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Threesomes FFM
September 03 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think you're being demanding or strict in the slightest - everyone has boundaries and limits, and you're just expressing yours, which is perfectly fine! From the sounds of it your limitations are to prevent attractions from forming, which is a reasonable apprehension to have as women can become quite emotional when it comes to sexual relationships.I think what you need to ask though is, is your partner's desire for a FFM to see you with another woman or to have two women share him? Humans are essentially selfish creatures and so I'm imagining for most guys the appeal is to have more than one woman clawing to get at him in a sexual frenzy, not having the attention focused predominantly between the two women, as the 'stereotypical' appeal for a MMF is also have the attention focused on the odd person out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I discussed this with him earlier and he's happy to just go along with whatever rules I lay down. He's happy to just be focused on and shared. Lol....now, how to find that person that's just right.
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
I'd ask him about this. Whether its watching 2 women or having 2 women wanting him.What if its a fantasy that he wants to remain a fantasy. Communication as always is the key, as it is here.You have every right to have boundaries
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RHP User
12 years ago
You've already completed the hardest part. Talking to your partner, finding out his ideas, expressing your concerns, and also being assertive enough to convey your expectations. A job well done, in my mind, as I think that so many couples end up in a Jerry Springer love triangle because there WASN'T any ground rules laid out to begin with.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I should've read your post before commenting, as I totally agree with you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
CityKitty nailed it with her first two sentences. Threesomes can be strange things, FFM is very different from MMF, they often have a very different feel. One thing in common, there are three people involved, obvious, but that brings three sets of desires, likes and dislikes to the table. It can be a lot of fun, but one thing I would suggest if you will forgive me. Discuss it thoroughly with your other half. I have found that the more you understand about what each of you hopes to get out of the experience and any concerns either of you may have, the threesome itself is a lot more fun and there is less potential for unpleasant fallout. Most of all though, I think it has to be something you both want rather than something one is ore pared to do for the other. You need to want to share him and perhaps share her for something more than just fulfilling his fantasy. Enjoy yourselves, it can be a great experience with the right people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
After reading your your post , i think maybe you shouldnt do it at all...coz seems like you are not even comfortable with it, been there done that, and it was fun, coz both of us wanted it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Be sure of what you want, write it down, cross it out and re write it again until you are sure of what you want from this for yourself... then talk to your partner and establish his desires, co-ordinate your rules so that no lines are crossed. think of how you want this experience to go in your mind and express it also don't assume anything... then just find the right woman who wants a ffm but doesn't want any ff sex.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I guess this was probably a hard post to put up because it's about something I've never done before and know nothing about. I know what I'm not willing to do with this but want it to be a great experience for others involved (it's really not worth it if not everyone enjoys it, is it).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wiccan abso-fucking-lutely :p pardon the pun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Wiccan abso-fucking-lutely :p pardon the pun. *chuckles*
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RHP User
12 years ago
... a few weeks back.. It took us a long while to find the right girl and she just come along out of the blue..When we received her message we thought she was just another young girl looking to have a ff like we have in the past..But she was different, she was up front about what she wanted and that was to have her first fmf 3 some before her 25th birthday with a couple like us who had also not been there before.. Seeing we were all novice in this area . there were plenty of laughs when trying this and that..and we gave Mr JJ more than enough before turning our attention to each other.. We were both a lil awkward but seeing there were no great expectations it all went well... I think we were very lucky she came along... we speak every other day and she adores Mr JJ.. they get along like a house on fire.. and I dont feel threatened at all .. I know my hubby and she just doesnt seem the type to do anything bad... Good time had all round with a absolute sweety....
