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Swingers Clubs/Couples Clubs (Single Couples)
June 16 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Single guy here... I don't believe any of these clubs have a rule that you must be married or in a relationship... just that if you are a man you are escorted by a nominated female and thus part of a "Couple" I don't believe this to be deception as long as you disclose your status if asked directly... which normally only happens once inside the club by others there... e.g. last time I was at a club I was assumed to be the husband of the person I was with... the person making the assumption seemed a little taken aback when straightened out about it all but she handled it well. So I believe it is OK for a single guy to go to these clubs with another person as a couple as long as the other half of that coupling is OK with it (i.e. not under duress to take the guy) and if asked the single male is honest in his response to others. Just my opinion here :) SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
To me, being a couple at a swingers party or club only means that you are in a sexual relationship. Whether that be FB, FWB or married, or girlfriend/boyfriend. Doesn't matter really. I think if it was all just committed relationships, such as married people, it would be a bit boring after while. I have taken friends in, I have taken first dates into couples club, I have taken FWB's into couples clubs, I have gone with a whole group of friends where we all kinda of bonk each other so we pair up and go in and go wild.... type of thing. It is a club for fucking.... so what does it matter if the person is a FWB or if they are married ThingsnStuff. I mean half the people there are probably married....... except the spouse is sitting oblivious at home.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I once asked if I could take my boyfriend and a male FWB in with me..... and they said no. I thought that was crap.
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MrSm1th
11 years ago
I agree with Meeka, what difference does it make you only need to take a partner as obviously if single guys could show up by themselves it would be a sausage fight. Having said that ive never had a chance to go to a swingers party, although I would love to
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ThingsnStuff
11 years ago
Thank you both, They are very valid scenarios and I guess the kind of positive answers I was hoping for, where the situations were one of honesty in regards to explaining you were not the husband etc as assumptions can happen as was pointed out by Amicus. Being new around here guess I may have mistook it as just an easier way for the single guys to get in (though also remember reading that most clubs hold a policy that you come as a couple you leave as a couple etc) Also sorry to have mislead and called them couples clubs as they are in fact "Adult Lifestyle Venues" there to cater to the wants and needs of many people. Thanks again for your opinions as have yet to have any personal experience with said venues.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not exactly experienced at this but we've been a few times to our local club and there are regular couples and a few visitors and usually about 5 single guys. For couples who only do couple swapping and don't play separately it can be a problem . Some married or committed couples have an issue with this because it's a trust factor but honestly mixing it up can be so much fun! I think that as long as their status is disclosed and no one has an expectation of seeing them on a regular basis who people choose to bring with is their business. We forget we are all adults and not in high school. Exercise your right to choose and be as selective ( or not ) as you like ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on it is. "And thus part of a couple" ....... It's a reasonable assumption! If your a single girl and you meet a married guy and you "assume" they are single unless told otherwise is that a deception? Noooooo it's all the single girls fault right? We attended a club it was great the night was going swimmingly except for this one guy who didn't want to take no for a reasonable response ......... Yup single guy who attended as part of a couple sheez I truly wish it was different. When a couple said no and "where's your partner" his response - "it's a sex club why are they saying no" hmmmm I wish I had watch this evolve differently over the years but we see it time and time again - sad Wouldn't it be great if it was!
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Imagine walking into a club with Meeka. Just a thought. Its not deception. The rules are that it is a man & a woman. They don't specify relationship status. No rules to break then.
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gazpacho
11 years ago
If your partner is a handbag you leave propped up at the bar with her friend from the pub while you sneak around making a nuisance of yourself then that's going to cause trouble. If however your partner for the night is a raging party girl, sex or no sex, she will add to the value of the venue in the spirit in which it is intended. I don't think the status of your relationship is important at all. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ha! They don't call me cockbait for nothing. :P Actually, I am just an average gal. Nobody would look at me twice, well, when I have the strapon dangling between my legs I do attract a crowd. That is true. Lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess I would fall into this 'single couple' category given I frequent swingers clubs and fetish events with fuck-friends. I don't see it as deceptive at all, given that the door staff couldn't give a metaphorical fuck about whether you are actually 'together' or if you are both friends/aquaintances. It's about maintaining a somewhat even ratio, especially with venues that allow single men to come (albeit at a premium price). I've even gone with people from RHP that I have met there, although I don't see an issue in this scenario either. I'm sure I can make an educated decision about meeting another adult at an adult establishment. It would alarm me if you needed to qualify your relationship status or personal information with a bussiness. That's my private information, not everyone else's. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The club I go to knows my husband, so they know I am coming with a FB/FWB (btw my husband knows as well). There is never any complaint. As it states, it is a swingers/couples club and as mentioned before it is mainly done to balance out the male to female ratio.
