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The Empress' New Profile
April 17 2013
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
Good friends of mine, a couple on here that I met through the site, come up with a saying 'RHP hot.' They say that people on here can be RHP hot, which means that on here they are the bees knees but in the real world they wouldn't rate a second glance. You notice it a lot in the chatrooms - if a woman is on cam or showing bits she's 'gorgeous,' whether or not you'd give her a second glance if you saw her walking down the street is a whole different matter. The one guy I met off here that I felt certain was beyond my league in the real world, and so wouldn't have spoken to me if he didn't 'assume' that casual sex was a certainty, turned out to be a douche. Second meet, put the moves on then said I was playing hard to get, and when I asked 'so you expect women to throw themselves at you?' gave me a smug look that said clearly he did expect that.I take every compliment I get with a grain of salt and always remember that it's probably a line they've thrown away to 1,000 other women on here. You can't buy into your own hype on here as a single woman or your head will inflate so much you won't be able to fit through doorways anymore. I don't think it affects how I perceive my own self-worth in real life though...
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RHP User
12 years ago
RHP hot is a pretty funny term, thanks for that! it seems douchebags are douchebags no matter what.ps - apologies for the crass checking out of your profile! - that photo is ridiculous, im sure you understand. congrats on it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
the myth that ALL women on here are inundated with men tripping over themselves....as I have mentioned in other posts,this is simply not true.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do pick up now and again at the pub, but those guys have beer goggles on and just want a quick root before RHP I had not had sex for three years, so that has to tell you something Does it hurt in the long run, not sure I think it does if your a single women, I have seen it wear down several of my single girlfriends where now after having hotties in bed they cant get their lust in check and go for men their own age dammed if you do and dammed if you dont would I get this attention offline? Hell NO I think your post hits the nail right on the head, good post and brave of you to put up what many think women get the magic mirror syndrome and I am guilty of that as well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Could this be, a man that's intimidated by the confident woman?? :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' the myth that ALL women on here are inundated with men tripping over themselves....as I have mentioned in other posts,this is simply not true. While certainly not a 100% case, the reality is with a lot of women that their inbox is spammed quite heavily with attention from men here - every woman I've been fortunate enough to meet up with (who in every case has been a really great person, I'd like to add), has confirmed that exact scenario... even if it as a blank statement isnt entirely true, its true enough to be valid.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's a really great honest reply - thanks!You know, I think we're all 'guilty' of the same sort of behaviours we might mock others for, also.I mean i think that its a good thing that women (and men) can come to a site like this and get some attention that they might otherwise not - everyone deserves that from time to time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DidacticTactics'Good friends of mine, a couple on here that I met through the site, come up with a saying 'RHP hot.' They say that people on here can be RHP hot, which means that on here they are the bees knees but in the real world they wouldn't rate a second glance. There have definitely been RHP people I've had sex with who I would not have looked twice at in the real world. And I'm sure it's has been the case both ways. Not complaning though!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep....for the single woman on a site like this it's so important to keep reminding yourself that it's a very distorted reality, or like DidacticTactics said you'll end up with an ego the size of the Grand Canyon. And also to take all the compliments and 'arse-kissing' from guys with a grain of salt, and recognise it for what it is. And as for being too picky, I know I've been guilty of this and I've realised it, and am making a conscious effort to keep reminding myself that a guy doesn't have to tick every box to be someone that I could potentially have fun with. I also have to point out that there are guys - particularly some of the washboard ab types who obviously think quite highly of themselves - that also have long laundry lists of what they want in a female. I think these attitudes in general are also indicative of the (generally) more superficial nature of relationships today....that constant search for 'perfection' which means constantly upgrading partners like you upgrade your phone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' Could this be, a man