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Swingers club advice for first timer
May 08 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Definitely have answering fatigue on this one. :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Does the club you plan on attending have a website. Check if they do. They will usually post any rules they have on it.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Thanks for reaponding Meeka. I am not sure which club/event are suitable for a new starter like me. This is a new idea and I'm hoping to learn some tips from experienced people, do some research on it, etc. before I really make it a reality. Frankly speaking, attending a swinger's club has been a curiosity to me and I wanna try it out once to see how I really feel about it, but I won't just jump into doing it without knowing some facts or rules first. Hence, my post asking for advices openly on the Forums :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
definitely start with NBO, it's the "sink or swim" method... but naked ;) 1. no different to any other time you expect to get it on with your partner, treat it like a 'special occasion' and you can't go wrong. 2. some do, but generally not - most clubs are clothed in some areas, naked/lingerie in others 3. yes, you absolutely can and should say no to anything you don't want to do
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've actually been looking around as well for curiosity (and maybe some participation). Mainly depends on the below: - Are you going alone/with a partner?- Which days are you planning to go?- Are you after a vicinity in particular? I haven't visited one yet but here are some things I keep an eye out when looking for the right spot that I intend to visit: - Can I say no to certain people?- Policy on safe sex.- Policy on anonymity- Public Reviews from people (Outside the website.)- Entry Fees At the moment, my pick is Couples Club located in Surry hills. Posting a link here if you want a peek: http://www.couplesclub.com.au/ My top reasons are:- Free for single girls on certain days - refundable key deposit (WOOHOO)- There are reviews of staff being very friendly.- They have a first timers day! (Look under events but it is the second Friday of each month)- You can choose to chat or get involved in the fun stuff.- You do NOT have to take off your clothes. I do not remember if I read it on their site or a different (hence a separate line here) but there is a space that is sex free. Just talking and socializing with other couples. Again, I have not attended a swingers club but have done my research so please feel free to disregard should you wish to. I myself am looking for another female to join me so I'm not alone on one of the nights.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I remember my first time at couples club I hated it thought it was dirty and seedy but have since attended most parties within a 100km and for quite some time held regular parties of my own, if your specifically looking for a club OSS (our secret spot) is new it's clean the staff are lovely and it has a newbie Friday night once a month all their info is on their web site. Never ever feel any pressure to play remember its all about you and what your comfortable with, be open and honest with the people you chat with everyone had a first time once and understands how scary it can be and NO means NO if anyone pushes to hard the staff are there to assist you so don't be afraid to talk to them I don't know how much preperation you need to do other than personal grooming and making sure you and your partner know what the other is comfortable with doing ie only playing together, no kissing, always being in the same room, protection just so no one feels uncomfortable I hope this helps a little and that you have an amazing time X Amy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi guys.... we have been to the secret spot also in sydney. The owners are great. It is very safe and yes you can say no. The crowd there are young And beautiful. definitely recommend going. If you want too have someone come with you we will. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' definitely start with NBO, it's the "sink or swim" method... but naked ;) Thanks for the hot tip Syd. I remember the first one I attended, on your recommendation, and I took two lovely forum women with me. It so in your face. We were standing there, three women amongst a sea of naked men and penises thinking holy fuck!. I was pretty happy when I saw you wading through the crowd towards us! hahaha. And I would never suggested this for a new person. Besides, seeing men on men action is only for us real lovers of naughty men!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been at Couples Club on first timers night and there were not many people there though Amy. I am not really sure if they are really a good night to go. Isn't it better to go on a night when there are seasoned swingers there so you can observe, chat and ask questions, etc. Yes Out Secret Spot is very upmarket and expensive and Couples Club is a bit tired in the décor department but having said that I enjoy Couples Club because it is a very relaxed atmosphere and can get pretty wild. So I actually enjoy it there better. MInd you I only went to OSS on opening night and have never been back. Maybe for newbies it is better to attend OSS because it is a more gentle intro into swinging? I know the rooms are much smaller so there probably isn't' the capacity for huge wild orgies, unlike CC which has a large orgy areas and is the whole reason why I go.