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Ha! They don't call me cockbait for nothing. :P Actually, I am just an average gal. Nobody would look at me twice, well, when I have the strapon dangling between my legs I do attract a crowd. That is true. Lol. hey Cockbait... A steady stream of willing participants, I imagine, with or without a strap on. Just don't stab me with that strap on micro penis, or tear me a new one with that thick fucking 10 inch monster cock you keep bragging about. :) HUgsGazpacho
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Many swingers clubs [we have been to 2 so far] have nights when they let in single guys and then also nights that are strictly for couples and or single women only. In our experience, the nights that they let in single guys have turned into a sausage fest - the single guys behaving like a large flock of seagulls raiding a packet of chips. For this reason, the clubs have become very strict on those nights that are reserved for couples only. Some have introduced rules along the line that both the male and female [of the couple] must always play in the same room together, and that the male and female [of the couple] must leave the club together. This is due to the fact that many so called single guys [many of them are playing around behind the backs of their wives/girlfriends] pick up a woman and bring her to a swingers club, just so that they can get in, as a couple, and then no sooner are they in the door, when the guy then starts behaving like a seagull, oops, single male. Ignores his date, goes on the prowl, groping and hunting, whilst his partner sits at the bar twiddling her thumbs. The problem , in our experience, seems to always be the single guys. Not all of them are bad and behave in an unacceptable manner ... its just the few rotten apples that give a bad name to the rest. The clubs of course make good money from the guys - and charge them a lot more to get into the venue on those nights that they are let in. The couples and females are used as the "bait" to attract the flies. The downside of charging more, is that some of the guys then expect [and demand] to get some action. One club charges $50 for a couple and $350 for a single guy we have been told. So whilst its Ok to go in as a couple, even if one is not really a couple, its not then acceptable to "drop" your other half and then become a "single" on the prowl, once you get your foot through the door. That only causes problems and if and when the club management finds that happening, the guy is quickly shown the door.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well speaking as a woman that has attended swingers clubs as a single lady there is no difference between married or single men. They either respect women and the swingers club culture or they don't. It makes zero difference to me... Except that married men often are restricted by rules and need the wife's okay to do anything. :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Brae... There are married men that act the same way. Actually I have had women be pushy in that way as well. So yes, some single dudes that haven't had any for awhile can have that desperation vibe going on, but not all single guys are cnuts and not all married guys are respectful gentleman.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' hey Cockbait... A steady stream of willing participants, I imagine, with or without a strap on. Just don't stab me with that strap on micro penis, or tear me a new one with that thick fucking 10 inch monster cock you keep bragging about. :) HUgsGazpacho Why hello Mr Gazpacho. Is that a challenge? Well consider yourself invited over for a strapon fitting. I am sure I can make you gazp. LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
So you're in an "Adult Lifestyle Venue" to get your rocks off with, or in the presence of, your partner. What should it matter as to other participants relationship status? I only see this as one of two concerns. Either about a sizeable number of sex pests attending the event. Or one part of the couple has potential jealousy issues with "superior" single male attendees; a fear of being replaced. Someone dispute me if i'm reading this wrong, but I don't see any issue here.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
This is the first time we have ever heard the excuse that it's the fear / jealousy, of a couple or one half of a couple , of superior "single" males that make it unpleasant at swingers clubs. Seriously? We , from experience, thought it was due to their disrespectful manner, pushy nature and the fact that many of them go on the hunt, groping and pushing and even following females to the toilets. Jealousy or fear that they will replace the male half of this long term married couple never entered our minds. But hey, whatever floats your boat. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Most clubs and parties have been pretty well run. I either avoid the sex pests or complain and they are very quickly evicted. Most single guys pay a hefty amount to attend so are usually well behaved but on the other hand don't want to go home without s - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
*some kind of action. It's just their approach that sometimes leave a lot to be desired. Ms S - Posted from rhpmobile
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jummy
11 years ago
I a single man and like to go to a swingersclub with woman,
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' The club I go to knows my husband, so they know I am coming with a FB/FWB (btw my husband knows as well). There is never any complaint. As it states, it is a swingers/couples club and as mentioned before it is mainly done to balance out the male to female ratio. if they know your husband? The real question for the thinkers out there is do you know your husband????