that's intimidated by the confident woman?? :p- Posted from rhpmobile I do believe that you have misinterpreted the core of the original comment. "This is all well and good for the mostly fantasy-land of this site which promotes and enables easily-accessible, no-strings, 'instant' sexual encounters, but how much of this false economy is bleeding over into people's real-world expectations?""the kind of self-perpetuating fantasy that people allow themselves to be immersed in through a site like RHP - does it hurt in the long term?"I also personally believe that due the the "supply/demand" has led to an greatly exaggerated minimum standard. Agreeing with Freya77 also that not every woman (or at least their profile) falls into this category, and this must be acknowledged however the numbers would stack heavily in that category.I also believe that you don't get many people commenting as OP has due to two core reasons:1. Many people are happy to lurk and not comment2. Many threads/comments are often dominated by a regular group of people that has essentially created a group of "cool kids" that you must get the approval of by impressing.There was a thread in one of the forums not too long about this I believe. So this being said, you run the risk of reducing your chances of meeting someone if the general consensus of the forums is that you are "a jerk" etc. Continuing from point 2, it is also assumed that just because someone disagrees with another for example OP's comment in TuscanRed's thread could be construed as "he think's he is better than me/ he is just upset because he doesn't meet my standards". And this can quickly become the group mentality among many members therefore the comment "could this be, a man that's imitated by a confident woman" has no place, either the original comment was genuinely misinterpreted or the commenter hasn't actually paid much attention to the original comment and is siding with what would the "group" may determine.Furthermore to emphasise this point, I believe that the reason this thread has been successful and OP hasn't been berated is because he is intelligent and eloquent enough to express it as it is, thought provoking and impressing at the same time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
that small girl OP
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not sure about other women on here - but I would say that they don't shag every night nor do they want to.There maybe a ratio of women to men on here and woman may have more opportunity - that does not mean women F*ck every day and all night...I think WE do know what we want, however it's up to men to find that out by behaving in an appropriate manner - that goes for females as well.I don't think I am picky, more like other People's behavours are not my issue...I will not tolerate unacceptable behavour.Some people on here test boundaries it's as simple as that - it is up the receiptant how they take that.Some people will accept relationships that make then feel XYZ and others ABC.Are women to blame for this??I think I am worth it - priceless in fact - no ego just am worth more than some peoples behavours.Yes I have meet some amazing people I call friends and then I have meet some real down right rude disrespectful people.It is the circle of Trust/friendship thing which I base on their behavour.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was with a girl the other night comparing notes regarding RHP. She had something like 4000 views in the whole 2 - 3 weeks she has been on here.. She had something like 31 messages received in about half the day... While I am sure a lot of that is because she is quite cute and new to Rhp it just shows the distortion in numbers. Most men I know and have spoken with get around 200 - 300 views a month... If I had as many messages flooding through and so many offers I would find it hard not to develop an ego to match. As it is I'm happy with the fun I've had over the last few months, quality over quantity :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
when my profile is/was active I actually specified that flattery would get the men folk NOWHERE! also specified I needed a pic of the guy's FACE! and for him to tell me a bit about himself, what makes him tick, what he likes to do in his spare time (aside from meet up and have sex with women he'd never met before and likely never had any intention of meeting again). What I think is that although there are a few women here who are genuinely well adjusted and simply looking to broaden their sexual horizons, most of the single women here likely have self esteem issues to begin with and are seeking validation and that is the main part of their motivation for being here. SO! Op, it's a woman's world here right? except it's not, we can get what you men want from the site pretty easily, but what most of the women seek still evades us, no, we don't "win". men are from mars and women are from Venus as they say, we seek different things! thing is op, at least you guys stand a chance at what you seek (a roll in the hay and then walk away), what chance do you think women have of finding a true connection? finding a man with true substance from amongst you lot? That's right! we've got it "made" huh? The grass is always greener!
