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The problem with sex sites is...
May 17 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would say it is certainly quite hard to get into contact with anyone on this page if you are not able to use words in a way that sound interesting. However it also allows one looking for the type of person one wants to find, people can share some of their sexual interests and display a part of themselves freely most of them can't in their regular life. That being said, it is no fun without getting to know each other and slowly testing out the waters is it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
All of that! I,and by extension, we, are not looking for happily ever after. But lets face it, MOST meets are going to involve some degree of social interaction, ie. drinks, a meal, etc. Before everyone decides to take things further. To that end, you definitely need to connect with someone. Of course, there is the attraction, everyone is attracted to something different, but once you have that, you still need some kind of mental attraction. And the cock shots and "Hey" messages do not deliver either attraction elements :( I believe that if someone is out looking for a sure thing with minimal effort, don't spend your money on a membership here, instead use it to procure the services of a professional Just my 2 cents :)
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
word for word...but it's a big post. Nevertheless, I agree with pretty much everything you said. My "Slot B", needs to be turned on before "Tab A" gets anywhere near it! And that takes stimulating my mind as well as my body. A decent interaction of conversation and flirting and not making me feel like I'm just any old 'Slot B', and anyone will do.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with everything you said. It will be interesting to see what others think.
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dudendudette
8 years ago
Hit the nail on the head for us. It's been an endless endeavour so far to find couples with any kind of personality or who put any effort into their interactions. 90% of profiles are either comprised purely of template sentences or give very little indication of their personalities. For us, it's so, so important to click on that level for there also to be any sexual attraction. You could be the best looking people on this site, but if you can't hold a decent conversation, you're not attractive to us at all. Sex is more than just mindlessly fucking whomever will say yes. It's a connection on a whole different level and a certain element of trust and vulnerability is shown, and we don't just show it with anyone! Maybe we're a minority? But there's always a major wave of disappointment when we get a message from a couple that simply says "Hi, how are u." No questions, no curiosity, and seemingly no fucks to be given about what we actually have to say. Apologies for the rant! It's just something that's been grinding my gears for months! - Dudette - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
8 years ago
I've said it often over the years. RHP IS NOT A FREE SEX SITE to many here and people still need a reason to be attracted to you and want to go there. There's no such thing as a sure thing even paid professionals negotiate and still get to say NO THANKS if they aren't feeling it. Too many people here nowadays think anyone here with a profile is fair game and a free whore (couples and singles alike). I guess to make an impact more people should be reporting the fake, abusive, inappropriate profiles and conduct of others. Blocking doesn't always address the issue, it does for the individual but if the Mods aren't aware of these idiots how can they improve the experience for everyone else? Just sayin' ~ Indy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm astonished that this needs to said. Are there really so many slow learners out there? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I mentioned elsewhere that when I joined up there was certainly no box I had to tick making me promise to fuck someone and I am amazed that some others think I should be changing my standards to fit the conformance of shitty unconnected sex just because I'm on a casual dating / social networking site?? Na uh this sheila still needs to be stimulated mentally before I'm gonna get anywhere near letting you touch me ha ha like above, just saying :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
I agree. I too need that connection before deciding to meet even for coffee or a drink in a bar. and chatting will decide whether we will take it further I've turn down a good number of hot looking men, a few recently due to the fact I'm just not stimulated by them. Indy nailed it for me. It's not a free-sex site r guys. Make some effort. Messages like 'hi', 'legs for days' or "g'day chicken" (yep, fresh one this morning) doesn't do it for me 😞
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also agree with everything you said and it's the reason I rarely meet guys anymore, invariably, though communications start off okay, the initial promises of extended play sessions fade to a morning text "what are you up to today?" When I've been very clear I need notice, I have a lot going on at the moment, they just struggle to respect that. I'm also put off by them not thinking I'm important enough to give up a day off work for, slip me in on a work day so saving their days off, translation there quite often is the initial long play session promised would be a quick blowie after/before work lol and then I continue to get messages with a phone number and kik name, that's it, nothing else. No reply of course. Then the ones where everything is going great, give my kik or number, and never hear from them. I got a message from a guy a few days ago who I replied to a few months ago, he went AWOL, then a message saying "how's things going?" Huh? No reply again. Seriously, it's not that hard, or it shouldn't be 👎
