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The Backhanded Compliment
January 31 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
One I hear said to women all the time is: "You're really pretty for a big girl." I think that's dreadful. . Will have a think about ones being made to me. . Though a guy at an orgy told me once " You look just like Karen Carpenter. But healthier". I think he meant it as a genuine compliment though. .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Question for the guys: What do you think of the examples given by the OP? My ex was completely blind to them, so is it only the women that pick up on the ones they make to each other? . And just thought of one said to me: "You look so... healthy, have you put on weight?"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah the "healthy" thing has been code for weight gain amongst women for decades. Side track: What pisses me off lately is when people congratulate me on losing weight when the reason I lost it was severe mental health issues, depression took away all my love for food and all the joy from my life and weight just fell off me. But people presume that any time a woman loses weight it's an amazing and commendable achievement (until we get TOO thin, that is) and something she must have fought really hard for. "You look great" they say, "You looked like shit before" is what I hear sometimes. Even when a compliment isn't backhanded, sometimes I can find a backhand in there anyway. My own worst enemy, I know!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kevin bloody Wilson "for a fat chick, you don't sweat that much!!" :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
This also an old trick men use to attract women, especially those considered conventionally beautiful. The idea behind this being that these women are not used to being criticized, so it will instantly grab their attention and play on their vulnerabilities. . In The Big Bang Theory this theory was tested, though without much success... . Howard: "I say Penny, not a lot of women could look as hot as you do with such greasy hair."
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RHP User
11 years ago
Neg: A light insult wrapped in the package of a complement. Used by pick-up artists to gain and maintain the attention of women who possess uncommon beauty (9+). These women are immune to standard complements. . Guy - "you have beautiful nails, are they real?" (9+) -"not really" Guy - "Oh, I guess that's still cool" . Source: Urban Dictionary (Edited).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mea you're talking about "negging" as described in the popular pick up artistry book "The Game". I encourage all women to read this book so you know when you've got tactics coming at you. I am not a game! I am fun to play with however :)
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madotara69
11 years ago
No married woman would keep herself in that shape. Mado Tara xx
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luvsilver
11 years ago
have messaged Mrs Luv and told her how amazing she looks ---- for her age-lol Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow you must have been hot when you were young...
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Are we privy to her reply?
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RHP User
11 years ago
No idea they were backhanded compliments lol I have said to a girl "you wear this dress real well, but not like her *pointing to another in exact same*. She wasn't happy lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
wow, you're pretty slim but its just the big boobs
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RHP User
11 years ago
A female friend of mine referred to another of our female friends as having "an amazing body, pity the gym/training cant do anything about the head"
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RHP User
11 years ago
A guy told me, after he'd seen my photo... "You're very pretty, but looks aren't important to me, pretty girls are often duds in bed". !!! Oh yes, he got very far with that!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Small boobs look fine on you because you're so short Blonde really suits you but the glasses don't go with it because they make you look smart?? AKA dumb blonde ;p I'm glad you got your hair roots done today it looks pretty , it makes a nice view when walking next to you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' A guy told me, after he'd seen my photo... "You're very pretty, but looks aren't important to me, pretty girls are often duds in bed". !!! Oh yes, he got very far with that! hahah, what an awkward thing to say... it sounds like that silly pandering "oh I'm so enlightened, if I say this I won't sound shallow" type
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're surprisingly intelligent.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A regular player I hadn't seen for a few weeks, "hello L, you're looking great, have you had some work done?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Me: I've put on too much weight, time to lose it now. Colleague: Just leave it, you're not that fat. . That. Fat. .
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're sexier than a lot of the girls my age. Ummmm, how exactly is this a compliment????
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RHP User
11 years ago
He's saying...."for an old duck.....you pass!!" Bahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch'Mea you're talking about "negging" as described in the popular pick up artistry book "The Game". I encourage all women to read this book so you know when you've got tactics coming at you. I am not a game! I am fun to play with however :) Manipulate my body any time, but not my mind. . I've had this stuff used on me here and it really gets my goat. Ladies, ever received a lovely message from a guy where he has a little dig at something in your profile? Maybe your spelling, height or something you like? Classic Neg. Looking4, I actually don't see a problem with that one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot'He's saying...."for an old duck.....you pass!!" What if a twenty year-old girl told a forty year-old man she finds guys his age much sexier then the ones her own age? I don't see that as a backhanded compliment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"The Most Beautiful Girl (In The Room)" By Flight of the Conchords Yeah-ahh... Looking round the room, I can tell that you Are the most beautiful girl in the...room. In the whole wide room Oooh. And when you're on the street Depending on the street I bet you are definitely in the top three Good looking girls on the street...yeah... And depending on the street, ooh... And when I saw you at my mate's place I thought what...is...she...doing... At my mate's place How did Dave get a hottie like that to a party like this? Good one Dave!!! Ooohhhh you're a legend, Dave! I asked Dave if he's going to make a move on you He's not sure I said "Dave do you mind if I do?" He says he doesn't mind but I can tell he kinda minds but I'm gonna do it anyway I see you standing all alone by the stereo I dim the lights down very low, here we go You're so beautiful (beautiful) You could be a waitress You're so beautiful (beautiful) You could be an air hostess in the 60s You're so beautiful-ul-ul... You could be a part...time...model And then I seal the deal I do my moves I do my dance moves Both of my dance moves Ohh-ohh-ohh, ohh-ohh-ohh! It's twelve-oh-two Just me and you And seven other dudes Around you on the dance floor I draw you near Let's get outta here Let's get in a cab I'll buy you a kebab! Now I can't believe That I'm sharing a kebab with the most beautiful girl I have ever seen With a kebab Ooooooohhh. Why don't we leave? Let's go to my house and we can feel each other up on the couch Oh no. I don't mind taking it slow-ho-ho, no-ho-ho, yeah. Cause you're so beautiful Like a, tree Or a high-class prostitute You're so beautiful-ul-ul... Mmm, you could be a part-time model But you'd probably have to keep your normal job A part-time model! Spending part of your time, modeling, and part of your time, next to meeeeeeeeee! And the rest of your time doing your normal job... Ooh...ohh...ooh. My place is usually tidier than this...Of check it out on you tubehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YIxpNPhAQE
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67'Wow you must have been hot when you were young... Classic!
