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Super nervous.

February 17 2021

Hi there. I know this topic has been written about to death but I am interested in what people did on their first time and if they would do anything different had they the chance. I am having a problem with finding a suitable couple/person. We have spoken to a few couples who all want to meet up first, but that seems to add pressure and anxiety and makes it kind of formal with some form of expectation even after the event. We don't want to be arrogant about it but we also don't want to become good friends with people either. It would be too awkward for us to think we were having sex with friends. We are interested in the scene at this point solely to live out a long overdue fantasy. Although I don't want to advertise my wife to be fucked, I am thinking it may be better to have a random stranger that we have no intention of seeing again do the deed for the first time. I know that we will both be super excited prior and during any action, but it is the morning after that I am not looking forward to. Any help greatly appreciated.

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SpicyKale

4 years ago

Hmmm.... what would we do differently, that’s easy! Never have sex in the hotel carpark on a first meet, especially during the day. That’s our one and only regret from the lifestyle, definitely not the person, just the where and when. I’m sure you’ll find people that don’t want to meet first, or even know your names for that matter, but most of us don’t like those regrets in life so we meet for a drink first 🤷🏻‍♂️ Swinging is a social thing, so a lot of us like to chat, drink, eat, work out boundaries and see if we actually like you.... it’s something about trust for us and I’m sure a lot are the same. Personally if you don’t want to see the person again you’re doing something wrong with your vetting. Lots of awesome people in this world that might go on to become lifelong friends, I don’t think I’d rule it out! If you’re genuinely looking for a one off with someone you’ll never see again, maybe try a club. The Rabbit Hole is the only one local to you and it’s a bloody good one at that. Have a look at their website, you’ll still want to go in with zero expectations and no guarantee of finding exactly what you’re after though 🤷🏻‍♂️ Good luck!

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The_Antichrist

4 years ago

Just get shitfaced drunk and leave it to fate to sort out 😂😂

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2EssesExploring

4 years ago

I know assuming isn’t a good thing but I’m assuming you’re a couple who has been together a long while and are pretty damn tight with each other right? I feel you have nothing to worry about, it’s all an adventure, you guys should love the morning after no matter how good the night before was. You’ll either be so horny you’ll fuck like rabbits or you’ll both laugh about how it didn’t live up to the hype...and fuck like rabbits 😂 Our first time: Mrs S a virgin before me , no added pressure there! We met a couple, they were both nice but the poor guy just wasn’t attractive to Mrs S in the slightest. They knew it was her first time and were quite respectable. Ended up with the guy and Mrs S just watching me and his wife, a first for me too. The morning after: both of us very surprised little miss green eyed S enjoyed watching me have sex with another woman so much and we had a laugh at her awkwardness with another guy. Second time: nice couple, all around attraction and importantly Mrs S felt like going further with the guy. First time she had another man and woman so I sat back and took it all in and didn’t feel the need to participate. ...and so on it goes. I don’t think we have had one meet where things have gone to a plan. Some we have enjoyed more than others but we always love the way we feel the next morning. We feel relaxed and close and just a little bit naughty. So don’t stress and just do it. (Oh we always get stressed and nervous before a meet, that’s ok too)

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teamaj2

4 years ago

First time nerves are understandable and to be expected. Finding the right couple or single that suits you both takes time . My advice is be patient . If people don’t feel right for you , allow your gut instincts to rule your decisions . You do not have to be ‘friends ‘with those you play with . How you embrace this way of life is your choice . You make the rule book and create your own boundaries . It’s about finding like minded people that adhere to your boundaries . If you do not want to meet up prior maybe going to a venue or party would be more suitable for you both ? Attending a venue allows you to have no expectation and endless possibilities. What would we change or our regret ? Early on we met someone for a drink and we both felt it rude to say thanks but no thanks . We regretfully went on to play . It wasn’t a good idea .Lesson learnt . As for the morning after . We love the morning after . Lots of going over the events of the night before and amazing bonding sex . Goodluck A x

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RHP User

4 years ago

Can’t really relate to nerves as I have balls of steel. But with the few people I’ve met from here or way back when on dating apps, it’s the same deal: have no expectations, look gorgeous, and have a gin just before leaving the house. ALWAYS have a first meeting with your clothes firmly on. Up to you whether you want to form a friendship from this, or just flirt, keep it shallow and break the ice a bit. It’s never too late to change your mind, if they are not what you’re expecting, leave. If you want to have a second platonic meeting, do it. As for the morning after hopefully you feel good about it, if not then talk it through together. If you’re a couple and feeling really nervous, go to one of those couples happy ending massage places. No I’m not being seedy, they exist, erotic massage is just a full body massage and if you like they will introduce a (non full service) sexual element. Can do it in the same room and may help break the nerves, as there is no performance anxiety with a masseuse. Something to think about!

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Valley21

4 years ago

If your looking for a no name meet I’m happy to do that

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Super nervous.

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