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The male/female ratio
September 09 2017
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Cos men are more likely to fuck on the side than are women. Therefore, there are a larger number of men available on the site. Percentage? I would estimate from my experience, 50% of guys claiming to be single are actually married. You'd be surprised at how many single guys can only meet at 2pm on a weekday......... But
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RHP User
7 years ago
Annie is the wise one, I'd say the number or ratio of single women to men is more likely the same, once the fakes and married ones are removed, perhaps still higher male numbers but not as much as it would appear
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mango69er
7 years ago
I dont think thats the case. Think woman cheat just as much. But may be more careful about it. Also may not need a adult dating site, as much as men do to be able to cheat or just to have a sexy time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I dont think there's much RHP could do to entice more women to join. Most sexually adventurous women I know would not join this site as they know they will be bombarded with offers they have no interest in accepting and images they have no interest in seeing. When you know people are approaching you for no reason other than to get their dick wet, no respect for who you are or your desires (I say this based on how many people message without having read your profile or who send flirts because they haven't bothered joining beyond being a guest). I think for most women its just too sexually aggressive, which can be intimidating and frankly a huge turn off. Those women tend to use Tinder instead. That way you can choose to swipe right on a face you find attractive and if there's a match take it from there, you don't have to engage with anyone you don't find attractive. You dont have to deal with the abuse when you dont respond according to expectation etc.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Been seperated for over 5 years. And I'm more of a night person when it comes to playing
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
The ratio of "single " males profiles to females on this site, is certainly stacked on the male side. However it's not just on this site, but on most sites like SH , AMM etc. We have put "single" in " ", as we believe that many "single " male profiles are not very single at all. We have also encountered ( and exposed) many couples & female profiles that have turned out to be just a male or the male half of a couple, and so the ratios of males to females is even more skewed. We have also encountered a skewed ratio at a few swingers clubs that we have been to. On those nights that "single" males have been allowed in, there have been long queues of them at the door waiting to go on. At one swingers party, we counted 36 "single" males to just 4 couples ( that's 40 males to 4 females). So why are males in the majority on sites like this / within the swinging scene? In our opinion it is because they are opportunists and that they believe that by joining sites like this & by going to a swingers club / party, their chances of getting some "pussy" are much greater. We believe that males are genetically programmed to want to copylate at every given opportunity. To sow their seed and spread the gene pool far & wide. Looking back through history, it has been males who have raped woman when countries have been invaded. Sex has been a driving force, we feel, behind aggression, power, greed & war. Sex sells, and the sought after commodity is "pussy". Women, we believe, are wired differently to men. Sex and sexual encounters do not feature as a number one priority for them, generally speaking. But obviously you do get a few exceptions. Does society judge men and women differently when it comes to sex? Sadly yes. For example, if a woman sleeps around she is labelled as a slut, a whore, a person of loose morals. On the flip side of the coin, generally a man who sleeps around is seen as a hero, a lucky guy and a stud, by his male peers. Your final question about how to attract more single women to RHP (and most probably also swingers clubs / parties) is a tricky one to answer. We know, from our own experience, that many males on here only appear to think with their dicks. They send out really disrespectful, lewd messages that leave little to the imagination. We know for a fact that this behaviour actually chases the real couples and the real women away. We have seen it on here and we have seen it at swingers clubs. You see the same thing at nude beaches, the result of which is that very few single females go to these beaches as they don't feel safe and they don't like being harassed. So the only way to encourage, and attract, more females to join these sites / attend swingers clubs & parties, is to create a safer and more respectful environment for them. We know that this works as there in a well known upmarket swingers party ( couples & single females only) that has very strict rules. The males of the couples may not approach any females. The females do the approaching and they are in control. Masks are compulsory. Because of this the women feel empowered and safe. They do not have to continually look over their shoulders for lurking "meerkats" and swooping "seagulls" and can thus get on with enjoying themselves. The result of this is that at these parties you will find far more single women than at any other swingers party. So in closing, until the males on here learn how to behave themselves, and that the majority of the women on here are not going to open their legs on command, and are not cumbuckets waiting to be filled, every hole waiting to be pleasured, they will continue to chase the genuine women and couples away and or get their backs up and put them on the defensive. The result is that the numbers of available single women and real couples will continue to decline. - Posted from rhpmobile
