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The Ins & Outs of Swingers Clubs and Play Parties
May 02 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've yet to attend a swingers club / play party and would appreciate some advice and guidance from the masters 😉 Will be following this thread with interest for my future reference. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
100%- you want to feel safe and in comfortable surrounds. So do what you need to be in that happy bubble: Take a friend, discuss with hubby how it will play out. Commit to a time line or a plan. Have an escape route. Ask your partner to stay close or be the one to introduce. Whatever you need, plan it and execute it. No one else owes you a thing and they deserve their own comfort and space. You're in charge of what you are thinking, feeling, to a point what you're seeing and 100% what you get involved in. Be prepared to smile, chat and perhaps take it slow. L_D xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Work your shit out before you get there. Can include: Why are you doing this, what do you want, what don't you want. What can you both do, and what are your soft and hard limits. What happens if only one of you want to continue with with couple. Do you have signals to politely indicate how you feel about another couple. What happens if you feel you want to tap out during the tryst. Etc. Better to have this discussion before the matter is messily thrust into your face in a moment of unexpected (as in, not the emotion you wanted) moment of passion
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
The hardest steps are the ones through the front door ,once through its a lot easier cos you are faced with actuality,not the what ifs and million scenarios of the unknown , that have been running through your head leading up to it Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
Any post which contains the word "don't" may well be removed; this is to help educate, not to belittle. So you're going to remove your own post???? This tickled my funny bone today Thanks for the smile :) Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If not going as a couple, make sure you have the right type installed for the night or you'll fail at passing through the door most times. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Many clubs and parties in WA allow single men. I have never really agreed with the excessive prices they have to pay, compared to couples and women. Not all couples want an MFF and not all single women want to play with couples. I think they should just limit the numbers of men (which they do anyway). I also believe that charging men ridiculous amounts increases their expectations, and charging single women nothing is just using them for bait. Fit_Geek, surely you could easily find a willing partner to tag along with you anyway?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Make sure you check what the play rules are for a party prior to attending as some are totally wild with pretty much no rules except for "no means no" and make sure you aren't too loud so the cops come! If you are a more conservative swinger, with lots of boundaries and things you are not into then swingers clubs are a good fit. Go for it. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree totally with you, freogirl66. The ridiculous prices are very unfair, and don't do what the club hosts say they do (keep out the trouble makers etc). In fact, having such high prices for people means that lots of really great men miss out because they can't afford to pay a $90 entry fee. I'm a single woman and pay $20, but sometimes even that is a stretch for me due to my financial situation. If I had to pay $90 I'd never ever go.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Your posts so far have really hit the jackpot and hopefully helping others understand this world a little better. Keep the insights rolling 👌
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lik2watch59
8 years ago
I agree totally with freogirl66 & KissKiss80, I get to a few swingers clubs and some parties but I am lucky enough to have a lady that I go with. This not only keeps the cost down but opens up a lot more opportunities on the nightI must admit that some times the number of single men at the club can be overwhelming and if it's a quite night as far as couples or single women they can get a little pushy. That then comes down to the management to try and restrict the numbers and even it out. I know this can be difficult when a lot of the men turn up early and you just don't know how the night is going to pan out. L2W
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
This used to always confuse me - it sounded like a cross between the military command to "stand down" and the girly "dress ups". 😃 What it does mean is that hosts of the party/club have decided that at some point in the evening you need to remove your street clothes and be in lingerie, or undies, sarong or towel. There's little point in arguing this, if you go to a club/party who stipulates dress down, well this is what is expected. At swingers clubs there is not always a dress down rule for the social areas, as opposed the play areas where it is compulsory. It is perfectly okay at most clubs to leave your street clothes on in the social areas, all night if you want! Check with the hosts prior to the event so you know what to expect. What to wear in dress down mode......whatever you are comfortable in! It could be towels (many clubs provide towels as they have spas), it could be a sexy baby doll or HB underwear, men it could be a sarong or undie trunks. Everyone is self conscious the first couple of times but you will see bodies of all shapes and sizes.....we are human remember! But if you are really self conscious I would suggest you choose a swingers club where you can check it out over a couple of nights.....and remain in your clothes. Ohhh...another answer for you....most clubs have a locker system so you can stash your street wear. You have the key....now don't be losing it! If in doubt check with the hosts beforehand.
