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The cougar phenomenon
October 20 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
then I don't want to fuck them. I am not into younger guys and for some reason, I feel like a pedo. Maybe because I worked with a lot of younger people (that are probably in the 25-35) age group now under my wing and they were like my kids. I am also a young mum and at 40, I have a kid who is 20 so it does worry me that people think he is my toy boy rather than my son.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
was 11 years my junior. I was referred to as his mother a few times in public. That's never comfortable. if I did indulge with a young guy like yourself I would be thinking he is only a FB and not a fwb as that has been my experience with guys under 35. I wouldn't be going out in public with him for that reason.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a fair few younger male friends and never feel uncomfortable going out in public with them, because they're just friends and will never be anything else. But if it was a 'date' (i.e. potentially leading to play), I would feel very uncomfortable especially if there was any sort of touching, kissing, hand holding or other PDA's between myself and a younger man. The cougar label is something I really don't want to be pinned with in public, although I'm more than happy to acknowledge it behind closed doors :). Also, as MissB72 put so well, guys under 35 for me are FB's rather than FWB'S and I don't want to be out in public with them. Rather spend the time with them in the bedroom getting my freak on lol. But I will just say in closing that it burns my ass there is still a stigma attached to older women & younger men!! The double standard is well & truly alive. Much love, Elle xx
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Circe
10 years ago
I look a bit younger so depending on the guy it doesn't look like a big difference anyhow. Not that I go too young, 28 is the youngest ... So far ;-)
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Why would you want to get intimate and naked and sweaty with someone you're ashamed of being seen with?! Total waste of time in my opinion..... DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hell no, sorry guys but there is noooooo way in hell I spend time with my lovers out of the bedroom. Though a few I may come in contact with in passing, its a small town after all. If I Pick up at the pub, as mean as this sounds, I say do not touch me or make make to much of a fuss in public. I am leaving now, wait for ten minutes and follow me out. Then I drive them home, fuck them senseless and drop them back at their car, all in the cover of darkness. I have to mention darkness and beer goggles here, its necessary they are not frightened into next week by seeing me naked in the day time. I may flirt a little in public but I have the image of the old frumpy , house wife and I aim to keep it.That way if anyone says I heard you are a bit of a cougar, I can say "Seriously do I look like one"?, I am more the old mangy pole cat. It is not pretty out there if an older woman is seen with a younger guy. I know a few of my friends have much younger husbands and the shit people say you would be suprised. There was a great program the other night about that on tv, about age gaps in relationships. It really does get some people bent out of shape. If I ever told some of my friends about my young lovers, they would stick their nose up and say how disgusting, and it would be worse as I am married as well. A right bloody scarlet woman.I like to keep my meat on ice
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Same as MissBB - I too look pretty dam good for my age! If I guy wants to be seen with me in public and is proud, well it says a lot to me. Actions so speak louder than words. Foxy PS- SHHHHHHHH *come in a little closer Mr.Eurotigercub, so I can whisper this in your ear* "Some aging gracefully women do not like being called Cougars BTW"..just sayin....SHHHHHHHHHH!!!
