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The Myths of swinger clubs
February 07 2017
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
And we know what it felt like, to go to a swingers club for the first time. The anxiousness, excitement , anticipation ....butterflies in the tummy .... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Before I first went to one, I actually had a conversation with a well known sex therapist (in the industry) who is in an open/swinging relationship herself and does relationship coaching etc. Most may be unwilling to go alone, especially as a female. But sometimes we have no choice as such, which is how I ended up going (but I'm used to wandering around like a lost puppy at times...)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was first introduced to swingers clubs in the Uk,Amsterdam and Sydney by a previous partner and we played together with other couples and had some memorable times and i never thought twice about going. Fast forward a few years and I'll never forget the first time i attended a swing club on my own,really had to build myself up for it but once i got in and got chatting i soon relaxed and had one crazy nite ill never forget!! I now am a regular and am on first name terms with the staff lol,ive never had any trouble or worried for my safety,no always means no and ive been on couples nite and my fav is singles nites,the guys ive met are great and never had a drama.
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social_suicide
8 years ago
Well we have only been to one which was mikes place. The place was just about ok, not exactly run down but in desperate need of a make over, we couldn't fault it for cleanliness. The staff were great. We have been to a ton of (normal)great clubs and this place was basically a hole in the wall type establishment, it felt weird being well dressed as the décor didn't suit much above thongs and shorts. The sound system was suitable for a teenagers retreat and the music played was not memorable and lacked a professional touch. The play rooms were on the same level as a low class brothel, bed heads would have been nice. Basically the place lacked investment and class. Admission should be no more than $30 to $40 for anyone as that is a true reflection of what it is. At $30 we would go again as sometimes its the company you meet that makes a great night.
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
About my own body stopping me :) Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Im very new to this and have just started to explore the idea with hubby about swinging. A club just for swinging seems imitating for someone who's not sure what they are doing. where would a newbie like myself even find a swingers club? Google? Private invite only? - Posted from rhpmobile
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PlayNow77
8 years ago
I almost built up the courage last week to go to my first swingers club but pulled out at the last minute and went to a brothel for the first time, wow, ticked that of the bucket list! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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PlayNow77
8 years ago
^off - Posted from rhpmobile
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Laidback_Fun
8 years ago
We are really keen to get to a club, the stars just haven't aligned timing wise yet lol We are Very excited to experience it! A little nervous. , but super excited! - Posted from rhpmobile
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FredAndGinger2
8 years ago
We've been to only a few organised play meets - one was one of the big listed events and the other was a small event listed in the RHP events page. We have also been to about 6 social meet and greet events. We went to the big play party (around 100 people) as our very first experience in the scene, and before we even new about the adult dating sites such as RHP. The first few hours was just a regular social party, meeting, chatting, and having a few drinks. We met some great couples and single ladies at these events. We don't play (have sex) on first meet however that doesn't mean there wasn't any fun. The first experience was very sexy just talking, flirting and own-partner side by side sex. As a couple we have no interest in meeting single guys so my suggestion for nervous new couples is to go to an event for couples and single women only. This way there is less distraction from overly forward confident men taking up too much of your socialising time. If you like a lot of attention from men then ignore that tip.. Another tip for newbies is to go to a few social meet and greets and just get comfortable chatting with others. Are you the shy type or don't have great conversation skills? In this scene there is so much to talk about that you'll be asking questions and talking much more than at a normal party. We've met fantastic people that have become great friends very quickly. Some are sexy play friends and others are social friends only (at the moment). Some people want to move fast and others like to build a foundation of friendship and trust first - which is what we like to do. Have a great time out there! - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We went with a couple, from here, to a swingers club in Elsternwick on Sat night. We were joined, in the jacuzzi, by a single female, who stated that she was treated with much more respect, at a swingers club, than at a normal nightclub / bar. