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The art of flirting
October 27 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
But most of my flirting involves words. Double entendres, twisting words and sentences to change the intent and outrageous flattery combined with olde world type manners is a lot of fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
its all in the eyes. lock them together, give a shy, sweet smile. get one back. rest is history :)
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Yes Freya, I have a friend who also has that ability, she really just oozes sex appeal, although she will say she doesn't, hmmmm I'm not sure I believer her, I think she is trying to make me feel better......I couldn't flirt to save my life, can't bat my eyes, well I can but I look a bit scary doing it. Now if you were talking about oozing the fuck off look, I rock that sucker....... Freya, I was flirting with you on the weekend and you didn't even notice.....might have to start practicing.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Eyes, eye contact you have to pay attention to the person you are flirting with if they are not looking at your eyes and wandering everywhere then you know they are not interested. Confidence, you need to be confident when flirting not bumbling all over the place but don't be over confident either nobody likes cockiness. ( i also like laughing so funny/confident is the best combo) Conversation, conversation needs to be good and interesting and if you are watching there eyes you can tell if they like the conversation and if they don't then steer it to something else.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I couldn't tell you exactly what I do. One thing I am aware of is that I touch things. I will stroke my neck, trace the rim of my wineglass, touch his/her arm... I think I'm all about the tactile. I was on a date last night where I showed the guy the tattoo on my inner wrist. As he asked what it said, he traced the letters with his finger. Hot!
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are definitely a flirt!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Remember my thread??? I still say I was just having some fun and being nice lol :p
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
I never flirt! I wouldn't even know where to begin. And I can honestly say I don't recall anybody flirting with me either. If they did, I didn't notice!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm crap at flirting. Really crap. I fall for men who make the move with a bit of confidence and dominance, so I'm more like a coy damsel. Not intentionally, I'm just really nervous around men until I know them super-well. A man once told me I was flirting when I was absent-mindedly rubbing my leg. I was massaging my quad gently after a workout! Flirting was the last thing on my mind. I'm a bit fussy about how men flirt. Subtlety is nice. Crass comments and blatant innuendo comes across as desperate to me. Turning every second comment into something sexual, even with humour, irritates me. It makes it seem as though the guy has sex on his mind, and doesn't care where he gets it. I like a man who has ME on his mind, and whose flirting is therefore more personal and a little more like seduction. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
But you are just a big flirt......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
...showed that Aussie girls couldn't work out if guys were hitting on them...and the guys surveyed said they were making it VERY obvious to the girls. Are we lousy at picking up the cues? I know this is me. Does it work the other way? I'm not a great flirt - but want to get better at it but think I need lessons on picking up the responses as well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flirting is automatic, it does not require conscious effort, in fact if you need to try you have failed. That said all things in life are done best with practice, and if you end up for what ever reason not getting a chance to practice you can become rusty. I was a compulsive flirt, it was not that I was out to flirt but I just end up flirting, its fun and mostly it is just that. There is no intention apart from human interaction. This year I decided to take a sabbatical and despite early set backs I am coming up to 12 months without intimacy. I have started going out to meet people again but I find there is no flirt in me, I find my self over analysing the situation, I find my self lost for words, and if you have to think about it its too late. Moral of the story simply is "Use it or lose it."
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RHP User
10 years ago
however my sister, who also happens to be a prude is an outrageous flirt. It just comes naturally to her but the follow through doesn't. I am the opposite, I am a terrible flirt and very bad at seeing it coming my way. I do enjoy cocky confidence and in your face flirting, especially if it includes corny pick up lines! Otherwise I am oblivious. I am probably a glance across the room type which usually only works with the weirdo you wish you didn't see but can't stop looking at!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Batting my baby blue eyes... I love to flirt. I do it all the time, lots of fun. I think its because I enjoy people, love to engage them especially men. You can often get a free cake with your coffee at times....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some have in there DNA both genders! Boundaries are hard to gauge ,cheeky flirts woman Have a cum devour me look,eyes stealthy undressing! Real talent as long as not just a tease!! Luv cheeky banter it's a great entree for perhaps a Great evening xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I fell of me couch..weirdos indeed xx:-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Nortee' ...showed that Aussie girls couldn't work out if guys were hitting on them...and the guys surveyed said they were making it VERY obvious to the girls. Are we lousy at picking up the cues? I know this is me. Does it work the other way? I'm not a great flirt - but want to get better at it but think I need lessons on picking up the responses as well. Often I have to say to my female friends, that guy is giving you the look. Or that guy wants to dance with you or what ever. I pick up things like that all the time. I notice right away if a guy is switched on to me, he never has to say a single thing. It is natural but you can also turn it off, as in not respond to flirts and give the right message to back off but in a nice way. I can sit next to a man not be looking at him, like on a train and I can almost will him to get hard. Just let the heat from your body touch his, as get close enough so that your legs might touch. Very subtle but it worksLike meander said, that small touch of trace over her wrist tat. The small things count much better than the big things. Even overt stuff can be fun, if you take it with a bit of a laugh. after all we are animals, we just lost our animal instincts