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cat_n_the_hatter
7 years ago
Just few: Society often pressures men and women into boxes in other to control them. Women who enjoy sex face many stigmas and it is more acceptable for them to be in 'it' for the money and be "successful" escort girl. Fathers are important in girls life. When he shows that she is interesting and valued it sets a bar high. Boys often nowadays have no respect for girls due to pornography and the internet.There is a HUGE difference when a woman wants you with her whole heart and when she wants you because of her need. Experimental? Not everyone here wants to experiment only. This site is not intimidating, you can always ignore, but for those who like the games of deception can be too daring. Freedom is an endangered trait. Earth is covered in nets. Some are subtle and honest... others crude and brutal.(Ms)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Men vs women In my experience women cheat just as much, if not more than men. Most of the online attention I get is from married women (not single women) My business is primarily catered to women (handyman and horseman). I've had far more offers of "alternative payment arrangements" from married women than I have from single women. Married women are far more flirtatious, pervy, touchy too. And got help me if the client has married friends over!!! Like magpie season every bird swoops on you!! On the opposite spectrum, there could be a group of married women and one single chic and they're all professional acting... It's clear as day. It's like the single women get laid when ever they want, hold higher values and morals and have this attitude of "you're here to fix shit" Married women are just excited to have another man in the house If I mixed business with pleasure, I'd be broke, but my sack would be empty - Posted from rhpmobile
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
But of all the women that I know who are not exclusive, they've all gravitated towards men they already feel a friendship with. I think it's the safety aspect and women feel more relaxed and not judged badly if they are playing with people they have that friendly connection with. I agree that there would be just as many women playing.... but they also have in RL enough safer options to not feel the need to look online. So.... I also don't think you'll entice women to join a site for a need that's already being met Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' The ratio of "single " males profiles to females on this site, is certainly stacked on the male side. However it's not just on this site, but on most sites like SH , AMM etc. We have put "single" in " ", as we believe that many "single " male profiles are not very single at all. We have also encountered ( and exposed) many couples & female profiles that have turned out to be just a male or the male half of a couple, and so the ratios of males to females is even more skewed. We have also encountered a skewed ratio at a few swingers clubs that we have been to. On those nights that "single" males have been allowed in, there have been long queues of them at the door waiting to go on. At one swingers party, we counted 36 "single" males to just 4 couples ( that's 40 males to 4 females). So why are males in the majority on sites like this / within the swinging scene? In our opinion it is because they are opportunists and that they believe that by joining sites like this & by going to a swingers club / party, their chances of getting some "pussy" are much greater. We believe that males are genetically programmed to want to copylate at every given opportunity. To sow their seed and spread the gene pool far & wide. Looking back through history, it has been males who have raped woman when countries have been invaded. Sex has been a driving force, we feel, behind aggression, power, greed & war. Sex sells, and the sought after commodity is "pussy". Women, we believe, are wired differently to men. Sex and sexual encounters do not feature as a number one priority for them, generally speaking. But obviously you do get a few exceptions. Does society judge men and women differently when it comes to sex? Sadly yes. For example, if a woman sleeps around she is labelled as a slut, a whore, a person of loose morals. On the flip side of the coin, generally a man who sleeps around is seen as a hero, a lucky guy and a stud, by his male peers. Your final question about how to attract more single women to RHP (and most probably also swingers clubs / parties) is a tricky one to answer. We know, from our own experience, that many males on here only appear to think with their dicks. They send out really disrespectful, lewd messages that leave little to the imagination. We know for a fact that this behaviour actually chases the real couples and the real women away. We have seen it on here and we have seen it at swingers clubs. You see the same thing at nude beaches, the result of which is that very few single females go to these beaches as they don't feel safe and they don't like being harassed. So the only way to encourage, and attract, more females to join these sites / attend swingers clubs & parties, is to create a safer and more respectful environment for them. We know that this works as there in a well known upmarket swingers party ( couples & single females only) that has very strict rules. The males of the couples may not approach any females. The females do the approaching and they are in control. Masks are compulsory. Because of this the women feel empowered and safe. They do not have to continually look over their shoulders for lurking "meerkats" and swooping "seagulls" and can thus get on with enjoying themselves. The result of this is that at these parties you will find far more single women than at any other swingers party. So in closing, until the males on here learn how to behave themselves, and that the majority of the women on here are not going to open their legs on command, and are not cumbuckets waiting to be filled, every hole waiting to be pleasured, they will continue to chase the genuine women and couples away and or get their backs up and put them on the defensive. The result is that the numbers of available single women and real couples will continue to decline. - Posted from rhpmobile Dynamic! Once again I think you've hit the nail on the head with most points. The only part I would disagree with is the idea that mens sole reason for being is to copulate. I feel that everyone is different but on average women are just as likely to be driven to seek sex as men are. However that could tie into your point about society judging women more than men as women may hide those feelings more.I don't agree with naming sexually promiscuous women as "sluts" or other nasty words however I do see why men are praised more for leading a sexually active lifestyle. In the words of stand up comedian Jim Jefferies Every single time a man sleeps with a lot of women, he’s called a stud. But if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she’s called a slut, and people think this is unfair… Nah. It’s completely fair, and I’ll tell you why, alright? ‘Cause it’s fuckin’ easy to be a slut. It’s fuckin’ hard to be a stud. To be a stud you have to be witty, charming, be well-dressed, have nice shoes, and a fake job. To be a slut you just have to be there. There are fat ugly sluts out there, there are no fat ugly studs. In terms of my own attitudes to the lifestyle I'm not going to lie. I'm here to find sexual fulfillment and explore as many avenues of opportunity as possible however Im also interested in the social aspects, coming from overseas I don't have a huge social circle and I tend to find people interested in the lifestyle to be the kind of open minded types that I like to be around
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Once you eliminate the games, creepers and undesirables..... the numbers pretty much even out .... to about 17 people 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Livingandloving2'I agree that there would be just as many women playing.... but they also have in RL enough safer options to not feel the need to look online. So.... I also don't think you'll entice women to join a site for a need that's already being met Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile Many single women don't actually have many, or any real life options if they're looking for sex that isn't associated with a relationship. You just have to look at the popularity of Tinder etc. to see that. That's also particularly the case if you're a more sexually adventurous woman looking to experiment outside the world of 'vanilla' sex (I know the term 'vanilla sex' is subjective but using it loosely here to mean your average one-on-one sexual encounters, maybe the use of some toys or a bit of anal but nothing too out of the ordinary). Many of the reasons for the disparity in the ratio of men vs women on sites like RHP have been mentioned - yes there is greater stigma for women wanting more casual sex (even from the men who are on these sites); yes these sorts of sites can be intimidating for women; yes women often need more of a mental / emotional connection to go along with the sex, even if they aren't looking for a full on relationship; the marketing for these sites is very obviously aimed at men looking for easy sex because the companies know that's where most of their $ comes from. They could change that marketing to try and appeal more to women, but unless they know for sure that it will result in more women joining then they really have no financial incentive to do so and let's face it bottom line is what drives these companies. Ultimately all of these reasons feed into each other and perpetuate the status quo. It's a multi-faceted issue and I'm not exactly sure what can change it in any significant way. Although, there already has been change slowly over the years in terms of women becoming more empowered to seek sexual satisfaction and exploration outside of traditional relationships, which has led to other changes in the means and opportunities provided for women to do that in ways that address safety and other concerns. I'm sure there will continue be further progress in this area but I also think it's a type of change that happens very slowly because it's challenging some very deeply socially ingrained attitudes and stereotypes.
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RHP User
7 years ago
You say "This site is not intimidating, you can always ignore, " Actually I know women who have left the site stating they found it to be the case. You and I obviously do not find this site intimidating. I dont, because Im pretty fearless. You don't possibly as you're in a couple and may have little understanding about the experience of single women here. But that doesn't mean many women leave as they feel overwhelmed and preyed upon. The OP asked for opinions about women's lower numbers here. I gave him feedback direct from the horses mouth.
