The 'right' reasons

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'd say the right reason is that it's something both you and you're partner want to do. The wrong reason would be that you're only doing it just to please your partner.

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  PatchworkGirl

  9 years ago

  The right reasons - you are both comfortable in your relationship, confident in your connection with each other, and able to communicate what you want and need. The wrong reasons - "he's always wanted to see me with another woman, so I figured I'd do it for him", or some variation of that.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  The rule of thumb seems to be: Getting into it will typically strengthen an already strong relationship. But you shouldn't be doing it to try to "fix" any private issues/problems you may have. (Having said that singles and others do for such reasons occasionally). But as a couple, as long as you are both in control of issues like jealousy, intimacy, inhibitions, self-esteem/body image, confidence, communication etc, I'm sure you'll have a ball. But then again you can learn some of that via the experiences and advice of others. Other than that there's not really any right or wrong reasons, and how far you go to start with is entirely up to you. Some couples will want more (to go further), others will be similar to yourselves. Some will take baby steps, others will jump in the deep end. Meet and Greets, and no pressure couples nights are best to meet and find couples who you may click with.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Patchworkgirl pretty well nailed it. The only thing I can add is to stay true to your soft swap until such time you feel more comfortable. As for the don't . Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  We have only been on this site for about 6 months now but have met enough couples to know that there are many different reasons that people get into swinging and there can be many right reasons and many wrong reasons. The reasons are as unique as the people you might meet. for us our first time happened kind of by accident but we were so turned on by the experience that we couldn't keep our hands off each other for days afterwards, so wanted more of were that came from, so we signed up on here. So our right reason is to enhance our already strong relationship and spice up our already great sex life, kind of like buying a vibrator ;-) There are many wrong reasons but you will know yourself if the reason you want to do it seems right or wrong and above all talk to your partner and find out their reasons and decid if they seem honest and right to you too. Whatever you do, don't do it to try and fix a broken relationship or just to please your partner. If you start off that way, you'll end up taking one for the team in other ways and that is bound to end in disaster. You each have to get something out of it, if you want it to work. Good luck with your decision!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  right reasons: cos when ya married ya get sick of wakin up to the same damn face every day lol :p Wrong reasons: errrrr.....huh??? :p PS. For the character lacking ones; humour isn't always knock knock jokes lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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  QLDtwo4fun

  9 years ago

  But there is not enough room to write my observations and hypothesis. Just make sure is something your both into, it's a women's world in swinging.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Hottubbers' We have only been on this site for about 6 months now but have met enough couples to know that there are many different reasons that people get into swinging and there can be many right reasons and many wrong reasons. The reasons are as unique as the people you might meet. for us our first time happened kind of by accident but we were so turned on by the experience that we couldn't keep our hands off each other for days afterwards, so wanted more of were that came from, so we signed up on here. So our right reason is to enhance our already strong relationship and spice up our already great sex life, kind of like buying a vibrator ;-) There are many wrong reasons but you will know yourself if the reason you want to do it seems right or wrong and above all talk to your partner and find out their reasons and decid if they seem honest and right to you too. Whatever you do, don't do it to try and fix a broken relationship or just to please your partner. If you start off that way, you'll end up taking one for the team in other ways and that is bound to end in disaster. You each have to get something out of it, if you want it to work. Good luck with your decision! Totally!!!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  The wrong reason would be thinking it was going to fix something broken I your relationship, either sexually or emotionally. The right reasons for us is because it brings us closer together and is something that we both enjoy.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I totally agree! I know a couple where he has always wanted to and now after 11 years she's finally done it. She's an extremely jealous person including not being able to handle him having female friends at all. And yet he believes "people change" and she's fine with it because she's done it. Meanwhile the woman jumps when he receives a text message? I'm hoping or my friend that things have miraculously changed but to me it was a desperate move to hold onto the relationship when things were going south. I only hope couples they play with don't get caught in the middle.

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