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Taking yourself seriously
July 29 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I tend to be a bit of a Rainman in social settings like the fora. I don't take myself seriously but I tend to engage in the interaction at face value and not pick up social nuances. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me "you don't take yourself too seriously" means that you have a good sense of humour and can laugh at yourself. Those things you have mentioned Ralp are people who view RHP like it's a menu log where you can login every night and order another take away. Hmmm anal tonight? Or maybe some Chinese dumplings with my special sauce? Or straight sex for main and I will come on her tits for desert. I think guys that get annoyed when a woman pulls them up on this and basically attack you by saying "you take yourself too seriously" need a reality check. We should think of some interesting questions to ask them back. :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ummmmm...........so,..........do you? ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Ummmmm...........so,..........do you? ;) You will have to send me annoying emails with each question in a different email to find out.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Maybe it's a single girl thing? Or do you banter? I tend to take all banter OFF RHP... I'm too much of klutz to take myself seriously, if I did I'd probably feel constantly embarrassed by my own antics...
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guykinkster
10 years ago
I see the same lines on so many profiles, for example the one about not taking myself too seriously. Usually for people who are apparently so laid back, they have a lot of conditions and super model expectations.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
but I do take seriously any crude suggestion or requests. They usually result in no reply from me or a 'thanks but no thanks'. If men are only interested in my sexual preferences then they have not read my profile correctly. That means they are not treating me or my desires with respect, so they can seriously keep themselves out of my inbox.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Serious it's not funny:-) .....but I would actually like to find a man who would...seriously:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm considered to be the court jester....the funny fucker.... Quite often though that leads to a few insecurities coming to play... I like my self deprecating humour; and love taking the piss out of others too; but it would be nice one day to see interest in the face of someone. But that could be just my deeply insecure little boy taking over my eyesight like usual :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The lines "I don't take myself too seriously" and "I have a good sense of humour" don't tell me much, as it's really in the eye of the beholder. Having said that, (I just realised) my profile does say I'm looking for someone who doesn't take himself too seriously. Maybe I'll rephrase it.I think I can laugh at my own faults, quirks and mistakes and anyone who can't is not right for me. However, like you say Ralf, in some regards I take myself quite seriously as well, especially when it comes to setting boundaries.I think I'm easygoing most of the time, but never easy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I imagining Harry Potter: "You're my godfather? You can't be Sirius!"
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm* I do take my spelling errors too seriously I think. Oh, well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For forks sake.why do women want a man who makes em laugh,what are you all trying to do,keep lady tena in business xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2'I don't take myself seriously but I tend to engage in the interaction at face value and not pick up social nuances. -That's easy to do! I wrote a totally sarcastic reply to a post yesterday, and promptly received a flirt. I don't think my response came across quite the way it was meant.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I am ok with this I am passionate, driven, deep thinker, studious, perfectionist and committed. This does not mean that I am not chatty, fun or not have a quirky sense of humour or spontaneous or adventurous But I am beginning to think that the words I should have on my profile is easy going, or maybe just the word easy The same as Ms Ralf I have am having the similar experience, I do not know why But very fortunately I have had some very lovely men contact me, who make up for these other messages. And every man that writes on his profile " easy going laid back guy" , what exactly do you mean ? Am I going to have to do all the work here ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'guykinkster' I see the same lines on so many profiles, for example the one about not taking myself too seriously. Usually for people who are apparently so laid back, they have a lot of conditions and super model expectations. so many lines out there, I do love to read a unique profile
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rupamohan
10 years ago
It is more of a problem for me to understand subjective words being from different culture and not good at languages.But I don't try to find the meaning. Subjective words are used because objective words can be interpreted as sign of inflexibility. It works as a flexible gap filler because profile are built on shift floors. Don't take seriously means to me...won't negotiate with same seriousness as we do in business negotiation...just easy going. Like to know well means to me...may waste your time but don't blame me for it. If you ask some of these kind to share from past exp how many meets they need to make up mind. They can feel offended. The most hilarious is looking for like minded person..as soon as I see this I can't stop laughing for hours. You will notice most of these types will never ever share with you what exactly is in their mind..in most cases they don't know what they want..it is written just to cover them-self. However when we judge a profile we look at how we score it in total. We don't care if few statements makes us laugh or wonder.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' For forks sake.why do women want a man who makes em laugh,what are you all trying to do,keep lady tena in business xQ Yep. It's all that spontaneous squirting that I do the minute they open their mouth.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' For forks sake.why do women want a man who makes em laugh,Nothing );
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' Maybe it's a single girl thing? Or do you banter? I tend to take all banter OFF RHP... I'm too much of klutz to take myself seriously, if I did I'd probably feel constantly embarrassed by my own antics... I don't think any man in his right mind would speak to a woman who has a man that would beat the shit out of him for talking to his partner like that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
