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Swingers clubs, alone or with company?
June 05 2017
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
But then we are happily married and for us swinging is something that we do, together as a couple. Would we go alone, if we were not married or in a relationship with one another? No. - Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa
8 years ago
Mrs Horney here xx I'm ok with going to a party or club alone ONLY if I know friends of ours will be there for sure and that's communicate between us. I just couldn't go without arranging that as I don't like the nervous butterfly feeling almost to feeling sick, even though I know Id be fine after a while (or a few too many drinks lol)Having that feeling of comfort as I stand/sit with friends is more relaxing to me. I can go off on my own but knowing they are there is reassuring.
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horneycouplewa
8 years ago
Mrs Horney here xx I'm ok with going to a party or club alone ONLY if I know friends of ours will be there for sure and that's communicate between us. I just couldn't go without arranging that as I don't like the nervous butterfly feeling almost to feeling sick, even though I know Id be fine after a while (or a few too many drinks lol)Having that feeling of comfort as I stand/sit with friends is more relaxing to me. I can go off on my own but knowing they are there is reassuring.
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RHP User
8 years ago
i prefer to go with friends
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Been, so if I was to attend one...I'd want to go with someone (or someone's) who have experience in these settings. I'd go alone after I'd been before and had an idea of what to expect. - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
8 years ago
Can I be your friend? That way we can go to a swing club your way. Your pics are hot by the way!
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RHP User
8 years ago
been to one but I would go alone
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've been on my own and as a couple. Each has its pros and cons. If you're new to swinging and single, it can be very daunting to walk in on your own. But, there's less pressure to be tied to or obligated another person when you arrive alone. As a couple, it's easier to mingle with other couples. But, the more people you add to a play session, the more rules can be applied which can be tricky. Keeping an open mind and easy going attitude has helped me to gain confidence and mingle with others better 👍🏻 MM - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Going solo would be like sitting in that front cart of a roller coaster... alone. Fun? Yes. But, with nobody to share it with, scream with, smile with, get the embarrassing photo with? Less fun.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I go alone I meet lots of people and I can leave when I want to
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Of course it's easier with someone and would always choose that. But having the courage to turn up alone does more for your personal growth and character building. And look at the positives of going by yourself and not knowing anyone? You can be the dirtiest there and leave them with the memory.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you are feeling kind of horny a trip to the swingers works a treat some times. :P But I do love going in a group or when I know the club will have lots of people, say 30 or more, close to my age group. I get a bit bored if there are only a few people there that I have never met before.
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a single I've essentially always gone solo, otherwise I would have never experienced any of it thus far. Of course as a male, typically it's only players parties (essentially mini gangbangs) that are available if you wish to go solo. The same options apply even if you have a couple to go with. The possibility of going to go to other types of parties only arises if you have a female (alone) partner/playmate/friend to accompany you. So if you're a male on your own and don't like the multiple men per woman scenario, you will be waiting a very long time for something else. Lucky for me I do like this scenario :) I would/could go as a group of three now, as I do know a couple who would come with me, but still it is only players parties available, and that is not their preferred scene as newbies most likely not playing, so we are still clueless as to where to go together.
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megz85g
8 years ago
I prefer to go alone, clubs are not hubbys thing so its a lot more enjoyable when he is not there - Posted from rhpmobile
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noeleena
8 years ago
Hi as i.m single I have to go alone and have for the last 6 months , and will be this time in Melbourne to 3 different clubs / groups as I,v made contact with the main one I,m going to on Friday 7 th July it,ll matter not the time as I will be flying in from NZ and I,ll get there soon after I arrive ,about 9 pm. The one in Ch Ch NZ I have been 5 times and I know quite a few people some 160 , I,m okay with that, to go I travel 4 hours there and after back home another 4 hours get home about 4 in the morning , I,v done long distance many times , and for most detail I do or go to I,m just by myself . ...noeleena...
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loveoutdoors
8 years ago
We enjoy clubs together, we play together and with others alone, we also enjoy watching each other have fun. We also go alone ( or apart from each other) but we have been meeting up with like minded friends. Makes great story telling when you get home 🏡
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nibblemebi
8 years ago
I'm gutsy 😉 I've been alone many a time, and also with friends and a partner. Each approach has its benefits in my experience. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'swingalingson' Can I be your friend? That way we can go to a swing club your way. Your pics are hot by the way! thank you but i have a group of female friends I like to go with
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
To a few clubs with a group of friends. It's much nicer that we, we feel, as one then has fun regardless of whether or not you meet someone new or not. There is also perceived safety in numbers and one becomes more open to then engaging in conversation with others, we find. - Posted from rhpmobile
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
I'm happy to go alone and have done so on many occasions. If your a single woman wanting to go to a swingers club I'm happy to hold your hand. - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
8 years ago
I am not a woman, but I can wear a wig and we can hold hands and enter a swing club down tou neck of the woods😉
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Most couples dislike the tactics you are exhibiting per trying to gain entry to a swingers event due to the lack of relationship to the person you enter with as experience has shown that they part company once in the door and cause mayhem. Not saying you would but the preferred way is to be in a relationship.
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swingalingson
8 years ago
I have no problems going alone. Many clubs have a rule. Come to a club as a couple and you have to leave together as a couple. Keeps things fair I guess. Love the feed back folks. Keep em coming.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Not saying you would but the preferred way is to be in a relationship. I am interested in knowing how deep a relationship normally qualifies, especially for couples only parties. LTR/marriage? Long term FWB? Some people have ongoing swinging partners too. Maybe another topic. Now to find one of these "relationships" you speak of. Which supermarket aisle are they in again? :P
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RHP User
8 years ago
It is easy to see couples who have a relationship (of any kind) who respect each other and have that rapport and familiarity. People that just hook up to go to parties are easy to spot, they play as individuals and not as a team even if they think they are playing well together. Mind you, some couples are arses too so no guarantees that someone will "understand" the swing culture.
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swingalingson
8 years ago
And alot of fake couples out there. Buyer beware. Unfortunatly try before you buy. It is the only way to find out. Even long term relationships people in couples meaning 2 people can be selfish or out for themselves. But only one way to find out fake couple or not.😉 Keep those comment cumin, love it
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RHP User
8 years ago
Depends on what sort of partner you want. Neat freaks can be found in aisle 7 cleaning products, lovingly admiring the bleach 😉 aisle 3 confectionery is worth a shot, some interesting people can be found down there 😀 aisle 5 stationery and magazines, that's where I hang out when I'm not in the vegie section or the confectionery aisle, flicking through the muscle and fitness mags 😎
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Openly_Curious
8 years ago
I've been on my own and with my husband. Next up would be to go with friends. The first party on my own was early in our foray into this lifestyle, so it was daunting, but manageably so.
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