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The Sudden 'Cold Shoulder'
February 01 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not you guys at all and you're not doing anything wrong.I don't get it why people do it either and I think it's rude..They do it because they can!keep your chin up it happens to the best of us.SuperFox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Depending on the couple they may be looking to meet but not right off the bat. Tbh most of the people I've met we have chatted for a while, then met when things seem good to go. If a couple said straight out let's meet for coffee I would have a red light going off, maybe youre coming off a bit too keen for some people.
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Sometimes a direct response as yours may seem too eager and too pushy for some so they back off. Though you may be time-poor, try the "thanks for the message, where would you like to start?" and see what comes back then. ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
they are not who they say they are......they are 12 year old boys,very old men ,99 plus who look nothing like their pic or they are attached and their partner has no idea that they are here. I no longer continue to do endless emails with people who never call,or text.I also don't bother with people who call or text disappear and reappear months later as if it was just yesterday that we were chatting. File them under H for Houdini.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some great suggestions, however I must say we are far from pushy. We are straight forward, but a simple, "Can we just chat on here for a while" or "Hey there, we've changed our minds, you're not our type" would suffice.... we're thick skinned... All great suggestions though and we will take them on board..Superfox and Freya you guys are probably more on our page...The words "time poor" just don't compute with some people I don't think and we've never liked chatting online because it lacks expression and a written sentence can be misconstrued more often that not. Anyhoo, soldering on, some of the people that have taken the time to respond to us are now our best friends so good things have come of all us......really good!!!
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enange63
12 years ago
We have tried to be honest with people and say that on reflection we dont think we are a match etc and it seems to offend some.Weve tried a simple, no thanks and recieved unpleasant messages.So, in honesty... we have just not responded because we dont want to offend and cant find an easy and inoffensive way to say no thanks...sad but true
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah that is sad... Oh well, each to their own I guess and their loss at the end of the day... I must say though in recent times it has mainly been newbies. Those who have maintained contact have kept us in the loop so to speak.. Apart from being frustrating we don't get much response at all anyway so it just makes it more so... Anyway, like we said before, not the end of the world and there are plenty more lovely people out there to meet K&M x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Although a response from them wouldn't hurt... Quoting 'eagertongue4u'Too eager = too pushy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Pussypurrfect' Some great suggestions, however I must say we are far from pushy. We are straight forward, but a simple, "Can we just chat on here for a while" or "Hey there, we've changed our minds, you're not our type" would suffice.... we're thick skinned... All great suggestions though and we will take them on board..Superfox and Freya you guys are probably more on our page...The words "time poor" just don't compute with some people I don't think and we've never liked chatting online because it lacks expression and a written sentence can be misconstrued more often that not. Anyhoo, soldering on, some of the people that have taken the time to respond to us are now our best friends so good things have come of all us......really good!!! I wouldn't worry about it. We are much like you. We are direct and prefer to meet up with people asap rather than go back and forth with messages. We always try and meet up in a public bar or club so if we don't get on or like each other we simply leave them and have a great night anyway. Never know who else you may meet We tend to think that if people don't want to meet up straight away (especially when they have contacted you) they are mostly all frauds, married people who can't really play anyway, to young, to old or so damn ugly this is their cheap thrills for the week. We tend to have a really good laugh at some when we ask to meet up somewhere, then comes all the excuses or they do not show at all. We would rather they just said no or whatever rejection they prefer to use. The other reason we like to meet up sooner rather than later is that their seems to be a lot of newbies on here testing the water and their own courage to do it. But really, we had a few like that and it is sooooo boring watching them fumble, get lost for words etc and it's like we are the teachers. Not for us anymore, we prefer experienced people who can actually match their profile. Don't have time to teach newbies or give cheap thrills to time wasters. So chin up and just go with the flow. Like the saying, all good things come to those who wait.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know that feeling when it sounds to good to be true..You send someone a message with a thought of how epic it would be to meet and the first reply is a suggestion to meet. Sometimes it sounds just to good to be truth and freaks some people out. Kinda weird when you think about it that it freaks people out and makes them feel insecure and unsure. Maybe you should try forming the reply a little differently than usual or just find the time to feel a slight connect while exchanging only a few messages more instead of one. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Get use to it, thats life on here, at least you did not have to drive into town and they did not show....... We have this problem all the time, and its starting to make us feel like we don't want to be on here any more.... GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks fun4threesomes!! We think you hit the nail on the head!! Yes GT we hear what you're saying and we have been on here long enough to know we should be ignore things like that but we thought we'd throw it out there and see if the issue was prevalent.. We've had our fair share of scratching up a baby sitter, spending a hundred dollars on lunch just for a no show and we know how you feel..It pisses us off to no end to be honest, but hey; at the end of the day some good did come out of it..We got to spend those days together child free, had great meals, ended up seriously inebriated and giggled like school girls most of the time and sifted out some trash from the site so not all bad in the end
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RHP User
12 years ago
Surely RHP folks are open and not scared off by someone who is assertive? I f****d a guy off here once after just chatting for half an hour. I had a day off and was horny!!!. Yes I am terrible!
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Wantlots
12 years ago
No you are not doing nothing wrong ,its just some people havnt got social manner and yes they cost nothing
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ivannahumpalot' Surely RHP folks are open and not scared off by someone who is assertive? I f****d a guy off here once after just chatting for half an hour. I had a day off and was horny!!!. Yes I am terrible! There is nothing wrong with a bit of Spontaneous Sex as we have done the same thing...Met a couple at the servo whiles getting fuel, (they where on the way to Perth) the guys wife said I had a cute arse, so we took them home (which was only 4 km away) and had a great morning fucking then gave them a coffee and sent them on their way............. Dam it was good sex too but we did not think we where terrible... Just fucking horny....GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ivannahumpalot' Surely RHP folks are open and not scared off by someone who is assertive? I f****d a guy off here once after just chatting for half an hour. I had a day off and was horny!!!. Yes I am terrible! Quoting 'gtbi_mm' Quoting 'ivannahumpalot' Surely RHP folks are open and not scared off by someone who is assertive? I f****d a guy off here once after just chatting for half an hour. I had a day off and was horny!!!. Yes I am terrible! There is nothing wrong with a bit of Spontaneous Sex as we have done the same thing...Met a couple at the servo whiles getting fuel, (they where on the way to Perth) the guys wife said I had a cute arse, so we took them home (which was only 4 km away) and had a great morning fucking then gave them a coffee and sent them on their way............. Dam it was good sex too but we did not think we where terrible... Just fucking horny....GT Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!! Now that, is awesome!!!
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