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The art of chatting up
August 30 2017
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RHP User
7 years ago
I just laugh, and delete! - Posted from rhpmobile
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LXIXLXIX
7 years ago
Someone please chat me up so I can reply to this lol...And the other side of the coin is being polite taken as flirting😁 But i agree, chatting up is all part of the excitement😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Why is there one picture of Mrs and none of Mr? I doubt this is even a proper profile. I've received 4 flirts from you and I don't match any of the things you ask for. I'll put them in point form 1. First there's the age thing 2. Then the couple thing 3. You BOTH like fuller figured women. I'm not so whoever sent the flirt is lying 😉 4. I smoke 5. No sex on the first date?? lol 😀 So what is it you want? I'm sorry I have my cranky pants on tonight, not helped by yet another profile that looks to be a man posing as a couple. Why not get your profile verified, contact admin, they'll get you to take a special picture with BOTH of you in it, easy to do. Then maybe review your own approach, being honest would be a good start, first before expecting too much from others
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
Is so lost in this age where you order a date online as if you were ordering pizza. Capturing the mind, allowing the tension to build, leads to a fine meal of sexual pleasure that leads to feeling satisfied. Sadly, it seems many of us are content with the drive through - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Ya wanna root then?? Of ginger.... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We get comments that are similar.... At least yours could string together a sentence! Some can't even manage that! If they can't manage to correctly spell some basic words and pur together a few witty paragraphs, then chances are pretty slim that you're going to get to engage in any intelligent conversation on the night. Just my two cents worth
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lots of entitled people on here who think that because your here those arts/ etiquettes go out the window - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...ended about the time sites like this/many others and gracious intelligence in general crossed the same parallels in the universe. The sad part is that men, women and couples will often give a positive response regardless of the approach. LOL...just goes to show you that the propionate of Darwin's theory will take a while to catch up to the very base baseline of Maslow's hierarchy of need and until then just be careful as to which monkeys you feed at the zoo. For chrissake too...please don't breed with them!
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
As a guy I don't see the point of crass and disrespectful opening messages like that. Sure I don't get many as a 40something attached..... If I message someone, rest assured I've READ your profile! Maybe a sexy pic drew me in but its most definitely the writing that hooks me. If its cheeky and flirty, all the better. I respect the girls who are looking for unattached men and leave them alone. ( who can resist a quick peek though, we all have that fantasy of something we cant have. ) Treat others how You want to be treated and expect nothing in return if your a being an ass. Shockingly were all real people, not faceless sex dolls. Jus sayin!
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
It is par for the course on here. Perhaps it's the calibre of the person writing those messages ? Perhaps they assume that because this is a sex site, this gives them Carte Blanche to send crass, lewd and often disrespectful unsolicited messages? And that we will enjoy them and reciprocate by opening our legs (and PG's) on command? An instant turn off for us. We prefer people who are more subtle, intelligent, articulate, respectful & imaginative. The rest we delete and or block. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is not for the suave and charming usually. Some people are very abrupt and basic in their communication. At work and at play. Give me face 2 face flirting any day.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
What has your reply got anything to do with the original post ? Besides an opportunity to rant? You yourself have admitted in previous posts that (a) you are not a swinger (b) you are not looking to hook up with couples or single females (c) you are looking for random sex & hookups with younger single men only - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious'Give me face 2 face flirting any day. You bring your face and I'll happily bring mine! Best...CM who's putting his suave game face on!
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Or as it is called these days "fine tuning a woman" That fine tune is such a powerful saying. Like a radar or a radio you have to be direct and dail in. But these days seduction is not passed for some... on from father to son on how to treat and interact with a woman. Perhaps maybe it is the modern man or boys who do not put effort. Perhaps they have no social skills. Great tits by they way!!! Your couple.... very inviting...nice dials
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RHP User
7 years ago
Until you've written 5 or so really long, detailed messages that are totally respectful in nature and show you've taken the time to read a profile only to receive zero response (not even a sorry you're not for me/us) can you appreciate how soul destroying it can be on this site.I always take time to write a good message but I can appreciate why others probably lose patience and think "fuck it!"
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've always made a point of writing my messages trying to do an even balance. Elaborating on their profile, and on mine, maybe including advice if they have commented about trying to meet people, and leaving the ball in their court. On the last point though is perhaps where it could be different, I think some prefer some type of "chatting up" as opposed to zero pressure whatsoever (men showing confidence etc?) Lately I have had replies (ie the few that do) that say either literally, or to the effect of: "your message was different, I'm not sure how to respond". So I guess simply hitting them up for a date, while it's what many others will do, at least makes for an obvious and easy yes/no response. Of course I've played around over a loooong time with various first message types, and profile texts, and in my experience it comes down to sheer luck of happening to message the right person at the right time in the right way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
7 years ago
If the stars align. Right time right place. BROTHER you are so correct. Just have to keep on going and remain positive. I believe every brick on a staircase has to be overcome until you finally get to the top.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I might add... as well as the above luck, you also need to have the right things on your own profile at the time, and no particular things that might turn that particular person away. So it is indeed like winning the lottery, but it feels so good when you win, I guess you become a gambling addict :) :p The first message in my opinion is to show to them you exist and see if there is any interest in further communication. If I get a positive reply, then I may start to be a little flirty, depending on their own writing style. However, once you again reply, you often still never hear from them again even after receiving a positive reply or a flirt. I just figure (for real profiles) either they've changed their mind, or their circumstances have changed, possibly found someone else. That's why I prefer social gatherings, you can meet enough people in one night that you could spend a lifetime trying to meet via messaging only. Ironically I can talk to people too who never responded to a message, but I'm always a little unsure whether to mention that or not... However, I still think my own "chatting up" skills could be improved; a big skill difference I feel from being able to have conversation on any other topic. Might be easier in this scene, but at a random occasion an attempt at chatting up in the wrong situation can seriously backfire. But I'm also just as discerning as the OP. I can't be bothered either if the other party can't manage much effort (but often they may not need to). - Posted from rhpmobile
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Oh I do so enjoy those messages. Worth the laugh but never worth a response. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We're all her for the same thing.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Porn videos aren't big on intelligent conversation.It's likely that plenty will base their fantasy sex on porn. Blurring the lines between porn and reality again..