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On_Safari
8 years ago
It's phenomenal the number of people who DON'T READ THE PROFILES and just go on the bloody pictures!!! Honestly if people would just read they'd usually know if they were wasting theirs and your time or not . My profile says I don't accept random friends requests and I rarely view my flirts within the first 4 sentences......so I keep getting random friend requests and flirts AND if you're not going to read the profile at least check the tabs or the basics at Seeking? For? Who Are? right beside the profile picture, it's not rocket science! FM ~ Indy
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari'Sex begins in the mind before the loins.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
wank bank pictures. I'm so over guys starting communications well, then the second you say you're not opening pg, they disappear ffs can they not see every part of me in the 50 pictures I have up? Another one yesterday, all great until I said no pg but here's my kik, then nothing 👎 fuck off basically, there are more where you came from. Seriously, it does make you wonder if they ever have good sex/intimacy, if they even know what it is. Oops venting but it shits me 😏
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nibblemebi
8 years ago
Absolutely nailed it. It's a shame because with a little finesse some of those Ebay shoppers (love the metaphor! ) would reap many rewards of wetness inducing fun if only that light bulb went off. They should really think of RHP a bit like a poker (pun not actually intended) tournament. Yes..you bring your money but you won't win anything at all if you can't read the game or the players. You wouldn't pay to play and just throw your cards around without even considering them would you? Plus...there's much more fun to be 'won' in this kitty 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have over 500 flirts sent despite my profile specifically stating I dont respond to them. They look at my profile, but obviously haven't taken time to read the words. Instant fail for me. I want bother engaging any further.
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RHP User
8 years ago
with everything you said...and can I say my biggest hate is the first message asking for sex...nice reply of no thanks, and they reply asking why..its a sex site that's what you are here for!!!!!!!!!!!! grrrrrrr and them some then automatically think you want marriage....which is even more frustrating lol
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jedi_knight
8 years ago
Haha well said a bit of emotional intelligence goes a long way! I had a lady friend show me some of the messages she received ... wow it's a funny world out there is all I can say ... treat people with respect and the future is yours ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are a must. The profiles that read, "I love big titts and a great arse" are an immediate pass. Yes, I am sexually progressive, yes I want to be able to enjoy casual encounters but no - fucking is not a foregone conclusion simply because I love sex. Sexual attraction is key, so is being respectful, personally - I need a whole lot of juicy chemistry before I'm going to whip kit off. Seduction, regardless of where it goes is the dance of the imagination. With you all the way, great post. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Exactly!! I have and will continue to report to the moderators as well as block profiles. If more people report bad behaviour, patterns will emerge and they can take action. I have had guys say they will use this site for sex as we women are being 'pimped out' by RHP and be on a vanilla site as they want to meet the one... interesting concept. Oh yeah - they get kicked to the kerb. I have no issue if they meet someone IRL but to actively chase polar opposites on different sites just shows how these guys view women on this site. I've had FWB's who have said that they are leaving RHP because they either want to pursue a 'relationship' on another site. They have also called a halt to 'WB' side of things as they do so. These guys I respect as they are here for the right reasons. They are also the guys who read my profile and I connect with... Funny that 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Correctamundo ! However, before Tab A gets inserted into Slot B shouldn't you moisten Flap C ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Where it just happens to be one can talk about things otherwise considered not for 'polite' conversation. Anything over and above that I take as a bonus. Though even on first joining I wasn't thinking that somehow here was going to be some sort of magical fairyland where women throw themselves at you. Not that in reality I'd want that anyway. The blessing/curse of being a geek is vacuous people tend to be like fingers down a blackboard, so some signs of intelligent life need to be there 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
this thread should be compulsory reading for every new person who joins, no gender bashing here Just sad that this thread states the bloody obvious Read peeps read, before firing off a message to see if you meet with the stated criteria and if you don't , then don't And if you are rejected, accept this with graciousness. We've all been there
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swingalingson
8 years ago
I remember in the 90's in order to meet swingers you had to go and buy the sex paper magazine or Rosey. Then you had to write on paper a letter and try to entice women and couples to have a further chat. Or try to arrange meeting at a pub or a swingers club for a drink. That was not to long ago. Where has the creativity gone? Perhaps it is a numbers game now tick and flick??
