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Swingers Parties - Have you been? Curious? Whats stopping you?
March 29 2021
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
We have tried a few non-event swingers clubs but just didn’t get into it. Love the idea of a themed party vibe. Loved your party ad but neither of us consider us the “young, hot” variety although one of us likely fits the bill. So we are waiting for the “young to not so young, moderately good looking to quite hot with the the lights down” party to come along. Love that yours is managed by women as am sure this might make it a little bit more special!
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Phoenix_Rising
4 years ago
I’ve been tempted but I live in the country and I’m not interested in going down to the city and getting all dressed up to attend an even, I’ve always liked more of a casual, relaxed environment when I go out, you know, pubs over clubs type thing. I haven’t found an event that suits me yet...
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RHP User
4 years ago
We have attend swinger parties and lately Darq events . We both love the friendly vibe at Darq. We find swingers clubs aren’t social enough for us .
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BeccyBec
4 years ago
The worry that all the other people there would be skinny, fit types of people, leaving me sitting in the corner as the fatty lol.
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teamaj2
4 years ago
I think it’s very daunting for some people to pass the ‘test ‘ of being hot and gorgeous enough . I understand for safety reasons it’s important to vett all attending . It’s a lot of work hosting an event . We finally summoned up some courage to say we were interested in attending a party in Melbourne . I am slightly out of the age range they seek . It surprised us how nerve wracking it was awaiting a reply . We were accepted and attended . I do think that confidence , fear of rejection keeps a lot of people away from attending an event or party . I know prior our first party it was fear of the unknown and thinking everyone would be young supermodels . I was definitely wrong . Like all aspects of life it takes all sorts . We were seeking the social aspect to meet like minded people . It very much depends on the event and the crowd in attendance as to how friendly it is . It can vary from one time to the next . Ax
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Sawadee
4 years ago
We would love to attend just to see if its for us and if we fit. However' seeing your cut off point is 45 yrs ' this effectively puts us on the shelf even though we are considered a attractive couple. ?
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
I feel like I want to go to a party with all the people who replied above, I think it would be a good one :)
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DonnaBrett
4 years ago
We've been going to swingers parties for over 20 years, lost count of how many now? Hundreds probably. Mostly they have been good to incredible although of course you can never know in advance how the party will play out. There have been a few duds, it totally depends on what people are there. We've attended large parties of around 100 people and have been to small intimate parties. Both can be great fun unless the party goers are more interested in drinking and talking, talking, talking. We prefer parties where the action starts early, after all that's why we're there. LOL
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badboyhere
4 years ago
I feel that single guys get the rough end of the stick for events. Unless you have somebody to go with, or are well known to those that are attending it is a very daunting experience. I have been turned off going to events, even though another thread on a similar topic as this one suggested to me that single ladies and some couples found it very difficult to understand why there was not more single guys that showed up to events. Shyness prevents it I feel. For me I would love to go to more events however unless I am fortunate enough to have a partners that wants to attend these with me then I would feel too uncomfortable attending another event.
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Russrules66
4 years ago
I'm curious to go to a party but I've always associated swingers clubs with sex you pay money you go and and you have sex but reading stuff on here it appears that its like a night club were you hove to basically pickup before having any chance for sex to me i would feel like I'm being judged and that makes me a bit hesitant on going unless i hit the gym for 12 months. I may be totally wrong with my thoughts as I've never been to a party it just looks like that from an outsiders point of view.
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LittleGiant
4 years ago
Been to heaps (both here and in QLD) but won't go to a club unless it's a a special themed night, otherwise on an ordinary night the crowd can be either clique-y or the fact that it isn't vetted is an issue... Private parties are usually great though. Only issues we've really come across are single guy lurkers or the ones that can't take no for an answer, or couples who have domestics because they can't handle the reality of seeing their partner with someone else. Nothing that has been an absolute night-ruiner, though. Miss Little xx
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couplefb
4 years ago
We are not regular party attendees but have had great fun at the parties we’ve been too. We prefer parties with no age or physical vetting because for us seeing people in the lifestyle free and comfortable within their own selves is sooo sexy! Would love to see couples parties for both verified heterosexual and gay couples together some time😉😈
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seriola84
4 years ago
Coming from someone that’s only dabbled and is most definitely not an experienced swinger. I’ve been to a few at SOP venues on quieter days (Sunday afternoons). I’ve always taken a playfriend who’s been keen to check things out, which makes it a bit less nerve wracking. In my experience everyone’s a little nervous and it almost feels like the high school dance with everyone standing around the outside waiting for someone to start something 😄 The place I’ve gone to has a pool table, so typically I just start inviting people to play pool which breaks the ice a bit. Once everyone gets to know each other a little bit, I’ll duck off to one of the rooms with my friend and play with each other. It doesn’t take long for people to start joining in and the momentum to start going. Personally, we’ve played with all sorts of people/body types too, that’s part of the excitement. Lots of variety! If anything, I think heading to parties has given me a lot more body confidence than I used to have.