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RHP User
11 years ago
But your statement is a generalisation.... The original comment didn't make her age group the target but instead her. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
OMG, I love your dress, where did you get it? It would be perfect for my 80's party next weekend.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
" Oh you didn't realize you gave me a back-handed comment? Well let me demonstrate the 'Back-hand" part of my hand, then we can move onto the compliment" FOXY
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Chillymofo
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Stir_it_alot'He's saying...."for an old duck.....you pass!!" What if a twenty year-old girl told a forty year-old man she finds guys his age much sexier then the ones her own age? I don't see that as a backhanded compliment. I am with you on this one Meander - Cant see the prob!I often let Mrs Rough know when we are out and about in old Brissie town, how she would put to shame all the women half her age. I am now worried it may be conceived as a backhanded compliment
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RHP User
11 years ago
luvitruf.... no, because you are saying that with honest sincerity. No hidden meaning there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I once asked a hottie how long she's been growing her hair ? She replied with ' all my life ' .. Obviously a standard reply from someone who had been asked more than once.. Stopped me there and then... I asked for it... ? but then again, her hair was down to the back of her knee's..
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Originalbadboy
11 years ago
Also, That was mind blowing, how can a guy like you do that? I never thought you were going to able to do that! I wish I had put more time aside for this, you were better than others your age. {seriously WTF?} Your a lot fitter than you look. That is an awesome harley, how could you afford that? It was so nice of you to order sushi! Back when I was your age, I used to cook a 3 course meal, we would never even had thought to eat exotic foods like this. After that stunning meal you cooked the other day when we came over, we thought you wouldn't be able to do a simple dish. I don’t usually like that hairstyle, it looks great on you! I wasn't going to do you but I was dared to, but that was the most fun I've had with a guy in a long time and now I want to see you again. Are you free tomorrow? Obbi "Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try." - Jack Canfield
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RHP User
11 years ago
"You have such a beautiful face, skin and an awesome personality ... You just need to loose some weight" "I'm happy with who I am and if you don't like it that's your problem." As the lyrics go "you can't please everyone so gotta please yourself!" Sara x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love that song, FOTC are so fucking funny
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your actually quite pretty, well you would be if you lost 50kg -___- (My cousin got into the final 2 of ANTM and we got to meet him at the finale - wanker) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
11 years ago
fuck you look good riding me, I love the way your boobs move, if you lost some weight I could see my cock sliding into your pussy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
who find themselves being negged as per The Game, would do well to learn the art of 'return negging'. e.g. "Aww...you were so cute until you opened your mouth", "Hmm...for an asshole you have a nice smile"
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I agree. Negging...always a negative isn't there and very subtle. FOXY
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
How f*cking rude! F*ck that!! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nice swimwear, you're brave wearing that.Good driving for a woman.Great, but I think you need some more practice.I liked dinner, do you mind if I cook next time.Love your name, how do you pronounce it again.You look good in that but I think you should try something else.Black really suits you, its very slimming.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch' Side track: What pisses me off lately is when people congratulate me on losing weight when the reason I lost it was severe mental health issues, depression took away all my love for food and all the joy from my life and weight just fell off me. But people presume that any time a woman loses weight it's an amazing and commendable achievement (until we get TOO thin, that is) and something she must have fought really hard for. Three or four months after I separated in 2006, I ran into a couple of blokes I hadn't seen for a while. They said "You in training ? Shit you're looking fit." I said "Yeah, it's marvellous what happens when two of your children hate your guts and don't want to see you."
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Best one ever. Me: Does my arss look good in this? Man: You look great darling but your arss does look a little larger than normal. Foxy
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StuntNuts
11 years ago
Not only the ultimate back handed compliment but also the most confidence shattering rejection(s) I've ever had."You're such a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship." So I'm nice enough of a guy to be friends with but clearly not good enough to actually date.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's not backhanded, that's a guy being honest and not knowing when to stop. . . And Blindman, you are way to good at them...