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Chocky Desire sees some of the messages I get here and regardless of the fact he enjoys our social get together around the country, for the majority; he LOATHES the men of RHP. He thinks their lack of manners and disgusting behaviour probably translates through to their interactions with women in real life too. Abusers, etc. he's possibly right for many. The rest are just completely clueless and unless someone (us, the Mods; other men on the site) stands up even case by case trying to educate the behaviour will just continue. For all the RHP men with smarts, manners, respect, emotional intelligence, communication skills, social endurance and sufficient arsenal in the Art of Seduction I say THANK YOU for not being you're over represented inadequate brethren 👍🏽 ~ Indy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Flap C works but also Ring D if you're really looking for that winning combination. I'm glad this seems to have resonated with some of you. If I'm having a little rant, here's the other two things that rustle my jimmies... 1. "I'm a guest and can't contact you - please message me". Sucks to be you, my friend. Stop sending me flirt after flirt if you're not prepared to even cough up $30 to have a few months message. 2. "Sorry, I don't use Kik" - again, sucks to be you. That's the only way I'll communicate with you off this site. It's free, available on all platforms and quite frankly, is the only option you have if you want to talk with me off here. Oh and lastly, I recently had a short conversation with someone who wanted 360 degree full body shots to "determine if I'm attracted to you". Pfft. I have pics. I've stated my stats and size. If that's not enough, then try using words or meeting up. This is not a horse stud or dog show. (Now, now!)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm stealing that. 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' I'm stealing that. 😝 Rustles my jimmies: I'd love to suggest it's mine but it's common a common internet saying.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Hahaha!! What planet are they from? Seriously ..... do they really think it is a reasonable request? In my perverse mind I would plot to send them 360 degree full body shots of a random car.....well they didn't specify what type of body 😇😎 Nothing really to add, its all been covered well.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Chocky Desire sees some of the messages I get here and regardless of the fact he enjoys our social get together around the country, for the majority; he LOATHES the men of RHP. He thinks their lack of manners and disgusting behaviour probably translates through to their interactions with women in real life too. Abusers, etc. he's possibly right for many. The rest are just completely clueless and unless someone (us, the Mods; other men on the site) stands up even case by case trying to educate the behaviour will just continue. For all the RHP men with smarts, manners, respect, emotional intelligence, communication skills, social endurance and sufficient arsenal in the Art of Seduction I say THANK YOU for not being you're over represented inadequate brethren Look, I don't mean to gender bash really - I'm just going by the experiences I've had. I have a couple of single female friends and a couple of couple friends and they all report the same thing - the lack of manners and even basic attempts at forming a connection displayed by some men is really disheartening. And then you read the posts on here with them crying, "What am I doing wrong????/This site is scam/fake profiles". No, dick-blister, YOU either have made NO attempt to form a basic human connection or your messages/profile is so lacking in anything even close to a personality that you're never going to engage women (other than those who truly are looking for that totally anonymous, mindless fuck - not that there's anything wrong with that!). I guess if I'm totally honest about my opinion, I would say that *some* men think that the minute a woman joins a sex site, they immediately must think about the same way *some* men do i.e. visual attraction is the priority, fuck and forget is the goal, fuck first, ask questions later or hopefully never. Sure, some probably do. But the vast majority, IMHO, are simply sex positive and open-minded - this doesn't change the fundament nature of female sexual attraction. And *some* men fail to grasp this and are AMAZED that it's not raining pussy upon them as they had maybe hoped.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always met first for drinks or coffee, because if there was no connection nothing else was going to happen. And thats why the guys I met are now still friends. There are still some guys who reckon RHP is a site where they pay their money and can have free sex every night of the week. I really cant understand their way of thinking, especially when they get on the forums and wonder why they arent getting a root?
