Sugar Daddy arrangement

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I'm not into being a sugar daddy. It is a very shallow relationship and I could just image the sex would be very unsatisfying. But if there's other issues at play then I can see how it could work. My ex-wife being an example who after our 13 year relationship found a guy 10 hours after we broke up and is now living with him. This new guy is completely different to me, is short, unattractive, balding, many years her senior, but owns a company and has some money. He really actually reminds me of her father in many ways. My ex suffers from anxiety and even with me previously working investment banking and earning significantly, she still stressed over money. So out of insecurities, I can see she us trading her "assets" for his assets. I was never to much into this which was always an issue for us. I can see it might be fin to have this as a friend, but basing a relationship on it is just lacking in any real intimacy and appreciation of each other - which is something my therapy after this relationship has helped me realise.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  WoW I couldnt have a relationship with someone just because of $$ i need that connection physically and mentally sounds like your ex needs to learn how to depend on herself and not other men to pay her bills sad really isnt it.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Yes, it is very sad and it was amazing how she became an "expert in the law" to try to milk me out of every cent in the separation. But we all follow scripts learnt at a young age. Her father is very money oriented and I guess this rubbed off on her. I was brought up by a father who provided poorly for the family requiring my mother to work. I vowed to always provide for my wife and not make the mistakes my Dad did. So we were perfectly "dissordered" matched, she wanted a guy to earn well and I out of my own childhood scripts ensured I always fulfilled her monetary needs. Sounds like you got a healthy dose of love and caring in your upbringing that built you a strong character and sense of healthy independence. And yes, now I know better I can spot this a mile away and I can tell you it's a big turn off. But hey, if it satisfies others insecurities then the best to them - unfortunately be careful of her upgrading in monetary value or him finding a younger modal. Plus I've heard many stories of couples moving a broad for work (where it is common to have maids, etc) and the couples end up separating when the guy wants to move back home, as the wife has become accustomed to the lifestyle of maids, etc and not want to "downgrade" their lifestyle in moving home.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  She must be a very empty person , only live once so I say live it with people who make you happy when u get older its the people you are surrounded by that matters not the things you have,

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There is a saying that made the rounds a while ago: "I'd rather cry in a BMW than smile on a bicycle". It epitomizes the materialist culture that is occurring telling us we need things to be happy. I've found not having enough money can make life difficult (just ask most Uni students) but once a satisfactory level of money is achieved it does not increase your happiness. It's other measures that make you happy as you've mentioned. I used to have a very empty existance myself thanks to issues developed through a very difficult childhood. And I can see why sugar daddy can work as distraction from real deeper relationships. I guess some women like to be distracted with money and some men like to be distracted with sex (just take Wolf on Wall Street for example). My ex-wife has thanked me for helping her a lot in the relationship but our marriage counseling showed how little she really understood (to the point or marriage counsellor never actually saw a marriage between us). It was her choice to leave, and helping her is no longer my problem. If his money brings her happiness then I wish her all the best. All I know is that as I've recovered from this relationship and my childhood, my friendships have deepened and I've discovered real intimacy - and I wouldn't exchange that for all the money in the world :)

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There is something very sexy about having a filthy rich and powerful old man love you to bits, holidays and lovely things makes me love him so much more. I have lots of orgasms thinking about his Jet and what he will do for me to make me happy!

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I know of someone doing this and loves it, leads a very good lifestyle.. after the past couple of experiences I have had it would have been nice to get paid

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I dont mind being a sugar daddy.. but the moment the young woman ask for money/gifts.. It all ends there :)

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  beautynbeastwa

  10 years ago

  isnt that what a sugar daddy is spartanis? i know a couple of girls who did it and they said it was more about the spending time with the person then the sex. most of the men were older guys with either a wife that only wants their money or single. i guess in a way it would be the same as prostitution but alot more work

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There is a massive difference between a Sugar daddy and a Daddy Dom the former is a material relationship and the latter is not. The funny thing is that even with the latter the "Daddy" will but presents for the little but for entirely differing reasons. The thing is about any relationship is if every one is happy with what they are getting out of it then it will work. Even in the Sugar Daddy relationship there is more to it than just the material aspects...each to their own. I like Daddy / Little relationships a lot and here is something most people dont realise the "Little" can be any age at all and in fact can be older than the "Daddy" normally it is the little being a lot younger but it is not mandatory. Any way it is a very complex subject that would take a very long post to explain. LC

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