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The submissive girl

March 19 2016

Lately there has been a trend for more women to try submission and I think that's a good thing but, from what ladies have told me it is not easy to meet the right guy.Many have tried and got abused and have not tried again so I say this to you as a guideinto fetish.If he has no play room or at least some kinky toys the chances are he is not a Dom but a wife basher looking to vent his aggression so, stay well clear of him.Second if the first thing he wants to do is drop your panties and fuck and spank your ass again he is not a Dom but just after a quick fuck.The relationship between Dom and sub can be far better than vanilla but make sure he is what he claims to be and your journey into fetish can be fantastic. Anyone else care to add good advice for new subs

Comments

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    How the fuck can you conclude the guy is a wife basher? Generalising just a tad? Geesus. Heard it all I'd thought.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sigh xxFreya

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' How the fuck can you conclude the guy is a wife basher? Generalising just a tad? Geesus. Heard it all I'd thought. Just plain violent.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    A dom controls what the sub allows him/her to control. The play room is the MIND People who need to verbally re-enforse that they are a dom..... Generally arent. I was involved in a dom/sub relationship for a time. The words dom and sub were never mentioned and I didnt realise what it was until I was out of it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Ah, a subject i can totally relate with! Too true! It is difficult to find the right man. Some men, whilst not wife bashers, confuse dominance with just plain rough sex. Submissive women i assume on a whole are not after that. There are also the men that advertise themselves as doms, but just kind of wish they were. They seem to have no idea whatsoever. For a far too short time i found myself in the company of a younger fellow who knew exactly what he was doing. It was heaven. Unfortunately he fell for someone more his age. It was inevitable i guess. Too bad for me and so the search goes on. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    That they are wife bashers. my advice is educate yourself and screen well. Meet and get to know those that have experience both male and female friend and learn what you can. Be careful as there are douche bags but there are also some wonderful people.

  • cbdlivin

    cbdlivin

    9 years ago

    Generalisations like the wife basher one never helps as finding the right person that suits your needs either as a Dom or sub is different for each person. When I was more involved in the scene I can say some Doms, who were quite well known, if you dug a bit deeper were real douche bags and got away with some crap just because of who they were. Good communication is what it is all about, set your ground rules before play and of course if you have a feeling where you are not comfortable with someone just don't go there it usually is not worth it. If in the first play session someone breaks the ground rules well that says it all as a D/s relationship is about trust and if they break the trust straight away that tell you everything you need to know about the person.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Perhaps...but not me. I like to take control, not in an overly dominant way but I am in no way at all submissive. Anyone trying to control me .........pops the passion bubble every time. Ive played along with regular guys in a role play situation, but thats totally different. The Dom/Sub situation may be "trendy" and a huge turn on for lots of people, but its something I wont be partaking in.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    Right.

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    But in saying that there are also a male increase asthe Mistress colleagues have been busy as well. Quoting 'Summer_solstice' "Lately there has been a trend for more women to try submission" It's a recent trend? According to who?

  • cbdlivin

    cbdlivin

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Summer_solstice' "Lately there has been a trend for more women to try submission" It's a recent trend? According to who? I am sure its been in the paper ...

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Serious -You want me to list every kind of assholeand even then I might miss a few. Quoting 'cbdlivin' Generalisations like the wife basher one never helps as finding the right person that suits your needs either as a Dom or sub is different for each person. When I was more involved in the scene I can say some Doms, who were quite well known, if you dug a bit deeper were real douche bags and got away with some crap just because of who they were. Good communication is what it is all about, set your ground rules before play and of course if you have a feeling where you are not comfortable with someone just don't go there it usually is not worth it. If in the first play session someone breaks the ground rules well that says it all as a D/s relationship is about trust and if they break the trust straight away that tell you everything you need to know about the person.

  • TheLuckyOne

    TheLuckyOne

    9 years ago

    You never fail to deliver 😉

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    Was this meant to be a discussion.... or a lecture?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    A man who had me climbing the walls, had zero paraphernalia, I had no welts, bruises or ligation marks. His only 'tool' was withholding his orgasm. Wonder where he would fit in your criteria of Doms. Seems a bit rudimentary to me, but carry on

  • cbdlivin

    cbdlivin

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'PepperRose' A man who had me climbing the walls, had zero paraphernalia, I had no welts, bruises or ligation marks. His only 'tool' was withholding his orgasm. Wonder where he would fit in your criteria of Doms. Seems a bit rudimentary to me, but carry on You found the Dom that suited you perfectly, it really is the mind that is the best tool to use

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'PepperRose' A man who had me climbing the walls, had zero paraphernalia, I had no welts, bruises or ligation marks. His only 'tool' was withholding his orgasm. Wonder where he would fit in your criteria of Doms. Seems a bit rudimentary to me, but carry on

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    pffft

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'PepperRose' pffft

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I love submissive roleplay and have never come to any harm..Well apart from a few wee bruises on my bottom!..😜

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    You seem to really know your stuff. I was just wondering what is the best way to snag a wealthy sugar Daddy and how best to assess their worth. Thanks! Candy - Posted from rhpmobile

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Tararrah' I love submissive roleplay and have never come to any harm..Well apart from a few wee bruises on my bottom!..😜

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'CandyDelicious' You seem to really know your stuff. I was just wondering what is the best way to snag a wealthy sugar Daddy and how best to assess their worth. Thanks! Candy - Posted from rhpmobile Many men will lie to get young girls as a pet or justto get sex so, to find the read deal is hard.My girls have been young but in no way am I a sugar daddy type Dom.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    Popcorn time.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Oh no. I am more of a champagne and strawberries kind of girl. Gold class all the way. ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    What sort of lies would a pretend Dom say to get his way? It is so hard to find a good Daddy these days. :(

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    Ok here is a short cut.He should be asking you what your needs arenot how hard he will fuck you or spank you.If his priority is any other way then he is full of itplus , when you meet he should be able to makeyou feel safe while at the same time make youfeel submissive all , with just words and a look.It is never easy plus I am not a Daddy Dom just a Dom so can only tell you from a Dom side.