…phrase on my profile, too.I guess I must have read it elsewhere to have chosen to use it myself.But, wherever I found it, to me it means I would prefer to meet people who are as I see myself:with a healthy sense of humour, a broad imagination and..I like to think..a not narrowminded view of the world. Agressive and overly domineering personalities are also too serious to enjoy for long. They'd be enough for me to finish my drink, politely make my goodbyes and head for the exit.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Someone needs to write and share a killer template comeback to those kinds of guys. Share it around the girls, and after a while the message might sink in.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'rupamohan' The most hilarious is looking for like minded person..as soon as I see this I can't stop laughing for hours. You will notice most of these types will never ever share with you what exactly is in their mind..in most cases they don't know what they want..it is written just to cover them-self. Just scares the shit out of me. I'd never meet someone with a mind like mine.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' Someone needs to write and share a killer template comeback to those kinds of guys. Share it around the girls, and after a while the message might sink in. Ralfs constant questions...............what can you do for me?.... Oh this ones fun. How about you could start with I could rearrange your wardrobe so it makes more sense, I could read you a story or maybe teach you how to read as you clearly need someone to help you? how about I teach you a few manners and then we could have a proper conversation? what size are your tits? .... Why, jealous? can I send you pics? .... I don't know can you send pics? can you open my pg? .... Well I could but that would mean you would see lots of pictures of me and clearly Im not interested in you seeing what I look like!do I take it up the arse? .... More importantly do you? I like to give as good as I get!do you swallow? Every few minutes I think, well when I drink water or eat food I have to swallow or I would die from malnutrition and dehydration. will you have a threesome? ..... Yeah sure, do you know two other guys that are hot, sexy, intelligent, well mannered and have a great sense of humour? No? Oh well maybe you have a couple of female friends I can play with then?do you love sucking cock? .... I wouldn't suck your dick if I couldn't breathe and your balls were full of oxygen.... or I wouldn't want to take the last remaining brain cells you have...... or I will if you willcan I fuck your tits? .... How do you get you cock through the computer screen? .....or .... is it detachable, send it to me and I will see if it fits..... sorry ladies Im a bit tired so the brain isn't functioning fully, If I think of more I will share
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threesixty
10 years ago
Your sounding rather pent up Ralf.... Come on. Since when have you let this get to you? Take the old approach girl and let the shit go thru to the keeper!!!!
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I see it as a little passive aggressive and dismissive when ever I see those lines. How I see it, it is dismissing those who do want to life seriously. And who is anyone to say that to another, anyways? Is there anything wrong with those who do want to take life seriously? I mean, so what if they do? To me it means; if one takes life seriously they DO have a sense of humor, can have fun - it just means those who take life seriously think outside the box, plan ahead, have their shit together. LOL! Sometimes I think for those who say to others (or on their profiles), "I don't take life to seriously" use it as a poor excuse, to disrespect others personal boundaries and use it as avoidance to certain things or areas in their lives. EXAMLE: use humor to "cover up" a lot of their own personal issues. It annoys me is when one stands up to another because they have pushed personal boundaries, they use the excuse "you're taking life to seriously". I mean WTF is that??? Exactly what you are saying RALF, a poor excuse to avoidance getting to know someone or doing something. And you have a right to put personal boundaries in place on here, if others are being rude to you and asking questions that are pushing your personal boundaries, you have a right to ignore them or say something to them as they are being disrespectful to you. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Statements like this are probably the refuge of people who struggle with writing a profile....I just wouldn't read too much into it...most people want to present themselves in a positive way,and here that message translates into ''I just want to have uncomplicated sex...and enjoy myself".....profiles are barely indicators of who someone is...they are not autobiographies ...although some are very wordy and snooze worthy:-) ......we get judged on our photos,our messages,before we even meet...some people are very,very, very good at the spin,others are crap......read between the lines...you might be surprised who you find lurking there xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think people who use the term "don't take myself to seriously " can laugh at their own mistakes and enjoy a little bit of friendly banter in life. Sometimes what we write in a profile description has a completely different meaning to others than what we intended or considered when writing it. I know the constant stream of unwanted messages can be annoying but that's partly to blame on the expectations of the site when people read the advertising.....things like get laid tonight....horny women in your area looking for sex......can't blame people for getting excited. So sometimes we need to not take the site to seriously and get on with life and have fun with those who make us happy......and you never know who you might meet in the meantime. We create enough pressure for ourselves in life without taking a website to seriously. Have fun and learn to laugh at yourself as well as others. Mr J - Posted from rhpmobile
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