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RHP User
8 years ago
and Im sure there are plenty other males the same. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you wolf :) I'm gonna take the 360° body shot, made me chuckle.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'standard_deviate' I'm astonished that this needs to said. Are there really so many slow learners out there? - Posted from rhpmobile Yes, there are. So, so many.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I also agree with everything you said and it's the reason I rarely meet guys anymore, invariably, though communications start off okay, the initial promises of extended play sessions fade to a morning text "what are you up to today?" When I've been very clear I need notice, I have a lot going on at the moment, they just struggle to respect that. I'm also put off by them not thinking I'm important enough to give up a day off work for, slip me in on a work day so saving their days off, translation there quite often is the initial long play session promised would be a quick blowie after/before work lol and then I continue to get messages with a phone number and kik name, that's it, nothing else. No reply of course. Then the ones where everything is going great, give my kik or number, and never hear from them. I got a message from a guy a few days ago who I replied to a few months ago, he went AWOL, then a message saying "how's things going?" Huh? No reply again. Seriously, it's not that hard, or it shouldn't be 👎 Yeah, we've all been through exactly that and it's just crap.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Gentleman_Wolf' and Im sure there are plenty other males the same. - Posted from rhpmobile I'm sure there are too but many are not. The kinds of attitudes I was talking about are generalisations but they're all to common.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with pretty much all you've said...because it's the general consensus.But, moving past recognising all that is the next step, I think...and asking yourself, "What are you going to do about it?" You can't change the RHP( and everything like it ) wheel, it's just too big. Putting it out there again is always good, and helps incrementally...but when we're not satisfied with something as broad as human nature, I think we would be better off adjusting our ways of dealing with it if we want to maintain internal peace.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Chocky Desire sees some of the messages I get here and regardless of the fact he enjoys our social get together around the country, for the majority; he LOATHES the men of RHP. He thinks their lack of manners and disgusting behaviour probably translates through to their interactions with women in real life too. Abusers, etc. he's possibly right for many. The rest are just completely clueless and unless someone (us, the Mods; other men on the site) stands up even case by case trying to educate the behaviour will just continue. For all the RHP men with smarts, manners, respect, emotional intelligence, communication skills, social endurance and sufficient arsenal in the Art of Seduction I say THANK YOU for not being you're over represented inadequate brethren 👍🏽 ~ Indy Well said Indy. And thanks for saying it.There are a minority of good men on here who have awesome communication skills and were obviously well brought up.The rest? Well they were just dragged up.Here's to that special minority of good RHP guys!Wish there were more of you.I drink to your good health and happiness.Cheers!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
It annoys the shit out of us when people can't use 'to' and 'too' correctly as well!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AbnormallyNormal' a) Look, I don't mean to gender bash really - I'm just going by the experiences I've had. I have a couple of single female friends and a couple of couple friends and they all report the same thing - the lack of manners and even basic attempts at forming a connection displayed by some men is really disheartening. b) And then you read the posts on here with them crying, "What am I doing wrong????/This site is scam/fake profiles". .. I don't mean to shit-stir( for a change.. )...... but the men reported in a), are they the very same men who are posting in b). If not, then this is generalising and unfair to blokedom. My motive in bringing this to your attention is obvious.
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swingalingson
8 years ago
To get a root. I am legit and love chatting to open minded folks. Gee Wiz... now when was the last time I got some nooky.. Seems like ages🤔 Love the banter peeps!
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RHP User
8 years ago
What bothers me about this site. Is that none of the single women reply! I've gotten heaps of men replying and couples. I don't know if my settings are wrong. But yeah its really difficult to find a woman who will talk to me which I'm in a couple. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We all know you are the good in blokedom 😉 and you're not alone, fair point 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' I agree with pretty much all you've said...because it's the general consensus.But, moving past recognising all that is the next step, I think...and asking yourself, "What are you going to do about it?" You can't change the RHP( and everything like it ) wheel, it's just too big. Putting it out there again is always good, and helps incrementally...but when we're not satisfied with something as broad as human nature, I think we would be better off adjusting our ways of dealing with it if we want to maintain internal peace. Some days I laugh, some days I answer politely 'thanks but no thanks'. Mostly I say 'read my profile'. Other days I just delete and move on. And my block list is substantial. My reaction depends on the day and circumstances. These are my reactions and I will own them. Sometimes I get flirt after flirt from guys who obviously can't read or comprehend plain English. Or a paid up member chancing their arm with a flirt as they're not prepared to use a precious message. Why? Cos they ain't what I'm looking for...... Or the 'hey' or 'call me'. I had one guy say 'I'm coming up to Perth today and have a couple of hours - what are you doing? Can we meet up?' WTF? I've never even seen his profile before. Let alone 'chatted'. I've got one dweeb at the moment who has now sent me 3 flirts - 2 I've sent flirts back saying no thanks. And I've got a message as well. Is he that stupid? I practice mindfulness in my life and try to maintain my equilibrium. However, it gets to me sometimes and I will bite back. It can be soul destroying and/or frustrating to get approach after approach that treats you like an object or a whore or a combination thereof. It does make the well crafted messages from guys with a great profile original all the sweeter..... While they don't make up for all the rubbish, it gives me hope. It would be great if RHP gave me a little more control over who messages me - but I'm with you Kool, I can't see that happening KH
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Love your work! "Dick-blister"... "raining pussy upon them" lol
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'meandher_1982' It annoys the shit out of us when people can't use 'to' and 'too' correctly as well!! Mine is "women" and "woman".
