RHP

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The mental tease

May 20 2014

After reading BigO post , I wonder just how many of us seduce with words. How many create a sensual , connected enticing picture of what we hope to achieve when we meet. I don't do that, I do not tease with text, as a matter of fact I will often put up a disclaimer that I will not be having sex when I meet people. I am often blunt, and tell others to be the same with me. The texting, the messages and the sexy phone talk can often lead a woman or a man to have the delusion of connection. Many a foolish person has fallen head over heels in love on the internet, and with what? With a smooth talker/ texter I do not invest any emotion or even any of my sexual desire into anyone unless I meet them. I do not get turned on by texts from strangers, but I do from current lovers.I do get turned on by phone sex, but that's the tones of the voice that stimulates my libido and I know its not a ten year old.That part if find frightening that you would send pictures or engage in phone text sex and you have no idea who is on the other end. It could be a child. My question is, do you think that you might inadvertently sell what you are unable to offer up. Or do you get seduced before you meet anyone and think there is some relationship going on, without even meeting a person?

Comments

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    personalities are hard to restrain in any form of communication. Perhaps your straight shooting and expression for interests is more seducing than you are aware of yourself Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Guilty!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes, guilty as well. I easily get caught up in sex chat. I am always turned on, turning me off is much harder. Sex easily rolls off my tongue and fingers <----see I am doing it already, lol Everybody wants to talk about sex and because I do that for a living, it just comes out and unless someone is standing there with their jaw on the ground, I just keep going. Even talking to guys at work and I am not making a move they tell me I should stop talking because they are getting a boner! Socially all my friends want to talk about sex because they know I am open about it. So it seems I just talk about sex most of the time, it is refreshing not talking about it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    What do you mean you do it for a living ? Are you some sort of sex therapist.. ? curious..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    at putting word to paper so to speak, I rather speak to a person face to face, so I try and get a meet early in the piece it avoids any miss understanding.Probably why I don't have any luck in here. I don't believe in miss leading women, by filling them with false expectations. I don't expect to like every woman that I may meet in here nor will they like me, but if my picture and profile isn't good enough to get their attention so be it. May be that's a good thing.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Thinking ralf is responsible for bringing more orgasms than any one in here

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    It's my personality to not seduce the one person I'm with.... but to seduce the entire fucking world with my words, attitude, behaviour and 'ness'... and take others on my ride if they want to board the train. :-) Toooot tooot! lol

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Language is a skin,I rub my language against the other.It is if I had words instead of fingers,or fingers at the tip of my words.My language trembles with desire......Roland Barthes.......yes Lady T,we can seduce,entice,whisper erotic notions in another's ear,titillate with suggestive suggestions,yes like F.Scott says,you can stroke people with words but the only words that really matter are the words that come after '"Hello'' xxQ

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    I love it all and often engage in sexting. I sometimes try not to but it doesn't last long. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have learnt not to get too involved until I have met them and there is some attraction there. And I am upfront about that. If someone tries talking dirty or wants to start sexting, I cut them off real fast! I don't want either of us to say anything we may regret later. (ie after we have met and realised we're not interested!). I have been called cold and heartless, but it's all about self-preservation. I am who I am. We are all different.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MsElle72' I have learnt not to get too involved until I have met them and there is some attraction there. And I am upfront about that. If someone tries talking dirty or wants to start sexting, I cut them off real fast! I don't want either of us to say anything we may regret later. (ie after we have met and realised we're not interested!). I have been called cold and heartless, but it's all about self-preservation. I am who I am. We are all different. Same same!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Jay_Me' What do you mean you do it for a living ? Are you some sort of sex therapist.. ? curious.. well that is one of my duties inadvertently, I do a lot of counseling but I manage an adult shop :)

