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The More In Love I Am, The Faster I CUM!

October 06 2014

This is something that was brought to my attention by a girl that I was recently seeing.... its also what I have noticed over the years with different partners and want to share with others and see if it was just me or is this normal When I am with a Partner that I really love completely I would not be able to last past the point of my partners for coming orgasm, as soon as I could hear or sense she was close to orgasm I would lose all control and cum, sometimes before her (embarrassing I know).. But then, when I am with a partner that I am having NSA Fun this does not happen, I can last much longer and she can experience multiple orgasms and the fun can go for hours. Which is Awesome and is generally how I am with my partners as long as it stays feelings/emotion free, and we have the most amazing sex (so im told)... But as soon as I start to fall in for them it starts to happen again, and I start to cum sooner.. with my last partner at first the sex was mind blowing then I fell head over heals for her like a stupid teenager and like a switch I couldn't even last till she reaches her orgasm, she brought this up a couple weeks ago before we broke up and its been eating at me since... When we talked about it she suggested it was because my natural instincts was to reproduce with her, as I see her as someone that I would see as a suitable mother to my children... which I found quite interesting as I never ever wanted children before I met her till i banged my head an fell in love While talking with her I realised that that this was not the first partner this had happened with but all my previous partners I fell for in love with.... Then on the weekend just past I met a girl for some NSA fun an like clock work I was back to normal, in control and fun to be had for both for as long as we both could stay awake and she txts me the morning after saying how amazing I was in the sack... now why cant I do that with anyone I fall in love with? WTF?

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RHP User

10 years ago

its just a matter of comfort levels.I could have an amazing partner who does everything right and yet getting to an orgasm is like running a dam marathon....Hard Work!But then if its a regular lover who I also share an emotional connection with, I cum a lot faster. Nothing to do with reproducing! I don't need to cum to reproduce...but then the old egg farm has been out of business for many years now Personally I don't see a problem unless you make it a problem......there is always round 2

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Smilingwithfun

10 years ago

In the last part of your post you say its back to normal as you can now last. Definition of normal? Why the focus on lasting all night?

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RHP User

10 years ago

It is all in the mind OP..So practice distracting the mind the next time you fall in love..Refreshing to hear from' a man that likes to fall in love xxQ

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RHP User

10 years ago

Normal as in when I'm with a girl I am unattached with as I was on the weekend, I could easily last as long as her or I pleased, its not about lasting all night unless we both enjoy that type of sex its more about lasting long enough for both of us to be able to reach fulfilment and not just myself! ... when I'm attached its another story e.g. I don't get a uncontrollable urge to blow with partners with no attachment but as soon as I feel attached, I literally am a couple minute wonder kid hahaha if that makes sense, no matter how I try distract myself with names, dates, times, songs, counting, stopping starting, different positions, music, breathing, what ever, its just turns into whoops he did it again lol ... Yes JayJay_66 there is always round 2, but I feel for her, as soon as she is close, I have to stop or its over.. now how is that fair? I guess its not which I why she brought it up...

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Mischeviouslad

10 years ago

OP.... this should be proof positive to you that sexual arousal is a predominantly mental process. It is even more so for the women you are with.When minds are connected, and aroused, the body flows with it more easily and willingly. However, when you are in a relationship with someone, and have more opportunity to explore with them, you CAN train yourself/yourselves to last as long as you want.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Heaps of guys find this happens.. The more comfortable you become with a female the easier it is to cum. The first time with the same female it's a little harder because we tend to overthink and concentrate on what's happening making sure to please.. Once we relax the sex becomes easier and we tend to cum quicker...

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RHP User

10 years ago

At a guess love can alter brain chemistry reducing serotonin levels, low serotonin levels is one of the causes of premature ejaculation. Research foods that help to increase serotonin and your stamina will cum back, or you could try antidepressants. Hope this helps 😉

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RHP User

10 years ago

I am like that as well. I can only have mind blowing sex with people that I do not love. Those that I love, I am incapable of being intimate with. I know why. And now I accept that little quirk in me. I guess think of a wedding dress, a mother in law, and kids screaming to get into the bedroom, when your having sex.that will either shrink it up to your balls or prolong the experience. your young, things can change over time.

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