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Talking about your RHP hook ups
April 06 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can be very incestuous. Be careful Elle.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
And it's called Respect.
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
One of many reasons why I don't meet people from this site.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It makes me feel very uncomfortable if someone starts talking about who they have bonked..unless its a close friend ..not a lover..But the thing I am beginning to appreciate about this site is the connections,friendship groups.friends and lovers...sometimes individually,sometimes threesomes,foursomes and moresomes...xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm with you Elle, I would find it a bit weird of a meet up. Normally first meets are to see if there's any spark and move on, but leave past sexual experiences at home, it's just not right xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
isn't really a date at all in my view... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If a guy discloses who he's slept with its an instant no. It would mean he'd blab to others he had sex with me, which is totally uncool in my view. I think kissing and telling is partly done to make yourself look better (look who I pulled!), and anyone who feels the needs to advertise themselves that way is not for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This place really is sex degrees of separation. ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree that it should not be discussed about previous RHP hookups. Perhaps he was just trying to prove a point to you that he wasnt one of those people that we all dislike. That he infact treated everyone well and had there respect. Point though is if he went on and on about it is probably just made him look like a sleaze fine line I say. As far as validations are concerned I have only given about four over a period of 2yrs. There is a place for them on here, its shows that people are who they say they are on there profile. Shows that at least someone thinks there good enough to keep company with. Lets add friends list to the topic then too, your friends list are people you like enough to add to your friends list. Well mine are at least people I have met. Majority of them are friends and some are past lovers. Some people may look at the friends list and think that they are all past hooks ups. Its all in how people perceive your profile I guess. The only way you really know is to meet people but I think friends list and validations are good part of someones profile. Whats the other option we all have grey ghost pics and all general choosen profiles. Have meet you Elle and your a lovely lady and I hope you take my post as its intended. Just another point of view regarding RHP.
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tipper930
10 years ago
No class what so ever if a man/woman has to disclose who they've been with, sounds like there trophy hunting..... I quickly found my mood drop when a woman was telling me things from this site.... In all honesty i have brought up an experience from here, was the date from HELL and I only bring it up because I now see the funny side of it.... Damn I've got chills running up the back of my neck again..... Tip
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RHP User
10 years ago
We also are with you on that Elle. We are happy talking bout our journey and hurdles we have encountered. but there has to be respect for the people we are with but also respect for the people we have met.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks everyone for your responses so far :) Meeka – good advice, and it’s a conclusion that I’m rapidly coming to. Like Meander said… sex degrees of separation :). Freya - I know that when I talk to my close female RHP friends we chat about our ‘dates’, but never any specifics. I too love the connections that I’ve made through RHP… I’ve made some wonderful friends, and there are people I talk to regularly who are on the other side of the country that I’ve never met. The friendships I have with those people are amazing and very important to me even though we’ve never met. And I also think it’s different for couples and groups. Meander – to be fair, most don’t actually name names, thank goodness. I guess my point is that I don’t want to hear about the sex that the guy had last night, or last week, or last month when he’s about to have sex with me tonight. Ms_silk – interesting points you make, and it is a fine line with regard to ‘sleaze’. You’re also right, there is a place for validations. In fact, if I was looking for couples I would actually like to see validations… reason being that I have no experience in that arena, and I think validations would give me confidence that the people are who they say they are. Non-sexual validations are fine – there are a few forum members who have those sorts of validations, and I think they’re great. For me, it’s a privacy thing: I don’t want people looking at my profile and saying “well, she’s f^*ked him, and him and him” if you know what I mean? Friends lists… ahhh. Now that’s a whole other can of worms lol. My friends list is pretty extensive – basically if I get a request and the profile is semi-decent (i.e. not a bunch of ask me’s and template info), then I’ll accept. I do have a note on my profile that my friends list isn’t a list of people I’ve met, had sex with etc. because, as you said, some people do assume that these are past hook ups. In fact, I got a lovely message from a guy the other week who said he wouldn’t have messaged me if I hadn’t had that on my profile. But maybe it would be more simple just to limit my friends to those I have met and who are real ‘friends’? Something for me to think about :). Thank you for your post… definitely taken as intended xx Much love Elle xx
