enduran

enduran

M45

Submissive Alpha-males

March 28 2013

Hi there,I have noticed the other day that it is odd that in my work I am very much an Alpha-male and even in my personal life. On the flip side I have quite a few fantasies in which i am the more submissive part in a sexual encounter. This is weird as in normal life I would never attract a dominant woman i think. So i am setting this fantasy up to never be fulfilled.Are there many others like me out there whose fantasies are the opposite? And if you have fulfilled those fantasies, how was it for you?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It pays to advertise

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    My favourite kind of guy !!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ministers felt the same way....except in reverse

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya77' ministers felt the same way....except in reverse I've made a vow to not go for Alpha males ever again...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I am like a Penny coin...flip me and see. foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    hmmmmm shame youre not in NSW

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    In my personal and professional life i've been totally in control....and then recently someone tied me up....and i became totally submissive.....all i can say...is OMG!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    He's in the wrong state Shinas!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Shinas' My favourite kind of guy !!! to a glass of Krug soon. It maybe in Geralton though... My shout

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'cavey50' It pays to advertise what are your views on "height challenged males", that are arrogant? (first time I've ever wanted to be associated with the devil)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'ohmigod73'He's in the wrong state Shinas! Yeah Yeah I know I know, my speciality is long distance !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!     ....sigh.....     xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    without alpha egos, and with a willingness to surrender to my proclivities from time to time :) Equally, I'm a fairly dominant, in-charge person at work and I love to surrender to a strong, decisive man - in day-to-day life and in the bedroom. I don't like being tied up etc, so not Dom/sub-style, but I do like a man who knows what he wants and is comfortable taking charge. It's such a relief from my normal day :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Shinas-look me up! (Male half of Flicka's)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It's really not weird at all. People's sexual fantasies often involve acting in the complete opposite way to what they normally do in their everyday lives.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Your on my friends list ...:) but I kinda like them single ...:) Lil bit..... Where are these men ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Luckdragon23' It's really not weird at all. People's sexual fantasies often involve acting in the complete opposite way to what they normally do in their everyday lives. I totally agree with the above....The mind is a very delicate and unexplored organ, all depends with what is known to your mind and unknown, the environment and how your buttons are pressed... The ultimate experience is usually how you are feeling which is opposite to what your partner(s) is feeling...the ying & yang, black & white (mind you black on black is also fine my me ).... hence opposite attracts.A real turn on is when during, the tables are turned.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have a mate who is a professional mistress and 99% of her clients are all Alpha males, CEO's of huge corporations, etc. They spend all of their time in control, they crave someone to take that away from them when playing. It's a break from normality. I'm a control freak in my life normally and love to relinquish control when it comes to sex.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    *chuckles* Like a Shitz-zu "Small dog syndrome" Each Dog has to be looked at as in individual case... Sometimes, the dog is too much trouble, and should get put down - For the good of Dogkind - I have a story..."As usual.." A girl I know, met a guy..Thought he was good.. for awhile, then realized he was a Narcissistic Short arsed prick..She fckd him like he was the best she ever had.. ONCE.. then, when he came back sniffing for more, she said... "Oh Fck NO!!! I am going to do myself with my dildo.. it is a MUCH better fck then you are" Then told all us.. as his associates... And girl did we RAG him.."He doesn't even Associate with US now " *grins*

  • enduran

    enduran

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' without alpha egos, and with a willingness to surrender to my proclivities from time to time :) Equally, I'm a fairly dominant, in-charge person at work and I love to surrender to a strong, decisive man - in day-to-day life and in the bedroom. I don't like being tied up etc, so not Dom/sub-style, but I do like a man who knows what he wants and is comfortable taking charge. It's such a relief from my normal day :) Same here, i dont think i am into being tied-up and all, but just having someone else in charge sounds nice. I think it is as you say a a relief, some time where you dont have to be the decider and thinker. Fulfilling someone elses every wish and making her happy just feels like an awesome way to spend the time. Or it certainly feels like that in my fantasies ;-)

  • enduran

    enduran

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'MissKay' I have a mate who is a professional mistress and 99% of her clients are all Alpha males, CEO's of huge corporations, etc. They spend all of their time in control, they crave someone to take that away from them when playing. It's a break from normality. I'm a control freak in my life normally and love to relinquish control when it comes to sex. I am sure your mate has a heap of interesting stories to tell ;-)Thanks for your comment, sound like it is a very normal situation that Alpha-Males want to relinquish control in the bed room. I will just line up with all the CEOs of the world (perhaps there is a promotion in it if I am in the same club...)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ... sleep your way to the top.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    That's cool, a catch up & a coffee with my lady & I would still be cool!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...In my experience....and I am not suggesting this is engraved in stone as the 'truth'....I find that the 'Sub' is, invariably, still the one that wields the power and control. It may be disguised and beneath the thin veneer of appearances but the simple beauty of it is that they are choosing to relinquish control and merely have to say, 'stop' and the game is over ;-).I am not an Alpha male but I prefer to be take a Dominant position but I am fully aware that it is an illusion and is entirely dependent upon the acquiescence of the other person...xDanny