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RHP User
11 years ago
In my opinion and experience ( vast) it is women in swingers clubs who are persistent and aggressive. We visit swingers clubs a fair bit , we enjoy the social aspect of it and also the sexual nature. We do not always play! There have only been 2 times where single men have not taken no for an answer , yet I can't tell you how many time women have been a problem ! I even had one really tall Russian lady slap my face and then aggressively kiss me when I politely declined her offer - she was terrifying ! My humble opinion is people are people regardless of gender, age or race - you get the good and bad in all! Excess alcohol or party drugs in the scene can make people more full on than they really are too. I like the company of men and enjoy the single men at clubs. I have no idea why they get such a bad rap , but I think it is mostly from insecure husbands :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In the last few occasions this has occurred it has always been "single guy proxies". Last four times always single guys by "Proxy" . I have NO trouble with people who come as couples and stay as couples to the larger extent. Of course some married guys do the wrong thing Meeks, agree. Its just not my experience that they do it as much. (again I say I wish it was different) I only have an issue with single guys attending whom have no intention of spending any time at all with the person they came with - dare I say it, some guys almost "hitch a ride" and see it as simply a way to get in. . I WOULD argue that most clubs are based around couples - not single guys. I don't see a market developing/emerging for single guy and single girl sex clubs. Arrows - did someone say sticky floors? . I have NO Doubt if I had complained to the managers that they would have spoken to the offending guy and I agree would have kicked him out quick smart. No doubt at all. . We have been to a club where single guys were let in and all in all they were fairly well behaved but yes they are like a pack of seagulls looking for scraps - funny at first, annoying in the end. My experience with "proxy" guys isn't the same (Enter sad face) . PS Jason_leslie can you please take that photo of camel toe down before I get driven to distraction!!!! . Brae
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RHP User
11 years ago
From where I come from (France) we are more open minded about singles guys, most of the clubs has only 2 or 3 days reserved to couples or single woman only.In Sydney I didn't try my chance to get in because most of the club's websites are not welcoming single men, so I'll wait to have a friend to get in as a couple. To be a swinger isn't simple as get in to the club, pull your dick out and act like a seagull. To be a swinger requires the new comers to be educated by the older one.Most of the single guys that comes and act like barbarian and causing more troubles than pleasures for everybody just need to be teach how this kind of club are working. But if you don't let a chance barbarians to transform into gentlemen (by educated them), that how you end up with clubs full of fake couples or husbands that becomes jealous to share their precious with some seagull. In Lyon, France (a very warm city during the festival of lights that take place during the 8 december week) there is a club - where all the singles guys are free to enter before 22:00 or 23:00 from monday to wednesday (A limit of new comers is set of course). (If you already passed this "lesson" you are charged like in all the others clubs and you are free to go where and with who you want) Then the club owners take all of them in a private place of the club where they are teach at least for 1 hour how is it to be a swinger and how you have to act in generals. Then they allow you to come back in the public area, but they gave you a colored bracelet that's means that you are not allowed as you're a newbie to go in the privates room. The rule is simple as : just go around introduce you to the people, listen to them and learn from them. And because the singles are not charged for anything (excepts the drinks of course) they are not in a hurry of sex, most of them will stay few hours just dancing, talking and have a few drinks. A few of them will have the chance to get invited out of the clubs for their first night, and the majority will come back another day but with someone. Bertrand the Boss of the place told me that, most of the guys had this first experiences in his club, never comes back alone. A few part of them never comes back at all because maybe they realized that it wasn't for them at all. And you stile have the exceptions that will act like a dickhead, but for that he got a nice security service. His club is one of the biggest in town, with a big turnover of his "clients", with the most singles guys, but there is never a problem and his club is stile recommended by old swingers couples and foreigners. But yeah anyway there is stile some people that will act like fools, and because they have paid, they are waiting for something in change. Except invite them to go try their chance somewhere else, like a brothel if they really need to satisfy a quick desire (sorry for the girls that work there...) at least it's legal in Australia. ----- Finally I made it! It took me almost one hour to write it, sorry if I have been out of the subject, I tried to make an interesting contribution -------
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RHP User
11 years ago
Benji, thank you very much for that. And I think it is a great idea, in the Sydney clubs there is no "education" from what I can see. Apart from these forums and just learning on the job, so to speak, you just have to wing it. In the clubs in Australia that I have been too...... there are no private rooms and people can go from area to area without any real restrictions. Hence the problems for those people that don't understand. Besides, all married guys were single once. As you say, it is education.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Thanks for the compliment Brae - it is indeed a nice photo
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think some of your attitudes suck in a major way. I have been a couple and single on here and these clubs are just not for couples do you think that you are superior to singles. Also that attitude its great to have to single women for your obvious 3some that your partner is dying for. Single men have a place also and I dont give a rats arse if its a sausage fest or not. End of rant I have met some great couples and its a shame there arent more you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I often see one or the other of married couples go off and play alone without their partner... So why is this not acceptable by couples if i take a male to a swingers club. Why as a single should I have to stay by his side all night. When couples dont even do this? Seems that couples think they have the monopoly over swingers clubs. If a club is holding an open night, then anyone of any dynamic should be allowed to attend. So what If i choose to take a male so he can have the cheaper entry. I know that the club I attend has rules.. If i leave the club, the male must too... Easy. Whats the problem? Unfortunately, some couples seem to get upset that all single women are not dying to get into 3somes with them, and too eager for single guys to disappear. I for one would choose a single guy and a single girl over a couple anyday. So much less drama... If you are unhappy with the way it works... request your club hold a couples night. *Rant Over*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Funny you should mention Aarows Brae. I just received an email from Aarows saying that it is now only a MEN ONLY club on Saturday and Sundays. So no couples or single girls. NOT FREAKIN FAIR! And they have four sticky floors, a suckatorium, PRIVATE rooms as well as orgy areas, a spa, steam room and sauna. Continuous clean towels, a few pool tables and TV's so you can chillax and all for $20 entry fee. It's a freakin outrage. That's it I am marching to the ACCC to register my protest. Who's with me?
