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Tell Tale signs!
December 08 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a friend and I posed this to him last night .....Are you Married? same - on late at night, no weekends he has the kids, and he will travel to me. Oh well we'll see.
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RHP User
12 years ago
They never let me bite their neck
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RHP User
12 years ago
Having the wife and kids in tow was a dead giveaway for me once.
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RHP User
12 years ago
once contacted by a man on another site,his first message said... ''If we are to have sex,there will be no biting,scratching or kissing.You will not wear perfume and we will only meet during the day at your house''...goody I said,come right over.....maybe in hindsight he was married
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RHP User
12 years ago
idea coz I have never been married and don't have kids. Maybe they are playing you. I work nights so I turn off the mobile at times just so I can sleep properly. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
So many men lie about being in a relationship/ married etc.... The sign you have listed are all very correct and they will usually get defensive or abusive if you confront them about your suspicions otherwise they try to make you feel guilty for even considering it!!!! they sure can be a piece of work!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Honey if you give me a blow job, I will take out the garbage. they fold up there clothes all neat and tidy before slipping into bed. The say they are alergic to perfume They cant afford a hotel, unless they are from interstate and on business. The have two sims cards They get jumpy when the phone rings The say shit, have to go , I forgot I have a doctors, dentists, candlestickmakers apt They say there name is frank but when you say frank honey, they say what? ohh yea umm yes what is it? they never have codoms on them, sad but true they say god its been ages since I had my cock sucked they usually work for themselves so they can get away to meet you in the daytime. they never do sleep overs, unless again out of town If your walking with them and they see a friend, then your all of a sudden walking alone and they are no place to be seen.
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RHP User
12 years ago
They want to meet in a fancy hotel. At lunchtime. Their profile says they are separated. With the word Discreet somwhere else in the profile. Of course is the biggest give away is the wedding ring. In EVERY SINGLE photo.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I fit a few of those but I'm divorced :|
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RHP User
12 years ago
Or were we just after men here ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I thought as much! How many times does 1 get fooled by these overly charming characters? It is a sad world we live in. Others wonder why eveyone seems stand offish these days. Blame it on the liers that breath air and waste our time. I don't need discreet or a hidden affair. If they want me they can take me out in the open and show they have the balls to respect a woman. So over the crap, yep blame it on the wankers here online! Bring on he REAL men that have balls!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' once contacted by a man on another site,his first message said... ''If we are to have sex,there will be no biting,scratching or kissing.You will not wear perfume and we will only meet during the day at your house''...goody I said,come right over.....maybe in hindsight he was marriedI am sure that was a message i gt on another site too. So maybe i carry a perfum and squirt them,most men say they would love to see you squirt. LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a very discrete and private individual, and don't really want the details of my sex life discussed on morning breakfast programs - however, if I happen to be on a date from here and get spotted by someone I know it's not a huge deal, since nothing about being at a bar having a drink or two with a date/friend would be terribly out of the ordinary for anyone (unless the bar was a fetish club and I had electrodes hooked up to my nipples at the time.)Not wanting to be seen together in public is for me one of the clearest indicators that something's amiss. That, or I'm just spectacularly ugly and it's less out of infidelity, more out of shame.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ya sure are uggersNOHT
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
What a great topic!!! Tell you anything to keep you interested!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If they want to be discreet it's a give away. Also only available to meet during the day.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I also have rules when meeting someone and im not married / attached. I dont allow men to come to my house its in public or hotel as i like to keep my sexual life away from my personal life. My house my domaine its where my kids are and i dont like people seeing this umless they mean something to me. I also say no biting ( well anywhere the public can see) as i bruise very easily and in my line of work cant have visual signs of a good night and i dont want kids asking questions. If they are to meet in my town walking down town isnt a big deal but i wont introduce them to friends/ family. Then again i dont walk down the street with people i just have a sexual relationship with.