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Having experienced a fair bit of the world of BDSm - albeit far from living it as a lifestyle, what philospherpoet says above is pretty accurate...It is essentially a submissive who seeks the dominant. For a dominant to be demanding and to seek out a submissive is generally a warning light that you are not going to be in good hands... Regardless of whether they are make or female.If you really feel submissive tendencies, seek out a professional to experiment with - they won't harm you mentally or emotionally. Seeking out a dominant with no real track record is pretty well guaranteed to end badly.One must be ready emotionally, mentally and physically for the exchange of power - and given that we are so wired to be in control - it is not something you can merely switch on... (of course, there are those who firmly believe they are "Switches" )

  • enduran

    enduran

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'ding26' hmmmmm shame youre not in NSW hmmm perhaps i should plan a trip ;-)

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    12 years ago

    I totally agree. Having a relative who use to be a professional Dom, who now only has one life partner...... she picked him.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well I am very Dom day to day, family, I'm a boss at work, football coach, in fact every part of my life I do things my way and never fail to achieve. BUT sex for the most part is alo that way, most women who want to meet me also wants to be dominated by me.. But I lust to be submissive to the point I now have NO LIMITS if a woman wants something I will do it, hurt me, cut me. Shit on me piss pain torture filth bi strapons ANYTHINg as long as I know what we are doing is for the pleasure of her. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    hmm i'm just a new member here and glad I stumbled into the thread. Great comments by philosopherpoet and particularly infinite_wisdom, some concise observations.I'm very similar to Coops14 where I have had partners that I am naturally dominant with and it carries it's own particular buzz but it can be a 'same same' experience. On the other hand, demanding women that are forceful, sexually confident, sometimes threatening/potentially violent and strong communicators make me absolutely weak at the knees and lead to intense, crazy 'individualistic' sex sessions where you end up viscerally, emotionally and physically spent. Most people (guys anyway) are like this to some extent and love it (eg when partners demand sex or introduce new fantasies/elements/change gears).It's a very powerful sense of satisfaction when you achieve the right balance (with the right person) and it isn't something as simple as a sexual satisfaction, it's far deeper than that. Regardless of which, it is very addictive once you've tasted it even for how mild I am.Lastly it's no simple irony that you hold the ultimate 'real' power as to how far you participate in the scenario, under what circumstances and with whom. Everyone needs a bit of balance and that will start leaking out into sexuality before longIn 'real life', I'm pretty hard hitting, very sharp and tend to get what I want. It fascinates me that the act of surrender/submission carries so much power to me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Hey end   I have a female friend who is a dom.   You are not alone her client list included a number of high profile businessman (alpha males) that pay big bucks to relinquish control and some of these like to be humiliated as well, not always sexually, can include ( such as put in a cage, made to eat and drink out of dog bowls etc)

  • enduran

    enduran

    12 years ago

    Huggybear, i am not sure I am on the humiliation end of the spectrum. I like the idea of giving up control and do what i am been told, but i think i would like to restrict this to non obviously humiliating actions. And it's more related to the sexual aspect ...well i guess the actions you mentioned are sexual for those guys...I am surprised to see that there are very few guys who responded to this thread outing themselves as being into submission. Perhaps the RHP audience is not the submissive kind, who knows?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'enduran'I am surprised to see that there are very few guys who responded to this thread outing themselves as being into submission. Perhaps the RHP audience is not the submissive kind, who knows?I thought a lot more gents would have felt this more as well.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'coops14'Well I am very Dom day to day, family, I'm a boss at work, football coach, in fact every part of my life I do things my way and never fail to achieve. BUT sex for the most part is alo that way, most women who want to meet me also wants to be dominated by me.. But I lust to be submissive to the point I now have NO LIMITS if a woman wants something I will do it, hurt me, cut me. Shit on me piss pain torture filth bi strapons ANYTHINg as long as I know what we are doing is for the pleasure of her. - Posted from rhpmobile Whens our next Date. Good on you for expressing those hidden desires. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I fantasise about being the dominate one for a night or 2 with my guy. Never going to happen. Not one once of sub in him and I am a natural submissive woman who loves him taking total control but fantasy for sure. So all good. I don't really think alpha males call them selfs alpha males though really. They already know they are and they don't need to tell the world they are so people know. We just know they are by how they carry them selfs. If a man told me he was an alpha male to me tells me he isn't but wishes he was, not a natural dominate man.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    No I don't find it strange. It is not uncommon for the alpha to gain pleasure and have desires to submit. The transfer of mindset giving up control. Pleasing and being rewarded. Being impertinent and receiving discipline. Pushing borders and boundaries of pleasure. I'm sure there are many who actively enjoy it and many more fantasising about it...currently looking for femdom to yield to and to teach gf. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MissKay' I have a mate who is a professional mistress and 99% of her clients are all Alpha males, CEO's of huge corporations, etc. They spend all of their time in control, they crave someone to take that away from them when playing. It's a break from normality. I'm a control freak in my life normally and love to relinquish control when it comes to sex. This would be high up on my fuckit list I reckon.....lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There are plenty of sub guys out there, i'd say they are just staying quiet on here to save face...they dont always want the world to know...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    in my experience, many legit subs tend to have a great deal of power

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Me in a nut shell since getting divorced I am now in control of my sexual experiences by not having any at all. Also in life I’m self employed and making decisions for other people and totally straight. When I get the chance to play with couples or doms I like to be totally submissive and used as my dominant or dominants

  • Discreet6230

    Discreet6230

    6 years ago

    Quoting 'cavey50' It pays to advertise Worth a try :-)