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swingalingson
8 years ago
Honestly I don't mind the pricing at clubs. It is international. If men are keen and wish to be exclusive, they why not. At least single men are given a go. I know of hundreds of clubs that will not give single men even a chance. So how will a guy ever know if only couples and single females allowed? So if a club gives men a chance, men make the most of it. Go check it out whatever the price maybe. Be a gentlemen, enjoy, be respectful, have fun. embrace soak it up and live the experience. Ask those questions and curious notions that you always wanted to ask. If you make cheeky new friends then bonous. And if it is your first time, I'm sure you would have easily spent that and them some on friends drinks on a workplace skimpy night. Well hope that was positive.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
For this thread ,but we started going to the nude beach before we ever thought about swinging ,but what it did was got us comfy, talking to strangers completely naked ,which is a very unusual and daunting exsperiance for the first time to start with ,but at the beach it was very easy and you soon realise ,There are flaws in all people and no one is perfect , but it's great to make you forget your own imperfections and hangups and You soon forget you don't have clothes on , when chatting to people that may wander past or up to you to introduce themselves .we met a lovely couple and soon after went out for dinner ,our first words were ,wow you guys looks really hot with clothes on ,true story .also we found the nude beach great at learning how to tell unwanted guys marking advances, politletly thanks but no,for us it was a great stepping stone , - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Read your post with much interest. Well written and very informative. As a single male , I have no desire to attend any swingers club if it's just to become another single man amounst many. I understand how couples must feel outnumbered by so many single men who I'd imagine jostle each other hopeing to get your attention . I'd love to attend but not as a single. One day I'll find a lady wanting the same then I'd go...
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Sawadee
8 years ago
The people who run these lop sided swingers clubs , will get the mix right. ATM , seems the only system is the one that rips off single males and place couples in a uneasy environment .. I'm sure there are those who try hard to do that privately but then it seems you need a invite ? Someone will get it right .. ' one day '.... Jay
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RHP User
8 years ago
What are you talking about? That is not how the Sydney clubs are at all. It's a shame people make judgements without actually attending a club. DC - broken.record.please.make.it.stop!
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MrPlayful
8 years ago
Jonesy, great thread! And thank you all for the positive contributions.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Introduce yourself. Speak to them. Tell them you're new, or new to their club / party. They know their club well, and the regular attendees. They can point out the nuances, and maybe even steer you in the direction of people to chat to / make you feel welcome. People often don't mind taking some time to help newbies feel welcome, without necessarily banging you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Use the shower and refresh between playmates ... Ladies ... I always carry a stash of vagisil wipes or I buy the JOJO brand of mint scented personal wipes. Refresh regularly if you can't use a shower (I don't use the showers often because I don't know what nasties are lurking lol) Gentlemen ... at parties or clubs, shower after you've 'dipped your wick' ... if you expect me to suck your cock, keep that thing clean and fresh :) you too can wipe down after extended pussy play and it's courteous to your next playmate, 'stale pussy' never tastes good after a long period of time :) If the venue provides a locker, always carry a little can of deodorant ... nothing like the stench of sex and sweaty pits in a club ... a little effort goes a long way ;) Mary xx
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Pardon ? No I haven't , but I can read what others have to say .. Unless they're lying which I very much doubt. Too many saying the same thing.. It's what those who seem to know have to say that determine how I feel about this. I'd love to go for the experience , but not if I'm one of many guys who get ripped off at the door.. Hope you don't have a vested interest ????
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I hope you enjoy the Melbourne scene. Perhaps D.C will take you on a tour. They did once go to a club in 1995. Lmao. Sorry, that was too funny not to say.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Sounds like a no brainer ,but trust me in the excitement you can forget ,If you have a latex allergy ,bring your own latex free condoms - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Exactly , heard it though the RHP grapevine.. ? It's the views of many couples over the years that seem to be the most consistent and the opinions are almost always the same. ? I'd love to be proven wrong and find out its not like that, ... but with so many saying the same thing , what else is a man suppose to think ?
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Well thank you , 😃. I'd be only too happy to be your guest. Going with a couple in the know make things far more comfortable than just turning up as the dreaded single male figure. Just my luck , you're in Melbourne and me in Sydney, lol.. but where there's a will ? Oh, and the camel toe. yes ' of course.. the best on RHP by far.. 👍 Jay....
