Submission, domination and trust...

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  Rising_Phoenix

  2 years ago

  I have no idea and that’s why I don’t mention it on my profile. Experience tells me some people can’t be trusted regardless of how many boundaries you set first and I live in a small town so I was too embarrassed to even report when things went wrong...in fact even if I lived in a big city who wants to go through that? I’ll just not put myself in that situation again. I used to enjoy it but now it seems impossible to establish trust, thankfully there’s still plenty of other ways to satisfy the desire to get a little wild 😉

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 years ago

  Trust is earnt, not freely handed out. A true Dom is a gentleman/woman and knows how to behave like a good man/woman. A sub knows this. A wanna be dom, is dangerous, a coward and does not action his words. Ms Foxy

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  Ex007

  2 years ago

  There are so many levels and layers to this dynamic but depending on each individual’s uneducated interpretation. Do most here educate themselves and actually know the truth and full extent of the Dom/Sub dynamic? In my experience, that’s a big No. Do they have some sort of fantasy about it probably. So I would suggest taking that option with a grain of salt unless something is actually mentioned in their profile.

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  Obi1kenietzsche

  2 years ago

  Communication leads to mutual understanding Understanding leads to mutual respect Respect feeds into mutual trust Trust then enables the dynamic The dynamic then requires a deeper level of communication And so the circle ensures.

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  RHP User

  2 years ago

  It’s fundamentally about respect, leadership, communication, empathy and taking the time to connect with the other person (needs, wants, desires and of course the soft nos and hard nos). At the end of the day, it’s a dynamic that rests on intimacy and intimacy can only be grown when there is the ability for both to be present and feel valued. Dom and subs are a two way street not just about the subs catering to the doms in a kink dispensing manner - this point is overlooked in inexperienced players.

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  madotara69

  2 years ago

  I believe you will find a community and lifestyle with high respect and well protected in trust not for one to another as trust is to as a network of trusted amongst each otherwise we are not houses the trust where relationships have extremes in all branch’s of the spectrum where discipline shared by all is taught and learned and kept tight discrete within and discreetly protected and maintained. I think 50 shades of grey gave a perspective as quite the contrary as to the sudden number of Doms announcing themselves here alone and fizzed out when the novelty and 50 shades the new doms learned from didn’t help and boredom to try a new in thing as where all the sex is a happening thing, squirtmasters and possibly fisting being canned in fifty shades, one by reason to keep the fisting down those who know they enjoy it and frightening for the millions being test dummies the fisting extraordinaire’s feel the urge to prove it once they said ego gets a kick to asap what’sername the lucky girl’s gonna love it, they all do, she just doesn’t know it yet.. So I doubt you will find answers for all meanings if you are serious to the lifestyle and the questions for how to go about doing so, I don’t know. Don’t think one can just walk on in and a be a Dom going around whipping everyone into shape or submission, just kidding, I better quit while ahead distracted. Mado Mado Tara xx

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