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
It depends on how I am treated in public too... Speak to me in "Hey dude" terms or Treat me like a bag of crap- be warned I have a better bag that holds everything, even the kitchen sink! 😎😎😎 Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
of younger guys is that they want to meet in private and don't want to spend time with me. It's just about sex for them and the communication skills are limited. Therefore I am not interested. I like to be treated like a real human being not just a sex object. I am definitely not a cougar.... That's another real turn off - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I dont worry, the youngest guy Ive been out in public with was 30. My ex was 9 years younger. If people look and judge thats their problem, none of my business. Its actually a confidence boost to be out and about with a fit young guy. But it works the other way....some younger guys who want to meet wont meet in public. So it doesnt happen. The older woman, younger guy thing is so common now that I dont think anyone really gives it a second thought. Oh, apart from extremes, like the 24 year old American lad who had an affair with his 70 odd year old long lost grandmother.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sadly... I still get the narks that gets their knickers in a knot because of the occasional attention i receive from a younger woman... Comes across as a jealousy... What else ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I dont worry, the youngest guy Ive been out in public with was 30. My ex was 9 years younger. If people look and judge thats their problem, none of my business. Its actually a confidence boost to be out and about with a fit young guy. But it works the other way....some younger guys who want to meet wont meet in public. So it doesnt happen. The older woman, younger guy thing is so common now that I dont think anyone really gives it a second thought. Oh, apart from extremes, like the 24 year old American lad who had an affair with his 70 odd year old long lost grandmother..... I don't have any grand kids .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' then I don't want to fuck them. If I don't want to be seen in public with someone I have lover well over a decade younger than me and I really couldn't care less. (Neither could he.) Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' It depends on how I am treated in public too... Speak to me in "Hey dude" terms or Treat me like a bag of crap- be warned I have a better bag that holds everything, even the kitchen sink! 😎😎😎 Foxy What does that have to do with younger lovers? If anyone treats me disrespectfully, whether in private or public they get the boot, no matter what their age.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That was meant to say: "If I don't want to be seen in public with someone then I don't want to fuck them."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its different. I do not date my lovers. Its just a tryst. Most guys do not seem to mind being in public with me if we run into each other, but then its not a date situation so no body would suspect we are sleeping together. My privacy is important to me, plus to my husband and I would hate to cause him any embarrassment through gossip. I do not think anyone's choices is illogical at all. Everyone has their own set of belief and what works for one may not work for another.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You crack me up, every time....
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RHP User
10 years ago
...how many girls are like me - avoid the gorgeous young things because they might remind me that, although I still feel sixteen, I'm not - and neither is my body. It has shows the seasons of life I've lived. Insecure? Yep! At least meeting at home I could control the dimmer switch lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like younger guys, i prefer them i might say and have no problem being seen with them out and about. My last relationship was with someone 13 years my junior and even if it started off with just play time after 3 years together he decided he wanted to marry me ...so we ended up doing a lot of things in public together in between :) however i found youngsters on this site are the ones who just want to come over and have their way with you with no public display whatsoever.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Nortee' ...how many girls are like me - avoid the gorgeous young things because they might remind me that, although I still feel sixteen, I'm not - and neither is my body. It has shows the seasons of life I've lived. Insecure? Yep! At least meeting at home I could control the dimmer switch lol They remind you of how luscious you can be at any age. It is the woman they want, not the girl
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Colette
10 years ago
If my cubs want to take me out I have no problem with it. A lot of the young men I know love having me on their arm. The cougar/cub thing is so common now and I feel that we mature women should relish it.
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precious142
10 years ago
in my family genes........I have 4 brothers who are older than their brides........ranging from 21 - 8 years...........So why should it be any different for me?????
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'inthekiss' Its different. I do not date my lovers. Its just a tryst. Most guys do not seem to mind being in public with me if we run into each other, but then its not a date situation so no body would suspect we are sleeping together. My privacy is important to me, plus to my husband and I would hate to cause him any embarrassment through gossip. I do not think anyone's choices is illogical at all. Everyone has their own set of belief and what works for one may not work for another.
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Colette
10 years ago
You're only as old as the boy you hold ! Honey, don't worry so much, they know full well we have saggy bits and wrinkles and STILL they love to be with us. We have a lot more to offer than a young one with a firm body. "Confidence" is the key, and we have experience, so realise your power and go get those gorgeous young boys!