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RHP User
12 years ago
It sounds like you hate the idea of it. Don't let your wishes and happiness be second to his. He probably would find it really awkward if you were ignoring the other girl. If you decide to: Discuss EVERYTHING with the 3rd party Make sure there is no way she'll get attached Never have threesome with a friend Make sure he knows what you want out of it Relax and enjoy it, women know women's bodies the best and you might really like it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'justjuice'... a few weeks back.. It took us a long while to find the right girl and she just come along out of the blue..When we received her message we thought she was just another young girl looking to have a ff like we have in the past..But she was different, she was up front about what she wanted and that was to have her first fmf 3 some before her 25th birthday with a couple like us who had also not been there before.. Seeing we were all novice in this area . there were plenty of laughs when trying this and that..and we gave Mr JJ more than enough before turning our attention to each other.. We were both a lil awkward but seeing there were no great expectations it all went well... I think we were very lucky she came along... we speak every other day and she adores Mr JJ.. they get along like a house on fire.. and I dont feel threatened at all .. I know my hubby and she just doesnt seem the type to do anything bad... Good time had all round with a absolute sweety....Finding just the right one is important, so, hopefully, that will happen. Either that or we'll get to meet some very interesting people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' It sounds like you hate the idea of it. Don't let your wishes and happiness be second to his. He probably would find it really awkward if you were ignoring the other girl. If you decide to: Discuss EVERYTHING with the 3rd party Make sure there is no way she'll get attached Never have threesome with a friend Make sure he knows what you want out of it Relax and enjoy it, women know women's bodies the best and you might really like it!And I wouldn't be ignoring the girl either. But reading my original post, I can understand how I may have come across in that way. And those are some very good rules to go by. Thank you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't like being with a woman, why are you wanting to experience the whole FMF play thing? Isn't it all about enjoying the "Whole concept"? The touching, the kissing, being in a 69 and even enjoying a dbl dildo with a woman is such a turn on. My man loves watching me with another gal and the naughty things we do..but each to their own.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm in a very similar situation,but we havent made the rules yet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think you're being too demanding at all...setting down some ground rules avoids confusion and possible jealousy down the track. I think it's a good move :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'wiccan_beltane' Quoting 'keekee1989' It sounds like you hate the idea of it. Don't let your wishes and happiness be second to his. He probably would find it really awkward if you were ignoring the other girl. If you decide to: Discuss EVERYTHING with the 3rd party Make sure there is no way she'll get attached Never have threesome with a friend Make sure he knows what you want out of it Relax and enjoy it, women know women's bodies the best and you might really like it!And I wouldn't be ignoring the girl either. But reading my original post, I can understand how I may have come across in that way. And those are some very good rules to go by. Thank you. At what point do I get told to fuck off I dont need you anymore.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' Never have threesome with a friend Would normally have agreed with this rule, but we have had our best FMF ever with MrsF2P's best friend. And still best friends and sorting out the next one (being in two different states is a pain!)And we should emphasise, FMF rather than FFM (getting with the lingo here) because, to answer Wiccan's actual question, MrF2P enjoys being the focus of attention rather than just watching the girls, although that happens, but it is secondary and neither of the girls is particularly into FF play normally, but in the heat of the moment, with a lot of trust and communication, it is beautiful.So we would say, with those stipulations in mind, go for it - ONLY if you are both confident and comfortable, and your new F is aware and accepting of whatever boundaries/rules are set. Remember, you are the couple, the other lady is just visiting for a short while. Hopefully, it's a visit you all enjoy :)
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rk5tar
12 years ago
I think you have the rules that suit your relationship.We dont have a lot of rules as Im still trying to fulfill this fantasy for my husband. The only rule he has is that I can play as much as I like, but not with other men. I am happy with that, as I have no real desire to be with any other man but him. But I do feel a bit, I dont know, hypocritical? Because there seems to be a lot of others out there seeking the same thing, but on the sense of playing with their husbands. He is also wanting to watch us women play more than anything and play it by ear on getting physically involved.We are new to this and I think I still have a lot to learn. On the point of what you do and dont want OP, I think that is also fair. Its all about trust and what youre comfortable with.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I guess it appealed to me to answer because I am the kind of person who is your target audience for threesome recruitment. Yes, you are being very demanding. You can have rules in your relationship, but finding a third to join may prove harder than you think when you have those particular rules. Kissing and licking are integral parts of the experience IMHO, as they are highly erotic and a turn on. Being in the room when there's proper full on making out going on is very very sexy and definitely puts one in the mood (if one wasn't beforehand ha ha ha!). I am not authority on threesomes but I've had a few. It is most important to meet the couple beforehand and make sure there are no "trust issues" between them and there is attraction between all players. But saying that, discussing every possible option before the day is a total turn off. You kind of have to be in the situation to see what happens. Not knowing and doing what comes naturally is part of the joy of it. Its good to pleasure each other all round and not have two that are doing their thing while the "third" gets excluded a bit. That means as the female partner, its ideal if you are also attracted to females and interested in experimenting. I have spoken honestly and I hope you don't think I have been harsh, but I think there needs to be more consideration of the point of view of the other person - it has to be appealing to her as well. Put bluntly, attractive single women are in demand and might be interested in focusing on you or your husband when there are (many) couples out there who wish to lavish attention on her. I can't speak for everyone, but I am not out to "steal" anyone's husband and I doubt many others are either. This is another reason that meeting beforehand is important because couple can feel comfortable that its a physical attraction and fun time but not an emotional relationship connection. The not staying over thing is pretty obvious but can be discussed beforehand. Personally I would never stay and guess that others would be the same. Obviously if things don't go well then you can ask someone to leave but I would think that would be rare indeed. Most thirds would be very aware of overstaying and not push the issue at all. Hope this helps and is taken in the spirit in which it is intended!Jay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh yes, an essential thing that can't be played by ear is safe sex. I my case this meant that condoms were used with me but not the longterm female partner. In another case condoms were used for both females but changed between them (even though the guy hadn't come). BTW the hottest thing I think I have every done is making out with a lady and the amazingly skilled guy using his hands on both of us at the same time to bring is to orgasm (just about simultaneously). Fuck that was amazingly hot. He was amazingly chuffed and later we made sure to return the favour.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'wiccan_beltane' I discussed this with him earlier and he's happy to just go along with whatever rules I lay down. He's happy to just be focused on and shared. Lol....now, how to find that person that's just right. What you feel comfortable with is key and who knows what might happen when you get into the mood? As long as you're both happy that's what counts.
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