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had always dreamt of going to a swingers club with a friend... male/female but I never had the guts. I didn't know what to expect... could I come and just watch. Meet and interact with mature sexually advance people. I didn't know whether I would want to play the first time. I'm a little on the voluptuous (full figured side) so was very nervous that I would not be attractive enough. I decided well I might as well do this. After a chat on rhp site to an experienced swinger and knowing at least one person that would be there was enough to get over the nerves and fear and change that into excitement and anticipation. I got dolled up... and walked into that club like I was a regular. I had an amazing time. I felt safe and sexy and soooo fucking horny I didn't want the night to end. Thank you to those PL regulars that made me feel so welcome and safe. I will be going again and again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some great tips and observations Fred & Ginger. Having run a club for over 5 years now, one of the main attributes of going to a swingers club or party is the ability to communicate and converse with others. Those that lack social skills either need to develop them of hang out at other venues. In terms of the nights activities at my Club, the Pleasure Lounge In Perth, it would be about 80% social 20% sexual. And a pleasing sight is to see all of our guests involved in conversation in the lounge area. This is helped to an extent from the staff who make it their role to encourage guests to mingle and to chat. We have numerous single women attending and they have a common comment about the place and that is they get far more respect from other guests than they would at a normal club. Along with that is the safety they feel during the partyTo many it does seem a contradiction that at a swingers club you'll be afforded way more respect than the other places. Its a great community to be a part of. But we all have a obligation to maintain the respect and safety happy swinging
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
For the very first time , best thing you can do is go with another couple or friend so you have someone to talk to and distract your nerves ,after that first time, it's no where near as hard ,because a lot of those questions rolling around and around in your head are answered and it's no where near as scarey as you anticipated Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
First time hubby and I went we sat in the car for 10 minutes almost talking ourselves out of it, and walked in the door with butterflies. It's very intimidating taking your clothes off in a room full of strangers, but I guess you soon realize they are just as undressed as you are, and probably have the same body insecurities and shyness as you. I've gone as a single female a few times also, and have always felt safe, the staff are great and you can also pick a few guys you can tell would look out for you if you needed help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
My own experience - I kinda had the desire to go to something like a swingers club or party, but I can be very shy, and at the time was in a happy monogamous relationship. Fast forward to now, and I finally had the opportunity to start exploring clubs and another side of life. The first time I went to the Pleasure Lounge I went by myself. I had been to another club earlier in the week, but I knew PL was going to be a different kind of experience. I was very nervous, and didn't really know what to expect. I was very lucky that Swingalingson was kind enough to help me calm down and relax a bit. I ended up having an absolutely brilliant night, and have been back since (for another great night!). It really is best to just treat it as a social experience, with the added bonus of either watching some fun, or being a part of the fun. There is no pressure to do anything you are not comfortable with, and "No" is respected - it's a very safe environment, and if you feel unsafe just know that you can speak up. There is nothing wrong with just going along to check things out. For myself, I prefer to go as a single girl, by myself - there is no obligation to play with someone that has come with me, and no potential embarrassment (for either party) if the person I go with isn't into the scene. My best advice would be to just relax, know your boundaries, and just enjoy the atmosphere - I had never before been to a party/club/social event that was so welcoming and friendly, even with compete strangers. Throw on some clothes that make you feel confident, tell the butterflies in your tummy to be still, hold your head up, and walk through the door with a smile on your face!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Since when did going to a swingers become a prerequisite for engaging in this lifestyle??? I missed that memo obviously... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Getting the courage to walk through the door and no knowing what goes on when you get in there. The thought of crashing someones party and knowing nobody there... Butterflies..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is every one naked... are there people just everywhere couples singles having sex naked? I'm going on Wednesday in Perth I feel rather anxious scared. But excited.also going with someone I just met online today.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi did you end up going to I assume club 103 in Perth The wife and I are thinking but nervous at the moment
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RHP User
7 years ago
..only 6 months ago we were first timers, wanted to try.. so went to a club.. ...and loved it... it wasnt what either of us expected, it was actually just comfortable and more of a social atmosphere, club owners were freindly and guests all welcoming, .. most natural and normal experience.. oh, and at the end of the evening we had a little fun with a couple we were chatting with.. after that we joined RHP to meet another couple.. has not happened yet so will keep clubbing for now.. or forever.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
can you please tell me when you visited Mike's Place? we are thinking about attending but now I'm thinking twice
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totally_normal
7 years ago
In the public areas you can be fully sexily dressed or in lingerie and full nudity is usually kept for spas and bedrooms in my experience
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