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The Good, the Bad and the "WTF?"
March 21 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey Elle, cannot speak for this site as I am just new but love the forum side which tends to lack on the conventional sites I have tried. As far as the bad goes for those conventional sites I have been on I never understood that when I sent messages there would generally be no reply but they tend to send you the flirt instead even though they are able to reply. Too many of those sites have generated profiles just to keep you interested and paying (certainly learned my lesson). Damn that was good to get that out of my system, it's been bugging me lately. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
The first site I joined was E Harmony.they were just starting out and the only men they matched me with we're snaggled tooth miners from Alaska...and I couldn't figure out how to unattached myself from the site..$150 later my daughter finally came to the rescue of this techno peasant 😅 .There are many stories in the naked city Elle,but this wasn't one of them 😳xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great topic Elle! Reading your experiences I laughed out loud, shared a knowing nod of appreciation and raised an eyebrow with suprise. The more I read and hear of other peoples RHP story (In the flesh and through the forums) makes me believe that it is rarely exclusivley good, bad, or what the and more a meld of all these elements in one. I've been a member of RHP, in one name or another, since I was 19 (seems like an eternity ago) and in that space of time I can report on the following; The good. RHP from the get go was appealing to me because it is one of the only dating sites that actually lists an alternate gender option. I was pretty fed up of trying to socialise and meet new people online having to always do this disclaimer that "I am trans and proud" so the TV/TS option won me over. (Sidenote: RHP can we please have a few more options when it comes to genders? It's 2015 after all). I have met some awesome people, had some amazing sexual experiences and can tick off a few 'firsts' thanks to RHP and that part in itself is why I think it can be so wonderful. I agree with TisOnlyI - the forums are also a feature that challenge me intellectually and I have always loved following (if not always posting) on the various topics, experiences and debates that have been covered. The bad. First messsges, particuarly those that read like some sexually aggresive bad erotica. Sleeping with a married man and only finding out he was married after the fact. Some awkward encounters with members who didn't use their own picture (or it was from years prior). Abusve messages when declining an offer (no suprises there) or not responding instantaneously because heaven forbid I have a life to lead. The WTF. Men attempting to make me offers of money or gifts in exchange for sleeping with them. A few men that presumed I was a cis-gendered female without reading my profile thoroughly including one man I met that turned into a super awkward mess when he finally cottoned on to the fact that I am trans (poor thing). The models doing the super awkward poses on the login screen - what is actually with that bad acting? A mixed bag, but an interesting one to say the least. With love, ~KK x
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RHP User
10 years ago
when I was first single I joined Eharmony. My very first match was my ex......and it went downhill from there lmao 😐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I've had really good experiences. a few WTF ones along the way... like the time I got in over my head with a so called Dom and copped a face slapping. That was in my first month or so of being on here and I've learnt a lot since then. the most frustrating thing are the time wasters that spend weeks chatting and then dead silence the day of or the day before you have arranged to meet. Sometimes i wish we could name and shame. a funny one, well to me anyway, is my dog not letting one guy in the house. Yes he is a protective canine even when I get excited ;) I have made some amazing friends on here both male and female and that I must say was unexpected.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
The ones that have no idea and leave you bleeding
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inspirit
10 years ago
Am I thinking correctly here?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
maybe you are... If I said no lube... One swift unexpected thrust I've also experienced it from trying to be made to squirt...
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inspirit
10 years ago
I have fulfilled fantasies I never thought would come to fruition and indeed, never thought I would enjoy so much. I have met many people and made some life long friendships I believe - I have also made a few enemies so there is a pleasant balance ;-) One of my best meets was a D/s meet not too long ago. I took a huge risk and it paid off. It was just what I needed on that particular day. One of worst meets - well the worst - I met a man at his house, he quite proudly greeted in stubbies, thongs and a grey bonds singlet and to add to my SURPRISE he was 15/20 years older than his picture. Too cut a long story short, I sat through dinner with him and as he finished before me, he got up and decided to show me photos of his endoscopy of his "fuck knows". I pretended to look interested whilst almost vomiting in my mouth. I then managed to gather my thoughts together and politely say I had to leave. Then fuck me, as I pick up my bag it fell open and an array of toys fell out!!!! You can figure the rest out! I once rendezvoused with a man in Bali though it didn't turn out, as I thought it would of. We were very sexually incompatible and again his pictures were a little OLD. Lucky though I had a back up plan and fucked myself silly one night with a much younger man. He is off here and just happen to be in Bali as the same time. That was a awesome time and we still laugh about it. We are pretty sure we could hear the guards in the bushes watching us on the balcony. Oh this other one time - I flew down from K-town and a man picked me up from the airport. Pictures matched up to he real deal though not the personality I later found out (He was too clinical). Next morning he went off to work and I figured this isn't for me so I jumped into the RHP chat room for some one to come and "rescue" me. I was in Mandurah and had no idea where I really was. Messaged him saying it wasnlt what I thought it would be and never spoke to him again. Another good meet was with a young Texan lad. I totally ruined him and we kept that going for a bit until I had to relocate. So if any one is up in Karratha I can highly recommend this one. There is the Irish man I saw for a bit too. That was amazing sex until I had to relocate too. Have too admit the Irish seem to have it. The best ever afternoon 69er I have ever had! ........and then there was the "Married" man who I never new was married (His wife was in Wales though he told me she had passed away) . He was my first ever ninja fuck and it was HOT HOT ( I got the idea from a post Freya put up once) . I did get him back for lying in the end. The full story is in another forum some where as is the others above. Now I am on to my next sexual encounter with whole lot of mind play thrown in! Gotta love the good, the bad and the ugly. It is all experiences and many we can all look back on and have a giggle and think WTF was I thinking.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Yes some men do not realise how fragile we can be. No lube though when you need it at the time - not good. I thought you may of meant being fisted. Happened to a woman I know on here and she ended up at the ED. Girls need to be so carefull!