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RHP User
10 years ago
1) What preparation do I need to have prior to attending a swingers club with a partner? The usual preparations you would make for a normal date that you know will lead to sex. All your usually grooming, etc. One thing I will say, do not attend a swingers club or sex party with someone you don't know well on your first time. Sorry to say but lots of blokes think it will mean that they are 100% guaranteed that they will get sex but you may not feel comfortable with someone new in such an environment for the first time. Therefore to avoid awkwardness I would take someone you are comfortable with and know, or take a friend. I really would like to stress this....do not go with a new person. I only watched the first two times I went to a swingers club. 2) What are the swingers club's rules to obey once we enter the premises, like do we have to be fully naked once inside the club? The two swingers clubs have a social area where people mingle at first or for the first hour or two. Both clubs are BYO so people have a few drinks and chat to others , have a dance, and get to know each other. Wear something very sexy that you would wear to a hot date. Always check to see if it is a theme night and dress according to the theme. At a certain point in the evening most people will go to the play areas to play. Some people are naked, some people will walk around in the provided robes or sarongs (the club provides these in your locker), some women will have brought some sexy lingerie to wear (I am usually in a lingerie shift/dress), Some women will wear it the whole evening even when they are bonking. Some women go all out with corsets, etc but I always prefer to feel sexy but comfortable. Some people may remain in their sexy street clothes the whole evening too if they wish. Each club provides a locker so you can bring a few outfits with you and decide what to wear on the night based on how comfortable you feel or once you see what other people are wearing, or whether you feel bloated and want to cover up more, etc, etc. 3) Can I say no to other people for sex, or do I have to partake? Absolutely. You only ever do what you feel comfortable doing. There is no pressure for you to do anything. Yes you sometimes get a person who thinks that because they are there people should fuck them but that is wrong and if someone makes a fuss that you have said No then they are in the wrong and should probably be asked to leave. Make the employees aware of anyone who doesn't "get it" that you are all adults and there for a good time....... which means you only do what you want to do and feel comfortable doing at all times. If someone asks you to play it is fine to say "no thank you, I am okay" or " this is my first time and I am only going to watch tonight" or something like that. 99% of people are totally cool with that and will not take it personally. You should always ask before touching someone else and people should always ask before touching you. It is only polite. People go to the club for all different reasons. Some just to socialise and never even go to the sex areas, some will go to watch only, some couples will have sex only with each other or with other single women, some people are very selective, some people will want to bonk as many people as possible, some people want to lots of people to watch them, etc, etc. So it is customary to ask people what are you here for or what are you into. I once took a total newbie to the scene to CC and she was asking people about where they lived, what they did for a living, etc. Like she was at some normal party! I think that is not appropriate. To me asking about their swinging life, what they like sexually, do they come to the club often, etc are topics to discuss. People prefer to keep their everyday life a little private so I would't personally bring it up. I always recommend that people go to Couples Club on Angel and Demon night (First Friday of the month) just to talking to people and to observe for the first time. It is a great eye opener and usually there are loads of sexy people there so it is fun and wild atmosphere. Lots of people walking around watching... sometimes watching is all they do... or they are having a bit of break and breather before jumping back into the mosh pit of bodies.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'arwenexp' I haven't visited one yet but here are some things I keep an eye out when looking for the right spot that I intend to visit: - Can I say no to certain people? You are always allowed to say no at any club or sex party. It is your body and you should always only ever do what you want to do or what you feel comfortable doing. You are young and gorgeous and if a 60 year old lesbian asks you to have a bonk you don't have to for example. :P - Policy on safe sex. All clubs and parties I have been to always have condoms and lube in every room. It is up to the participants to enforce what they feel comfortable with. Not everyone is into safe sex and a party/club will leave this up to the individuals to monitor. Be vigiliant and always check a guy has put a condom on. - Policy on anonymity I don't understand what you mean by this? You go and pay cash, maybe provide a first name and that is it. - Public Reviews from people (Outside the website.)