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's not to say we do ourselves any favours in our approach!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Could this be, a man that's intimidated by the confident woman?? :p- Posted from rhpmobile that is just a rather ridiculous comment. The OP in our opinion is well thought out, articulate, and pretty insightful also. Where exactly are you getting the "intimidated" angle from? Seems quite the opposite to us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have come to the same conclusion raised in the OP. this is a fantasy world and many ( not all ) women on here need to realise that (in the words of my then 21 year old) son....... Any hole is a practice hole... and that is what they are doing. Just having sex. No strings. On to the next!!!! Many of the men, both young and old, that I have met from RHP have never made it to the sex stage and yet gave remained good friends. Some for three years or more. Those that I have played with have generally also remained friends. Therefore in my case then yes, those I meet on here are people that I would, can and do maintain a friendship with, talk to outside the RHP white cloud of high expectations. But then my feet have always remained planted firmly on Terra Firma- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'that small girl OP your profile is not come get me I bonk anything with a pulse unlike Moi! if you had the raunch and the sexy over the top and the nudie pictures as in build a field and they will come profile your not that kind of woman,so you do not attract that kind of man men that want to dip a wick where they can that is why you get more attention on other date sites If i put up a thing on rsvp, you could hear the crickets .............. I got nuttin when I was on those sites when I was single as I had the most booring pictures as I thought put up your fucking ugly pictures so that you dont build up anybodys hopes now if I put up the sexy pictures they dont seem to look at the mantle piece while the poke the fire thank GOD TR for ever optomistic
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RHP User
12 years ago
you are wrong TR,my profile was exactly the same on here as the other site....you and I have had this discussion before and I know a lot of the myth is smoke and mirrors...of course there is a high percentage of women who are inundated with messages etc but there are also a lot like me who aren't.I just choose to be honest about it. So now my profile reflects this decided lack of interest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with MsBee I think a alot of women don't get want they want from internet dating. I actually like guys that play a little hard to get and are elusive hence I have my profile on lock down most of the time. The internet dating thing isn't for me. When a guy is too keen it turns me off. I know, sounds stupid. When it's too easy there is no challenge and it doesn't excite me much.Otherwise I have had loads of guys say they want to meet me because I am a regular form contributor and I say outrageous things sometimes and I have big tits or a nice arse depending on if they are a tits or arse man. It's all an illusion, I am a "personality" on the screen or a product of their over active imaginations. I don't take it personally as quite frankly it has nothing to do with the "real" me at all. I wont lie I do find it flattering when someone makes a nice comment to me about what I write on the forum though. Freya, at one point I stated in my profile that I was interested in meeting someone special if the right person came along and I think my messages dramatically dropped to almost nothing. So who says men don't read profiles huh? So even my tits & arse and my explicit comments on the forum wasn't enough for them to message a woman that was after a relationship.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I think some women are surprised at the attention that they get form a site like this and it validates them in some way. But what's the harm. A little flirting makes people happy and the world a nicer place.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is interesting though. Has technology changed relationships and the way we all deal with each other? Is it changing the way we think of sex?Ten years ago nobody would talk about friends with benefits or fuck buddies or the fact that they wanted more than one. Or they wanted to experiment with group sex or they had bukkake fantasies, etc. People didn't send each other nude photos of themselves, we didn't all have access to the type of porn we have today. It was a hidden world... well it was in my world anyway.Technology has allowed us to meet people we wouldn't ordinarily meet and it has broadened our horizons immensely. I am friends with bi-sexual men, transgender people, guys in biker gangs, women that used to be sex workers in their day, the most outrageous kinksters, and I have personally done things that even I consider outrageous and would shock most of my friends to the core. I wouldn't have met any of those people in my daily life or if I had I bet we would never have spoken about our secret life the way people do online.Have women changed they criteria because they get more attention on RHP? I don't think so, we still want what we have always wanted.
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RHP User
12 years ago
what does a woman want?. Well that just depends on the day you ask her I am afraid. LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a profile here and on a regular dating site. I get almost no attention on the regular site and a lot of attention here. Yes I have revealing pics here, but I also have a profile that (deliberately) puts a lot of men off. Ratios play a big part - on regular sites ordinary men can pull extraordinary women because there is an abundance of women on those sites somewhat desperate to find love. On this site it's the opposite, ordinary women can pull extraordinary men because there is an abundance of men here somewhat desperate to find sex. I use the terms ordinary and extraordinary very loosely, and I note again, this is just my observation. I'm pursued by very attractive men on here and rejected by fairly average men on the regular site. I don't have an over-inflated sense of my attractiveness. I'd consider myself average looking (face) at best, so I'd expect a reasonable rate of rejection. I can only assume therefore that the level of pursuit I experience on here is directly related to the desire for sex, lower standards for NSA, and the assumption that because I'm here I'm available for sex. So OP, yes, I think you're right.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you saying SirLurk made that comment only because he was preempting what he thought all the women would say in the hopes he would get his dick wet. Of course I said it in a sentence. Hmmm interesting. :P By the way the cool kids scenario is BS. All these cool kids are still new people to me. Everyone has to join in at some point. Some people can and some people can't or don't. And some people deliberately make comments to annoy the masses.