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RHP User
8 years ago
We avoid nights that are open nights for single guys as they seem to move in groups, hovering around and watching. Not the most comfortable feeling. Single guys that are just that, single, share a drink and have a chat and ask permission to join in now that is much better. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Understand what you're saying and I agree with your sentiments As a single male, I just can't see myself moving in group like that. This is the one thing that stops me going at all. In a ideal world , having a couple approach instead of the other way around would solve some issues .. I've had that in the real world so I'd be happy with that and if I was overlooked for someone else' so be it... At least you wouldn't look like a dickhead mulling around.. I'm sure as a couple , this option has been your choice more than once.. Just thinking aloud ? Jay
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Single guys moviing in mass, so reeks of mob mentality. Like a pack of hyenas(spellcheck....) scavenging for morsels. Several times gone to an empty play room with a partner and they follow you and next minute a room full of wallflowers. Least It makes me feel valued
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Somewhere along the line my Forum has morphed into a commentary on single men who attend swingers clubs. Its not quite the direction I was seeking. I'd love everyone who has commented on this side topic to now put up a post on tips, hints and some insider knowledge about attending swingers clubs...thank you. 😊
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
I got into pack mode myself then.... Dressing Down. I find it the best way to get your sexy on. Daunting at the start but deep breath and do it. Amazing how it changes your mindset (well me anyway) from nervous real life of arriving alone to the reason you are there. For me corset and startups and gstring. After a short period of time and a few thirsty slurps, I'm in the zone
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Start ups ?do tell,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Stay ups that would be. Start-ups would be margaritas...... Small....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not all parties are the same. Some are meet and greet and more social others like ours are all in play. Not all advice is relevant for all parties. Ask the hosts is my best advice. Also 75% of guys have erection problems at first parties.........it doesnt matter.....use uour tongue and fingers. Thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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CuriousInPerth02
8 years ago
My wife and I are pretty new to the swingers clubs but have thrown ourselves in to the scene and have spent most weekends at the club since... RESPECT everybody in the club - No judging, what makes somebody else happy might no be your bag but it doesn't have to be, a swingers club is one of the few places in this world some people can truly be themselvesGo with NO expectations other than having a fun time - You will leave disappointed if you attend thinking playtime is a certainty, desperation is not a nice look for anybodySmile - Costs nothing, makes you look 10 x better and approachableDon't get drunk - Whisky dick?Good personal hygiene is a must - Brush your teeth, wash and style your hair, use deodorant and after shaveDress well - Dress like you are trying to impressTalk to everyone - You will not only meet playmates but genuine nice people that you enjoy talking with, it's also good on return visits as you already know peopleRespect the rules of the club - Leave the lights alone, don't force your way in to closed door rooms etc...Clean up after yourself - Pick up your used condom you animal! We have an awesome time at the club, we don't play every time but the social aspect of it is amazing, everybody has been so accepting and friendly :)
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Sweetsome
8 years ago
I began some research into this topic online several weeks ago and wow !! I found a very very hot reality program called Playboy Swing on Porn Hub. In summary it is about a group of swinging couples that regularly get together in a big mansion/playhouse. A couple is brought in from the "outside world" that are considering taking their relationship to the next level. A Counsellor and hosts help the couple through their fantasies/wants, emotions etc and 99% of the time they all end up in the red room having a wonderful time. Very educational and amazing what you can learn from one episode !! (no acting, very tasteful and definitely worth high data usage)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm always curious about the "rules" associated with a single lady. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am a single guy and have visited few swingers clubs here in perth. agree we are charged way too much. Anyway my experiences so far has been not too bad. I've visited club 103 few times and have got "lucky" everytime except once or twice. just yesterday (wednesday) I went to sensations and although there were only 7 people and only 2 ladies, I was lucky to get action with one of the ladies.. so I guess its a bit of a lottery in the end.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
What are you curious about? Is it approaching and playing with single ladies? Or is it the "rules" around single women approaching and playing with others?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'd just like to share my only experience at a swingers club.. I paid the $100 entrance fee, met some lovely and nice people and a great venue, as the night rolled on a couples male partner was very forthright and bordering aggressive (perhaps jealous)? I felt dissapointed in his response to a start of a conversation as I am very respectful and polite, in fact I'm just happy to chit chat to anyone.. I left after that as I felt uncomfortable. Just my personal opinion on the only time I've visited a club, perhaps I should try again at a different venue to experience a great time. ✌🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
8 years ago
Well well well..... 😤pffft... groom and put gel on my hair you say🤔. But where will I put the gel😟. I am a baldy guy! Bahahaha. See you guys on the dancefloor🤖 or a nearby club near my place. Great to see your forum responses. Have a happy swinging time.👿
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lik2watch59
8 years ago
Lara102016As MsJonesy says, "what are you curious about"??I see by your profile you're not just looking for females so you can have the pick of the crop, so to speak. Being a single female at a swingers club you must get approached quite a lot. I go to several different clubs and parties with a female friend of mine and have seen single females being swamped to the extent I start to feel sorry for them. Some times we've moved in and befriended her to at least give her a barrier to hide behind so she can relax a little more. It all depends on the culture of the people at the club / party on the night, sometimes it can be a problem. I hope your experiences have been good.
