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Submissive bi couple

December 18 2014

Has anyone ever dated a submissive bi couple. Not talking about one offs but where everyone is consciously seeing each other socially and sexually together and separate. It kinds of falls into polyamory region but stays a little away from the mainstream polyamory. If yes, how was the experience, emotionally, sexually and socially. How did you cope with the balance between busy life commitments, expectations, overwhelming emotions and perhaps some confused feelings. Looking forward to hear everyone's thoughts.

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RHP User

10 years ago

A gay couple? Do you mean an established primary couple? I would have thought that it would be unusual to have two submissive people in a relationship. So you are the secondary relationship?

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RHP User

10 years ago

Yes I am talking about an established male/female primary couple who are completely ignorant of the definitions and terminologies but are both submissive to me whereas I am the secondary relationship. I usually tend to attract stranger dynamics.

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Mr_MrsAraps

10 years ago

Cheers W

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RHP User

10 years ago

Are looking for a man and a woman who are a couple, with you being a more dominant partner for both? Regarding your last question, have you read the Ethical Slut? It deals with topics just like the ones you describe. Good luck, I hope you'll explain a bit further.

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RHP User

10 years ago

i am not looking. I have been offered such dynamics recently. Thought might ask the question before jumping in to get the idea, but looks like the question is much complex for this place lol.. Yes I have read Ethical Slut

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RHP User

10 years ago

Your answer wasn't visible yet when I posted my question. :-)

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RHP User

10 years ago

Your asking how you cope? Well firstly I think only people who are quite confident and strong within themselves are able to handle a poly relationship. Sure people get confused, insecurities arise, etc etc. The only way to cope is to immediately talk about it in an open way. Don't let issue fester and allow them to become big problems. Everyone needs to be clear on expectations and above all needs to be considerate of each other's needs. Although it's a difficult juggling act at times keeping everyone happy all of the time, but that is just life isn't it? You keep your bosses happy, your friends, your family, you have to juggle lots of things in every day life. A poly relationship is no different.

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RHP User

10 years ago

By the way if your bi-couple can't accept you have other commitments that isn't good. I couldn't handle anyone who is too possessive. Are you expected to be monogamous to this couple? Do they expect you to be open about other people you are dating, etc etc.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I haven't been in that sort of relationship, no. But I fail to see an issue with it. As a submissive person, generally I would partner with a dominant one but if I was with another submissive person then I feel like searching out a dominant mind would be the way to go. Poly relationships in a general sense are getting more and more common and I know quite a few with varying degrees of dominance and submission involved. I say just do it! What have you got to lose? On a different note I did very much enjoy your profile and think it's a shame you're on the other side of the country haha. Good luck whichever way you decide to go with this. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'Meeka100' By the way if your bi-couple can't accept you have other commitments that isn't good. I couldn't handle anyone who is too possessive. Are you expected to be monogamous to this couple? Do they expect you to be open about other people you are dating, etc etc. That is my current Dilemma. I am a free soul as soon as boundaries definitions and prohibitions are put up my self defense mechanism gets activated and I find out a work around. mmm... interested thoughts though lets see.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'subnymphet'On a different note I did very much enjoy your profile and think it's a shame you're on the other side of the country haha. Good luck whichever way you decide to go with this. - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks very much! Geee! I am blushing :P lol..

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'Meander' Your answer wasn't visible yet when I posted my question. :-) You are most welcome :)

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RHP User

10 years ago

Original Post or Poster, in this case you.

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