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's not backhanded, that's a guy being honest and not knowing when to stop. . . And Blindman, you are way to good at them...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Her.. does my bum look big in this dressHim.. not as big as it looked in the one you wore yesterday Her ..naked looking in the mirror.. says to him ,my tits are sagging my bum is big I,m getting fatHim..Well at least your eyesight is perfectl
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'. And Blindman, you are way to good at them... Touche
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RHP User
11 years ago
up4mostthings1! FOTC FTW!! OBBI: "After that stunning meal you cooked the other day when we came over, we thought you wouldn't be able to do a simple dish." THIS was a humble brag my friend, wrong thread :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting how some people don't seem to grasp the concept of a backhanded compliment. You know when you've encountered one because you go "Thaaanks!...waaait *eyes narrow as the backhand sinks in*" Having said that, you lot have picked up this concept better than I thought you would!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'StuntNuts' Not only the ultimate back handed compliment but also the most confidence shattering rejection(s) I've ever had."You're such a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship." So I'm nice enough of a guy to be friends with but clearly not good enough to actually date. Me : What a shit run you've had with FB's lately. I think I should take you on Date #9 this weekend to cheer you up. Her : Thank you for the kind offer, but I think I need a break from the dinner & movie "dates" for a while.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Chat_Meet_Touch' Quoting 'CravingTouch' Side track: What pisses me off lately is when people congratulate me on losing weight when the reason I lost it was severe mental health issues, depression took away all my love for food and all the joy from my life and weight just fell off me. But people presume that any time a woman loses weight it's an amazing and commendable achievement (until we get TOO thin, that is) and something she must have fought really hard for. Three or four months after I separated in 2006, I ran into a couple of blokes I hadn't seen for a while. They said "You in training ? Shit you're looking fit." I said "Yeah, it's marvellous what happens when two of your children hate your guts and don't want to see you." I feel for you man, not a fun place, and people think they are doing the right thing by commenting that you look better so you can't even be angry at them for it really. I used to bite back but I've given up now and just give them a hearty thanks. Good intentions are worth appreciation after all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have such gorgeous eyes..you're telling me they aren't contacts? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'StuntNuts' Not only the ultimate back handed compliment but also the most confidence shattering rejection(s) I've ever had."You're such a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship." So I'm nice enough of a guy to be friends with but clearly not good enough to actually date. No woman in her right mind is going to turn down falling in love with someone for friendship. After all, the best relationships are best friends who are in love with each other. IMHO.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Stunt nuts: do you and your friend fuck? I don't know your history, but it just sounds more like you're just in the friends bucket not the "wanna jump your bones someday" basket. Which isn't an insult, just demoralizing when you each have a mismatch in which bucket the other sits in.
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madotara69
11 years ago
If you only earnt more money, I could marry you.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' fuck you look good riding me, I love the way your boobs move, if you lost some weight I could see my cock sliding into your pussy. Missb that's dreadful! It wasn't exactly a backhanded compliment, but Mr Him was a way of saying things innocently that could be taken badly. For example - I've been using a gorgeous body butter on my legs recently and last week he rubbed my knee and said that they felt smooth, I must have just put some on. I said nope not yet today. To which he relpied that my legs are just really good at retaining butter. Um. Thanks? x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
interesting...
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RHP User
11 years ago
you're pretty enough to get away with wearing something like that. (actuallly said to me by a female colleague)
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madotara69
11 years ago
geeez, haven't seen you for a while, now you are pregnant? i'm not pregnant! Now who was it that told me, hmmmm, can't remember, but you look great.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, not exactly.....but I have received more than a few backhanders. Maybe I should change my approach.. CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just the other day, I was told: you're not fat, you're well proportioned! A colleague a few years ago said: You're glowing, are you pregnant? Another one was someone I hadn't seen in ages went: Oh, I didn't recognise you, you used to be skinny, what happened? And the best out of all of them: an ex-FB went, you've got nice curves but have you considered a lipo?
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
You're hot for a redhead. Or any number of variations of that, I've heard many! Jess xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just feel as though you're holding me back ..... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
1. You have a great pair of tits would you ever plan to get implants.2. your looking great lately have you thought about doing more time at the Gym. 3. Your hair looks great but try a different hairdresser to see other styles and results. 4. that sex was great but not as good as last week.5. i like having sex with you but its better when the light are off i get to feel you more and thats a turn on6. great outfit but you should wear the other one it looks better7. This meal is fantastic i just dont feel hungry tonight for some reason8. i dont mine you driving its just i feel better driving myself9. you are doing a great job at that task i will help you straight away.10. i do love you i just feel like we need a little break. TRUE friend of mine looks like doc mansenie from beverly hills 90210 56347what ever and a girl came up to him and said you look like the doc his reply what a shame i am not a plastic surgeon. i could of killed him there and then
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madotara69
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're not sexy because of the way you look, you're sexy because of the way you are. 😳 hmm ok I think I'll go with that err I think!!
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