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lady T...No I don't believe you:-) :-) and what a yummy cake it was... all Greek and sticky......Lovinit..what a fibber:-)
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Circe
10 years ago
I agree with Tuscan, i'm a people person and an outrageous flirt. I love nothing more than a bit of good natured banter while getting to know someone. A big smile, a bit of twinkly eye contact, taking the double entendre when it's offered. Bam!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flirting with danger ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
I can't flirt to save myself (would end up saving the woman and leaving myself stranded). Unless I have had a couple and we were already getting on. I am too analytical & logical, and, as the blindman says, "I can see you clearly", no that wasn't it, oh yea, if you analyse the situation you have lost. Being an analytical person is hard to change but happy to accept suggestions on how. I believe more woman should flirt more.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
It all depends on timing and circumstance. Most of the people have already listed the 'main ingredients', but you have to look at the intended target or people available. I don't think many guys would be looking to flirt with, for example, a woman who is conspicuously older than himself. Then, of course, it also depends if you fall more on the 'introvert' or 'extrovert' part of the scales, and that will put you into an 'operating range' that you will personably feel comfortable with. For myself, I am always ready for a flirting experience - as Blindman says, it pretty much is on automatic. I tend to be reasonably subtle in how I handle that - sometimes I think it is too subtle, but as Nortee has noted, it appears that it may be more that many women are not really attuned. There could be subtle hints in the way you look at someone, the way you speak with them (and the words used), physical signs such as body movement or touching (as per Meander), or even other items such as wearing a particular fragrance, or bling, that may attract attention. As we are all individuals there will probably be just as many things we do to try and attract other, and how others will respond. It is just a matter of trying each in turn to see what interests the other party. What do I succumb to ? I've got to work out if the lady is actually intentionally trying to flirt, or is being 'absent minded' in some action that is not the message of what she may be intending to send out. If it is overtly obvious, I then double check her actions to make sure there may not be some other motive. Once the doubt has been reasonably removed, I will then respond accordingly. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
So my husband says, he has said he can see my body language and the guys reaction and thinks to himself there she goes ... has him hook line and sinker :) I say that's just me. It's all about fun! - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
Bring it on I say, nothing but Fun Fun Fun
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Missb4u
10 years ago
i suck at flirting and rarely pick up on it. To me innuendo and sarcasm and quick comebacks with a play on words are just normal conversation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' i suck at flirting and rarely pick up on it. To me innuendo and sarcasm and quick comebacks with a play on words are just normal conversation. If I can make you blush or give me a little hearted slap on the arm, the flirting is working.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I am probably a glance across the room type which usually only works with the weirdo you wish you didn't see but can't stop looking at! I resemble that comment.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm hopeless with flirting. I don't have enough confidence to do it
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' I'm crap at flirting. Really crap. I fall for men who make the move with a bit of confidence and dominance, so I'm more like a coy damsel. Not intentionally, I'm just really nervous around men until I know them super-well. A man once told me I was flirting when I was absent-mindedly rubbing my leg. I was massaging my quad gently after a workout! Flirting was the last thing on my mind. I'm a bit fussy about how men flirt. Subtlety is nice. Crass comments and blatant innuendo comes across as desperate to me. Turning every second comment into something sexual, even with humour, irritates me. It makes it seem as though the guy has sex on his mind, and doesn't care where he gets it. I like a man who has ME on his mind, and whose flirting is therefore more personal and a little more like seduction. - Posted from rhpmobile There is a line if its even approached its way too much..... ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++= Responding to OP. Flirting - I'm very tactile - my Ex the opposite - enough said. ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like to think that I exhude an irresistible sense of fun, and I gravitate towards people who are like that also. I'm an extrovert flirt. Nothing subtle here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Quoting 'ralf74' I am probably a glance across the room type which usually only works with the weirdo you wish you didn't see but can't stop looking at! I resemble that comment. I probably am that weirdo!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll flirt with anyone, it's not always overtly sexual either. Flirting for me is paying attention to the person, eye contact, flattery (not false) light touches, naughty grins and easy banter. The aim is to make the person feel good about themselves and open to me!