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Missb4u
10 years ago
have had that one to inspirit but not been to ED as a result. I love your post what an amazing time you are having
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Because they did happen 3 years ago and I had a long break from RHP before my recent return :-) The Good Met three truly genuine and charming gentlemen in the first year of my initial sign up. One in particular, whom came down to Sydney for his work arrangement and exclusively included me in his plans for a nice and generous treat for that year's Valentine's Day! The Bad Have met some men who didn't want to pay half for the hotel rooms until I asked them to! Disgusting behaviour! The WTF Browsed some profiles and one profile caught my eyes, so I sent him a polite message asking him if he would be interested to chat and see if we would click. Got his insulting response back calling me a "panda"!.......my exact reaction at that time was truly a WTF! Another WTF experience took place in here on the Forums where I made a comment on a topic, which was rather sensitive to some people. One person read too much into my simple comment and interpreted the message the way she saw it or wanted to, but not what I meant, and then called me a redneck! To me, that was a personal attack, so my reaction was WTF and of course, I didn't tolerate the bully! Now, let's see if I would get attacked for replaying the history! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The good - definitely the three men I've had ongoing FWB situations with over the past two years. They have been wonderful. Took some weeding to find them. Hope I am get better at picking them. The bad - The bad mainly comes from the messages. The truly ordinary template messages. And of course there is some ugly aggression and abuse that can be hurled about by frustrated men. In person, I've only had very very disappointing sex, but not actually any bad experiences. The wtf - probably the strange requests and insights into peoples unusual fetishes. I listed them in another thread. But CBT and sounding, oh and a guy who wanted to lick my armpits. There are probably more, but the more you chat to people, the more desensitised you become to kinks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The Good........ the lovely guys and girls Ive met off RHP. Making new friends. Rediscovering my sexuality and a naughty weekend in Sydney .......The Bad.........trusting my guy radar and then finding out.....he aint single at all! A couple of abusive messages about my age, which didnt upset me, they were just rude and disrespectful. No need.WTF..........a nice one, Messaged by a guy who said he had to get in touch as I reminded him of a girlfriend he had in Scotland over 25 years ago. Yes, it was my ex, he was over in Perth working and we got back in touch for a while til he was moved to Vietnam with work. Oh, and a couple of very kinky requests when I first joined, (made me go WTF, but now I wouldn't bat an eyelid)
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Bazingal
10 years ago
I have been on and off a number of sites in the past 16 months. And I must say RHP is one of the most honest. I mean, sure you still get the "single" guys who's wife find out etc. But people seem to be more upfront, I think it saves a bit of time trudging through the BS. ***THE GOOD: I have met so many wonderful people, some of which I consider genuine friends now*** RHP has helped my sexual awakening. And I am loving it. * THE BAD: I was very green straight out of a 19 year marriage when I first joined another site. My first date after so long in a relationship was with a man that had one profile picture including hat and sunnies, what a camoflague they were. He me feel very uncomfortable with an incident and subsequently harassed me for 4 weeks with him trying to explain it was my fault as I "wanted it". *THE UGLY: I met a man for a drink, I didn't feel any connection with him to pursue further. A few days later I received a text from him along the lines of Hi (Insert name here) it was great to meet you the other night at (Bar), I went to (website) and can't see your pictures, so I hoped you would send me some, here's one of me (selfie in his underwear in the bathroom mirror). I replied it was nice meeting him too but I didn't want to pursue anything further and wished him good luck. He responded with how awkward it was as he'd been checking his phone and didn't know who I was, so thought he'd find out. OF COURSE! His first message only included my name, when & where we met, what site it was from.So I called shenanigans "Sure, what ever you need to tell yourself". He then barraged me with he felt no spark, I didn't look like my pics, I was too old etc.Did I leave it there? I am afraid not. I asked why he would kiss me if there was no attraction on his part and then why he messaged me too. Him: "I thought a second date BJ would make up for you wasting my time". Silver lining: I have since learned not to engage with such people, as clearly they live in a different world to me.**Back to good: I have another meet or two lined up soon AND more importantly I am really looking forward to Koko and Precious' ladies day coming up to chat with more wonderful RHP women. See you then girls. A xx**
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6exxy
10 years ago
Hmm I really have not had any ugly experiences (knock on wood). Decent ladies simply looking for their niche. Someone to connect with, who's time slots coincide with theirs. That can be a little difficult as we all have life going on. Finding someone who also has time avaliable at a similar time. Bazingal that's really sad. Hopefully soon that guy will come along 😉
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