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lik2watch59
8 years ago
Sweetsome I just jumped on to "Pornhub" and looked up "playboy swing" I'm assuming that is the series "Playboy TV - Swing" you're referring to? Shit, there's at least 4 seasons and 10 episodes in each season, WOW, that's a lot of viewing (LOL) I watched part of one of the episodes, yes, that could be good for beginners to watch before venturing to club for the first time. I look back at my first time at a club, boy, it was a bit confronting. I found once people found out I was a newbie, they were very helpful and guiding with how the scene works.
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RHP User
8 years ago
As someone who has never been to a swingers club or party, I can certainly appreciate all the helpful information. Will definitely follow this thread! :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sweetsome
8 years ago
lik2watch59 Yes that's the one :) Not all about Swinging & Parties, lots of sex education/demos & experimenting too !
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RHP User
8 years ago
Great post. Answered a lot of Qs for me. Thank you - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
When I go to clubs it is mainly as a single female as hubby is not really into the scene. First few times it was a bit overwhelming, so many guys vying for your attention, a lot that you are not interested in, but you need to be assertive and learn how to say no. Sure, you may hurt some feelings, but never go into a club or play party situation expecting to get lucky. I've been and hooked up with nobody, and I've been and hooked up with 7 people in the night. Never go with any expectations, and just be yourself. Throw away your inhibitions, I find it's a great way to build up self confidence cos there is always someone checking you out haha. - Posted from rhpmobile
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CuriousInPerth02
8 years ago
You can buff the top of your dome instead ;) See you there soon
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Swingers I'm a 47 year old male,only been with a few couples and totally enjoyed it,unfortunately no Red hot pie for me yet on this site.I am currently thinking of going to a local swining house party,I'm fairly confident around social people,yes I'm nervous and at this stage entering on my own.Should I let people know it's my first time ? In early conversation .I also sometimes get shaving rash and is unattractive ,products to help please ? Any other ideas,confidence boosters or help would be appreciated - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CuriousInPerth02' My wife and I are pretty new to the swingers clubs but have thrown ourselves in to the scene and have spent most weekends at the club since... RESPECT everybody in the club - No judging, what makes somebody else happy might no be your bag but it doesn't have to be, a swingers club is one of the few places in this world some people can truly be themselvesGo with NO expectations other than having a fun time - You will leave disappointed if you attend thinking playtime is a certainty, desperation is not a nice look for anybodySmile - Costs nothing, makes you look 10 x better and approachableDon't get drunk - Whisky dick?Good personal hygiene is a must - Brush your teeth, wash and style your hair, use deodorant and after shaveDress well - Dress like you are trying to impressTalk to everyone - You will not only meet playmates but genuine nice people that you enjoy talking with, it's also good on return visits as you already know peopleRespect the rules of the club - Leave the lights alone, don't force your way in to closed door rooms etc...Clean up after yourself - Pick up your used condom you animal! We have an awesome time at the club, we don't play every time but the social aspect of it is amazing, everybody has been so accepting and friendly :) This! Nice work. I would also add my experience ... oh my I am drunk and nearly naked? I have little rule for myself... give yourself somewhere to go.. that may be an escape route, a condom hiding in the welt of my stocking, a shirt to cover up, a tube of paw paw ointment, or just a standard drink left in the bottle.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Question- is it okay to not go with the same couple? To explain better if you meet a couple and my partner is keen on the female and I'm not keen on the male can you say no to just one part of the couple or is it always a package deal thing? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Badder9
8 years ago
Been to a couple of wicked private parties where we were made to feel comfortable straight away, people asked if it was ok to touch. No clubs which is a real let down adelaide... very keen to go to a saints and sinners ball!