It would be a gold platter I'd provide for you Ralf. I think that those that ask you those questions have ruled themselves out without any effort on your part. Look at it as a positive.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' To me "you don't take yourself too seriously" means that you have a good sense of humour and can laugh at yourself. You know, just to join in with the crowd.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' It would be a gold platter I'd provide for you Ralf. I think that those that ask you those questions have ruled themselves out without any effort on your part. Look at it as a positive.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' The lines "I don't take myself too seriously" and "I have a good sense of humour" don't tell me much, as it's really in the eye of the beholder. Having said that, (I just realised) my profile does say I'm looking for someone who doesn't take himself too seriously. Maybe I'll rephrase it.I think I can laugh at my own faults, quirks and mistakes and anyone who can't is not right for me. However, like you say Ralf, in some regards I take myself quite seriously as well, especially when it comes to setting boundaries.I think I'm easygoing most of the time, but never easy. Especially where you said "I think I can laugh at my own faults, quirks and mistakes and anyone who can't is not right for me. However in some regards I take myself quite seriously as well especially when it comes to setting boundaries.I think I'm easygoing most of the time, but never easy" this resonates with me - I think the same about myself. It amuses me too when people claim in their profiles "I don't take life too seriously"What do they take seriously? Death?I would like to think that anyone I meet would take their life and my life seriously and not treat anyone's life as some kind of joke yet I have met some people (on and off RHP) who don't seem capable of taking ANYTHING seriously.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting funlover The most hilarious is looking for like minded person.. But should you meet someone with a like mine, it's easier and more compatible when it comes to a transplant. Lmao Sit down everyone and have a drink and look at the people walking past. The serious ones are stressed, the people with a smile are thinking about sex, so smile everybody!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't remember what I wrote in it... Hours of typing, deleting, rewording, etc. Most probably full of meaningless phrases. In the end I just hit send and I haven't been game to go back and look at it since
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RHP User
10 years ago
I accepted your challenge... and I liked your profile.....it says a lot in just a few words...a little self deprecating without a cringe factor xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Every time someone says to me: "Great minds think alike." I look at them and think: "You filthy, filthy bastard."
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can't be serious!
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Somewhere I lost my sense of humour.......I need to lighten up. I hate being no fun!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you Q for having a look at my profile. I'll be able to resist tinkering now when I have a look. Will save hours of OCD behaviour 😀
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do I have to come to Brissy again! My work here will never be done.
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beachgal20
10 years ago
I hear you Ralf...whilst I don't have big boobs, I am over being asked to meet at the drop of a hat cos they wank over my pics; or ask to see PG etc etc....and all the rest.....Zappeedsancer- your reply was spot on!!!Threesixty..you need to wear 'our shoes' for a bit my friend x
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RHP User
10 years ago
"I see it as a little passive aggressive and dismissive when ever I see those lines." But saying I'm looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously does not imply there is anything wrong with that at all in my opinion. It merely means that a person who does take themselves very seriously and I may not have the same mindset.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
The thought of you heading north to rescue my mojo does bring a huge smile. Lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's so easy to get lost trying to understand these forums. In a world full of Facebook and Instagram, have we all become impatient? Do we need to be gratified instantly every time or can we slowly build the momentum? Have men become complacent, if we ask to see the PG, is that because it makes the introduction so much faster? Does this double entendre highlight the difference between the shallow male of the species and the more thought inspired female of the species? Do we take all of it too seriously when we post behind a firewall under another identity? I guess I'm still trying to see what's on the silver platter before I buy another drink and think about it some more?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Taking ourselves seriously would result in our choking to death... from laughter. When it comes to questions of the type in the OP, we just answer them straight up. It is a bit blunt but better that there be no room for misunderstandings at a later stage (particularly on the swallowing/anal questions).
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beachgal20
10 years ago
a discussion t be had....
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can't serious ? I don't see a issue with someone mentioning they prefer to connect with someone who does'nt take things too serious... I say that and mean it.. ? There's a time and place to be serious but not when you meet someone for the first time... Not rocket science..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' "I see it as a little passive aggressive and dismissive when ever I see those lines." But saying I'm looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously does not imply there is anything wrong with that at all in my opinion. It merely means that a person who does take themselves very seriously and I may not have the same mindset. Agree. I am sure we have all met people who can't take a joke or take things and everything too seriously. They are a pain in the arse sometimes. I am sure they are good people but sometimes I find it difficult to converse with them and it dare I say it, it can be a little dull.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Reading that someone doesn't take themselves too seriously, to me, means as much as if they said they like long walks on the beach...so what?! Means not a lot. I'm more interested in whether they would take me seriously enough to actually give a damn about what may of be of mutual interest to each of us. That being said, I think anyone that doesn't treat this microcosm that is RHP with a bit of bemusement IS probably taking this and themselves a bit too seriously. Those that take this post too seriously can shoot me now. Silva xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
As I said to Ralf, Ummmm.... ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
You get asked those kind of things?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Just another way of getting to know you as well? I get asked them to and have some standard responses. Yes it can be frustrating. Yes somedays I hate all men on here. Mostly I roll my eyes and laugh it off, takes me but a second to click delete. Occasionally I explain I don't like the way they have asked the questions and that's why it's a no from me as I don't want to be just another body they use for a fuck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had the same questions so often when I first went on line I changed my profile to ; And to save you all time 1: yes 2: maybe 3: sometimes Gets so boring. Idiots. But you have to laugh if they think that their questions will seduce you .