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RHP User
7 years ago
From what I've experience these sex sites give people a false sense of empowerment. Maybe something lacking in life that need to fill then most of time a woman will grow up quickly and move on. So maybe women can see what they want in life (reality) a happier life without being needy all of the time and that's why not many women stay on these sites ??? Although the forums are just great to watch and listen and giggle too sometimes :) keeps me entertained :) so thanks xoxooxoxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
No disrespect intended in my comments :) I was just responding to the observations I have gleaned from the sexually empowered women I know in RL Most of them have found a sexual partner without the romantic attachment. Having said that- it would be awfully complicated if romantic feelings develop as they risk it all blowing up and becoming a train wreck. Mrs LAL :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
"yes there is greater stigma for women wanting more casual sex (even from the men who are on these sites" Yup, scroll up to see that, more judgement. Apparently we're cum buckets if we have sex? 😉 Never tried to have sex without opening my legs, it would be challenging 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
Firstly, most sites, RHP included, don't appear to be doing anything much to encourage female members to join and/or remain. Like LD mentioned, based on their literal advertisements, eg at Sexpo, ("The Only App A Guy Needs") they are directly encouraging more men to join. Of course this would be a commercial decision because men are more likely to be paying members than women. Sharonski - Men have also left the site in disallusionment as well as women (which include myself in the past, twice). OP - I agree with your experience of Tinder. It does rank (display profiles in order of) the popularity (attractiveness) of your images/profile, so the average guy can end up on a spiral going down the pile/queue and rarely having his profile seen let alone matched. At that point, the man can end biased to seeing loads of fake profiles and scammers. Of course hope will always bring me back, eventually over time. DC - As a single man, it is literally depressing at times to read certain repeated viewpoints. I think some good men (especially those without a lot of resilience) end up becoming what they are constantly told they are or how they are treated, or becoming what they also despise, even if they are not such to begin with. While your points are all technically correct about *some men, the extreme language serves no purpose whatsoever except to vent your steam and to make men feel run down (the OP reacted to such), and neither will such language make certain men want to change their behaviour, it will probably only reinforce it.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
"Extreme language " ?? "Vent your steam "?? We are not angry nor venting when we wrote the above . Again, the danger of the written word . We were simply answering the questions , put forward by the OP, based on our experience & opinions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Livingandloving2' No disrespect intended in my comments :) I didn't take your comment as being disrespectful, I was just pointing out that a lot of single women struggle to find FWBs / FB s/ whatever you want to call them, in real life. I think a lot depends on circumstances such as where you live, the extent of your social circle, etc etc.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Pommyfucker'I don't agree with naming sexually promiscuous women as "sluts" or other nasty words however I do see why men are praised more for leading a sexually active lifestyle. In the words of stand up comedian Jim Jefferies Every single time a man sleeps with a lot of women, he’s called a stud. But if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she’s called a slut, and people think this is unfair… Nah. It’s completely fair, and I’ll tell you why, alright? ‘Cause it’s fuckin’ easy to be a slut. It’s fuckin’ hard to be a stud. To be a stud you have to be witty, charming, be well-dressed, have nice shoes, and a fake job. To be a slut you just have to be there. There are fat ugly sluts out there, there are no fat ugly studs. Hope it didn't tax his brain cells too much thinking that one up (Had never heard of him so did the google thing....he obviously thrives on being controversial).
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RHP User
7 years ago
You say "Sharonski - Men have also left the site in disallusionment as well as women (which include myself in the past, twice)." There's a difference between leaving in disillusionment because you couldn't get a fuck versus because you were offered too many....