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RHP User
12 years ago
some are subtle.. some are obvious... But, I don't care!!. My arguement is simple to any man "I did not stand up in the church at your wedding and vow not to bonk your wife" "If she wants me, and comes after me... it is your and her issue.. " I have a reasonable list of.. ummm... outcomes on this subject... one in particular was so totally heartbreakingly bad.. it took me over 20 years to come to terms with. Others are humourous.. an EX Policeman still refers to me as "Redcord" because he reckons to wrap me in the explosive (redcord) and blow me up :) And actually being in a girls appartment when her man came home.. I have posted one particular incident of that here before. Short answer to the "OP" "Who cares??' If you want that persons sex.. DO IT ANYWAY :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was walking through Perth.. over the Horsehoe bridge a few years ago.. with a new squeeze Janine.. All of a sudden.. I hear a female voice... "Kio.. " I turn around.. Lo and behold... "Hello Lee.... " "Lee, this is my girlfriend Janine... Janine.. this s my wife Leanne" Poor Janine.. Lee just laughed.. and stuck her hand out to shake.. But.. But.. there was a fella sitting on the bridge wall eating his Macca's or whatever burger... HE choked on his food... and almost fell over the edge onto the train rails.. That made everyone laugh..
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RHP User
12 years ago
What did Janine say when she finished laughing?
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RHP User
12 years ago
1. They only contact you after 8 in the morning?Actually, better make that 9. Getting the kids off to school kinda takes all my energy before then.2. Contact after 9:30 at night?Yep....that's when "me" time starts, after the kids go to bed.3. Always getting offline at tea?Again, yep. Gotta feed the family (and myself), you know..4. Mobile was on silent, and they didn't hear your message?I rarely have my phone on silent, however, I could be driving (not even gonna look at it then), or flying (won't hear it over the cockpit noise and my headset). Regardless, messages get answered when the opportunity arises, which ain't necessarily right away.5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night?My kids never "just pop in"....they live here with me, so they stay every night.Guess I must be married or partnered then, according to these "telltale" signs. If you find my wife/partner, please let me know. She's been missing for the last three years.
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
they are very general reasons and fit many scenarios not just married and cheating.I think the main ones are daytime meets only and not at their place.No visible bite sucking or scratch marks and no perfume or lipstick....lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'partygoer101' I also say no biting ( well anywhere the public can see) as i bruise very easily and in my line of work cant have visual signs of a good night You know who you are, you creature of the night!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' they are very general reasons and fit many scenarios not just married and cheating.I think the main ones are daytime meets only and not at their place.No visible bite sucking or scratch marks and no perfume or lipstick....lol ...but daytime meets mean I don't have to arrange a babysitter.Visible bite, sucking or scratch marks....well, just not really a fan of them.Perfume - I have allergies to many perfume-type products.Can't think of anything for lippy, though....unless it has perfume in it
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RHP User
12 years ago
on your collar,told a tale on you....
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Don't wear lipstick especially red long lasting lipstick by Maybelline...It is a bitch to get off his cock! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
She was fine.. Slapped me... asked about the marriage.. then laughed about it all... and used to tell the story herself :) we had been separated for 4 years or something.. just hadn't bothered with the paperwork... Obviously we were still friends.. that is NOT the case now:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I.....love that song :D
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good for you,don't take offense if it isn't right of you. Just generalising as usaual Am I BAD!!!! Blame it on the wankers that do that make your life harder! 1. They only contact you after 8 in the morning? Actually, better make that 9. Getting the kids off to school kinda takes all my energy before then. 2. Contact after 9:30 at night? Yep....that's when "me" time starts, after the kids go to bed. 3. Always getting offline at tea? Again, yep. Gotta feed the family (and myself), you know.. 4. Mobile was on silent, and they didn't hear your message? I rarely have my phone on silent, however, I could be driving (not even gonna look at it then), or flying (won't hear it over the cockpit noise and my headset). Regardless, messages get answered when the opportunity arises, which ain't necessarily right away. 5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night? My kids never "just pop in"....they live here with me, so they stay every night. Guess I must be married or partnered then, according to these "telltale" signs. If you find my wife/partner, please let me know. She's been missing for the last three years.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good for you,don't take offense if it isn't right of you. Just generalising as usaual Am I BAD!!!! Blame it on the wankers that do that make your life harder! 1. They only contact you after 8 in the morning? Actually, better make that 9. Getting the kids off to school kinda takes all my energy before then. 2. Contact after 9:30 at night? Yep....that's when "me" time starts, after the kids go to bed. 3. Always getting offline at tea? Again, yep. Gotta feed the family (and myself), you know.. 4. Mobile was on silent, and they didn't hear your message? I rarely have my phone on silent, however, I could be driving (not even gonna look at it then), or flying (won't hear it over the cockpit noise and my headset). Regardless, messages get answered when the opportunity arises, which ain't necessarily right away. 5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night? My kids never "just pop in"....they live here with me, so they stay every night. Guess I must be married or partnered then, according to these "telltale" signs. If you find my wife/partner, please let me know. She's been missing for the last three years.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx Well at the beginning of next year anyway....just no time right now. I agree with Funloving.....and others who have said the so called tellale signs could just be because of their circumstance not that they are necessarily married/attached. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is definitely more the gut feeling I get when reading/seeing/hearing certain things, than those things by themselves. They guy that wanted to meet at the Shangri-La at lunch time just gave me a feeling something was way off. The same could have happened if he'd asked me for a night time drink I suppose. Point taken!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx Somebody really wants a cheesecake!