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Hottie1
10 years ago
With the single men I have 'played' with how wonderfully respectful they are about other people on RHP. We have had 'general chats' about experiences on RHP but none have done the 'kissing and telling'. I've given validations to the single guys I've played with because I suspect they may need to 'prove' they are real and I've had a couple of women 'ask' me about certain young men. Other than that, I've not had discussions with anyone about my 'RHP dates'. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Further WA is a small place full stop, never mind the RHP version. I have been very deliberate in keeping my RHP meets discrete and agree, general discussions of RHP are fine but the kiss and tell type are not on for me. Fortunately this has also been the position of my partners. Apparently there is an extensive women's "network" in WA I guess that could work either for or against but I'm not planning on finding out either way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do the same rules apply for couples about other couples? Singles I get as some of you are after either the one or the one to have some fun with for a while leading to something more serious ad if on a date outside of RHP you wouldn't roll up and talk about who you did last week / night.Singles talking about other singles and 'conquests' does seem out of place in a one on one date but what about couples? We are fairly up front (possibly to our detriment we are learning) about our meets - never really into detail but certainly"we can't meet that night, already committed to another" " yes played with that guy / girl and was good/bad" etc. seems others we meet are the same.Just trying to find the fine line i guess between saying "we are real" and "we keep blowing people off cause we are not real" Interested to hear some other couples opinions... Mr PJxx
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Hawt1
10 years ago
Say "I have tried this a few times e.g. slept inside a lady and I'd really love to do it again?" Or people prefer to think some one has had absolutely no experience with another, a virgin! I understand its matter of tact discussing some things, bragging and naming... BOOO (unless ofcourse they were a total ass and deserve a good burn). For myself I quite enjoy hearing a good sexy story, but I don't need to know when or whom.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I find it somewhat ironic that the people who in their profiles (guys, primarily) promote their discrete/discreat/discreet approach..... usually have the most friends and validations. How is that an expression of discretion?Seems to me to more likely be a case of the hard sales pitch. Or random friend collector to increase sale potential. A friends list can also be an interesting thing to evaluate someone. Im generally not big on adding friends, or validations. We're all adults in here..... we all know the drill.... we all know the implied reason for joining....... advertising connections to me seems all a bit.... trying too hard to encourage others to like you. I have only chosen to meet a select handful of people... but that doesnt mean I took it further than meeting them. If asked, I answer just what I wrote above. Playing the numbers game doesnt help anyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
From my experiences here I cannot say for I have none as yet. But in my life I have known both men and women who like all to know where and who they have been with, mostly males though. I have found that it is the less confident ones who have the need to tell as I think it kind of gives them a boost to talk of their, shall we say conquests. I have even had guys want to show me photos and videos of these said conquests. No I did not look as I found it quite disturbing and frankly bloody inconsiderate to me and their sexual partners.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couldn't agree with you more 50z... Perth is not just small, it's tiny - more like two or three degrees of separation instead of six :/ Hawt1 - I don't have any problem with general talk about experiences as per your example. I'm so not naive as to think that my playmates have lived totally celibate lives prior to us hooking up. I'd probably freak out if they had been... I need a man who knows his way around a woman's body ;) Nor am I in denial about my playmates meeting up with other people. We are all on this site to meet people, be it for ONS, NSA, FWB or something more, so of course my playmates are seeing others - I sure am. I just don't share the details :) Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Elle67' I guess my point is that I don’t want to hear about the sex that the guy had last night, or last week, or last month when he’s about to have sex with me tonight. I do like talking about experiences (though usually only when asked), and I wouldn't mind a guy saying "I once met a woman here, whom I did ... with. Less fond of hearing about current lovers. But there's a time and a place where I'm concerned, and right before sex isn't one of them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Hawt1' Say "I have tried this a few times e.g. slept inside a lady and I'd really love to do it again?" Was this meant to go on the Large Pussies thread?