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Livingandloving2
7 years ago
I'm glad you took my comments as intended. Thank you 😘 Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm glad this thread has sparked such healthy debate Yes I think it's fairly obvious that rhps main source of income is the single guy market and it is a pretty tough arena for us single guys, I've considered cancelling my membership before. The only thing that's stopped me is the fact I've met some really awesome people on here who've justified the membership on their own. Country touch. Not sure if I agree with you on the Tinder thing. If that was the case how would it explain the explosion of likes I got back in England. The same thing also happened in Dubai airport when I was bored and also not just on Tinder. I got a few messages on POF. I'm not sure what Rhp was like as I was logged into the Australian website and couldn't be bothered changing it in the three weeks I was there.I'm not sure how I "reacted" as such. I actually agreed with most of what dynamic couple said with the exception of womens attitudes towards sex. I think it's also important for me to point out here that I've been on Rhp as part of a couple as well as a single man and I do know that the torrent of rather creepy men that message you can be a bit of a bore. On a different note Luck dragon, I'll actually be visiting your neck of the woods for work in the near future and I'd quite like to put a voice to the words I read.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I apologise. I misread language like describing men as wanting to "sow their seed", be "getting pussy", have women "open their legs on command", have "every hole waiting to be pleasured", or men viewing them as "cumbuckets waiting to be filled" as either extreme language in itself, or an extreme description of men's intentions. I guess we have to crank the language up even further to Hannibal Lecter levels to get to "extreme"; I guess it must only be "crude". Do internet trolls and dickheads sending messages use that language? Certainly. Is it extreme? I guess not. On Topic: "In our opinion it is because they are opportunists and that they believe that by joining sites like this & by going to a swingers club / party, their chances of getting some "pussy" are much greater." I would agree with a rephrased version of that. It is correct that sites like this, and such events, do in fact provide more opportunity to meet the other sex, and (shock, horror) have sex. I had a sexual encounter on my very first visit to a house party (and all since), which in a prior life I spent over a decade trying to attempt in a more traditional and apparently much more respectful sense. However in all my time, even at so called players parties allowing single men in (ie the only ones I can attend), I haven't seen an attitude reflecting that quoted above. Nor is that how I view women even at those events.
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Many woman on here brother it is not funny. Why do you need more. It would attract even more guys. An absolute LALAcockPOLUSSA or a WOODScook festival. Often times I hear comments..here is a funny one. At a house party gang bang. A guy walks in and says. The male to female ratio is to high here. Are there any more girls. ITS A GANG BANG JABRONI! He exits early, mind you there was 5 girls and 20 guys. And extremely hot! My thing is the grass is not always greener over there. Try with the women that are here. Trust me there are heaps of nice ones on here and couples willing to share. Some folks dream which is okay but interact with the girls at hand. That is my comment and my two cents. Good luck on bringing more girls to the scene Your PAL Swinga
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
To answer your question. Yes, in our experience on here , dickheads like that do indeed send such messages. If you got to know us a little better, you would soon realise that we dislike the words "fuck , pussy, cumbucket" and words that are disrespectful to women. Our using them in our post was simply to demonstrate the attitude that some (not all) males on here have towards women. Receiving such messages hardens one to it all, we feel. The downside is that it makes one expect that all unsolicited messages from males are going to move in the same direction and as a result of this we become cynical of it all we guess. We have certainly received lewd & disrespectful messages, and we are not alone judging by the comments of others on this thread. That said , we have however met a few very nice, respectful men on here, and believe it or not, have enjoyed several MFM 3somes with them. Yes, there are a few "diamonds in the rough " . The question is, are good guys in the minority or majority on here ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
We were not always so cynical, but have been shaped by our experiences on here , and messages received, since joining this site almost 5 years ago. The bandwaginung is something to behold. And so before this gets out of hand, and goes round and round in a tit for tat he said she said scenario, we will respectively bow out of this one. There is real life out there, beyond these forums, which have simply become a distraction of sorts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Cos men are more likely to fuck on the side than are women. Therefore, there are a larger number of men available on the site. Percentage? I would estimate from my experience, 50% of guys claiming to be single are actually married. You'd be surprised at how many single guys can only meet at 2pm on a weekday......... But Umm, Annie - can I quote you from another recent forum? "Don't give up your day job to become a statistician''.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is it really that easy to be a slut? I know plenty of gorgeous women that can't get laid even if they approach the guys... Intimidation factor 100!! And it's not hard for a bloke to be a stud. It takes a bit of charisma for sure. But you don't have to be fancy or even clean shaven. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Was trying to say that there was a larger percentage of attached men (with wife or gf) than there are attached women on rhp. The real life percentage is fairly close with a few percentage point win to the guys. (Congratulations.....) Attached women who stray, find it easier in real life to pick up and generally prefer to maintain liaisons where possible, therefore bypassing the need to advertise on sites as much as guys who are more serial in nature with the need to spread their seed far and wide. Women are generally inclined to be up front that they are attached, whereby attached men are more inclined to hide the fact that they are attached and declare themselves single and ready to meet most afternoons before the dinner gets out on the table. And yes generally 50% of single declared guys have a wife or a gf . That's from my direct experience here
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RHP User
7 years ago
Annie just mentioned a curious point, I'm not sure how true or prevalent it is? About women more likely to be upfront about looking for something on the side than men are (at least on here). Are men who do so judged differently than women who do the same? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Pussy is such a sweet little thang 😛 how could anyone be offended by that word? It's a mystery to me 😯
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RHP User
7 years ago
If I just wanted "a fuck" I would go buy a fleshlight ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Let me rephrase. Getting back to the OP question. Leaving because you're "disillusioned" is not the same as leaving because you're overwhelmed. This thread is about lack of female members... being flooded with creepy messages is a big reason why women leave. I doubt that's the reason any men leave, but the thread isn't about why men leave. Maybe you can start a separate topic on that?