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RHP User
12 years ago
my thoughts? Read what Superfox posted. 'Cause I think pretty much the same thing. But will add that I think people need to get out of their heads this whole idea of Rhp v's 'vanilla sites' and making sweeping judgements and generalisations about the nature of people and whether they think differently about a relationship with a woman because of the site they choose to be on? Personally, I think it's rubbish, but if it was true and a guy didn't desire a relationship with you, the sole reason being, he met you on RHP, would you really want to have a relationship with such a narrow minded dick anyway? Like someone mentioned earlier the same people are on all the sites anyway? Vanilla, raspberry, lemon, fucking blueberry! Every flavoured site with everyone putting forward their recipe to suit, but in the end, still the same people. As for the statement "Well I'm not looking for a relationship but if it happens then that's okay too!" It covers all the bases for most guys and allows them to sound like they are at least experienced and somewhat sexually liberated adults but not a complete 'prick'.I don't know OP?Who said convenient casual sex is always on the table from the get-go? Or that men would not talk to us if it wasn't? You make it sound like we are all drive-by whores and all the men are nasty superficial pricks that just want to nail us to the wall and that's it? Not so and from experience I think people generally are both offering more and expecting better than that and put a higher value on themselves and on each other.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am proud to say I found my Rhodes scholar/underwear model. I made no secret that I only wanted one and I didn't have to sleep my way through heaps of men to find him, rely on some kind of perceived trick or talk myself up. I did it my way. By just being myself.But hey? If swinging from the chandeliers or running down the street naked and yelling for a taxi works for some people then good luck to them. I reckon. The Emperors new clothes indeed!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great post innerwest123A number of people(men and women) here are head cases .Not all ,but quiet a few have been effected by the root and boot mentality.Some people harden up,others crumble along the way.Peoples moral compass expand,and they seem to do things they would never do.The barriers go up,the self esteem drops,and the self judging begins ,that ends in a person becoming sour.Then starts the attention seeking,my cat died give me sympathy !Just what i have experienced ,from both men and women on this site.But then you also get the happy go lucky type of people who just come here for a laugh,contribute to forums,and enjoy chatting to both men and women in the chat rooms and expect nothing in return.Try laughing at yourself and others and don't take this place to serious.Cheers
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' I'm not sure about other women on here - but I would say that they don't shag every night nor do they want to.There maybe a ratio of women to men on here and woman may have more opportunity - that does not mean women F*ck every day and all night...I think WE do know what we want, however it's up to men to find that out by behaving in an appropriate manner - that goes for females as well.I don't think I am picky, more like other People's behavours are not my issue...I will not tolerate unacceptable behavour.Some people on here test boundaries it's as simple as that - it is up the receiptant how they take that.Some people will accept relationships that make then feel XYZ and others ABC.Are women to blame for this??I think I am worth it - priceless in fact - no ego just am worth more than some peoples behavours.Yes I have meet some amazing people I call friends and then I have meet some real down right rude disrespectful people.It is the circle of Trust/friendship thing which I base on their behavour.FOXYNow get a load of that OP. Cause this attitude is the kind of needle-in-a-haystack that you can find here. But you have to be able to find it for yourself. We ain't gonna gift wrap it for ya!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'deepbluesumthing' my thoughts? Read what Superfox posted. 'Cause I think pretty much the same thing. But will add that I think people need to get out of their heads this whole idea of Rhp v's 'vanilla sites' and making sweeping judgements and generalisations about the nature of people and whether they think differently about a relationship with a woman because of the site they choose to be on? Personally, I think it's rubbish, but if it was true and a guy didn't desire a relationship with you, the sole reason being, he met you on RHP, would you really want to have a relationship with such a narrow minded dick anyway? Like someone mentioned earlier the same people are on all the sites anyway? Vanilla, raspberry, lemon, fucking blueberry! Every flavoured site with everyone putting forward their recipe to suit, but in the end, still the same people. As for the statement "Well I'm not looking for a relationship but if it happens then that's okay too!" It covers all the bases for most guys and allows them to sound like they are at least experienced and somewhat sexually liberated adults but not a complete 'prick'.I don't know OP?Who said convenient casual sex is always on the table from the get-go? Or that men would not talk to us if it wasn't? You make it sound like we are all drive-by whores and all the men are nasty superficial pricks that just want to nail us to the wall and that's it? Not so and from experience I think people generally are both offering more and expecting better than that and put a higher value on themselves and on each other. My comment could also double-up on 'Inspirits' 'seeking relationship' thread. This is what happens with posts when reading threads late at night when you are tired. They all tend to bleed together into one.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think many of you are missing the point made by the OP. I took her to mean that because women get so much more attention from men that pre Internet dating they would not have received that attention from, are our expectations then raised too high? I mean really, honestly now, without the Internet would you all expect to get all that attention from some young gorgeous hunk with fabbo body and beautiful face? SOME women need a reality check because honestly you are simply not all THAT so why expect the man to be all that you are not? I don't think it is "settling" I think of it as being a little more realistic - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