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Looks like you're a new member. Some advice/tips for FREE: 1. Don't approach people if you don't have a pic, most will ignore you, alot will block you and I can pretty much guarantee no one will meet you. Yes we all value privacy etc etc but you could put a pic in your private gallery and only give it to those you find safe, sane and consentual. Dick pics suck and are so common here it's pathetic, if your penis is your best asset I feel sorry for you. Bathroom selfies aren't any better....put up some pix of you in your natural habitat, blur out your face if it's an issue but it'll give people an idea of what you look like. Body shots are good, tease by NOT showing your dick, be creative there's heaps of pictures to get ideas from in the amateur pic sets. 2. Read the profiles before you approach, the preferences tabs etc and you might get some of an idea if it's going to go somewhere even if it's just a quick non-commital. At the very least you'll know if a message is going to be wasted effort because most will say who they don't want to contact them. 3. THIS IS NOT JUST A SEX SITE TO MANY!! Alot of us have friendships all over the country forged from here with people we actually meet and know. Yes all my friends on my list I know face to face and not necessarily sexually. I've lived out my sexual fantasies here and have a wide network because I earned it through respect....be smart about it all. Most long termers needs have "evolved" or they can spot a timewaster/waste of time a mile off. 4. Which brings us to "friend collecting"...each to their own but I don't think it makes you more interesting if you have a lot it just makes you look like a friend collector. I don't do it on FB and I don't think it is an honest way to represent yourself. 5. If you're going to send a message don't say the crap you just did to me. I get messages like that by the bucketloads, read the profile and then decide if you have anything noteworthy to mention you both have in common or something you liked about their style etc. Be engaging. Don't be so quick to give out your details kik/messenger/number etc you don't know who's on the other end it could be a hefty bloke looking to stroke your back with his weapon. 6. Your profile.....the RHP profile builder sucks, put some effort in and write something about you (not your fucket list or prowess promotion.....again that's soooooo boring.) Be honest, be witty, be engaging. Check out a few profiles from the forum maybe mine for a few ideas on what others write, definitely check out some of the mens. Here's a link to some RHP Ettiquette lessons (YES THEY EXIST!!): https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Profile-Clinic-Tips-Advice I hope you have great success now that you are armed with some insight. If a fuck is all you're after you probably won't get it with your current approach anyway....just trying to help you Toodaloo So that's my little bit of helping the blind to see. If you don't mind OP I'm going to insert this link into that template too ~ Indy
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Well written AbnormallyNormal, and good to see that we are not the only ones who feel this way. It is a pity that so many people ( in our experience and based on the messages we have received via this site and 2 others) believe that just because this is a sex site, it is acceptable for them to approach & message one in an overtly lewd, and in our opinion, disrespectful manner. We have said it before and will say it again. Just because we are on a swingers/sex site (or even in a swingers club /party ) does not mean that one will open ones legs on command, that we have to have sex, that one is a slut and cumbucket, whose holes are yearning to be filled with your throbbing manhood. We have received some really disgusting messages , that not only leave very little to the imagination, but also make us question the calibre, education, moral values , upbringing and mental health of the sender. Clearly some have little or no respect for women. Or perhap they are just not thinking with the larger brain but rather their smaller one ? Lol We have become "hardened" to these sites and have accepted that in many instances they attract unsavoury types, who come from very different backgrounds & upbringings, to what we are accustomed to. A different "class" would perhaps describe it we feel. Certainly not the kind of people we would associate with on a daily basis, but then we would be labelled as "tall poppies" for this statement no doubt. But then it's generally a mixed bag on these sites. We don't take it seriously anymore - free & harmless entertainment - water off a ducks back. We have however met a few really nice couples ( and 2 or 3 nice, respectable single guys too) and so it has not been all negative, doom & gloom. