M75

Swing clubs, meeting someone you know

November 20 2014

I have a good friend who has many times wanted to go to Swinging clubs but could not face the chance of meeting a business associate, work friend there. Often I have though of going with her bu the same quetion remains. How do other couples handle this situation?

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RHP User

10 years ago

they have two there, and what happens in vegas stays there

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QLDtwo4fun

10 years ago

Say hi, there is no obligation simply by being at a club. Everyone there has a common interest.

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BacioCouple

10 years ago

We had the same concern initially, but in the end figured people are there for similar reasons, then the other people would be in the same boat (so to speak) as us. We're very discreet and would expect the same, and assume that if we ran into someone we know they also wouldn't want us identifying them to vanilla friends.... but hey it would certainly liven up the conversation at the next BBQ!

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RHP User

10 years ago

They are just people too and they are there. But I take it you are not worried about seeing your children there or maybe grandchildren? Or people who are good friends of your kids. Or maybe your neighbours? the local vicar? The butcher...... you will never look at his meat the same way again. The possibilities are endless.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Nothing to be ashamed of. If they are there, they are doing the same thing you are. Could make meetings more interesting though :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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Openly_Curious

10 years ago

A couple I met at a party came to Melbourne from Tasmania in hopes of avoiding this exact issue, but the population there is quite a bit smaller than in the major cities. However, you could go interstate if you're really worried. You could always circulate before play starts so that if anyone you know is there you can decide how to handle it (i.e., how much to reveal, whether to stay or play) based on who it is and how concerned you are. For most people their play life does not crossover with their everyday life, so being discreet is typical and it would certainly be acceptable to bring up that you wouldn't mention to anyone that you'd seen them there, and request the same. Being at the party doesn't necessarily mean anything - some are there out of curiosity, some attend just to watch, some couples only play with each other, some only do light play with others, etc. The main thing it says for you to be there is that you have an interest in sex, which is not particularly shocking when you think about it. Especially these days. Tess

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RHP User

10 years ago

several years ago I attended a house party where there was some silence when a couple walked in from the person I was talking with, the lady said, that the woman who just walked in with her male friend was someone she had delt with at centerlink. it was interesting throughout the night to see the odd glances across the room from each other I always wondered what they might have said next time they meet

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JohnAnn2227

10 years ago

This has happened a couple of times but not with people we knew really well or saw regularly. They are wanting discretion as much as we are.

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RHP User

10 years ago

White paint! Quoting 'Meeka100' They are just people too and they are there. But I take it you are not worried about seeing your children there or maybe grandchildren? Or people who are good friends of your kids. Or maybe your neighbours? the local vicar? The butcher...... you will never look at his meat the same way again. The possibilities are endless.

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mvagusta9

10 years ago

Several years ago I went to pick up my Grandson with my daughter from day care, and one of the carers who was looking after my grandson I had been with at a swingers party the week before, it was her that brought it up while my was getting him ready to go home, I was taken aback just a little but was very amusing at the time, I was with her again several weeks later and had so much fun.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Since you say you live in Townsville, I wanna know where these swinging clubs are that you're talking about. I assume you're talking about a friend that lives in one of the bigger cities?

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RHP User

10 years ago

Luckdragon, I have sent you an email via your profile for you to follow up on. I trust you will get some enjoyment soon! I can also add some further info if you reply.

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