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Taking matters into your own hands.

November 13 2013

sex

I was wondering, how many women on RHP stimulate their own clitoris during sex? How do men feel about this? Are you keen on the idea, or challenged by it? I had a partner once who was an enthusiastic self stimulator. It took all the pressure off me as she was in control of her own sexual heights, and I was able to relax and enjoy my own states of arousal and ecstasy, resulting in longer lasting sessions between us, that I found it more gratifying. Would love to hear your perspectives.

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  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    But then again IF I'm given a willing hand I'm more than happy to use it! 😍 I'd rather be stimulated by a knowing partner but if it's cumming whilst they are inside me (since I'm clittorally stimulated and only achieve orgasm that way) it just makes more sense to rub myself whilst he's stroking me with his wickedness internally.....and I do like to cum for him. Welll.... they do say sharing's caring. 😇- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hands should be everywhere... always.If the other half wants to put her hand on her clit for stimulation that just leaves my hand free to caress her face, or breast, or thigh, or buttocks... hmmmm Sex should be tactile, hands should be everywhere always!

  • him_and_me

    him_and_me

    11 years ago

    But yes, I do. I find that when things are getting exciting, so to speak, I like to control where I'm at while he does his thing. There are other times though, when I don't want to touch myself. I want to feel him and his movements within me, I want my hands on his back or shoulders or bum. If he's held tight in my arms I can't reach down there!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am very naughty and push lovers hands out of the way so I can do it myself. I am a bit impatient... I almost never leave it up to the guy to make me come.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    "If someone is in need, give them a helping hand. Do not wait for a thank you"FOXY

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    I will generally take a woman's hand away if she seeks to stimulate her clitoris during penetration. Now, I expect to hear the cries from the usual suspects for the usual reasons..... but I will sum up the broad reason with the following statements...... (1) i ensure women have one or more climaxes before penetration.... and (2) how are you ever going to become vaginally orgasmic during penetration if you keep feeding the habit of clitoral dependency? Cat released..... DG- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Cause I can't help it!!!! But yes you are right... You teach yourself to come in a certain way which makes it harder to come other ways. Agree.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Happy yo give it a rub!! I have no problem having an orgasm through penetration alone but it can sometimes take a while ;and I can normally only a achieve one like this . Being greedy I like to " help myself" to more and have never had a man have a problem with that, quite the opposite actually ;p- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm certainly happy to give matters a helping hand. Generally speaking if he can reach my clitoris, it's his hands I want there, but in some positions one or the other of us would need to be a contortionist, on those occasions I take charge of my clitoris and let him focus on what he's doing. Fear not DG, I can orgasm in a number of ways and am in no danger of developing a clitoral dependency 😉- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Guys who are totally turned on by it. I like to touch them as they are moving in and out so we both get the pleasure of my hand touching my clit. And no, I don't need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm either but sometimes its nice to have it all.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    I guess I was remiss in not mentioning that it's not everytime....sometimes he does all the work.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Maybe there's alot more about my body I need to be shown...- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    I was referencing my own attitude and behavior.... and noone else's :-)- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    it's the journey not the arrival that matters

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If you don't want me to touch the tooty then you'll have to restrain me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I just typed in well ... and the rugby thing just appeared. Why the fuck does it do that????

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You must have had it in your clipboard Paintme and pasted here by mistake! Careful that you don't do that when you are texting the local priest or something. :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'paint_me' If you don't want me to touch the tooty then you'll have to restrain me. Is this also an ethical conundrum?To restrain or to let touch... hmmm

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Amicus75' Quoting 'paint_me' If you don't want me to touch the tooty then you'll have to restrain me. Is this also an ethical conundrum?To restrain or to let touch... hmmm What do you mean? I'd like to be restrained. Then you have my complete attention. Otherwise I'll get bored and distract myself by playing with my patooty.

  • smo669

    smo669

    11 years ago

    I just love it when a lady rubs touches and rubs herself during play, a total turn on :-))

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    what do you need to do so that I WONT be tempted to touch myself....so just...eat me,spank me,wank meleave me wanting moretease me please mebite me,hold me tightlyfeel me tremble ,hear me roar.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I do sometimes but to be honest I'm usually focused on my partner's pleasure... What I get out of it is supplementary to some degree. I suppose I sort of do expect them to lavish a similar amount of attention on me. Is it really too much pressure to expect a lover to be at least attempting to make sure I'm enjoying it too? Certainly with people who don't its disappointing... Maybe the disappointment would disappear if I took care of business for myself more. *borrows foxy's thinking man*

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've found guys love it and can't take their eyes off it.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya77' what do you need to do so that I WONT be tempted to touch myself.... I DO like how you phrased that

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'him_and_me'But yes, I do. I find that when things are getting exciting, so to speak, I like to control where I'm at while he does his thing I have to agree with you on that one. Nothing turns me on more than to cum with him, while he's inside me... One has to time these things which means to control where I'm at.. and no one does this better than me:) And I find that its a huge turn on for most guys that I've played with. Mrs. Luvsilver

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I will generally take a woman's hand away if she seeks to stimulate her clitoris during penetration. Now, I expect to hear the cries from the usual suspects for the usual reasons..... but I will sum up the broad reason with the following statements...... (1) i ensure women have one or more climaxes before penetration.... and (2) how are you ever going to become vaginally orgasmic during penetration if you keep feeding the habit of clitoral dependency? Cat released..... DG - Posted from rhpmobile I would punch them with my now-free hand.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    hahahahaha DG

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    ..for the men too respond.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I find when the lady places her hand over the top of mine and we both pleasure her clit it makes it much more a mutual turn on

  • twinshadow

    twinshadow

    11 years ago

    love it, it's cool, sometimes i'll have a pull when required also. ;)

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    11 years ago

    come now guys touch themselves so why not the ladies. Also it depends on the woman as all girls are built different and during sex stimulation can be lacking. Bring her to orgasm via her mind or oeal before actual sex that way she comes easier on penertration.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I find it helps me along and it's often sexy to see your partner touch themselves, I don't think it's a problem x - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If you care to share, I'd like to see that. It's wet season up in Darwin right now, isn't it 😍

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I ever did it, the guy was so put out, he kept asking 'don't i do it for you', 'I'm not good enough'. So I have always associated it as almost an insult to the guys if I did do it!. Unrushed1, that is the first time I've ever heard a guy express it that way!!........ Ok, perception change happening.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    I have noticed that when I seem more focused to popping a finger into Tara's bottom, She tends to pay attention to stimulating herself, for the meaning of it all. It is quite a pleasant experience, it is a very sharing perception that highlights the beauty with teamwork. Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You're welcome. Unrushed. Changing the world one person at a time. 😇

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    now you are scaring me....I like my neuroses