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passion8_l
10 years ago
I was in a relationship with a 31 year old man for 18 months and going out in public was never an issue for us, if a man did not want to be seen in public with me then he wouldn't be welcome in my bed. I am young at heart and not only have I had younger lovers but I have many younger friends I socialise with regularly and the age difference is never apparent.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'inthekiss' Its different. I do not date my lovers. Its just a tryst. Most guys do not seem to mind being in public with me if we run into each other, but then its not a date situation so no body would suspect we are sleeping together. My privacy is important to me, plus to my husband and I would hate to cause him any embarrassment through gossip. I do not think anyone's choices is illogical at all. Everyone has their own set of belief and what works for one may not work for another. That your going to call my husband? put and add in the paper? broadcast on radio? a fly by with a flag over my beach? DG give it a rest I am already getting those kind of text threats as it is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well i have been in relationship with A wonderful boy your age for the last 7 months now , we are so alike in so many ways ,and totally enjoyed each other company and just like any other lovers ...we do things togther in and out of bed , including me introduced him to my crew which is would be about 35+ and reverse me meeting his friends from 21 yo to 35 yo...he gets involved with my day today activities ,we are pretty much a couple ,...and age never goin to be an issue for us , i will never feel embarrassed being seen with young guys infact the opposite.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I didn't realise you quoted inthekiss without adding something before. I think it looks incredibly passive aggressive the way you just highlighted her words like that without adding something directly aimed her. What a pathetic post.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You go girl!! You can take me home and rape me and drop me back at my car in the darkness anytime you like ha ha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not at all..I just introduce them as friends of my grandchildren.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Youngest guy I've slept with was half my age, but it was an accident I swear. I tripped on the sticky floor in CC and fell right onto his cock.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of course you live in victoria... :/ But how convenient, you're not too young for me and I just happen to be traveling down for work (and a very public glass of wine) next week ;) DID I JUST DO PUBLIC FLIRTING AGAIN???
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chevtrek
10 years ago
I am no cougar nor supa hot however after 3 years dating youngerI surrendered to a 19 year old my own age just wanted sex or to fixated on what they thought was the right guy. Age is a number and it is better to enjoy who your with and notlook at age. On the down side for women they end up a target for sex and getdumped .I gave up finding reason and took dr Phiils advice.If you set high standards and narrow your options in a partner you willmiss that person who will make you very happy, this includes the mixing of smokers and non.I fought of settling with a young 35 year old and after hearing Phil I now have a 19 year old.LMAO
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RHP User
10 years ago
...but a very important number to me.I find women within my age group to be the sexiest, most attractive women bar none. They have the most beautiful faces, and their minds are to die for! But that's just me
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RHP User
10 years ago
A 47year old man sent me a message saying that he was attracted to my profile but not my age...ouch xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Did he write to you first? Why write to someone just to tell them they're not for you?
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I outrank them by being a Lioness. Nor do I need the attention of younger men to reaffirm my desirability as an "older, mature Babe In Total Control of Herself". Though I'm open to sampling from the cookie jar if you're over 28....but I find the minute I suggest meeting for a civilised cup of tea and a scone they disappear 😳 maybe all the kids today under 30 are gluten intolerant? 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
If a man is happy to be seen with me, I am more than happy to be seen in public with him. After all it is his choice to be with me. The only point that I would like to make is that don't make the mistake of thinking that because we are older that we are desperate!! Believe me we are far from desperate and most likely can run rings around a young man Enjoy our company as we enjoy yours
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RHP User
10 years ago
It happens here.....has happened to me and others.....people can be cruel keep heart......we love you.....xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' A 47year old man sent me a message saying that he was attracted to my profile but not my age...ouch xxFreya He likes the ninety somethings...
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is definitely it:-) ..I wasn't upset...more amused really considering how many twenty somethings seem to have s thing for much,much older women..Go figure:-) xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
My understanding is libido of men peaks in their early twenties while women's peak in their early thirties. Funny that men's big interest in women is when he's only started out and has little life experience to give a woman. And for women, many are married and suddenly hit with libido and only a husband (typically older with low libido) to try and satisfy them. Now I know I'm going to be flamed by bringing up stereotyping, but I find it one of life's little jokes. Someone somewhere is going this will screw the human race and it'll be funny to watch. Now I could see the world a much better place if men had their libido peak in their thirties when they're more mature and women in their twenties to help find a more sexually compatible partner. Just an observation I find funny.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
All Im going to say is..... libido, opportunity, knowledge and ability are not always complimentary. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'euroflirt' whether so called “cougars” are in fact shy/embarrassed to be seen with someone younger? Honey, you could take me anywhere... Seriously though, the majority of my friends are younger than me so I have no concerns being seen with younger people, men or women. The good thing for me about getting older is no longer giving a shit what people think... if they do at all. As Eleanor Roosevelt said "You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realised how seldom they do."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its the ones in their twenties and early thirties who pursue me... now why could that possibly be? These are the ones who only want to meet under cover of darkness. Even the ones in their early 40's wouldn't be seen dead with me... so you know what? Bye Bye.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79'Go figure:-) xxFreyaHmm so how's your figure these days young lady?
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