Threesomes

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  Part of it all is the feelings and emotions you are going through right now. Probably the only real advice we can offer, is that the guy does not know you at all and would be feeling much the same as you. So, we find it easier if we both spend some time together with a new playmate and a little time each alone in chit chat, but over all, just letting the mood set in with a welcoming atmosphere, some music, a couple of sips on the plonk. It's at your place, so maybe allow the guy to take a shower or at least offer the bathroom for him as he may be a little self conscious if you all have been sitting around for a while and it gives him some sanctuary for his own nerves, most important. To break the tension, we find it easier if Tara sits close by him and naturally she is a touchy feely girl, you know a hand on his leg while talking or something that shows a willing body language with some funny conversation because laughter is the best mood setter. I like to keep the atmosphere friendly and somewhat entertaining and let the guy settle in so that he does not feel challenged in any way, more so just promoting the flirting bit and when the moments become clear we are all enjoying ourselves, then Tara sort of starts to become a little more playful, then we all just disappear into the lust and passion that comes next, it kind of takes care of it's self from then and on. It is your first time, so it is worth discussing some stuff about how you might need to take some time out if something does not feel right, a safe word that means you can be pleasant, yet let each other know to stop and address anything that can happen, again you do not know this person. We like to keep it as an all in thing together, so keeping in touch with each other and him seems to work best for the teamwork you most probably will enjoy very much, let yourselves go and the passion flow into a naughty tangled mess of pure lust and incredible orgasmic euphoria. Mado Tara xx

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  luvsilver

  11 years ago

  Please don't take this the wrong way Mado as I love your posts but just sometimes I have no idea what your are talking about.Then you come along with a post like this and hit the nail on the head.Maybe the only difference with us is that Mrs Luv will always have met the single guy beforehand on her own for a coffee at a public café . Just to add for you Wing.Talk a lot between yourselves and don't overthink. Mr Luvsilver

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  But usually I just bullshit about something I have absolutely no idea about, I just enjoy typing.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  If you and your wife are clear on your boundaries and discuss what you would like to happen and how you may handle a situation if it isn't going the way you expect, and that doesn't' necessarily have to be going in a bad way, then you may feel more prepared. That may ease your mind a bit. Then probably have a chat to your threesome bloke and ask him what he expects, etc. That way you are all on the same page. Don't forget that he is the odd one out in a way, so he may be feeling really nervous too. So chatting about what is going to happen over a drink is probably a good idea. Have fun.

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  Hottie1

  11 years ago

  Good evening Wings. I am currently in a post orgasmic haze, just arrived home from having a threesome last night. From the first time we started on this journey (3 some and swinging), I always act as a host (always been either our place or hotel of our choice). For example, for last night, I prepared goodies, bought cold meats etc because I want all of us to be able to settle down and enjoy before we rip our clothes off. Have a selection of drinks to offer (alcoholic and non-alcoholic) to help break the ice. Have music playing in the background, set the scene.It is important that with each encounter you are aware of you friend's needs as well. It mustn't be easy coming in as the third in a couple and it is important to keep his/her feelings in mind constantly too. Like Mado has said, let your partner do the flirting, the touching etc., but maintain that communication between all of you. As a 3some, all partners are responsible to be actively engaged in creating the play. We are fortunate and our friend is a gentleman, a great conversationalist, downright sexy and he brings so much to the play.As a couple you need to make sure you are clear with your boundaries before you get into the sexy play. Have lube, condoms etc ready so you are not 'bumbling' when the action starts. Many things will develop organically as you start to play, enjoy each other and this fun sexy time. M (Mrs) xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Thanks guys

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'ag4mg92' Good evening Wings. I am currently in a post orgasmic haze, just arrived home from having a threesome last night. From the first time we started on this journey (3 some and swinging), I always act as a host (always been either our place or hotel of our choice). For example, for last night, I prepared goodies, bought cold meats etc because I want all of us to be able to settle down and enjoy before we rip our clothes off. Have a selection of drinks to offer (alcoholic and non-alcoholic) to help break the ice. Have music playing in the background, set the scene.It is important that with each encounter you are aware of you friend's needs as well. It mustn't be easy coming in as the third in a couple and it is important to keep his/her feelings in mind constantly too. Like Mado has said, let your partner do the flirting, the touching etc., but maintain that communication between all of you. As a 3some, all partners are responsible to be actively engaged in creating the play. We are fortunate and our friend is a gentleman, a great conversationalist, downright sexy and he brings so much to the play.As a couple you need to make sure you are clear with your boundaries before you get into the sexy play. Have lube, condoms etc ready so you are not 'bumbling' when the action starts. Many things will develop organically as you start to play, enjoy each other and this fun sexy time. M (Mrs) xx as having been the third on three shitty occassions, I would say make sure you are emotionally ready before anything else. If you aren't then it is not going to be a good experience.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  How did it go tonight?

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  But that is the hard part to explain. Because the emotions are not so easy to understand until they are being experienced. To add It is much different than having normal sex with your partner and it may seem, that the Mrs displays some passion that has not been shown in the regular sex. Lust is a powerful emotion and if the threesome is going well, then Mr needs to be aware that Mrs could very well become lost in the fantasy, it is not that the other guy is bringing it out, just that there is two men sending her bonkers. If there is any trouble there then jealousy could very well set in. (how it is reckoned with?) Well we just assure each other that won't happen, but that is because we have talked about it and we trust each other and we are in love so it matters.

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

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  Hottie1

  11 years ago

  Mado Tara, like Mr Luvsilver, love your posts but I don't need anyone else reading them to explain them to me today! Your advice is great and jealousy is one emotion that we don't always consider. I am using our friends saying here ( ) when he often describes me as 'cum drunk' and that is achieved when as a women I am being devoured by two gorgeous men. You may see or hear things said in the moment of passion and lust and that is expected.Ralf you are spot on, emotional readiness is key. Ralf I may have to invite you over to show you how good it should be, And just like Meeka has asked, Wings please share with us just how it goes (lots of juicy details). Mary xx

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  oh dear, I was only giving some thought too the wing couple, and more just adding to ralfs words. I thought your post was great, I was thinking the Wing couple were playing up tonight and attemting to express what some of the emotions they may have during this first encounter. Only after reading Meanders Question, realised that they were playing last night, so not much point in saying what I did after the event. I was thinking Of Tara and some of the emotions I faced when we first played with another guy and jealousy certainly tried to creep in, if we had not discussed those type of emotions before hand, it could have become a problem. Luckily I was able to see past those emotions and I had to in a very short lapse of time. It is not the easiest thing to explain and we are all different, I would not attempt to express any emotions you guys have encountered Mary. (not sure why you think I was)

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  *As in oh dear me, sort of oh dear, not you sort of oh dear Mary. (talking is still by far, easier than typing)

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  Hottie1

  11 years ago

  I liked your post about emotions because as the woman receiving such great attention from two men when hubby and I play, I hadn't considered the male point of view and how quickly you have to adapt. Your advice was wise and relevant. Mary xx

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  luvsilver

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'madotara69' But usually I just bullshit about something I have absolutely no idea about, I just enjoy typing. I just slapped him for you mado. I thought he deserved it:) Mrs Luv x

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