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The Mum Bod

October 01 2020

I read an article not long ago that while we women obsess about our body image (not all women I must say) men are visual creatures and generally do not see the flaws and imperfections that we see in ourselves. I can say with certainty that we all struggle with our self esteem at times. While women seem to care more about how they are treated rather than how a man looks, but looks do also matter. Obviously everyone has things that they prefer or like. What is a man's opinion on someone with a "Mum Bod"?? I have been pretty confident in myself for a very long time. I am average height and a little overweight but have never really gone up or down by 10 kg's. But due to "change of life" over the last 5 years and more in the last 6 months I'm noticing big changes in my body. I'm so moody and tired all the time. I am becoming a bit self conscious and my hips have widened. My weight hasn't changed that much but everything seems to be "Heading South". Do men really place that much importance on how we look?? There are hundreds of reasons for attraction.

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FeistyFatty

4 years ago

I would be suprised if men dont notice "flaws and imperfections". That's sounds rather fanciful.... they're not blind..... we all see it lol. How one is perceived by another is such a subjective thing and will be so wide and varied. I actually think some people have magic mirrors and need to be kore honest in the way they view themselves and self appraise on their profiles. This goes for both men and women. I'm a firm believer if someone judges (and dismisses) you solely on your physical appearance; bullet dodged.... they weren't worth your time. There's plenty of quality people who will appreciate and enjoy you just as you are.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Being sexy and feeling sexy is far nore than just looks. Attraction comes in many forms and visual is one of many. I if you feel confident in your own body then that will and does come across as sexy to many people.

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Mrs_Deep_Love

4 years ago

I think most mature men realise that they aren't perfect themselves, therefore don't seek perfection. The most exciting times for me have been after mental stimulation and connected conversation.

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AnnieWhichway

4 years ago

Don't worry, they see the flaws and imperfections. But a warm wet hole overrides a great deal. At least for the first several dates. The interest level is physiologically tied to the semen level in the bag. Empty bags = " No l can't make it tonight, something has come up....(the footy is on)"

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Kokoflamingo

4 years ago

Im not a man (honestly) but I must say this......if theres an attaction then a few extra pounds is irrelevant. In the moment you are connecting with that person regardless of shape/size, etc. I have a "mum bod" but it doesnt bother me if people dont like it, Im me and thats that.

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teamaj2

4 years ago

For most people , there needs to be attraction. In my opinion , confidence ( not arrogance) is attractive . Someone that is comfortable in their own skin , even if they are far from being a supermodel. Often mustering the energy to dress up and exude the confidence can be difficult for some of us women of a certain age .Reigniting your own mojo can be a struggle at times . In my opinion it’s worth the effort. There is definitely people out there for each and every one of us . I found going to parties , dressing up , feeling sexually attractive , flirting makes me not think about what lies beneath my lingerie .Attending events gave me confidence . In the current climate , this has not been possible . I’ve found , we make the effort at home ( just us ) and the mum body doesn’t enter into it. Attracting others - well I’m 58 ! If they expect a 28 year old body here , they will be sadly mistaken. Attraction is so personal , so I( we) never take offence if we aren’t what someone seeks . Good luck . Ax .

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Freaky_Fun

4 years ago

My body is also changing. I used to be quite athletic and muscular, I still train like l used to but now my knees just hate me and my body does what it pleases. My partner and friends love me for me and that's all l care about.

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

We are our own worst critics! If one can see and accept their perfect imperfections, they really dont give a shit what others think.

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RHP User

4 years ago

For me it's who you are, what you do to turn me on and how horny you are. Dad bod luvs mum bod...

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intheswing

4 years ago

When we first went a swingers club that was our biggest worry that it would be full of people that had hot sexy bodies and we would be embarrassed with our 50 year old bigger bodies but what we found was that it was full of sexy people but the bodies were just the same as you would see walking through the shopping mall skinny to bigger and all sexy sometimes the gym athletic bodies have more trouble meeting people as a lot of average people think that they are out of their league

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MrNatural77

4 years ago

A wise woman once told me sexy is an attitude not a dress size. She was spot on

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FireJuggler

4 years ago

I'm a guy that does enjoy the visual aspect of a naked woman, but there is also something more to it than just looking. If a woman is comfortable enough to let me see them naked then that is a major turn on, plus I find it sexy AF when a woman is confident about being naked. You don't have to have the "perfect" body to be sexy, confidence in what you do have is the key.

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