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx Somebody really wants a cheesecake! I do want one of your cheesecakes .. I do ... I do! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx Somebody really wants a cheesecake! I do want one of your cheesecakes .. I do ... I do! xFunlovingx nomnomnomnomnomnomnomnom
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'Manly_McHardon' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! xFunlovingx Somebody really wants a cheesecake! I do want one of your cheesecakes .. I do ... I do! xFunlovingx nomnomnomnomnomnomnomnom Your cheesecake...my thigh highs....me laying back eating the cheesecake....You eating whatever you like! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you girls can't go off your gut feeling about a guy and his marital status then more fool you! And if you go on this list of "Tell Tale" signs then you are missing out on great guys like Manly! Do what I do...ASK...it's called communication! I have had guys who have "Single" profiles on here but when I ask they actually tell the truth! Try it sometime and don't shoot them down if they are married...That is why they hide their true status...The abuse they get on here is unreal! Don't want a married/attached guy? Then just delete and block without the abuse and if they are hot..Send them my way! just va converrsation xFunlovingxJust a matter of Fact! I am no fool and my Tell tale sign topic was just general conversation. I do not abuse people,,I Do ask them if they are Married etc and still get the lies. One would have to think Iwas some kind of C,,t If i did the same as was done to me! I do not go arounf F...king other ladies mans. There are plenty of good single men out there. Maybe I dont need others to make me happy as I have the ability to be selective. This was just a topic not an abuse. Each to their own.
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DelightfulTwo
12 years ago
We first met on a dating site, unbeknownst to each other, we were both separated yet still married and still living with our partners 16 months after the event (separation). Try getting past that stage, well it was how it was and although there was always doubt on both sides, we worked through it and came out through the other side. Through both of our experiences, while it was a rarity, it does and can happen, just restrict yourself from jumping to conclusions 99% of the time . Anyway back to your question, I got no idea
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RHP User
12 years ago
My day yesterday 5.30am: Get out of bed, make lunches for me and the kids. 6.00am: Feed the dogs 6.10am: Reply to work emails, send faxes and quotes and plan the day. 6.40am: Iron 2 x school uniforms and 1 x work clothes, shower, tidy kitchen, load dishwasher, put on a load of washing, put previous load in dryer, have a coffee and some toast. 8.00am: Shower and get dressed 8.30am: Drop kids at school then head into work. 5.00pm: head home picking up any groceries etc 5.40pm: Arrive home to find ex spending time with the kids (this is a good thing) 5.50pm: Feed pets 6.00pm: Cook dinner for kids, ex and I and eat 7.00pm: Ex goes home and I assist with homework, listen to the days schoolyard drama and excitement (ex has heard it already) 8.00pm: Take washing out of machine and place in dryer, fold clothes that were already in dryer 8.15pm: Walk dogs and kids 8.45pm: Find Christmas tree and decorations for tomorrow nights activities with the kids 9.00pm: Kids to bed and I attend any paperwork for work. 9.30pm: Lay on the carpet with the dogs watching something I pre recorded on Foxtell because I was too busy to watch it earlier. 10.30pm: Go to bed Yeh must be married..... I have a friend who is single and raising a disabled child and I can't imagine the difficulty they have in just finding a half hour to themselves let alone meeting a partner and having some sort of relationship. I'm a devoted father, nothing takes priority over my family and although I may not be in a relationship with the mother of my children, her wellbeing both mentally and physically is a major priority if for no other reason than it's important to my kids. To me, keeping my adult activity seperate from my life at home is a sensible and responsible thing, the ex doesn't deserve to feel like an intruder or inconvenience at the home of her kids and the kids don't need at this stage to feel like dads replacing their mum so soon. It's funny how nobody questions when a woman 1. Only contacts you after 8 in the morning 2. Only contacts you after 9.30 at night 3. Is always getting offline at tea 4. Her mobile was on silent and they didn't hear your message. FFS my mum does that! 5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night? Without the help of my family and the cooperation of my ex I'd never do any of the activities I'm passionate about, I'd be a slave to the kids, pets, work and the house and probably top myself. It's got me completely fucked how single parents who aren't self employed or high income earners manage because I honestly don't think I could! But yeh, keep thinking he's married. I suppose that's easier to swallow than accepting you're not at the top of his priority list.