  • passion8_l

    passion8_l

    11 years ago

    on the man really. Sending sexually charged texts or messages is not something I generally do unless I've chatted to him long enough and sense there's a sexual vibe happening. As far as selling something inadvertently, no because I don't try to be someone I'm not just because I hide behind a screen. Do I get seduced? If he's good, hell yeah but I'm a realist and would never assume a relationship exists with someone I've never met.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    As I have told you all before I do phone sex. I am amazed at how many men now are regular clients and is not me going ohh ahhh its about me telling erotic stories. Or even talking about books and life. Over time these men have developed a relationship with me, and its based in fantasy. Lots ask to meet me, but I am an illusion and deep down when you pay for phone sex you have to know that. So my voice , my stories, my personality I guess has seduced so there is a terrible longing out there for men to be noticed or have their sexual fantasy noticed by at least having a connection with a voice. Its the avatar they fall for, because the avatar is perfection, Its created in their imagination, and like RHP, its peoples imaginations that create that connection, rather then the reality. As LadyT I I guess created this persona, I don't think in real life I am that sexual light house that many find me on here. I am ordinary and a normal woman, but this internet stuff allows us to create a mystical creature. There is the trap for everyone, where your desire takes you down a rabbit hole of pretend. Even though BigO got the stalker from hell, its a warning to us all do not tease a person to that point that they think they know you. The heart has no logic, it sees what it wants to see, so do not give it a vision of utopia.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Illusions and expectations go hand in hand. Sites like this can encourage expectations where they shouldn't exist... ie, well before rational evaluation of another person. It's the cart-before-the-horse effect, lured by the sweet sugar coating of sexual allure and hopes of gratification. We humans are inherently wired for pleasure... Mental, chemical, physical.... we train ourselves to seek it..... and in here, with people we haven't even met yet! A bit if level headed thought goes a long way.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Isn't that when you use an instrument to relate your position with the stars so you know where on earth you are?

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    And that you have mentioned BigO, aka, the poet, well we all know he is an excitable natured bloke, he is open in the forums as he is in messages, we have had a few conversations and at the times we were in banter through the forums too, a bit of flirting even to the point where his poetry style of communication caught Tara's attention so we asked him too come all the way over here and have a poetic fuck with us. Now Big O, as open as he is has also hinted bluntly that he sends up to twenty messages a day, so who has not had an online chat with Ocean, the thing is his words are mystical, romantic and from his heart as far as we know, he is just the way he is and trying to get a plain old straight sort of response outa Ocean is just not possible. Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes, I have fallen for people online and them, me - one being my late husband. I am not particularly articulate when face to face with a stranger, even with people I've known for a long time. I find it alot easier to communicate and get my point across through writing. I don't believe that I've painted myself in a different light, rather more openly through my writing. I suppose only people who I've met with can say if that's true. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'madotara69' And that you have mentioned BigO, aka, the poet, well we all know he is an excitable natured bloke, he is open in the forums as he is in messages, we have had a few conversations and at the times we were in banter through the forums too, a bit of flirting even to the point where his poetry style of communication caught Tara's attention so we asked him too come all the way over here and have a poetic fuck with us. Now Big O, as open as he is has also hinted bluntly that he sends up to twenty messages a day, so who has not had an online chat with Ocean, the thing is his words are mystical, romantic and from his heart as far as we know, he is just the way he is and trying to get a plain old straight sort of response outa Ocean is just not possible. Mado Tara xx From all accounts every one that has met the Big O, has enjoyed his companyhell with a name like the Big O, I would be looking for one of those as well. It was a cautionary tale is all, and you wax poetic as well a poetic fuck, would that be when you get to quote Byron while your bits are stuck together? geez all I could quote, is there was a young girl from Nantucket

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    yes the poetic fuck, Tara in the middle calling out Mado buck me and Timbucktu. Couldn't help myself