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gazpacho
11 years ago
There goes the neighbourhood. Now Meeka will have to masquerade around Arrows dressed as a man, complete with big thick strap on dick.... Strange that Aarows should make that decision... But then I suppose Fridays is still mixed night? I'll have to investigate... :). ... For educational purposes of course... Gasp
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' To me, being a couple at a swingers party or club only means that you are in a sexual relationship. Whether that be FB, FWB or married, or girlfriend/boyfriend. I've been to the CC several times with a male friend. I would not bring first dates, but only men I've had sex with before and know well.Brae, I would not let my partner go off on his own. Couple or "couple", staying and playing together is the respectful thing to do. I've been approached by the male halves of "couples" who had no idea where their female partner was ("At the bar, I guess"), nor gave a hoot.And yes, in my experience the women are just as pushy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I once asked if I could take my boyfriend and a male FWB in with me..... and they said no. You weren't a couple, but a triple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' I only have an issue with single guys attending whom have no intention of spending any time at all with the person they came with - dare I say it, some guys almost "hitch a ride" and see it as simply a way to get in. Every time I mention the Couples Club I get messages from total strangers asking if they can come with me. The really classy ones even offer to buy me a drink first.I'm sure the other female posters have experienced the same. Not happening.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok that's better. . For those "out raged" singles why not contact your local swingers club and arrange a "Singles only night / day / fiesta" I am genuinely interested in seeing if it got off the ground. I have to say I suspect not, but I am more than happy to be proven wrong. I say this as all the clubs in Sydney are orientated around couples. Are they all idiots and aimed at the wrong market or have market forces moved them to where they are. I suspect they see a conga line of penises as a minus not something that will erect their business! . I was curious and asked Sarah had she ever been accosted by unruly females from a couple or other and she says never "maybe I have a dont mess with me face". Now Meeks you have met Sarah a number of times, she doesnt have a "Dont come near me figure or attitude" or maybe she does and just we dont realise she is scary to girls. (Yes there was a question I answered for you in there) I again understand every ones experience is different. . Meander thanks, I think though its the fact you bring respectful people with you, and again I suspect its more to do with the type of person you would allow yourself to associate and play with. This in the end means your play partners don't wander away making a nuisance of themselves. Again I would argue that they most likely could quite capably wander around and NOT be a nuisance. Perhaps we are just simply here talking about respect. That of ourselves and those we associate with. That goes for all. Its impossible for club owners and managers to monitor this. - "Hi and welcome to our club. Would you just take a quick 45 minutes to fill out this social / psychological evaluation form. We would like to monitor your level of self esteem / worth before we allow you and the drooling bloke you have on a lead behind you, to enter our club. Thanks so much" hmmmm sexy times ahead! . Brae I wonder if I can get those little shoe covers next time I go ...........
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' I once asked if I could take my boyfriend and a male FWB in with me..... and they said no. You weren't a couple, but a triple. But Meander, they allow couples to go in with their girlfriend. I have walked in with a couple before and they wanted to charge me half of a couple fee because I was not going in as a single female. So, if a couple can take their girlfriend in, why can't they take their boyfriend in? He isn't going in as a single male. Is he? Would that be acceptable?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If it were up to me, I'd totally allow it. Hey, I'd do the same.
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JT009
11 years ago
If a single lady wanted to take a guy somewhere for sex, but didn't want to take him to her house, and didn't want to go to his, for safety type reasons, then a swingers club would be perfect. A safe secure environment with understanding help at hand if needed. Surely the swingers community should support that?
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