For the responses - despite a teesy bit of missing-the-point-ness (which is gonna happen, sometimes tone of voice doesnt translate to text so well, and its hard to make it clear exactly what I mean), the frank answers have provided some interesting reading material.Basically the post is just some rhetorical questioning, and not directed at any one person or behaviour, as much as it is just about expectations in general.it is directly more obviously at women, purely because I don't really read/see male profiles... I am fully aware that men are just as prone to the same behaviours as women, I was just following the first rule of writing, and 'writing what i know'...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women punching above their weight you mean? Having incredible high criteria or expectations from the men they want to meet. 50 year old women meeting 25 year old gorgeous hunks (generalizing there) yes it does happen. This is a distorted view of the world but the demand is there therefore women are able to do this and get away with it. Do women then transfer this to their everyday life and expect the same. Some will for sure.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Women punching above their weight you mean? Having incredible high criteria or expectations from the men they want to meet. 50 year old women meeting 25 year old gorgeous hunks (generalizing there) yes it does happen. This is a distorted view of the world but the demand is there therefore women are able to do this and get away with it. Do women then transfer this to their everyday life and expect the same. Some will for sure. Its not just what youve said there - though my honest response to the circumstance of 50 year old woman shagging hot 25-year olds its "good fuckin luck to you, lady - get it while you can!" - its really more the profiles that waffle on and on and on about their expectations and needs and desires, which is all well and good, but by the time you get to the end of the laundry list, one is left with nothing to think than "this person needs to get themselves a degree in robotics and artificial intelligence, so they can build this impossible person", or the profiles that glorify the beauty of intellect and the dreaded GSOH... and then just have a rogues gallery of 25-year old gorgeous hunks in their friends list...which isn't to say that said guys arent hilarious geniuses, but lets try calling a spade a fucking shovel, shall we?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't ask you don't get. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't ask you don't get. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
THAT was one of the best posts I have ever read here...you are a book in the making
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tsk tsk tsk..the OP's post was essentially too drawn out, and just really did nothing for me. So I thought I would just insert randomness to lighten the load.....*sigh* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
*thumbs up*- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
What Paintme said, and I'll add a for both of us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice work Kizza.
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
The bottom line is the ratio allows women on here to be choosy about who they want to date. I think most women would have a more balanced expectation in RL (or if they didn't then that probably would be adjusted in a short period of time) especially if they are after something more than FB. As for the example of the 50 year old being able to get a 25 year old. I say if you can then why the hell not.The ratio is what it is and nothing more with challenges for both sides, women being in-undated and having to use a crystal ball to see if the guy with the abs is not a complete tool or time waster and guys having to try a bit harder than "hey want to ^%$".
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RHP User
12 years ago
I forgot to add I am Facebook friends with a girl that performs in American porn movies and I almost managed to get a woman who was going to become Buddhist Nun into a swingers sex club. Damn that would have made a good chapter. Lol. 😀
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RHP User
12 years ago
I heard that she did eventually go to one...definitely your influence I also heard
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inspirit
12 years ago
"Do you really think many of these guys would talk to you if convenient casual sex wasn't clearly on the table from the get-go, and if you think the answer is no, does that trouble you"Yes and No. Yes! The kind of fellow I am attracted to. No! The kind of fellow I am not attracted to. No it does not trouble me at all. I am a realist and have no misconceptions about myself. I understand this site for what it is and have used it accordingly. However....when I first joined it was perfect for regaining my confidence back in myself after coming out of 20 year marriage. Yes I was on a false high in the beginning and that is ok. As a generalisation of some of the members on this site I have to agree with you to a point. Yes there are female profiles whereby you need to be a cross between Achilles and Johnny Depp however I have seen this on men's profiles as well! Random: Do you think is like if you go to the sale yard and you have 500 bulls to choose from, you will choose the best one that is going to match your requirements. It is all relevant as the more you have to choose from the pickier you become.