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dirtynaughtysex, Yes I may be wrong not writing there is an exception. So My appoligies. I should have taken note there is a few exceptions, AN I BAD? lol. Yes it is hard for singled parents,I was one and I got through just the way you have done,except I was in a state all on my own,new to the state and no family to help. No car and very little money or furniture. So I do understand the struggle of many a parent and it is good to see it is both women and men that are raising the kids today. Shame that my x wasn't there to help out with reading books and homework though. That would have been a luxury!!!! Oh and 6 yrs of being on my own struggling,no phone or mobile I use to drag my children to a pay phone to get back to someone. How hard is it to return a message saying hey too busy atm" LOL Thanks once again. I suppose i can't complain lol have a guy sending me "Hi" every couple of hrs, one day he will get sick of that donn't you think??? Crazy world we live in. I would give my left breast to have the struggle with my children all over again,that is a journey I will never forget. They are great working adults and I am 1 proud women!
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RHP User
12 years ago
personally I dont care if they are married ...but am finding that married men do lie alot more about EVERYTHING ....and often stand you up or dont reconfirm a meet ....leaving u wondering wtf ...single men are far less complicated ...just keep your phone on silent or u will get messages at 3am when pissed
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmmm food for thought, I admit i needed this wake up .........and i deserve a slap because i'm in exactly the same situation as you and feel the same way. My Ex is still very much a part of our lives as we share custody and i want my kids to know i do love their dad as a wonderful human being. I' guess i could also tick all those check boxes and maybe some have assumed i'm married?? Quoting 'Dirtynaughtysex' My day yesterday 5.30am: Get out of bed, make lunches for me and the kids. 6.00am: Feed the dogs 6.10am: Reply to work emails, send faxes and quotes and plan the day. 6.40am: Iron 2 x school uniforms and 1 x work clothes, shower, tidy kitchen, load dishwasher, put on a load of washing, put previous load in dryer, have a coffee and some toast. 8.00am: Shower and get dressed 8.30am: Drop kids at school then head into work. 5.00pm: head home picking up any groceries etc 5.40pm: Arrive home to find ex spending time with the kids (this is a good thing) 5.50pm: Feed pets 6.00pm: Cook dinner for kids, ex and I and eat 7.00pm: Ex goes home and I assist with homework, listen to the days schoolyard drama and excitement (ex has heard it already) 8.00pm: Take washing out of machine and place in dryer, fold clothes that were already in dryer 8.15pm: Walk dogs and kids 8.45pm: Find Christmas tree and decorations for tomorrow nights activities with the kids 9.00pm: Kids to bed and I attend any paperwork for work. 9.30pm: Lay on the carpet with the dogs watching something I pre recorded on Foxtell because I was too busy to watch it earlier. 10.30pm: Go to bed Yeh must be married..... I have a friend who is single and raising a disabled child and I can't imagine the difficulty they have in just finding a half hour to themselves let alone meeting a partner and having some sort of relationship. I'm a devoted father, nothing takes priority over my family and although I may not be in a relationship with the mother of my children, her wellbeing both mentally and physically is a major priority if for no other reason than it's important to my kids. To me, keeping my adult activity seperate from my life at home is a sensible and responsible thing, the ex doesn't deserve to feel like an intruder or inconvenience at the home of her kids and the kids don't need at this stage to feel like dads replacing their mum so soon. It's funny how nobody questions when a woman 1. Only contacts you after 8 in the morning 2. Only contacts you after 9.30 at night 3. Is always getting offline at tea 4. Her mobile was on silent and they didn't hear your message. FFS my mum does that! 5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night? Without the help of my family and the cooperation of my ex I'd never do any of the activities I'm passionate about, I'd be a slave to the kids, pets, work and the house and probably top myself. It's got me completely fucked how single parents who aren't self employed or high income earners manage because I honestly don't think I could! But yeh, keep thinking he's married. I suppose that's easier to swallow than accepting you're not at the top of his priority list.