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megz85g
8 years ago
I guess that's up to everyone involved, some couples will only play together, whereas some are happy to be separated. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nice read.Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' Yes, totally agree and very important - Posted from rhpmobile Nice Read. Good one guys. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I really like your idea of not having any expectations.
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swingalingson
8 years ago
Currently chrome in me Dome with an awesome shine🤓😆
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi, a few years ok a couple (friends of mine) invited me to join them in a 3 some. Absolutly loved it..... then met someone who wasnt into that scene. Now single, id like to explore more of this lifestyle. Im a bit self concious and have recently lost a lot of weight. What would be a great club for someone like melself to visit in Melbourne. I would be going with no one unless someone would like to meet up before hand and with no expectations and see what the night brings. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi all. Just wondering if anyone would care to touch on bisex m-m encounters whilst at swingers clubs and parties. Or is that generally not done? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'coastie_couple' Hi all. Just wondering if anyone would care to touch on bisex m-m encounters whilst at swingers clubs and parties. Or is that generally not done? - Posted from rhpmobile ........anyone?
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RHP User
8 years ago
My experience of Sydney clubs is that m/m encounters are not the norm but they do occasionally happen. When I have spoken to other women there most of them would love to be involved or watch some hot men getting it on. But basically most guys are straight, or pretend to be, so male bi play is rare. Swingers parties are something different all together. Is you go to the right party you can find every combination, any gender and extreme kinks. In my opinion swingers clubs are pretty conservative over all when it comes to sex and the rules. In Sydney anyway.
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RHP User
8 years ago
For instance I have never seen a serious cross dresser at a Sydney swingers clubs - couples club and OSS, however I did see a cross dresser at the St Kilda club. He enjoyed being treated like a wind up doll. That was a few years ago so can't remember what the club is called.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My question is why haven't I gotten laid on this forum since joining over a week ago? - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
8 years ago
If the venue has a spa don't bother with make up and fancy hair dos (personally I love the freedom of running around all relaxed in a towel) There's no way to make an elegant nude entrance into a spa but a giggle about it may make you friends Glasses are incredibly inconvenient for swinging - have yet to figure out why contact lenses move out of position when swinging Swinging is incredibly social and I probably spend more time talking than anything else - and my tip is to talk to people even if you don't think you want to play with them Have no expectations - even as a female I don't assume I'm going to play, I go for the spa and anything else is a bonus Agreed about the comments of the behaviour of single men at clubs - which is a shame because when I feel safe I play more and will play out in the open, not sure what the solution is but when it's better controlled my observation is it works better for everyone XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol you should start a topic on that, that would be hilarious 😀
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Wow. A whole week. What is this sex site coming too when a single guy goes a week without getting a root...... Just shame on these women
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RHP User
8 years ago
TemptressRed, Everyone is different and some have hall passes. For us as a couple we always play together and never 'take one for the team'. So unless we are both interested we are more than content to just have fun together. Going with no expectations is always less pressure and leads to less disappointment. Neither of us would go off with someone else and leave the other alone either. Also if a single male or female joins us we have to both be comfortable with the third person. We go together to both have a fun night and then go home together to continue the fun. The spa (if the club has one ) is always a good ice breaker to get things started too. Hope that wasn't too long. 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' For instance I have never seen a serious cross dresser at a Sydney swingers clubs - couples club and OSS, however I did see a cross dresser at the St Kilda club. He enjoyed being treated like a wind up doll. That was a few years ago so can't remember what the club is called. Agree. I've only been to couples events as my male half. So extremely apprehensive the other week attending as me. I had my regular couple as support and probably would not have gone without that. There were 25+ couples there and I felt no uncomfortable moments, just normal respect. Certainly no bi play which I was not expecting nor wanting. We played and later played as a fivesome with a another couple where the woman had never played with a TV. So great night and a few fuck it things ticked all round. Much respect for my couple for making it happen. And. respect to everyone there for accepting. Rhp people rock
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
I did see you having your fun with your lady freinds and couples ,like a kid in a sweaty candy shop you were ,'was funny watching people watching people wondering past tilted heads and some curious faces ,some wtf faces as they had a second look ,then a smile ,but not one tisk tisk,or looks of non approval - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
THE THOUGHT OF ATTENDING A SWINGERS PARTY HAS FACINATED ME FOR QUITE SOMETIME. IM KEEN FOR THE EXPERIENCE AND MORE THAN WILLING. IF ANYONE COULD GUIDE ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO BE INTRODUCED TO THE LIFESTYLE. IT WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED
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