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    ....and hopefully a painfull lesson learned. Weary to do it again now, has changed my style of communication greatly i have to admit.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Illusions and expectations go hand in hand. Sites like this can encourage expectations where they shouldn't exist... ie, well before rational evaluation of another person. It's the cart-before-the-horse effect, lured by the sweet sugar coating of sexual allure and hopes of gratification. Yep. Obviously most of us put up the best pics of ourselves, with us women taking shots in our sexy outfits, lingerie and heels, and in all manner of seductive poses. I certainly don't prance around in everyday life wearing the type of shit I'm wearing in my profile pics (well some I do like the leggings), but I'm trying to 'sell' myself on here so I don't put up pics of me wearing my daggy shorts and singlets. And I know that even that can create unrealistic expectations among some who look at my profile, and potentially disappointment if down the track they see me in all my daggy glory (you know girls, at that point where you're no longer spending an hour or more getting ready and trying to look your best even though you know that 5 minutes after you get there your clothes will be gone, hair will be a mess and most makeup rubbed off on him and the sheets ).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have to stop doing selfies as my arms are not long enough anymore, I think I need to get some Neanderthal length in so I look pretty darn good from afar.also covering all the lamps with scarves helps and sucking it in till I turn blue and fall over. thousands of my pictures have been killed to create one passable one. To be honest when I meet guys offline I am to stuffed to bother with dress up time, been there done that. Besides lifting my skirt and ripping my top of is about the extent of foreplay so I get my clothes from good samies from the 2.50 stand. I kinda like that buxom wench thing, especially with tradies they can rip it off in a flash

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I love to seduce with words. I like the almost verbal fencing and the anticipation that builds from a well turned phrase. But I find it silly if i haven't met a person and painfully frustrating if our meet is a week away....that is when Lady T's buxom wenching becomes very likely hahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Awwww ' I see. Yes' I can imagine there would be some guys and gals that need counselling in your line of work.. If you giving the guys at work a boner... your poor ole customer got no chance.. lol...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    that after you have met and bedded someone that the talk and language is far more supercharged.Phone, text, email... Before you meet face to face, it really must remain Caveat Emptor. After that, if you are connected, t is quite the Done Fun Thing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Pardon me my dear , if there is one thing in this world that is more mysterious than a deep blue ocean or more magical than a tropical rainforest , or more alluring than an oasis in a harsh desert . Its the grace and elegance of a woman that holds the embodiment of naturally born beauty a rare trait indeed and to discover a woman who understands her beauty and knows how to grasp her own power is dangerously erotic and powerful , and you my dear are just that woman admirable to the end :-)) compliments to you and an honour to a man like myself from the wild west who you may just allow an opportunity to \ Be in your presence and to seduce such a womans desires ? Ore inspiring !!\ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That is gold Big O:-) :-) xxQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    He'll no, that would just have me in fits of laughter. Dale got it nailed.us buxom wenches, just need to be thrown over a shoulder and slapped on the rump. BIG, what you are selling there is for the lonely, and mills and boon crowd. I can see now why it gets you in trouble. Your just after random see, but your baiting your line with the promise of romance. When a girl takes that line, only to realize it's just a shagyou want, she is bound to get a little testy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    From the west, Ore very funny.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    What about this one! I already noticed you and I know you noticed me and now I am waiting for you to tell me to contact you so I can kiss you all over up and down all around lick you from top to bottom and back again hold you tight and fuck you with all the passion I can muster. That no flirt thats the truth. :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    After Random!!! Hmmmm im after a little more than that actually , but until that what I'm after comes along i shall use the internet for the way some intend it for ,and that is to meet women for what ever is a mutual agreement either friendship , nothing or good fucking sex !!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Bigocean72' What about this one! I already noticed you and I know you noticed me and now I am waiting for you to tell me to contact you so I can kiss you all over up and down all around lick you from top to bottom and back again hold you tight and fuck you with all the passion I can muster. That no flirt thats the truth. :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile ya made me blush you old softie

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Bigocean72' Pardon me my dear , if there is one thing in this world that is more mysterious than a deep blue ocean or more magical than a tropical rainforest , or more alluring than an oasis in a harsh desert . Its the grace and elegance of a woman that holds the embodiment of naturally born beauty a rare trait indeed and to discover a woman who understands her beauty and knows how to grasp her own power is dangerously erotic and powerful , and you my dear are just that woman admirable to the end :-)) compliments to you and an honour to a man like myself from the wild west who you may just allow an opportunity to \ Be in your presence and to seduce such a womans desires ? Ore inspiring !!\ - Posted from rhpmobile That Big O is how you got yourself entagled with your emotionally charged stalker in the first place... Lol. Ore? I think you've been in the mining industry too long. Lol.