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My profile states I am single but in my profile I highlight the fact that I am married. Some people on here respect that I am open with them up front but politely decline my approach to them. Others refuse to meet or acknowledge messages. I get it and understand...don't like it but understand as most of the time it a fear of potentially getting caught up in someone else's marital strife. The reason I tick single is that at least there is a chance of someone opening my profile and liking what they read or hear and maybe getting in touch when they otherwise wouldn't if I had ticked "married". I give my reasons as to why I am on here. I know there is a few.... not many, but a few on here that don't have an issue about me being married. I thank those that I have exchanged messages and those that I have met. Have conversed and met some pretty nice people so far and look forward to meeting more at some stage. I respect everyone's right to decide who they spend their time with and what they do is their own business but don't judge others as so often happens on here from what I have seen and read in these forums. Can be pretty dangerous providing a single broad brush stroke to all as a character assessment. No one truly knows anyone until you have walked in their shoes. Who is anyone else to judge how another behaves. Each of us has to look at ourselves in the mirror each morning...that person should be the sole judge of what we do and say.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...asking them???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Also meant to add that I have commitments to kids and my wife and job they will always come first so I will call, message and meet when I can work in and around those priorities. Being on this site for me is about having a bit of fun, meeting new people and satisfying curiosity about sex and human behavior. I have approached the subject of bringing others into our relationship but the wife isn't keen and don't want to pressure her, but the reality is I still have this huge burning urge, desire, curiosity..whatever you want to call it that I find hard to ignore. The weird thing is, I have learned to appreciate her much more since joining this site and I realise how good I really do have it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Dirtynaughtysex' My day yesterday 5.30am: Get out of bed, make lunches for me and the kids. 6.00am: Feed the dogs 6.10am: Reply to work emails, send faxes and quotes and plan the day. 6.40am: Iron 2 x school uniforms and 1 x work clothes, shower, tidy kitchen, load dishwasher, put on a load of washing, put previous load in dryer, have a coffee and some toast. 8.00am: Shower and get dressed 8.30am: Drop kids at school then head into work. 5.00pm: head home picking up any groceries etc 5.40pm: Arrive home to find ex spending time with the kids (this is a good thing) 5.50pm: Feed pets 6.00pm: Cook dinner for kids, ex and I and eat 7.00pm: Ex goes home and I assist with homework, listen to the days schoolyard drama and excitement (ex has heard it already) 8.00pm: Take washing out of machine and place in dryer, fold clothes that were already in dryer 8.15pm: Walk dogs and kids 8.45pm: Find Christmas tree and decorations for tomorrow nights activities with the kids 9.00pm: Kids to bed and I attend any paperwork for work. 9.30pm: Lay on the carpet with the dogs watching something I pre recorded on Foxtell because I was too busy to watch it earlier. 10.30pm: Go to bed Yeh must be married..... I have a friend who is single and raising a disabled child and I can't imagine the difficulty they have in just finding a half hour to themselves let alone meeting a partner and having some sort of relationship. I'm a devoted father, nothing takes priority over my family and although I may not be in a relationship with the mother of my children, her wellbeing both mentally and physically is a major priority if for no other reason than it's important to my kids. To me, keeping my adult activity seperate from my life at home is a sensible and responsible thing, the ex doesn't deserve to feel like an intruder or inconvenience at the home of her kids and the kids don't need at this stage to feel like dads replacing their mum so soon. It's funny how nobody questions when a woman 1. Only contacts you after 8 in the morning 2. Only contacts you after 9.30 at night 3. Is always getting offline at tea 4. Her mobile was on silent and they didn't hear your message. FFS my mum does that! 5. The kids just popped in and want to stay the night? Without the help of my family and the cooperation of my ex I'd never do any of the activities I'm passionate about, I'd be a slave to the kids, pets, work and the house and probably top myself. It's got me completely fucked how single parents who aren't self employed or high income earners manage because I honestly don't think I could! But yeh, keep thinking he's married. I suppose that's easier to swallow than accepting you're not at the top of his priority list. For the whole of November, I had about 2 days off. My hours were typically 9am until 7:30pm, with a 30km commute in both directions. I spent time with people who threatened to vomit, pass out, scream in my ear, or who were just doing their level best to kill me. Some nights, I was so wrung out, I was barely able to make the drive home, only to repeat the process the next day (but I love what I do!). My parents took up the slack, for which I am eternally grateful - my ex lives interstate, and has nothing to do with the day-to-day upbringing of our children.Thankfully, I received some news today which will see me with more normal hours, and better pay....but still working 6 days/week to make ends meet, and give my kids all they deserve.Single parents all do it tough, I consider myself one of the lucky ones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