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cat_n_the_hatter
7 years ago
Sharonski, I know what you mean when you say we are a couple and perhaps you are right. However, in whole honesty, I can not remember when was the last time we received a nasty message or reply not worth of answering. I am not into writing long literary works here, but I shall try to be concise. I know I would not replay only to those who have not put any effort. Why would words of strangers affect me? I shall do my best when it comes to those who care about me, yet nothing prevents me to be nice to others. What I am saying is that we should perhaps, put it in the perspective. All we can control are our own thoughts, emotions and behaviors. I am never overwhelmed by anger, jealousy, guilt or worry. Fear is stupid and so are regrets. What really bothers me is misery in the world, injustice, not words from some lazy guy who has probably never seen the world and has no interest in others. I know I do not look at people from the top of the mountain, even if it may look that way sometimes. I respect myself but I am not perfect, and I see this place only as a chance to meet someone who is worth our thought and us theirs. In the meanwhile I will do my best to be true to myself. (Ms)
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RHP User
7 years ago
If there are too many men, eventually if there are no "fucks" for them, some will leave, the couple/female ratio will increase and the situation may go back to a longer term equilibrium? - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
My pointIf there are too many men, eventually if there are no "fucks" for them, some will leave, the couple/female ratio will increase and the situation may go back to a longer term equilibrium? We very much doubt that will ever happen.
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RHP User
7 years ago
There isn't a lady out there that couldn't head to their local, sit at the bar, maybe buy one drink.... And not have half a dozen blokes try and pick them up over a couple of hours.. Please the ladies don't need internet dating sites it's us blokes.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Wise words !! Well written - Posted from rhpmobile
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FredAndGinger2
7 years ago
Here's a statistic to support DynamicCouple's view: Visits to our profile are about 80% male profiles and 20% couples profiles. Females would be just a few percent. There are way more (active) fellas on here and other similar sites.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We end up with a site with 100% single males? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
4 years ago, Attunga (a swingers club) went through major refurbishments. In order to pay for the improvements, a new management style was introduced, which was to allow much higher numbers of "single" males on open nights. Single males paid a lot more to attend the club and so were the "cash cows" that made the $$$ for the owners. At one evening we counted upwards of 44 single males to just a handful of couples. Things naturally gitbour if hand, when pack mentality kicked in, and the males competed to win over the handful of couples. The stalking & harassment got so bad, that couples (& the occasional single female ) simply stopped going to the club on open nights. The result of this is that Management ended up with a club full of single males and no females/ couples and that in itself led to problems as then the single males started to demand their money back. The club emptied very quickly. Management went into damage control mode and tried to entice couples back. They now have a strict & enforced ratio of males to females on their open nights. Will the same happen here ? Probably not, due to the high number of males posing as females posing as couples, there will always be something to attract the cash cows. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MnauMnau
7 years ago
RHP should step In and delete (or at least deactivate) ALL dead profiles, then followed by inactive profiles for past 3-6 months This would narrow some numbers. Updating your profile 1-2 a year should be compulsory, otherwise your profile will be hidden when searching. There are MANY many profiles with " young 25..." but in age is 29-32 or so. "Not looking, only for forum" ect Galleries should have at east 3-5 pics. No private parts. Couples should have 50/50 pics. And have an option to block any incoming message containing an offensive word/s. But hang on, that would decrease the big numbers for RHP ! So, it will not happen. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What is the ideal ratio then of men, women, couples, groups, TV ts etc etc on the one site? (I did join a site claiming a guaranteed 50/50 M/f single ratio, but way too few members in total, not much more than a handful of each in each city). - Posted from rhpmobile
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Naughtydouble
7 years ago
A guy sleeps with a 10 women hes a hero a girl sleeps with 10 guys shes a slut VIEWS AND BELIEFS engrained over years. Like every guy fantasizing about two girls. Well times are changing so be patient in 10 years you will see big changes as females continue to push the boundaries of male conformity. Go girls Thumbs up from us 😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'ShevermiN' There isn't a lady out there that couldn't head to their local, sit at the bar, maybe buy one drink.... And not have half a dozen blokes try and pick them up over a couple of hours.. Please the ladies don't need internet dating sites it's us blokes. That approach might be fine for a one off shag and if you're not too worried about how good the sex will actually be, but what if you're looking for more than that? Which a lot of women are....they're not looking for a full on relationship but they do want mind blowing sex and to tick off some fantasies with someone / people that they click with on a mental as well as physical level. Women do also need / want internet sites to find sexual satisfaction...it's just that unfortunately as this thread highlights, many of these sites are not set up to be an attractive proposition for most single women.