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RHP User
4 years ago
We have been to 1 Swingers Club, not our thing unfortunately, environment not exactly stimulating, both the comfort and relaxation area left a lot to be desired. And the type of people did not match us, but to each his own we say.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Our fears hold us all back from going but really, what does one have to lose if they continue to live in fear? A very depressing life. Sure, rejection hurts, but like anything in life, if you don’t try and keep on going through the hard times, you will never succeed.
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RHP User
4 years ago
We are somewhat late starters to this lifestyle. We have been to one swingers party which was out of our comfort zone. We were worried about the dress down time, but we did meet an awesome couple and had a great time. The decor and set up didn’t leave us wanting to rush back again. We have been to Saints and Sinners a couple of times and yes like some others we were worried we would the old and overweight ones in the corner. But once we got there had a fantastic time. Lots of people there all shapes and sizes and all there for a good time. Found it easy to chat with people there and again meet some people that we have caught up with at later times. Life is short and if you really want to try going to a party give it a go. If you don’t enjoy you can always leave.
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sweetnsensual
4 years ago
We like the social side of the clubs are always fun to meet people at them. Have arranged and enjoyed some parties. Depends on the crowd and what you are expecting from the party as well.
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PerthDan021
3 years ago
once you take the plunge you'll never look back.
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sweetnsensual
3 years ago
We have attended parties at OSS and find them very social and relaxed. Great team and people that attend. We are happy if we only play on our own sometimes but love being watched and the atmosphere. Have had some awesome nights with friends there too!
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Notsocurious
3 years ago
Have been to a few but generally have lined up to go with a couple otherwise you get swamped as a single woman at an event.
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Playdatespls
3 years ago
Have attended a couple of events held by 3someparties here in Perth. They were great fun! Nice looking and friendly crowd. I found a theme helps break down a few barriers. Have only attended a club outside normal operating hours so not sure how they compare unfortunately
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HornyInHerveyBay
3 years ago
Any hervey bay couples here ? \
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RHP User
3 years ago
yes we have been to one venue a few weeks back on the Friday and Saturday and going again tonight. We are new to this and found the swingers club to be a better way to meet people. It seems that all the other couples or woman we chat to on any of the groups seem to come up with excuses as to cancel dates even after they chassed us. at least at the club its all done in person so none of that bull crap talk, someone shows interest then your good to go no organizing things to then get stood down.
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RHP User
3 years ago
We used to attend house parties. Took us a while to get the courage but after a few visits we became part of the crowd. Guess the more you attend the more comfortable others are with you and you become a known quantity. Not tempted by the sort which require a dress down time as this puts a bit of pressure on. Understand it might be a way of getting people on a level playing field but for the more timid it's an added stress. Would love to see more house parties and be really interested in those that are a bit wilder. After all this Covid shit it would be awesome to have a wild orgy.
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FunSexyCple
3 years ago
Our last pvte party was a couple of yrs ago (Covid). it was at an apartment in the city. Wasnt bad, hosts were pretty buff and after introductions and drinks just kept ppl talking. As a more middle aged guy I have to say that I was the one who had more difficulities. There were a couple of alpha personality guys (friends of the hosts) who would basically order the ladies around taking what they wanted which I felt uncomfortable with, I am not an arrogant Bull. So for me it was a bit of a brusing experience. I think in preference a party with people more my age 45-55 and just there without ego would be fun.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I've been to the club a few times and a few parties. The smaller parties seem to be the most fun. Clubs are a bit harder and if you are like me and socially awkward it's terrifying........but you have to step into that discomfort and try if you want to experience it. I'd like to get along to a few parties again. met some cool people at them and it's more relaxed.
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superstarxxx
3 years ago
I have been a couple of times but I find they are more a place for exhibitionists.. not a lot of swinging going on .. just guys having sex with their women in front of other people.
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fatpizzaman
3 years ago
No. Although I have had a lot of replies from swingers when advertising nudist parties in Brisbane over the years, thinking that just because people are nude that it's a sign of sexual availability.
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gccouple1709
3 years ago
Personally we have been to a lot of clubs. (Very hit and miss). A few parties (usually better). Parties we host ourselves (the best). The issue with the clubs is, they usually let anyone in as they need to make the dollars to pay the rent. A private party, the hosts are more selective with who comes. When you host your OWN party, YOU get to be the gate keeper!