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are who we are,never change u are fine as you are! Your comments are direct often make me laugh! Think some of those questions says more about who sent them ,than you xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Meander' "I see it as a little passive aggressive and dismissive when ever I see those lines." But saying I'm looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously does not imply there is anything wrong with that at all in my opinion. It merely means that a person who does take themselves very seriously and I may not have the same mindset. Agree. I am sure we have all met people who can't take a joke or take things and everything too seriously. They are a pain in the arse sometimes. I am sure they are good people but sometimes I find it difficult to converse with them and it dare I say it, it can be a little dull. Agreed. Likewise people who are a little( or a lot ) too full of themselves to be good company. I enjoy intelligent conversation as much as the next person, but some people..given enough lead..choose to make it a bit too much about them and forget to share.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I may not take myself too seriously , BUT.... i take the woman i'm with very seriously :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Just another way of getting to know you as well? I get asked them to and have some standard responses. Yes it can be frustrating. Yes somedays I hate all men on here. Mostly I roll my eyes and laugh it off, takes me but a second to click delete. Occasionally I explain I don't like the way they have asked the questions and that's why it's a no from me as I don't want to be just another body they use for a fuck that is exactly how i feel ...is that too "old fashioned" ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'silvangold' Reading that someone doesn't take themselves too seriously, to me, means as much as if they said they like long walks on the beach...so what?! Means not a lot. I'm more interested in whether they would take me seriously enough to actually give a damn about what may of be of mutual interest to each of us. That being said, I think anyone that doesn't treat this microcosm that is RHP with a bit of bemusement IS probably taking this and themselves a bit too seriously. Those that take this post too seriously can shoot me now. Silva xxx Well said.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its all right to think and say you want to be taken serious but how can someone when they cant see or meet you because of what might be ? I guess this why they say women are from Venus and why men are left scratching their head.. both of them' as some women so eloquently put it..
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're on RHP, and you're sick of being asked personal questions about your sexual behavior .....yawn..... As for what's written on OTHER people's profiles..well..do I even need to say this? It's not your profile and they can say whatever they like about themselves, and what they're looking for! Who are you to come on here and mock them? If you don't like what you're reading, there's every chance they won't like you either so simply - move on....the same method works surprisingly well when dealing with messages that don't impress YOU, even though they might impress the next person. How about, instead of trying to morph a community to suit yourself, you find a more appropriate website to suit YOUR requirements. I like to get to know people first too but I'd say around 90% of the RHP folk I've had a conversation with are not only respectful of that when I suggest it, but appreciate the very same. Oh, and we spend a large part of that time sussing each other out about our sexual behaviors, and I happen to like it that way! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well said... Why be here if you want create so many hurdles... ? And you wonder why I request no one who takes the self serious... ?
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'rupamohan' It is more of a problem for me to understand subjective words being from different culture and not good at languages.But I don't try to find the meaning. Subjective words are used because objective words can be interpreted as sign of inflexibility. It works as a flexible gap filler because profile are built on shift floors. Don't take seriously means to me...won't negotiate with same seriousness as we do in business negotiation...just easy going. Like to know well means to me...may waste your time but don't blame me for it. If you ask some of these kind to share from past exp how many meets they need to make up mind. They can feel offended. The most hilarious is looking for like minded person..as soon as I see this I can't stop laughing for hours. You will notice most of these types will never ever share with you what exactly is in their mind..in most cases they don't know what they want..it is written just to cover them-self. However when we judge a profile we look at how we score it in total. We don't care if few statements makes us laugh or wonder. I think you are taking yourself too seriously here...A good example of overthinking things.. Lol Glad that that phrase provides your endless hours of amusement. Frankly I find that boring and not funny at all. But maybe I;m starting to take myself too seriously?
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RHP User
10 years ago
...they are a joke?
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RHP User
10 years ago
... Luggage... dumping on someone at a first meeting is rude . I would never do that and expect the same. Be happy , look for the good things and see what happens...
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RHP User
10 years ago
are you serious!?
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RHP User
10 years ago
you may get used to it ,,, or sick of it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
taking myself too seriously, I am actually quite laid back with a good sense of humour. I have been known to make women laugh, so in fact I am your ideal man, except that I'm not in my 40's and I don't have a six pack unless you mean the amber fluid. Not perfect but so close. Off I go to have a seriously good laugh.
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