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rebeccaparker
7 years ago
I had never heard of RHP until about 7 weeks ago when I met up with someone who introduced me to this new world of self exploration. I genuinely believe if more girls knew there was a platform like this available full of what I'm finding VERY HONEST single men, ladies and couples that the ratio of women to men would improve. Tinder now seems like such a waste of time compared to RHP. I can't help but feel a little bad for the guys as ladies do get away with remaining a guest with men/couples having to pay and be the ones to initiate conversation. Also feel bad for single guys (the good ones who I'm super keen to meet more of) who can't take part in many of the private parties and if they can must pay an astronomical amount to attend. Understand the reasoning behind this though as having 20 single men at an event *where alcohol is present* is far riskier than inviting 20 single women. I say us ladies need to spread the word with our single lady friends, it's the only way that more women will take part 👊! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As a single female who has been to a few different swingers parties I would have to agree that the ratio is always out of whack. It can be uncomfortable being surrounded by dicks when you are not attracted to all of the owners of said dicks, but want to explore your sexuality without feeling pressured. All environments I have been in have strict no means no policies but it doesn't stop that uncomfortable feeling. It is challenging meeting respectful single men (and no im talking about all single men here) just the unfortunate few who give the other guys a bad name. Vetting is very important and removing fake profiles, inactive and lewd men could be the answer here. I know we are sexually open to seeing what is out there, but we would also like to do it in a safe and comfortable manner 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your responses are so far the best and most positive and the whole point of this thread was to try and discuss a solution. I've just been back through my messages from single guys that me and my ex received while we were a couple and although a lot of guys suffer from very short message syndrome I have to say we actually only received one lewd message out of about 30.I also noticed that when we removed single guys from our "looking for" the number of messages we got dropped to almost none.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Or friends bingo you have your married or attached person ..... easy remember you can always block - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Quoting 'ShevermiN' There isn't a lady out there that couldn't head to their local, sit at the bar, maybe buy one drink.... And not have half a dozen blokes try and pick them up over a couple of hours.. Please the ladies don't need internet dating sites it's us blokes. If we consider ourselves to be evolved, and intelligent, the NEXT obvious statement then, would be... BE that one out of the dozen blokes who knows how to walk up to those ladies in the local, and engage, interest, attract and seduce her. You know..... like we did before the internet turned so many men into anonymous, dysfunctional, disconnected and inherently frustrated dumbarse sexual predators who think that because they show their dick photo to a stranger on an adult site who's photo they like.... a woman should fall all over it immediately. To my way of thinking, the guys in here who so desperately act like this site is their only avenue for sexual opportunity... have a reason for it which prevents those opportunities in the much bigger (and inherently more real/less fake) world. DG
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RHP User
7 years ago
"So the only way to encourage, and attract, more females to join these sites / attend swingers clubs & parties, is to create a safer and more respectful environment for them." Pommyfucker - can you say it again for the cheap seats in the back? 😂 Can we stop with the slut shaming, hello! We are all on a casual "dating" site. 😂 the hipocracy is just too much Seriously though, everything can be explained through evolutionary psychology regarding the behaviour of women on and off dating apps/sites 🚺 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
This> "Can we stop with the slut shaming, hello! We are all on a casual "dating" site. 😂 the hipocracy is just too much" Yes, on here it's the last place you expect that. Nicely put 👍
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