are wary of married men.I don't judge and have had lovers in the past who were married.Each person has their reason but often people are not honest about their relationship status and I think that is why Tease posted this topic in the first place.Every point she makes in her initial post has a question mark after it. If you feel strongly about not having sex with a married person because of past experience or personal preference then it can be quite distressing when you find out that someone is attached.Married people are usually just not available either physically or emotionally,and it can put you in a difficult position if there partner finds out. I have been a single parent like you Dirtynaughty and Manly,I had very little support,just paid childcare,a very responsible job and so I gave up on a personal life . Single parents indeed do it tough and I admire anyone who puts the needs of their family over their personal needs.Good luck to you both.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for taking note this was not a personal threat to anyone,just questioning . Quoting 'Freya13' are wary of married men.I don't judge and have had lovers in the past who were married.Each person has their reason but often people are not honest about their relationship status and I think that is why Tease posted this topic in the first place.Every point she makes in her initial post has a question mark after it. If you feel strongly about not having sex with a married person because of past experience or personal preference then it can be quite distressing when you find out that someone is attached.Married people are usually just not available either physically or emotionally,and it can put you in a difficult position if there partner finds out. I have been a single parent like you Dirtynaughty and Manly,I had very little support,just paid childcare,a very responsible job and so I gave up on a personal life . Single parents indeed do it tough and I admire anyone who puts the needs of their family over their personal needs.Good luck to you both.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
I prefer not to chat or meet with attached/married men and dont appreciate it when a man decides that my right to chose is totally irrelevant. I have been on the receiving end of some rather nasty emails from a 'single' man's wife because I have chatted with him several times at his request and he happened to save our chats on his computer for his 9 year old son to find....really clever I know and as she clearly pointed out...not his fault but mine because I am a fat ugly dirty disgusting whore that forced him into it. I had also met another 'single' guy a couple of times before he decided to tell me that he too was attached. I really don't care if a guy (or woman) is married or attached and looking to play, that is totally up to them. It is also totally up to me that I chose not to play with them. I personally ask straight out like others suggest and state plainly in my profile that I am not interested but they still try it on just like the 25 year olds looking to put a cougar notch on their bedposts. Go with your gut....or don't meet anyone at all and there is no danger of making a mistake then. Some people are just always gonna try it on and they don't know you so they dont care if it is against your own standards and are just after the excitement that cheating and lying brings.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'de_mystifyde'I prefer not to chat or meet with attached/married men and dont appreciate it when a man decides that my right to chose is totally irrelevant. I have been on the receiving end of some rather nasty emails from a 'single' man's wife because I have chatted with him several times at his request and he happened to save our chats on his computer for his 9 year old son to find....really clever I know and as she clearly pointed out...not his fault but mine because I am a fat ugly dirty disgusting whore that forced him into it. I had also met another 'single' guy a couple of times before he decided to tell me that he too was attached. I really don't care if a guy (or woman) is married or attached and looking to play, that is totally up to them. It is also totally up to me that I chose not to play with them. I personally ask straight out like others suggest and state plainly in my profile that I am not interested but they still try it on just like the 25 year olds looking to put a cougar notch on their bedposts. Go with your gut....or don't meet anyone at all and there is no danger of making a mistake then. Some people are just always gonna try it on and they don't know you so they dont care if it is against your own standards and are just after the excitement that cheating and lying brings. Yes i hear you! Had a lady ring me as well,heard a baby crying in the background. Very sad, I feel for the children and the partener. So when she asked me what we had done, I told the whole truth and nothing but the truth,like you said they don't care they don't know you. Reminder to any guy from me, lie and if your girl rings NO discretion. I am an honest women,don't try to fool another. So much so I make sure everyone knows I am plus sized in the 1st few messages and i ask are you single? Fair is Fair in any game!