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I definitely understand, and for the most part agree with this 'behaviour'... within the context of the site. certainly, there is a drastic difference in numbers between men and women on the site, and that is of course going to create a different dynamic than one would see in RL.As I've said and you've clearly understood (though a few sort of haven't), the questions I put are in the context of the site AND 'real life', and the expectations people have of not just those around them, but of themselves. I'll be getting into another aspect of these expectations in another post - the whole "I <3 bad boys" routine that a lot of women indulge in.Having said all of this - women having their self-esteem boosted (especially after 20 years of marriage and having to face the single world again!) is great and totally harmless, it is nothing but good, and I wish all women on the site nothing but the best of luck with their adventures here.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I tend not to message women I consider out of my league, so I don't message many :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I suppose I can see it in several ways and I've been mulling over how to respond. So I can see that I'm inundated with messages and yes, IRL most of these guys probably wouldn't talk to me at all... But... I am not an idiot, and generally I sort through these messages and find people who I like, am attracted to and with whom i have things in common. By the time we've exchanged messages, I'm pretty sure that this would be someone who, if we met offline, would chat me up at a party. So is my head turned by all the 'attention' of the messages, no. I think most of us realize its more about them than us ie. 'they are horny and want to shag' not 'I am gorgeous.' I don't think I'm punching above my weight on here at all and have few complaints about how I am treated. I suppose your post can be interpreted as being disparaging of the women on here, that they're punching above their weight, shagging guys who wouldn't give them a second glance if they weren't 'easy'. I'm not sure that that is true. I do think though the generally not very particular about who they bonk attitude of most of the blokes on here gives makes me question the sincerity of a man's attraction to me -is he really attracted or just horny.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I was young and green in judgement, I assumed that the reason I wasn't with someone at some particular moment was all about me. When I was a little older I saw other people around me, who had been thinking similarly to me, get into thinking that everyone else had the problem and they were fine. I've come to the conclusion that, given the opportunity or circumstance, every human being under the sun is as mad as a hatter and dumb as a box of hammers. As I understood his OP, innerwest's commentary was on his original reply to a different thread: "I think that, by and large, many of the women on this site have DRASTICALLY out-of-kilter expectations and self-awareness, which is fed by the basic supply-and-demand economics of the male/female ratio on the site, and the essentially never-ending smorgasbord of people that all the women here have access to."The post as quoted sounds about right to me... if I don't think too hard about it. The rest of this thread, as well as the OP's comments on washboard abs in friend lists, sounds about what I might expect to read. Thinking a little more about it, I'm inclined to say this:"I think that, by and large, many of the *men* on this site have DRASTICALLY out-of-kilter expectations and self-awareness, which is fed by the basic supply-and-demand economics of the male/female ratio on the site, and the essentially never-ending smorgasbord of people that all the women here have access to."How on earth are the attitudes of people on RHP so much different to the attitudes of any given bar in an Aussie CBD on a Saturday night? The stereotypes are all here and we'd be fooling ourselves to think they're not. They're on all the other sites too! Oasis, RSVP, AussieMatchMaker, GayMatchMaker, LesbianMatchMaker, AdultMatchMaker, Match.com, OKCupid, JewDate.com... the list goes on.The way I see it, the online... let's call it connection site - offers all parties the opportunity to take as much or as little time as they want to make their choices. THEIR choices. I choose to buy a particular pair of jeans because I expect them to wear out within a particular timeframe and I'm not overly precious about the brand. My experience has led me to expect little differentiation in quality of denim, so I choose accordingly. MY choice. I value my privacy and I'm not interested in awkward moments where I find someone has recognised my profile photo on RHP and now I'm interacting with them at my place of work, so MY choice is to put pics in a private gallery. This also marries up with my expectation that anyone who wants to see my picture or meet up with me has read the rest of what I've written (in forums, a message reply or on my profile) and has CHOSEN to find out more.MY choice of RHP was to find some (one, perhaps, or not) people that I might be able to play sexually with. In the past I've chosen other sites. I expect that I'll find like-minded folk here - I have before. I hope that I'll continue to make MY choices of who I flirt with, or message, or hotlist, based on what they put in their profile or messages or forum posts and not what I assume the odds are of pulling what I want.If all I was interested in was pulling, I'd be on a porn site. As it is, I'm not on what I expect is a "happy-ever-after relationship" site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and no I would not get half of it in real life, or say I would not know, because men would not be this open to say what they think. However I am in a much bigger attention pool here, then in the real world.On a site like this more males then in your daily life can look at you, yes it is nice this attention, I have to say I am not getting a inflated head. Some attention really scares me shit less, and I want to run.And some are sooo nice, and exciting.The bottom line for me is, it made me see I am still sexual and that's what counts for me. Yes most of the time it is up to me the female to say yes to sex, but this would be the same in our normal "life" most men ask we make the decision.What is easy for me as a women, I can state what it is I want and there will always be a male who is ok with it and accepts.
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