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RHP User
10 years ago
quoting ms_silk "I agree that it should not be discussed about previous RHP hookups. Perhaps he was just trying to prove a point to you that he wasnt one of those people that we all dislike. That he infact treated everyone well and had there respect. Point though is if he went on and on about it is probably just made him look like a sleaze fine line I say." I do agree with the fine line between sleaze and respect... But.... If I'm a guy that is genuine, respectful, etc...do I really need to build a case to prove it through talking about my past partners?? I don't believe I do. By concentrating on my partner or the potential partner whilst in the moment - be it at dinner, or just hanging out having some asexual fun - I am actually showing that to her without needing to reference previous experiences. To me; it shows that I'm delivering a resume, and not enjoying our time together. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes Elle you have another one agreeing with you discretion is the better part of valour. It is a fine line between discreet conversation and telling tales out of school. I don't think my special friend has ever visited RHP, I'm not even sure she's heard of it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
certainly an audit trail of who fucked who.Had someone who maintained, no we are just friends,only for a validation to appear for on both of their pages for each other not long after. Discretion. mmmmmm what's that?Thinking. No we don't do that either.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a big believer in the no kiss'n'tell process. Why would I want to share intimate details with someone I would like to be intimate with? My close friends over the years have learnt not to ask me who I have been with and so forth. It comes down to respecting the partner you have been with in the past and also to those in the future. Respect and chivalry cost nothing but the rewards could be endless.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Are of the approach to be socialising in a lifestyle for the circles of others amongst. We are not ashamed by being open sexually with others, quite proud actually because it shows the values for our relationship being of true friendship, equality, trust, care and freedom of self, has led to the path of belonging together of choice. We value our friends and all individually them self's. We have a meaning for only speaking of friends in that we would say to them as if they were in the same room. We only value discretion if it is not part of deceit, hurts or disrespect of another as included. We value our friends discretion as to each and them in person and will protect anything of privacies personally shared with us in trust we value that person who has befriended us in such. A way of life that is in everyone's best interests with a joyful trust in care Me' n' her' n' you is us as friends. If it tickles the fancy we are having fun and we enjoy tickling the fancy. Just to simplify things in amongst the dating scene, we already have the love to share, respectfully to those who are not entrusted with it for a start or don't have any friends. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
The" mere male" has rocked up to a date and he starts to talk about the one thing he knows the two of you have in common.... RHP......... you had the power to end the topic of discussion by saying how you felt about "kissing and telling" ...... a decent man would accept your request and respect it by talking about something else.....If he can't..... say goodnight .....You will be topic of conversation at his next date (if she allows it) but better to be the women that didn't put out than a blow by blow description of what you did do (same one he tells his mates). Telling your girlfriends or your mates about a date will always happen...the better it was the faster they know, but it's told with the assumption that they don't know the person....... What if they do but they have not kissed and told. As for the "validation".... Its just a four lettered word depending on your gender.....SLUT or STUD.I personally think RHP should take a member vote on removing it or keeping it.Because it is a part of a persons profile it gives them the right to ask for one....You have to right to say "NO" .... All you end up with is one person offended by being asked and one offended by refusal ....I vote dump it .....It's a string in a NSA world.
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RHP User
10 years ago
An eponymous post indeed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You all take life too seriously. Loosen up... it is a sex site. (yeah yeah, that was me trolling) Well, I know I have been asked if I could recommend any men by someone who has posted on this thread. I have received emails stating that they know "x, y or z" and since we all friends maybe I should consider bonking them as well. I have had women, who I personally I didn't even like, tell people that they know me and how they were supposed to have a threesome with me but for what ever reason it hasn't happened yet - how do I know this do you ask? Because her "date" emailed me to tell me all about the conversation they had and of course to let me know that she was only "all right" in bed. Apparently she was too bossy. Seriously I am only here for the forums and to attend swingers clubs and sex parties to watch all of you play while I do the running commentary.
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RHP User
10 years ago
or pissed off by the sounds of it....... thats a bit strong? I have a non sexual validation from someone who is now a good friend of mine. I have given non sexual ones. A validation is to say, Yes, Ive met this person and this is what I think about them. I dont like reading the very explicit ones, I dont think there is a need to go into detail, but each to their own? I will say to my girlfriend, "Oh, I had a great night last night" ( wink wink, ) but on a first date with a stranger, swapping root stories is a no no. Elle........WOW! That is a smoking profile pic! xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Besides, I totally want to hear about everyone's sexcapdes. Isn't that all part of the fun? Sheesh! Or is everyone's sexcapades totally boring? I have some great stories to tell which is why half my dates look at me like Bambi in the headlights.... clearly nice men but not for me... and the other half are nodding their head.... clearly men I will pound with my strapon later in the evening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Validations are important in this online world, as it proves someone is who they say they are. I see them as compliments, and I give them accordingly. A large percentage of people are here just for sex, so I will say if we had a great time in the sack! Others that I know are seeking more I will say more of who they are as a person. I also validate people who are just great people! I for one will pick someone with validations over someone without, and if it's from someone I know then bingo it's on!
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