shagging the bollicks off of complete strangers... it’s their thing.... that they share together. However, What happens when one of the partners is on a slightly different page sexually? One of them hide their true desires because they are afraid of upsetting or scaring off the other? I have noticed there have been a few recent posts on this matter. ie. meeting partners on RHP and then wanting them to take a vow of celibacy etc... ( yes that was a slight embelishment of the truth). I even think you may find yourself in this situation currently Goldy? It was you who said, I believe, that having now found yourself a partner you don’t think it appropriate to shove large latex objects where the sun don’t shine in the chatroom anymore. Look I know I am digressing slightly from the subject matter, but bare with me, here is the point..... What people choose to do at any given point in time WILL reflect on their future decisions and the way other people perceive YOUR decisions. To meet someone on a sex site..... and then feel insecure about them wanting to have sex with others is akin to going to a prostitute and then being concerned that she will sleep with someone else when you are gone ( a loong bow, I know. but you get the point). The same goes for strippers. If you are really concerned that your beloved is going to see a stripper you are either not really as secure in that relationship as you think you are or you both are on a completely different page sexually. Either reason is good enough to think that both parties may need to sit down and learn a little more about each other before committing to something as overwhelmingly f***ng HUGE as marriage. Good subject Goldy.... thought provoking as ever! xxx Z

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RHP User

18 years ago

good reply zip...and good question. I have to fess up...I’m one of those buddies who has organised strippers for a mates bucks and most of the time it has been good "clean" fun. But a few years ago at a mates do the stripper got him naked too and mounted him on a chair. She was going for her life and all the blokes...half pissed of course were cheering them on. Later on he was completley pissed off with himself because he didn’t want it to happen but felt like a poof for pushing her off in front of his mates. Now call him weak as piss if you like but I for one have never organised a stripper again.

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18 years ago

here here.... that is just goes beyond the bounds of reasonable. I commend you for never allowing it to occur again. Personally, I have organised a few gentlemens evenings, and they are exactly that, gentlemens evenings.... any neanderthal behaviour is nipped in the butt very quickly. Z

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