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Swinging v BDSM

November 08 2013

Did you kiss the girl or spank her? Their is much conjecture that there is a difference between the two lifestyles. I guess you already know I sit on the BDSM side. But where do you? Do you understand the difference between the two?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Bicycle! I would start with a kiss and see where she wants to go from there... not big on the rough stuff... spanking is good, biting and a little hair pulling... but ultimately I get my jollies vicariously so whatever gets her going is top of my list.Could almost be submissive but don't be surprised if later I pin her up against the wall and take charge... turnabout is only fair no?SG

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Check please!!- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Poles apart! Swinging & BDSM are different animals.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Who would think those two terms are even related? Then again, I guess fun could be had with the chains on the swing set? Mees confused.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    please. The difference between the two? For me, I think it's a different type of trust. A different type of vulnerability. I feel that with BDSM the rules are clearer.Great question ... got me thinking ...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    it's just fucking HOT!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I think that is the OPs point... Swinging is about sharing and open activities where BDSM is exactly that Bondage, Discipline, Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism).Swinging being anything from Vanilla sex (whatever that is) with varying partners where as BDSM is Dom/Sub play either with you one partner and many... so BDSM can be tied to Swinging if practiced as such... maybe as a BDSM night at Couples Club where Dom/Sub play is the theme and people share partners etc.Just a thought... scrambled as it is.SG

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Everyone form an orderly line... Paint_Me has been a very bad girl in need of a good spanking... me first

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Totally different. I get B&D, I understand D&S and can see how they all intertwine. But I can't get my head around S&M. It's not just about the pain is it? I have has it explained to me more than once, even by a Mistress and I still forget the difference. Swingers are often vanilla. Just couples that have group sex or swap partners with other couples, etc. but usually play together. open relationship is couples that have lovers outside of their main relationship. BDSM is usually a lifestyle, I think you can say swingers also have a certain lifestyle too. You can be one of these, some of these, all of these or none. :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I look forward to seeing how it develops.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    And I understand that people dabble in BDSM but its not their lifestyle. Then there are people for whom BDSM is a lifestyle and sharing partners my be a part of that lifestyle, depending on what has been negotiated. As for where I sit, lie or stand, I'm an adventurer and don't like to box myself.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    But if Tara is in the sex swing and stirrups. And I slap her little flower with the head of my old feller and start getting splashed in the face and all, that's a buzz.Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    That's called having sex. Lmao!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good swift well aim spank, then grab area with two firm hands and kiss with loving mouth and tongue. So yeah both from us. See if it's a spank or kiss in reply lol Mr Funky (.)(.)- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    never thought it would come to this". :-D

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Your knowledge on all things sex, relationships, kinks etc etc etc is mindblowing, we are in awe of your wisdom through experience. There is so much in each of your posts that we learn from I flick through my notes each night before bed to immerse myself in your teachings. I have in 4,mths learnt so much more than ten years of funky sex dates with my beloved mrs funky, 20 years before that of bi, straight and vanilla sex. Ever thought about publishing your musings? Ok just a tad of topic sry Ms Bliss :-) but couldnt help giving cudos when due, XxX Mr Funky (.)(.) <~~ Mr Funky waits with baited cock breath for your gracious thanks for my kind words.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    11 years ago

    I like it both ways-------I like doing both for variety and mood as I dolike to get kinky but I have a passionate side.I bring out the cuffs and if she puts out her wristsits game on.Its a big turn on when a woman gives her bodyand her trust to her man.I so do respect that trust.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Um I know I like being submissive, but I also like to give as good as I get so that kinda makes me a "switch". I do enjoy Master/Mistress and Submissive games ooooh hell yes!! Bondage and discipline is so much fun!! I love proper role play but haven't indulged in this to the extent that I'd like to......to me it's more than just getting dressed up in costume. I'd fully love to take on the whole "act" from location to clothing to scenario to seduction, a bit of b&D thrown in and hot sex to follow. (Sigh) fck me I need a cold shower ~ there are just moments when your own hand doesn't DO what it's supposed to 🙈🙉🙊- Posted from rhpmobile

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    11 years ago

    This one time and band camp.lolI have tied a gal down,teased her body forat least 2 hours while giving her strawbs and champaine so that by the time I started to finger her wet mound ,she exploded.After that she just kept coming for some time andboy was I pleased with myself

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Gee how lovely. I was only answering the question, which by the way I didn't even explain anything. So your response is pretty unfunky to me. 👎

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Seems you have taken my comment the wrong way? I was giving positive feedback on your knowledge of all topics that would be termed 'non vanilla'. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't anything about it, and I never said I did. BDSM is not something I am into except for some role play/ light fun. Please I am all ears to hear your views on the subject. Aren't you the majority kinky pair???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't know anything about it, is what I mean.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    It's HellFire night on the 22nd November. Have you ever been to the Hellfire Club? I would be keen if a few of us went. :)

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    And I was just warming up too, as for what Tara would be telling my mate to do with his cock.As if we could tell you what really goes on.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' It's HellFire night on the 22nd November. Have you ever been to the Hellfire Club? I would be keen if a few of us went. :) Have never been but I'd be up for it if others are keen... always open to new experiences.(even if I only get to watch )

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Don't try reading words which are not there. Instead just take a compliment in the manner it is given. It is fair to say you are a fountain of knowledge on the subject of kink with the always ready advice you are quick & very kind to give. I hope all the forum readers pay attention because there is much they can learn. Neither I or Mrs Funky have ever claimed to be the majority kinky pair. I know the small amount I know about BDSM could probably fit on a stamp. I've never said otherwise. In the big wide world of BDSM I would be there version of vanilla. I believe I've already given you my vanilla view on this particular subject. Mr Funky (.)(.)- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I thought you guys once said you were into some major kink?or could just be my memory playing tricks. Well sorry if I got the wrong end of the stick. I certainly don't know much, and I thought you were making fun of me.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    It's a fetish nightclub, you are aware it's no sex? Anyway have a look at the link below. I have a girlfriend in town that weekend and we vaguely mentioned going, but I will confirm with her. :) https://m.facebook.com/TheSydneyHellfireClub

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    You have to be dressed in fetish gear. Or at the bare minimum be dressed all in black. See the site for pictures of nights at the club. ;-)

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'You have to be dressed in fetish gear. Or at the bare minimum be dressed all in black. See the site for pictures of nights at the club. ;-) I had a look at the Facebook page and saw women in all colours, even leopard mini dresses etc. I'm game!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes, people wear all sorts of things. Corsets, rubber,leather, body paint, cross dressing, feathers, mermaid outfits, chains, just leather g-strings (and that's the men), lingerie, nipple tassels, furry costumes, gimp masks, etc etc. Or people just come all dressed in black, all body shapes and ages.It's a way of dressing up in the most outrageous thing you want and going out and having a chat and a laugh and a dance with people with no judgements! Yes some people are getting whipped, or being tied up.... which is fun to watch. I really enjoy going because its fantastic place to just people watch, and there is no sleaze at all. Some people make such an effort with their costumes. SORRY EBLISS FOR HI_JAKCING YOUR THREAD.... we should probably take it over to the Anything thread.

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    I sit on the kissing side of the fence. I just said on another BDSM thread that I prefer my Doms to be Perignon and my Subs footlong. That is all.