Thoughts on a partner not being very sexual

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  You'll find soon enough the general consensus. If you are hoping for a happy ending you'll be well disappointed. From your advanced profile, you have already decided to proceed with your cheating plans. So I'm wondering the overall reasons for your topic. Could be an advertising drive because you are finding it a bit tough? Perhaps you are trying to convince yourself that your actions are justified to gamble your marriage and the wellbeing of the woman you are married to. I wont judge you as I'm not pure enough to cast those stones. I'll just suggest you try the other avenue of having the very serious discussion with your significant other. You are risking a lot to satisfy your sexual urges. Yes there are many others, male and female doing what you are doing. But dont justify your journey by other people's actions. I've hurt people too. And it remains permanently in my mind what l have done and among my biggest regrets within my life. Just think about where you are at the moment. It's not too late to regroup and take a different path. You can be a Male and just think about your sick or you can be a man and do things the right way. If you dont like the answer then you should not have asked the question

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  As always, sums up all the aspects of a perfect rebuttal so well. I just wanted to say, whilst i take no issue or attach no judgement on your decision to cheat.... the majority will. Play safe and discreetly with every effort to shelter and protect your wife. Curious, have you ever discussed your decision to play solo? Or your polarised libidos? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I hope you've talked about it at home.

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  Is a powerful thing. I can’t reconcile cheating. Consent applies to an innocent party who doesn’t have the full story. She can’t consent to being exposed to STDs or other nasties. Tell her how you feel. But don’t do it behind her back without her consent. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsJonesy

  7 years ago

  You can claim to be happily married if you are seeking sex outside your marriage, because you are not happy with that aspect of your life. It has led you here.... a place which could have the potential to destroy the parts of your marriage you are happy with. There are always alternatives to the road you are travelling down at the moment. Talk to your wife; has she always been this way? If so, well you chose to marry her despite the glaring difference in sexual appetite. If not, there will be reasons why the change has occured, and talking about is the better option.

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  OkeyDoke45

  7 years ago

  I've posted my opinions before on sexless relationships and how hard it is to stay faithful when you are in one, OP you state that your wife is ''not very sexual'' when compared to you. If this is a case of your wife not being interested in sex at all then I can understand you being here. If it is a case, however, of your wife unable to give you as much as you desire (which is what I think going by your question), then I think you are doing the wrong thing. One of my neighbors was doing the dirty behind his very loving wife's back - all because he (his words) ''wants it every night and the missus tries but she's just too tired some nights''. He was, and still is, a cunt.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  A lot to get your situation and have been in your exact same shoes. To be honest it sucks. I believe the key issue is the deceit and removal of choice for your wife, which people don't like. Your exact same question is repeatedly asked on a weekly basis here in the forums. May I suggest making time and actually talking and listening to your wife (goes vice verse), as it is a sensitive topic to bring up. I know it's going to be an awkward conversation and may bring discomfort. In the long run, it is going to be the most loving and kindest thing to do (for both of you). You never know, it may bring you both closer together. I know plenty of couples that have worked out just fine and are happier. All the best. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thank you all very much for your views- as a newbie - I should have taken time to go through the forums for thoughts. I should have also been a little more thorough in my situation detail. We have discussed it together a lot also with professionals. It’s not something I have openly discussed before so I don’t know if it’s a regular issue. Appreciate your feedback. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  You've taken the first steps in speaking with your wife and professionals. Thats not easy. There's many here in your exact same situation. So yes, it is a regular/common issue/situation for many. You're not alone. And, welcome. 😊 Ms Foxy

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  Women are complex creatures I’ll admit. Society and trauma can impact greatly on our sexual identity. Also add in having children, hormones and contraception (this dulls the sex drive sometimes). I went 6 months once without wanting sex at all at one point. But I eventually got through it and now can’t get enough. Whatever you decide be honest and open with your wife. Use protection to keep it all safe for her. All the best. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  RHP has become more tolerant towards hubbies who feel the need to go elsewhere for sex.

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