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Married men on here are a pack of lying bastards.And the married women on here are..............? It's one of the realities of the place that you have to cope with, along with alcoholism, drugs, disease and nut cases, instinct and due diligence are required just like any other facet of life.I dual parent with two children under 12 so I am sucked into that whirlpool too.And I am week about, just to add to the confusion, but I must admit, being self employed helps a lot !Don't forget OP you are in the position where we come to you and you get to choose. We on the other hand have to read the profile thoroughly, compose a custom letter for each contact because we're lazy and disrespectful if we use a pro forma, bla bla bla..............Might go and read the man bashing thread again.
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FunTimeLords
12 years ago
Their partner answers the phone.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Where in My post Does it say MEN? It could be anyone. Get over yourself and stop thinking everything you read is directed at you. LOL Quoting '50zcool'Married men on here are a pack of lying bastards. And the married women on here are..............? It's one of the realities of the place that you have to cope with, along with alcoholism, drugs, disease and nut cases, instinct and due diligence are required just like any other facet of life. I dual parent with two children under 12 so I am sucked into that whirlpool too. And I am week about, just to add to the confusion, but I must admit, being self employed helps a lot ! Don't forget OP you are in the position where we come to you and you get to choose. We on the other hand have to read the profile thoroughly, compose a custom letter for each contact because we're lazy and disrespectful if we use a pro forma, bla bla bla.............. Might go and read the man bashing thread again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Dungeonlovers' Their partner answers the phone..... Yes that happens too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Teasegoddess, the scales have balanced somewhat since I posted , but I was not necessarily referring to your original post but the mancentric replies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
some of the things posted here i couldve applied to myself at one time.....I spent a few years as single dad with almost 100% care of two kids...coincided with being here as a single. it never intruded on my ability to respond to messages/phone calls/emails, and only rarely meant i couldnt meet.... most women were absolutely accommodating and understanding of my situation, and i found it was taken as a plus more often than not... so much so that at one point i was a little overwhelmed by how many women were asking me out....lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'Teasegoddess, the scales have balanced somewhat since I posted , but I was not necessarily referring to your original post but the mancentric replies.Oh i was on the understanding OP was for the person posting lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Exchange emails before giving your phone number. A lady friend tells me she's an expert at weeding them out very early. She says, read between the lines of their emails. It's not what they say that gives them away it's what they don't say!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Honey if you give me a blow job, I will take out the garbage. they fold up there clothes all neat and tidy before slipping into bed. The say they are alergic to perfume They cant afford a hotel, unless they are from interstate and on business. The have two sims cards They get jumpy when the phone rings The say shit, have to go , I forgot I have a doctors, dentists, candlestickmakers apt They say there name is frank but when you say frank honey, they say what? ohh yea umm yes what is it? they never have codoms on them, sad but true they say god its been ages since I had my cock sucked they usually work for themselves so they can get away to meet you in the daytime. they never do sleep overs, unless again out of town If your walking with them and they see a friend, then your all of a sudden walking alone and they are no place to be seen. now thats what I call an insight
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