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Looks like you're a new member. Some advice/tips for FREE: 1. Don't approach people if you don't have a pic, most will ignore you, alot will block you and I can pretty much guarantee no one will meet you. Yes we all value privacy etc etc but you could put a pic in your private gallery and only give it to those you find safe, sane and consentual. Dick pics suck and are so common here it's pathetic, if your penis is your best asset I feel sorry for you. Bathroom selfies aren't any better....put up some pix of you in your natural habitat, blur out your face if it's an issue but it'll give people an idea of what you look like. Body shots are good, tease by NOT showing your dick, be creative there's heaps of pictures to get ideas from in the amateur pic sets. 2. Read the profiles before you approach, the preferences tabs etc and you might get some of an idea if it's going to go somewhere even if it's just a quick non-commital. At the very least you'll know if a message is going to be wasted effort because most will say who they don't want to contact them. 3. THIS IS NOT JUST A SEX SITE TO MANY!! Alot of us have friendships all over the country forged from here with people we actually meet and know. Yes all my friends on my list I know face to face and not necessarily sexually. I've lived out my sexual fantasies here and have a wide network because I earned it through respect....be smart about it all. Most long termers needs have "evolved" or they can spot a timewaster/waste of time a mile off. 4. Which brings us to "friend collecting"...each to their own but I don't think it makes you more interesting if you have a lot it just makes you look like a friend collector. I don't do it on FB and I don't think it is an honest way to represent yourself. 5. If you're going to send a message don't say the crap you just did to me. I get messages like that by the bucketloads, read the profile and then decide if you have anything noteworthy to mention you both have in common or something you liked about their style etc. Be engaging. Don't be so quick to give out your details kik/messenger/number etc you don't know who's on the other end it could be a hefty bloke looking to stroke your back with his weapon. 6. Your profile.....the RHP profile builder sucks, put some effort in and write something about you (not your fucket list or prowess promotion.....again that's soooooo boring.) Be honest, be witty, be engaging. Check out a few profiles from the forum maybe mine for a few ideas on what others write, definitely check out some of the mens. Here's a link to some RHP Ettiquette lessons (YES THEY EXIST!!): https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Profile-Clinic-Tips-Advice I hope you have great success now that you are armed with some insight. If a fuck is all you're after you probably won't get it with your current approach anyway....just trying to help you Toodaloo So that's my little bit of helping the blind to see. If you don't mind OP I'm going to insert this link into that template too ~ Indy Just how often is that sent? I wonder if templates like this, saying look at profiles of those posting on the forums, are responsible for half my views these days being male.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"dick blister" You go girl :-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Quoting 'meandher_1982' It annoys the shit out of us when people can't use 'to' and 'too' correctly as well!! Mine is "women" and "woman". I always get a laugh out of tounge (tongue)
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's beginning to sound like the incompetent are doing all the messaging and the good guys have retired to the forums..Houston we have a problem.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'Fit_Geek' Just how often is that sent? I wonder if templates like this, saying look at profiles of those posting on the forums, are responsible for half my views these days being male. You should be flattered.....
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PurePeony
8 years ago
I agree with what you've posted. I can't resist commenting that I love your writing style - very structured, clear and rational. ;) Are you relatively new to the forums? If so, welcome! If not, sorry... my bad! :P Great thread, OP!