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting you "I touch What has your reply got anything to do with the original post ? Besides an opportunity to rant? You yourself have admitted in previous posts that (a) you are not a swinger (I absolutely am thank you very much, and never said any such thing???) Perhaps you're confusing the stuck up couples definition of a swinger, and mine? (b) you are not looking to hook up with couples or single females (Exactly my point, so why did they hit on me??? Thank you for seeing that) (c) you are looking for random sex & hookups with younger single men only (partly correct re age but not random hookups, least not on here, I'm now looking for a relationship. Have you not seen my profile changes? Oh that's right, you wouldn't be able to 😊) Okay now the big question Drum roll.................. What have any of the above things got to do with my response? 😂😂😂 😇
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RHP User
7 years ago
Responded to A, B and C inclusive, so refer to quoted text for that 😀 Just making sure I dot the t's and cross the i's 😉 Oh and I forgot to end quote 😊 oops
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
I think every message is an opportunity to assess.... because I assume like me, you believe your time is valuable. They did you a favour and saved you a lot of lost time and effort by proving they are not what you seek, upfront. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
Ok well firstly guys are only expected to chat up.. girls dont do that they sut back and expect guys to flick at them.. then complain about it... kills the dating vibe... Secondly... everything a guy says is deemed as chatting up.. then it was all labelled sleazy .. so majority if not all .. nearly all stopped because people were getting in trouble for it.. and sometimes it was only mere conversation. Thirdly.. somewhere people decided the straight up straight forward say what you want approach is best.. hence why thats why it hapoens now. Also why chilvalry is basically dead. Girls should also make an effort and when they do keep theyre word.. otherwise it comes across like you're mocking us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Your initial reply , to the op's post had nothing to do with their post. We, hit on you ? Lol you are far too old for us, and promiscuous(in our opinion). You are also a bully (just seen a few comments by others on another post ) And yes , we blocked you more than a year ago - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
What, in your opinion, makes you a swinger ? Do you go to swingers clubs and parties ? Have you had a MFM , FMF , MFMF and all the other combinations in between ( besides a MF) ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Think about your experience here people, hunters and collectors, desired and desirable, You reap what you sow.
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Curious1965
7 years ago
I am with you CandyDelicious. The way you say something in person makes all the difference, texting loses the context of a smile. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Haha no not you hitting on me 😂😂 that's nor what I meant. You're too boring and stiff, not in a good wat lol so good thing we weren't hitting on each other 😉 What makes me a swinger ffs you're not going down that tired old road again. Is there an official list of activities I can consult to do a test. I could report back with my results. I have had a mff but what difference does that make? Can we please not do this again. It is your issue, not mine, I'm not remotely interested in discussing it with you, again 😏
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry for typos
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RHP User
7 years ago
Haha that one takes the cake 😂😂😂 lmao are you judging me? Here of all places haha Yes I'm a slut and proud of it. Any more questions? I'm a bit tired. Can you make them multi choice? Ta
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm too old for you? You're definitely too old for me, and you know it 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
I suppose when we chuck our profile out to all and sundry, we're not going to get the quality replies we hope for. There are the downright crass oafs, looking for quick shags. There are the desperate, who can't make any contact, whatsoever, and just have to chuck out as many offers as they can. In between, are the decent people, and to interact with them, unless we are blessed with mutual attraction, we need to attend meet and greets, and/or interact in the forums, and hopefully someone will like what we say, the way we say it, our humour, and humbleness or confidence. That's why we need to be able to filter peeps on RHP by normal pastimes rather than purely sexual ones. Whilst I might enjoy sucking the toes of Taylor Swift, and licking up her legs to her inner thighs, I may not like doing the same to someone's blotchy chicken skin legs! However they may have great nipples and enjoy having Cheezles being sucked from them! Only wide ranging chat and openness will enable that to come to fruition! So let social peeps be social, and take their time to get to know each other, and send each other Christmas cards, whilst the solitary types who like to compartmentalise their life and find an easy hook up, and then move on, be the way they are. I optimistically hope that by being involved in the forums, that will attract someone who likes me for how they perceive me to by, the things I say and the way I write them, along with my profile description and pictures. I've said before I'm intrigued with iTouch, because of her thought processes, the quantity of what she writes, on a vast range of topics and not simply because of that lovely slim boyish body of hers! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry, had a mmf and a mff with about another 8 or 10 watching, phone sex guy on the phone at the same time, following his instruction. Other occasions that same guy lol dirty fucker he is, listened in on activity. Very open and confident sexually so go with how I feel, but never take one for the team. I'm fussy and not apologising/justifying that to you or anyone else. I'm also single, zero interest in couples, any wonder, so we'll have to agree to disagree. I couldn't care less how you or your mates classify me. It is like I said, your issue. I just have fun when I feel like it, couldn't give a crap whether you think I'm a swinger or not lol get a life dude
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thank you 😊
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