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Suburban snobbery
April 28 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
But only if they live too far away.,or too close ...I am a snob, but not about where you live..after all I live in what used to be caled Deadcliffe...And is still seen like that by many..makes me happy because it keeps my village quiet 😉xxFreya
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
To me.... its a case of PROXIMITY. I dont really get these peope who are prepared to get in their car (or plane?!!) and travel for hours on a whim to meet someone they've hardly spoken to. Oh.... and with "no expectations"..... hahaha But I dont see any point searching beyond a general distance. Where you live isnt an issue to me if its within the general region of convenience to me, whether you are from here, or the wide world beyond RHP. If you are attractive and interesting to me..... where you live is just an equation OpportunityConvenience = ? DG
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Is only a problem if you fall in love. Distance can be your friend and might just save your pet rabbit from ending up in the pot whilst you are at work if its a big trip for em.......
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Our listed suburb,is a red herring, there to throw off any would be stalkers, and so no, whilst we do live in the SE suburbs of Melbourne, we dont live in Glen Iris. We have only been in VIC for 3 years and so have not, as yet, formed a balanced opinion of where ALLl the good areas are, and what the bad areas are. We have however been told, by others, what areas are bad and seem to attract a bad element, and so we tend to avoid those areas. In all honesty, if someone (on here) contacts us from what we have been told is a bad area, we are a little cautious with them, but obviously dont judge them until such time as we have met them in person. After all there are bad people to be found in Toorak just as there are good people to be found in a lower socio economic suburbs like Dandenong (oops are we now being judgemental about Toorak & Dandenong ? LOL ) On the flip side of the coin, we have had a single male (in chat) making negative remarks about our listed address (on another site) as being a downmarket suburb for ferals . This was because we told him we were not interested in his lewd, crass and sexual advances. When we enlightened him that we had just listed that suburb (Mount Waverley) on our profile so as to throw off people like him, and then told him that we actually live in Toorak (LOL) he very quickly vanished into the woodwork from whence he came. The downside of sites like this, is that one is certainly judged by what one has on ones profile (the cover of the proverbial book) : ones photos, ones perceived address, ones profile wording. And more than often what one writes can be misconstrued / misinterpreted and as such one can be incorrectly judged. Even ones comments on these forums can give people the wrong impression. Even a photo can give one the wrong impression. For example, a couple of years ago we received some messages from an older couple who have a profile on here. We took a look at their photos and thought, No, they are not for us. Anyway, they messaged us a few times, we made excuses that we were busy, but they were polite and so we decided that it would not do any harm to meet them for drinks, which we did at Crown Casino (more than a year after they first contacted us) . We have now become very good friends with them, have stayed over at their place, been away with them, had dinner with them and so on. The moral of the story is to not judge a book by its cover.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am asking about hmm, "social status" ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you're not near a bus or train line, it just won't happen I'm afraid. (Unless you're flying me out and picking me up from the airport :-p)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why would refusing to travel to far or to a place to difficult to get to be considered "snobbery"?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't get any traffic on my account, either no body is interested or I would like to think it's because of my location. I don't feel snobbed out though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do get a bit frustrated at times knowing that my distance (even if short to me) is a deterrent for some but I do understand for one cannot just call you to see if you are up to catching up when you want to enjoy some company. I say that is life. And yes there are some people out there who do practice snobbery about the place or suburb you live in, not about distance though. It even happens here in my town/city. Not much point in worrying about it though
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
Because Darwin is so goddamn far away from everywhere else in Australia..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your comment popped up before mine. You mean turn down someone because of an address that's considered Boganville? Nope, wouldn't bother me. I live there too. ;-)
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I think your luckier than most living where you do. Its a fair hike for a meet and see though........
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precious142
10 years ago
Yes
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RHP User
10 years ago
The social snobbery. It happens and not just about where you live.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
But interstate trips are a different story. Not about a hook up, just part of a packaged weekend of a different city with the chance of exploring parts of a city and parts of someone else. Big tick.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Guilty of snobbery re location. I put this down to my work which requires me to be very well travelled and in sync with the many people I am in contact with on a daily basis. At the end of the day I choose who I think I will be most compatible with and yes sometimes residential location can be an influencing factor. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
A healthy buffer from where we stay to where we play....... Not sure if it's "snobbery" as such, just prefer not to run into a playmate in the local Coles or Woolies, being a small place, the neighbour might know who we're organising some fun time with before we do.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes. And usually occupation too. I was slammed the last time my made any comments about this so that is all I am going to say.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Boganville, Yuppyville, Hippyville, same same but different.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Running into any "friends" locally when your out with family or friends LOL....trying to explain the....."so how do you know those guys"....LOL or worse yet, they too know your family/friends etc LOL....