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I'm in the right mood I can be an outrageous flirt. The problem is that it does get me into trouble sometimes. I'm also not that good at picking up the signals when someone is flirting with me.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
funlover... Any excuse to slap you you know how it is...blushing..me..never 😚
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RHP User
10 years ago
A gorgeous woman 20 years my junior was throwing me glances across the dance floor constantly on the weekend when I was dancing with another woman. I wasn't sure how to react because I interact with her socially regularly and didn't want to act on this queue in case I misinterpreted the looks I was getting. So I just returned her glances with a gentle/fun smile. She left earlier than I and no further flirting(?) occurred. Was I misreading the situation? Flirt on you crazy diamonds Silva
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I couldn't tell you exactly what I do. One thing I am aware of is that I touch things. I will stroke my neck, trace the rim of my wineglass, touch his/her arm... I think I'm all about the tactile. I was on a date last night where I showed the guy the tattoo on my inner wrist. As he asked what it said, he traced the letters with his finger. Hot! Love love love seduction!
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inspirit
10 years ago
My eyes speak volumes as does my body language.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but I wonder,is flirting the precursor to seduction ...or is flirting like the flexing of a muscle,not necessarily going anywhere in particular,.....and has flirting ever sent the wrong message....like L4Q has said and got you into trouble?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flirting just happens. Not so long ago ' I was told by a lady friend Im a good flirt? Am I ? and how do you figure that, I replied.. Eyes , smile and touch she tells me.. Oh.. OK.. I'll accept that...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Eye contact, a sly smile and a witty response. Most women and men love a funny comeback, make them smile, and the flood gates open. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Thats just my personality in motion. I like to seduce the world, not merely the person in front of me. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I probably do it without realising I am doing it. As far as recognising that I am being flirted with. .i am pretty hopeless. The signs have to be ridiculously obvious for me to safely feel like a flirt is taking place lol. ie. .can I hold your penis for you :-p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had friends tell me I flirt... . They tell me, it's the eyes... I wonder if that would explain the many men and women I've had to try chat me up over time. Even a few starngers driving by in cars or trucks. Even having hubby alongside me hasn't deterred some. Hehe...
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' but I wonder,is flirting the precursor to seduction ...or is flirting like the flexing of a muscle,not necessarily going anywhere in particular,.....and has flirting ever sent the wrong message....like L4Q has said and got you into trouble? I think you make conscious decision to either seduce or flirt. Seduction to me is a precursor to sexual connotations - it is a deeper form of flirting like " hey I am seriously interested" Flirting to me is "hey I think you're you are not so bad" and you just have fun with it. Nothing to serious. In my work environment we all flirt. Nothing ever taken too seriously and if it is some one always blushes. hehe - Then we all laugh! Kindness can be mistaken for flirting as well though. In some instances though you do have to be careful. Not everyone can understand the light hearted banter. So yes Freya - I do believe you have nailed it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I absolutely agree that kindness,warmth,can be misconstrued as an interest in something more.....mixed signals perhaps?..... and as women in particular have said.sometimes it's hard to know the difference between genuine interest and the flexing'of the flirt muscle xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been accused of flirting when I wasn't intending it and I've failed at flirting when intended... so I guess I just suck at it. The same can be said for those flirting with me... sometimes I see it and sometimes I don't... must just be a personality flaw. SG
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RHP User
10 years ago
seducing the world...and seducing the world with words..."Language is a skin, I rub my language against the other.It is as if I had words instead of fingers,or fingers at the tip of my words.My language trembles with desire"... Roland Batthes....xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'silvangold' A gorgeous woman 20 years my junior was throwing me glances across the dance floor constantly on the weekend when I was dancing with another woman. Were you doing The Robot?
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RHP User
10 years ago
But, I got a "slap" from my Breakfast Companion. Quid Pro Quo.....
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Insomnian
10 years ago
Confidence. flirting is nothing without the confidence in ones self. Can be the difference between someone coming across as the bees knees, or just someone trying to hard. Least, that is what I have found in my experiences.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love those expressions fromthr1920's....the bees knees,the cat's pyjamas and the cat's miaow..... XxFreya
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Relies on the ability to put those around you at ease and feel good about themselves. Outrageous or not it doesn't take too much effort to shine a little light on someone with a kind word or a compliment to make them feel a little special. Sometimes just a smile and a wink is all it takes to cheer someone up or make them smile. Isn't that the essence of flirting? Was once told by a work gang that I was a terminal flirt.....I don't think I'm a flirt, I just like people to feel good around me because it makes me feel good. Seems harmless enough.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'dareidy' I probably do it without realising I am doing it. As far as recognising that I am being flirted with. .i am pretty hopeless. The signs have to be ridiculously obvious for me to safely feel like a flirt is taking place lol. ie. .can I hold your penis for you :-p - Posted from rhpmobile it worked
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ms Safari,is that not just being nice..Or in my case reasonably nice:-) ...When does it become a flirt?....and is it a conscious intent?xxFreya
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Lol yes it is depending on your (or my) intent toward said Flirtee not to be confused with the Flirter 😃 You aren't nice....not by a long shot. We've already had that discussion 😄
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