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The rejection or brush off

August 22 2013

Okay here is a question for your long time RHP people. What is a better way of doing this. You chat to someone they are flirty and all positive and then you want to share pics and see how it goes. Being the gentleman usually go first and then comes the answer, thanks for the interest, I don't feel an attraction, or you are not my type. I get and don't mind that I'm not everyone's type and wouldn't want to be, but someone that line completely gives me the shits. Especially when you don't get the chance to see them and say the same back hahaha So what is a better way of doing it? Yes nice to be told there isn't chemistry or a spark but is silence better or just thanks but no thanks rather than one side left feeling, well maybe I didn't like you either hahaha but never got the chance! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Fake account set up by a man!!!

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RHP User

11 years ago

Would you rather not hear back at all? I will always reply, but yes, if a guy is not for me I don't see much point showing my pics. Then again, I have plenty in my public gallery, and even show my face there regularly. A few times when someone told me it was unfair they never got to see me, I've given PG access. It all depends on how the question is asked.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I could just be a fake account, set up by a man.

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RHP User

11 years ago

No, I would say lots of women do this. Makes perfect sense to me. What else are you supposed to do.

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RHP User

11 years ago

People talking about fake accounts every five minutes. WTf is with that.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Instead of having to wonder if you're lacking something because you're not getting the response you want, it's so much easier to just assume the other is a fake. Taking responsibility is overrated.

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RHP User

11 years ago

How you would like to be told that the other person is not interested, without getting the shits?Or is it okay to use the lines "you're not my type" or "I don't feel the attraction" as long as they open their pg for you!?!?

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RHP User

11 years ago

Okay, let me try and clarify, I'm sure you ladies think you are doing us a favour by making it clear your non interest. I've always been a diplomatic type taking into account another persons feelings. Now it could be just me, but I mainly get miffed by the profiles that have no photos, so you have no idea, they ask to see your face shot, which I do, and then comes the reply in different versions "you aren't my type". Now I can take it so easily from a person I've seen a photo of, but from a profile with no photos or face, I just find it rude. I'm glad they have been honest but I seem to take exception to the hiding behind anonymity! Feels better to have the rant out. I just put it down to simple fact there are too many guys and too many ladies have either forgotten manners, or had manners beaten out of them by rude men. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Venus, I apologise, but every time time I see your pic I think you're crossing a ravine. Hot!

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Mischeviouslad

11 years ago

Have you ever met and spoken to a woman face to face in the traditional settings... and she has suddenly turned cold to you.... and become disinterested?It happens.The difference is.... face to face.... you can often learn why.But in here...... accept it, and deal with it, because there isnt any way of answering your question.Open your mind and say....... NEXT!!!!DG

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RHP User

11 years ago

there is an attraction or there isnt...sometimes the convo is attractive... then the visual isnt... what can we say?I have some speshal friends whose convo is amazing and keep my life happy!.. .. via email and messages... no visual...I love these people..who knows what would happen if we met.... hmm?Perhaps pix on profile help filter ?

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RHP User

11 years ago

Maybe it is the fact I've never experienced that in person :-) More of a rant than a quest for a solution! Normally I avoid rude people - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Often I will not show my pics if I think I am not attracted to physically, sometimes when distance is involved too. I just think what's the point. It's not going to happen!! Gypsy 💋- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hi,I've learnt recently that you shouldn't worry so much about what other people say or do. Of course, then it effects you directly, you need to do something about it. But if it's a rejection on RHP, it's probably best not to worry about it too much. Everyone has their reasons and that's just the way things are.Did that sound too philosophical? I came here to talk about sex, darn it.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Next time I will send them a polite rejection as well as access to my PG. Here you go lovely, you are not my type and I wouldn't even fuck you in the dark with a paper bag over your head,but feel free to view my PG... Cause you ain't never getting any of that! ⊂(◉‿◉)つ

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RHP User

11 years ago

they think that you wouldn't be interested in them if you saw their photo, and hence the pre-emptive brush off??

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RHP User

11 years ago

It's easier to hide behind anonymity. I once told a bloke I wasn't interested and he'd been so kind I opened my PG. and he came back with the most vile response I've come across. He was so shocked that I'd said no. I don't want idiots like that seeing my face. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think it is just the nature of the beast on here, something you just have to accept that it comes with the territory. Don't have to like it though :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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