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Couldn't you just say we met at the Library?!?! 😍 Or at a social networking night you stumbled into during a night out for dinner? Easy!! Oh and I'm moving down your way..... My profile location is also a "red herring" not for any duplicitous purpose simply to ensure a little personal safety..... I also meet far away from home too, in a veey public place in another 'burb. Safety Safety Safety
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enange63
10 years ago
lol, its about the only lie in our profile.... close but not exact
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inspirit
10 years ago
Well.I do. I am not fond of upper upper end nor lower lower end. Middle class seems just right for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Money can buy a nice house in a nice area but it cant buy kindness, manners, nor empathy... what it normal buys is dissatisfaction, greed, envy and narcissism. i have lived the rich life and now an average life and i know where i prefer to be. everyones circumstances are different and peoples financial situation can change over night. we are heading for a very deep recession and some very fat cats will be dieting. Just a fact i found when researching housing in WA is this ..... over 50% of houses in Dalkeith, Peppy grove, claremont, nedlands, cotts, mos park city beach swanbourne ... are wait for it RENTED. either by companies or private schools for their staff. and there is a larger percentage of want to be's but cant afford to be's.. all fur coat and no knickers...in other words all show and nothing else. How insecure must they be!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've met bogans who live in Double Bay and refined people who live in Blacktown. I can relate to people at all socio-economic levels
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't rule anyone out just for that, but it is a consideration. Where you choose to live says something about you. There's a reason why some areas are safe Liberal seats and others are now going to the Greens - the people that live in those areas have a common set of cultural values and ideas (or at least more than 50% of them do). Thanks to the genius of Antony Green I now know that there's not only a 57.3% chance that I'll like the people in a particular electorate. We can go further than that though, and if I target specific polling booths I can bump that up to 68.7%. So I went ahead and analysed all the data from the last election to find the perfect locality for my search for date. That careful analysis has shown that limiting my search to within walking distance of the polling booth just down the road will provide an 87.4% chance of a match in ideas. Which begs the question, why don't I just get out more?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SimonDoes' I wouldn't rule anyone out just for that, but it is a consideration. Where you choose to live says something about you. There's a reason why some areas are safe Liberal seats and others are now going to the Greens - the people that live in those areas have a common set of cultural values and ideas (or at least more than 50% of them do). I don't think that's the case anymore in Sydney for younger generations. The locational choices in Sydney have more to do with 1. Affordability 2. Proximaty to work/employment and 3. Proximaty to family. I know plenty of young people that have moved from Sydney's affluent eastern suburbs to the less affluent western suburbs and inner western suburbs simply because of better housing affordability. It had little to do with their cultural values/ideas or political leanings. That is why seats that used to be safe labor seats have changed and vice versa over the last decade in particular
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess we won't be having a conversation at the Melbourne meet and greet Simon as live in Ausralia's 4th most bogan city ...enjoy your polling booth xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
The cheaper affordable suburbs often attract the creatives ,the bohemians,they make a suburb interesting and then the cashed up bogan developers move in,and it all changes...what made the place interesting is then gone because they can't afford to live there anymore xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'polys' Running into any "friends" locally when your out with family or friends LOL....trying to explain the....."so how do you know those guys"....LOL or worse yet, they too know your family/friends etc LOL.... but through my business circles I know so many people and its beginning to spook me a bit so its pretty much out of Syd these days with the exception of a select few trusted individuals who are on the same plane.I do get around work wise so it works well for me
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RHP User
10 years ago
and now I think about it secretly I'd quite like to meet (meat) some so called bogan couple in the burbs as it might bring out the real me I'd never judge a person by where they live, that's ridiculous.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Proximity to the beach is important. :P
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
On how far away it was, look who am I kidding, I would travel to the middleofbumfucknowhere for the right person......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I guess we won't be having a conversation at the Melbourne meet and greet Simon as live in Ausralia's 4th most bogan city ...enjoy your polling booth xxFreya Did you mean Straya? You know that just means that you're one of the 13.4% of people there I may like. And of course I completely made up about 94% of the previous post.
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RHP User
10 years ago
yep.... Cos it's like this...... I don't wanna have my car on blocks in the morning 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I thought Aussies bagged us poms for having a class system. Seems like it's alive and well here :) And to answer the original question, no, I don't care about the address, just the person.
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