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PurePeony
8 years ago
You've got an amazing profile! You are honest and open, and you have even shared personal stories. You don't hide your marital status and intentions. The clueless guys will learn a lot from you. ;) PS. I'm a bit biased because I like geeks IRL. I'm pretty much a Nerdette myself, a term I coined : Nerd + Smurfette = Nerdette = PP! =D
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
that we don't find desirable, but very rarely. I don't spend time reflecting on it. I don't give advice. I don't look at them again. I think making mistakes and discovering them for yourself is of great value, and to have someone else to point out your mistakes is a shortcut of the process. Life presents innumerable possibilities for love or friendship, but we must be willing to give in order to receive. (This site is just one of those possibilities). Some don't know how to give and some have been giving all their lives so they try to give as little as they can. Our beliefs, what we value in life, provides the roadmap for the type of life that we experience. "Time is what we spend our lives with. If we are not careful we'll find others spending it for us." - Carl Sandburg
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are disrespectful here,they will be disrespectful elsewhere.Hiding behind a keyboard just brings the real reason into view. I think it's important not to take it personally,because it's actually not about you,it's about them. Q
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cleopatrababe
8 years ago
Respect and integrity.is high on my list ..im aware this is a sex site but most of the other so called sites are much the same ...coffee and can we go to yours now ?? Lets face it finding a connection is hard for all of us ..in my profile i state .stimulate the mind and the body follows pretty normal human trait ..we arent machines ..when someone sends me an interesting first message ill take it further but half the time they disappear and turn up again when they feel like it ...whats going on me thinks they have many on the go ..all good i dont sit at home waiting life is to short - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' I agree with what you've posted. I can't resist commenting that I love your writing style - very structured, clear and rational. ;) Are you relatively new to the forums? If so, welcome! If not, sorry... my bad! :P Great thread, OP! Well, thank you! I appreciate the compliment. I'm not new - I float around here occasionally and then I get the shits and disappear again for a while. :-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter' that we don't find desirable, but very rarely. I don't spend time reflecting on it. I don't give advice. I don't look at them again. I think making mistakes and discovering them for yourself is of great value, and to have someone else to point out your mistakes is a shortcut of the process. Life presents innumerable possibilities for love or friendship, but we must be willing to give in order to receive. (This site is just one of those possibilities). Some don't know how to give and some have been giving all their lives so they try to give as little as they can. Our beliefs, what we value in life, provides the roadmap for the type of life that we experience. "Time is what we spend our lives with. If we are not careful we'll find others spending it for us." - Carl Sandburg interesting quotes and this one is excellent so I will attempt to remember it so I can use it in the future.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was just looking through my block list 😄 actually because I wanted to check I hadn't blocked someone, never can be too sure with me 😉 but a few hottie's in there. Me being me, I wondered what on earth they could possibly do to have me cut them off like that. Anyhoo I checked message history with one, it consisted of 2 messages only. I was a paid up member at the time so after receiving a flirt, sent the first message, very enthusiastic as I am "please tell me you're real" that kind of well thought out message, or the best I can do whilst dribbling 😜 Reply came back saying yes I'm real, what are you doing tonight, I'd love to play 😏 So to recap lol the guy is mid 30's, you would assume have some brain matter by then, hadn't given me anything at that stage - no compliments/no message/no getting to know me conversation/no discovering mutual respect/no getting me turned on meaning no seduction at all and no respect. Clearly after a blow job, I blocked 👎 ffs
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OzRednecks
8 years ago
Well written AbormallyNormal. Agree with everything you wrote. Everyone is looking for something, but you hit the nail on the head in our opinion. Great topic. Interested in reading everyone's replies 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just received a message reading: "hope you dont think i am to forward but would love you to fuck me love a hard fuck....." Where is the seduction in that ? Thanks for starting this post, I hope it can educate other. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
A good principle to remember: just because someone wants to have sex it doesn't automatically follow that they want to have sex with *you*. - Posted from rhpmobile
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usnow
8 years ago
The thing we find most frustrating is that many think that because your on a sex site you must be a nympho , stud or sexual deviate .This especially puts huge pressure on the female as she is expected to "fuck" for hours , be fingered to near death and of course be a raving bisexual . Being a normal sexual couple who just like to experiment a little swapping partners with other "normal "couples we feel the expectations are way too high . Usnow .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Bretheren is a polite way of saying Dicks. 15 % of guys are more concerned of ensuring the lady is enjoying herself and are aroused by the sounds and reactions being enjoyed.
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