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RHP User
3 years ago
Sorry to reply to such an old post but I feel like this could be helpful to me as well. For me there's a few wall in the way of me getting into the clubs. The largest tends to be I am very young compared to most people looking into this sort of thing. Even though the idea caught my interest a long time ago I can't help but feel I would be the odd one out. Most of the people I would be meeting at these parties seem to be at least 4-5 years older than me at the very best. Related to but separate to that is the idea that everyone there is going to be a lot more experienced than I am. Add on top of that the way many of these parties are advertise seem to less open to single men all together. It just doesn't seem like something that is actually an option for me.
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Jackson1811
3 years ago
We've attended 2, the first being our very first play with a couple. It was daunting at first but the nerves quickly subsided once we got inside and started talking to people. The no pressure environment really did put us at ease and for us, was a great introduction. We attended our second party in Townsville last year and with more experience under our belt, had another wonderful evening. depending on the crowd, they can be a less intimidating environment then a one on one meet.
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RHP User
3 years ago
i must admit its been sometime since i last went to a swingers party but i found them to be very clicky with the regulars all grouping together. Any new woman was very quickly absorbed into there groups and as a single guy very hard to break into the groups. But now i am probably to old a sad fact of life
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Cbrnewtothis
3 years ago
Single male - mid 40’s, dad bod, got Buckley’s chance of getting an opportunity.
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makeitfun99
3 years ago
I had the opportunity in Perth to take a lady to Burswood area for her first steps into the "scene". The only regret we had was that it seemed the party took too long to get started by the experienced crew. we were the first into the viewed room but nobody came to watch. As we were leaving we met a lady at the bar who just said "why didn't you ask me". How would members here react to being asked to watch or to join in? To me it's forcing the issue and will be crowned upon?? your thoughts please.
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sahzpete
3 years ago
We where introduced to a swingers house party by a couple we meet and it was nothing like we expected, very friendly and very social , once you got to meet the people , but you need to make an effort to meet and chat to the others there , there as a nude spa and nude swimming pool in summer , most night would get lucky and have a play with others and some nights no , but that was ok as they where very social as I said , and you would get to see lot of naked people ,,, we even hosted a few parties our selves and they where great fun , all the playing was off in the bed rooms , with an open and closed door policy , if you left the door open ok for others to watch or join in , but only if you asked and they said yes , if the door was closed it was just private fun with who ever you where playing with ,,, good fun great times .
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Sexy2looking
3 years ago
We feel the same - it’s a bit daunting to show up for the first time.. but I’m so desperate to do it! But I have to be honest, I only want to go to an organised night that is vetted for the age group and looks we are after.. but I know that’s probably unrealistic… Does anyone know of a private group who does 20-45 yr olds that are good looking xx
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RHP User
2 years ago
Ive always wanted to go, but have missed. Hopefully get to one in Perth soon
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2wildinnewy
2 years ago
We tried our first swingers party almost 17 years ago it was excellently ran it was a casual drink where everyone just socialised the the evening continued over a 3 course meal and for my partner who was new to the seen this was relaxing although during the meals we weren't sat together in between courses we had the chance to discuss how our dinner guests were and each course sat with new people till dessert where the fun started to begin as then you could sit with who ever you wanted to and after dinner a no pressure play room opened Since then we have joined a swingers social club where every month we meet and WE love it
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tantrax
2 years ago
I feel like the Melbourne swinging scene has dwindled from even 5-6 yrs back. Felt it, pre-covid as well and now it is even worse.
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Serendipity69
2 years ago
We find every party needs to be taken as a stand-alone event. Also, take time to research good parties and especially venues as the quality of a venue and its screening practices can be very important on how comfortable you feel. We are a couple, both bi so we do enjoy bi-friendly parties, although good ones are not often held with OSS in Sydney being our preferred party for that. Regular parties, be it commercially run ones or private get-togethers are great, al lot is based in your own approach, however, we have a "nobody takes one for the team" rule and if we find we just are not getting the "vibe" at an event, we are happy to leave and just accept it for what it is. The forums here are a great place to get some feedback if considering a party or event, to see if others have experiences that could help you make a more informed decision. Best of luck!
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Phoenx2020
2 years ago
Been to a few events when part of a couple. But being a single guy. It’s a bit harder to secure a place.
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captivating1
2 years ago
Have attended and usually do as a single female. (Have gone with playfriends but I seem to have more fun and meet more people, when I'm by myself.) Contrary to popular belief, all shapes and sizes attend these events. It's not reserved for the "hot" people because everyone's idea of what is "hot" is different. As for the parties themselves, I'd say that it depends on the club and sometimes, the event that's on too. So, do your research and ask questions, but if you're curious, just bite the bullet and go to one. You don't have to participate - watching only is okay too.
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