- Entry Fees At the moment, my pick is Couples Club located in Surry hills. Posting a link here if you want a peek: http://www.couplesclub.com.au/ My top reasons are:- Free for single girls on certain days - refundable key deposit (WOOHOO) Locker key bonds are always refundable everywhere - There are reviews of staff being very friendly.- They have a first timers day! (Look under events but it is the second Friday of each month) Personally I think you should go there Angels and Demons night and see how wild things really get. Take a girlfriend just to watch. It is most enjoyable sitting with a champagne on the side lines having a perv. - You can choose to chat or get involved in the fun stuff. Even at sex parties where the policy is to be totally nude you always have the options to only watch if you don't feel like joining in. Some people only attend just to watch and never join in at all.- You do NOT have to take off your clothes. see my answer above.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My mind just explodes when people ask this. Or when my vanilla friends say I would never go to a club because I am too fussy. Why would anyone go to a club if they were under an obligation to fuck everybody??? I just don't even understand why someone would think this way? You will not be attracted to everybody and conversely not everyone will be attracted to you. Doesn't matter where you are or where you go.... nobody should ever do anything they don't want. Tell them to fuck off and go home! You always have complete power over your own body and what you do with it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
SG, I've been to parties and clubs where I just chose to watch. Only once did a couple tell me I shouldn't be there if I wasn't going to have sex with anyone (read: them). In clubs they will usually provide sarongs for you, but I like to wear a simple slip dress. At some parties you are expected to strip down, but you're welcome to just look. If you're not sure check with the host beforehand No always means no, and if that is a problem for anyone, the host or management is usually happy to ask them to leave. I like the Couples Club too. My mean issue is that people smoke in the bar area.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Guys, don't wear jeans. Just don't. :-P
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Thank you very much everyone for taking out your times to provide the helpful information on this subject, especially Meeka for sharing your knowledge of such adventure in depth, thank you :-) I am not gonna pretend that this new adventure is not scary and that I'm all ready to jump into it right away! But I figured that if I have so strong a curiosity about it, I might as well try it out one day and gain a real life experience on it, instead of wondering endlessly. Once again, thank you sincerely for your responses and information shared :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
guys don't wear jeans... ummm thank for the tip, was totally going to wear jeans. what then... dress pants?
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RHP User
10 years ago
guys don't wear jeans... ummm thank for the tip, was totally going to wear jeans. what then... dress pants?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love men in jeans, but have heard many times that guys wearing jeans to a club is a pet peeve of many women. We make an effort to look sexy, it's nice if the guys do the same.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I love men in jeans, but have heard many times that guys wearing jeans to a club is a pet peeve of many women. We make an effort to look sexy, it's nice if the guys do the same. any jeans? or crappy casual saggy arse acid wash denim jeans where the fanciest place you'd get in would be an RSL on a Tuesday arvo, versus dressy designer jeans?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've just heard so many others complain. Having said that, I've yet to see a good pair of jeans at a swingers club.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Target jeans and runners..... *shudder* Saw an old bloke once who turned up on a normal night admittedly, but he was in denim shorts and long songs. I don't understand why the wife doesn't same something to him!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Long socks I mean... Not long song
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RHP User
10 years ago
Remember the respectable gent who walked around all night wearing nothing but black socks and dress shoes? ;-)
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SW1ANATION
10 years ago
sweetgem, just like jemk2014 say - its a beautiful club, with incredible hosts. They would welcome a call from you and answer all your questions! Enjoy xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Remember the respectable gent who walked around all night wearing nothing but black socks and dress shoes? ;-) maybe he'd heard how women often judge a man by his shoes
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