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The standard compliments... Do we really mean them??
May 15 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
i do tend to give out compliments easily...and always seem to be worried about not hurting one's feelings...so as long as the effort has been made...even if the results are only ok...i will say it was wonderful...or at least i would lead the person gently as to what i would like different...like"that was so so nice...but i prefer it a little softer/slower/etc"...you can see when someone is eager to please you...so why take the wind out of their sail simply cause they are yet to learn your body well...if however someone is a lazy , selfish lover...with hardly any intention or effort on his behalf, to satisfy ...i will not worry about niceties and tell them straight how i feel....
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
I give out compliments to others lots because that's me! I mean what I say.... If I say you are beautiful I mean it or if your a selfish witch I mean that too! However, I don't like receiving compliments - I find the bad things are easier to believe! I get told the standard - you are hot, remarkable, one of a kind, you have a great body, give great head, blah blah blah - do I believe them nope! As I believe they say it because they think they should! My husband beats his head up against a brick wall lots n lots! But unfortunately that's how I see it :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think this is a positive statement. Many people are uncomfortable receiving Compliments. I can give em no problem and I will in all circumstances not only in sex.I told my assistant yesterday in the car, with me having tears in my eyes, silly me.I liked he has a heart and I liked his passion for people and that he took me to see someone with him to check em out.I said this was so wonderful, thank you, you are a very beautiful man and I like working with you. But I cry because my emotions are strong, my heart goes out to him and he giggles and said ohh not again. I cant help it, when I feel strongly it could happen, I have tears in my eyes.I believe we should make compliments when it is honest, not bullshit compliments, that's phony.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Not! Lol I do not give out compliments easily because I mean what I say, and if the man was really average at doing what he was doing, then there's no point to pretend that I liked his skills lol Well, that's just me, I rather be honest than telling lies and/or give the man a false impression, which he might hold it highly and up himself lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm afraid not. However, i do believe that everyone has something about them that is beautiful and unique. I focus on what i like about people, strangely enough that also means i see more of that! Every man that i've interacted with has had something about him that attracted me, something i really liked about him, it's easy to focus on those things and compliment those.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I feel like the sex was an obligation/shitty, no way in hell and I going to say "That was friggin awesome sex"..I just can't! I would rather not say a thing.Growing up I was always taught "Thank-you", so if my lover shows me affection and does all the right things, of cause I will thank them at the end of a great sesson - it's the right thing to do.However in saying that - I 've been given some"WOW/HUH/WTF" looks when I have said it, as they have never been thanked by a lover before.To me saying "Thank-you" is the biggest compliment one can give, over-rides a lot of all the other compliments especially when the sex has been amazing!! I guess for me it means a lot, means I was appreciative of the effort they put in and acknowledging them!FOXY
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I think guys aren't used to being thanked for sex, it's something some think they are taking instead of giving maybe, I don't know. Couples always thank each other... As for compliments like Sweetgem I only say what I mean and like KarynB I can find the sexy in others. But I am also very, very selective (apart from that one time at Band Camp), so I'm unlikely to end up with someone that there's not something I liked about them. As part of a couple I am wary of not complimenting the opposite sex too much in case it pushes their partners buttons, but I won't hold back on letting the girl's know about their strong points.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think men mean them at the time. I mean they have their cock inside you and are are hypnotized by a women's swaying boobs. So what else would he say except... Awesome!! I love the amazement most of them express at the tightness like they can't believe it. Men are so cute.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I say what I mean and I mean what I say! And I always say thank you for the shared experience. Every experience has something positive to offer!We prefer to have ongoing FWB so we actually get to know their bodies and likes/dislikes a little better and feel safe to try new things. Compliments and feedback come easier that way. I would never say I had great sex if it wasn't great for me!And I agree Meeka - men are so cute!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not one to stroke someone's ego just for the sake of their feelings. I don't really say things as mentioned by OP...I more say things along the lines of 'that was fantastic' or 'a lot of fun'. I don't feel the need to tell them they gave great head or had a fantastic technique...I am sure from my reactions when they are doing it that they know how I feel...lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you reap what you sow.Coaxing someone around to how you like things with a few compliments is going to be a lot more effective than negatives surely ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
compliments.....if they are genuine and honest... warm the soul, they make us feel good, both paying them and being paid them.... a compliment that's little more than a platitude tho, can be easily taken as they are meant....as trite and meaningless.... more an insult than nicety...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont feel right giving a compliment for the hell of it. When I meet a girl for the first time' it's usually her that gives the compliment first, usually eyes 'smile or teeth' which is nice and I always show my appreciation . This can be a little awkward sometimes because I find myself looking to reciprocate in some way and saying something right on the heels of their compliment can sound a bit tit for tat... But I dont even have to think about it if I see and feel something that grabs me.. it just comes out.. Last year on a date in Patong, I gave the girl I was with a compliment on how shapely her lips were. The result was she leaned over and planted one on me.. So that worked... lol....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Alot of compliments as I don't like being complimented. So when I give one, I mean it. Plus me being with you is a compliment in itself. 😉
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Oh My Fucking God" a compliment or 'Holy Fuck Balls"?Because I do tend to say those and genuinely mean them...usually when I have collapsed on the bed panting and grinning from ear to ear.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Breathless, body feeling like jelly, a huge grin from ear-to-ear and looking a partner with come f*ck me eyes....2nds?? ;-) FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
I say it. If I think someone is handsome, gorgeous has a nice cock etc...I'll tell themIf I haven't got anything good to say...I'll say nothingIf I see someone on the street and they are wearing something nice, I ill compliment them and have had it happen to me.I take compliments well...has taken time to be like that. I figure most people aren't full of shit...so its nice to receive
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RHP User
12 years ago
Words are meaningless without words... If I say something I mean it, no matter what!!! Talk is cheap and nasty and I'm not cheap...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Words are meaningless without actions... If I say something, I mean it, no compliments, if I don't mean it, no matter what!!! Talk is cheap and nasty and I am not cheap or nasty ;).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm too raw and real and respect words and literature too much for meaningless words and banter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I say anything... :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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