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The morning after contact / critique

August 18 2015

So, I am a little sick of hearing men say women just don't get the wham bam culture. So a question to the women. The reason you don't contact someone after having sex with them is because the sex was ordinary and you don't want to repeat it. Well that is why I don't contact someone afterwards and I hope they don't contact me. Am I right? Or do you never contact the person after the first time you have had sex? What if it was awesome sex you would like to repeat? Do you always wait for the man to make the first move on the morning after? Or I suspect some of you may text them to critique their great/awful sexual performance :p

Comments

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    i guess mostly i don't text if I don't want to repeat it. But sometimes even when it's been awesome I don't want to seem ridiculously keen as men can pull away if they perceive your interest to be to intense, so I will try to play it a bit cool and wait and see. of course there's the complication of over thinking everything and that makes it hard to make a damn decision either way. it's also nice to know he thought enough about it to text you and say so. I think as a general rule I wait and see if he messages first. If I don't hear from him and I am keen to repeat I would message him. Then if he doesn't reply I know he just isn't that into me and move on. missb a terrible over thinker 😕

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I always love a message after we've gone home....I loved another fantastic, and fun night..... The sex was too 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    9 years ago

    Yeah if I don't want a repeat session, they will more than likely never hear from me again and I'm guessing that men do exactly the same thing... I also don't chase guys, I just figure they will stay in contact if they're interested in catching up again, if not, then oh well.....💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    "sex was awesome!!!! The dutchy was a little ott!!!" 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Forus1234

    Forus1234

    9 years ago

    Yes, we like to follow up the next day with a text to our play partners. It's the way we are & we feel it's good manners to do so, even if we may have thought the night was average. Sometimes we haven't text first, simply, as some people have text us first & we may still be sleeping in! Yes there are people we have had awesome sex with & like to catch up with, but time is an issue & also there are so many apples in the pie!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    As I have only met a couple of guys from here and they were both ongoing, but I would always text and so would they sometimes I was first texter sometimes not. But I always let them know how much I enjoyed seeing and spending time with them in and out of bed. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Have always messaged the next day with a thanks for sharing yourself with us or have shared some memories from our fun, ..have been lucky so far and have enjoyed most experiences.....,still waiting for a playmate to rock my world, but I'm definitely some what of a challenge, I need visual, audible and mental stimulation....the raunchier the better... Have had a couple of calls backs..., so the performance can't be all that bad ... 😝

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    9 years ago

    I text the morning after just to say thanks for a lovely night or words to that effect! I text regularly after that not necessarily to hook up again but its not always about sex. If I don't get the communication reciprocated, I move on. I'm happy to initiate communication and maintain it but I'm not desperate to chase people who can't show me the same care in return. Text/communication is so important to me that I clearly outline it in our profile that in order to see me repeatedly you maintain communication with me. Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    So people text afterwards even if you are not keen on seeing the person again? I have to be honest. I don't bother.

  • hotdelights

    hotdelights

    9 years ago

    As a couple it would be Open the tex to show the wife say ,,,we Both enjoy being together and if we all meet again it will be a nice thought ,, to keep it open no pressure ,as if we all click ,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Always talk to/text someone afterwards, whether the sex was good or not. I'm always clear about wanting a repeat performance or not though. If someone was worthy of talking to the night before, I don't see why it would suddenly be ok to ignore them unless they did something that was unacceptable or offensive.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I wouldnt bother contacting if I didnt want to see them again. No point. But deffinately when its been a positive meeting.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    9 years ago

    My response to this post is in the post where some one decided to think for me.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I wouldnt ignore someones text, even if I had no intension of meeting up with them again.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' My response to this post is in the post where some one decided to think for me..... WhhhhhaatT? you mean you know their names and have their mobile numbers? Really? what ever for?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I think a follow up thanks for a nice night/day etc is polite regardless of wanting to see them again or not. If they don't reply it's no drama to me but I like to do it 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yeah I get it. Wham bam it's over don't contact me again. In fact let's not even get started. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    9 years ago

    Were you thinking for me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    When we do meet and greets, we know if someone is interested by a return email.... But when we played, we messaged to thank them for the experience and hope they acknowledge that a good time has been had by all ......we've been fortunate the feedback was received and positive :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I wont text anyone afterwards as I dont want to appear too keen.......... if they are keen on me they will get in touch. Ive been lucky and kept in touch with most of my dates, a couple are now good friends. Thank goodness for RHP. my sex life and social life at 52 has never been better!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    In my ideal scenario, the lady is still here in the morning :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    If you don't let someone down...... .... theres a risk they'll come around.......... unannounced....... which is rarely ideal. Its always better to take the higher road of the Adult. Its also better to ensure that you DO leave a positive lasting impression by ensuring someones positive experience..... because without that, the first time is likely to be the only time.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    If i play as a guy i always message for pleasantries and tell them if I'm keen for a repeat. If i play as Annie l usually wait for a message and dont take the lead. 2 personalities and traditional manners to match. Annie zx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    WOW@countrytouch.....wish there were more gentlemen like you around 😀. I personally do send a shirt message saying thank you for the company and so on if I hear back that is a bonus if not then that's their loss lol lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I never contact a guy again myself exactly as you said because It's a wham bam culture. (A few other reasons there but that's another subject) Why would I make myself vulnerable? If he wants to make the effort ... Then... I will respond positively if it was repeatable. If it wasn't I will let him know that I am not interested. Simple.

  • CandDSwing

    CandDSwing

    9 years ago

    We always text, even if we aren't keen on a repeat At the end of the day we given and received a piece of someone else (or ourselves) and that's a respectful thing for us. General respect and grace is something we live everyday and well why not in the lifestyle. I know this is a random connection but I know my barista name and everyday greet and thank him - it's just about showing decency - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    For an enjoyable/sensual/fantastic morning, afternoon or evening. All depending on the experience. Sometimes I'm first, sometimes the other party. If there's no reply then I guess they just weren't that into me. If there is, then it either develops into another meet or we say nice meeting you and each move on. It's just polite. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    That was meant to say short...lol