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HedonicGent

HedonicGent

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Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down!

June 07 2014

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My first question to the audience at large. No doubt this is a topic that has been heavily tread over before but I just wanted a simple opinion from the ladies of the forum (and to a lesser extent the lads, just as they interest me less!). One would assume the stereotypical split but I'm not so sure any more. I have my suspicions on some of our friskier ladies about which way they'd go. If you HAD to choose one or the other, not an 'I love it all!' response, do you prefer to tie a subject down and play or be the subject tied down being played with?? Dom or Sub I guess...which is your poison of choice? I ask because I'm often torn but can't help but go with Dom for myself in the end; not so much for the power exchange, but for women's reactions, how hot they get, how much I relish teasing them and how much they seem to enjoy it.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I prefer to be the sub, but only with someone I wholeheartedly trust - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    This sort of play takes time and trust. However I like to tie down and play with them. Communication is obviously a massive part of this. As well as their comfort. However I get hot and hard watching her loose their breath, watch the expressions on her face, the feedback and get wet.This is keeping it very brief and simple. I depends on your relationship with the individual. Koz.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mmmmm I want to be tied up, sub all the way!!!

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  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    As long as it's me being played with I don't mind if you tie me down or just tie me up - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    So you dont have man friends hey !???? Hmmm its funny how men state that they are not interested in talking to men and i concur my friend but do not denounce a gentlemen for petty reason as not interested , in what they say ,as i have met and tied down and fucked quite a number ladies - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    From chatting to gentlemen on this site and in the real world just saying thats all but you probally wouldnt read it so no sweat .:-)) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    so, I guess I prefer to be the tie-ee

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I would choose being tied up (and blindfolded), but for me it would be about the enhancement of sensations and admittedly because I get to lie back (literally!) and be lazy. Being tied up doesn't necessarily have anything to do with being a Sub in my mind.

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  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    Ok....I'm with coolkoz on this one, with any play of this sort, there has to be trust, it is of the upmost importance and trust takes time..... But yes tie me down please, it's what I prefer and love, but will turn the tables if required to do so... (Actually now my mind boggles....man.....tied.....bed mmmmm) 😜

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  • twowithnolimits

    twowithnolimits

    11 years ago

    now thats the attitude we want to hear

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Gently restrain a lady :) Usually with my hands.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Lol......kidding (couldn't resist). But seriously I prefer to be the one being tied. I make a lot of decisions at work and tell people what they should be doing, so it's nice to have someone else take control outside of work. If my partner likes a bit of bondage but doesn't like to be the one in control, I'll do the tying up and controlling and I enjoy it. And yes.......like many have added, I can only agree to this once I've developed a certain level of trust with a person.

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  • twowithnolimits

    twowithnolimits

    11 years ago

    that would be the ti-er if you are the dominant one wouldn't it?

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  • HedonicGent

    HedonicGent

    11 years ago

    I'm happy to hear what you have to say BO, all I meant was if you want to be tied up or do the tying that's fine but I'm not planning on involving any gentlemen in my bondage play so I'm less interested than the female responses. You mentioning how many women you've tied up tells me nothing other than you like doing it, which is great for you (we're in agreement there), what it doesn't tell me is if those ladies preferred it or not. That's all I want to know. They may let you tie them up, they may love every second of it, but they could still prefer to do it to you! Melbourne Babe, I feel like I knew what your answer would be before you posted and in your hands I think I'd have to 'let' you tie me firmly down. I say 'let' as I think I'd have little choice in the matter! Meander I'm there with you on the lazy card, it's definitely a cosy and sensual affair being tied up...unless the leather crop comes out that is.

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  • HedonicGent

    HedonicGent

    11 years ago

    Just to clarify I wasn't specifically asking about being tied up or down. While one might be lazier than the other, they're not so different right?! Although can't say I've tied a girl 'up' with her vertical as yet...something to explore maybe! That was actually a reference to a rather bizarrely sadomasochistic, yet funny and oddly erotic Spanish movie (¡Átame!), with Antonio Banderas playing a psychiatric patient, from Pedro Almodovar back in 1990. Worth a watch as are most of his latter films!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' so, I guess I prefer to be the tie-ee Sounds like fun, if you need a willing male to tie up let me know..

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  • Seachange

    Seachange

    11 years ago

    As my old friend Senor El Taco says.... In turn of course and gently....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    would love to do that to u ;)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm a sub so being restrained is my preference

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Ive been in 2 very full on D/s relationships where I have had subs/slaves. I always thought that was my personality and what I enjoyed. After experiencing a very very strict Dom I now feel like I have converted. Nothing can explain the feeling of a total exchange of power.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Being tied up slowly and seductively with deep kisses and gentle hair pulling in between each restraint....it's the look in his eyes and my gradual "giving it up" that undoes me every time.....but I like to give as good as I get - def not a sub - just love the rush of surrender........sometimes - who doesn't?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    for me, I would love to restrain my partner and have my way with them. Of course with only their pleasure in mind, I am not into pain but like Meander said, for different sensations. Blindfold so they don't know what is coming and get the warternberg wheel out, my fingernails, some ice, warm massage wax, hot breath, massage wand or clit stimulator...mmmmmm.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'wiccan_beltane' Lol......kidding (couldn't resist). But seriously I prefer to be the one being tied. I make a lot of decisions at work and tell people what they should be doing, so it's nice to have someone else take control outside of work. If my partner likes a bit of bondage but doesn't like to be the one in control, I'll do the tying up and controlling and I enjoy it. And yes.......like many have added, I can only agree to this once I've developed a certain level of trust with a person. I agree, I too make enough decisions outside the bedroom so I like being a little controlled when it comes to play time. Not so much a sub/dom thing, just want someone to take over control for a little while... & yes trust is key...

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  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    10 years ago

    I love being the do-er, having a willing subject at my disposal. I don't do pain play but sensation play, ass play and orgasm control/T&D is my thing, any day of the week. While I do love rope I tend to want to move my subject around a bit so cuffs, body harnesses and the handy ratchet tie-downs are my go-to gear. xx Sarah

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I am a little confused as the OP's last paragraph says that you prefer Dom not because of the power exchange but because of the fact that you are generating the reaction in the sub, which is the very heart of the power exchange. Restraints are fantastic but definitely not something to jump into straight away. As said by the others, the sub has to trust the Dom, not only that they will not go outside the boundaries of safety, but also that the Dom knows what they are doing in the first place. The fact that you have reached the point in the D/s relationship to start doing restraints is a reward in itself. I also prefer doing sensation play to the impact play but each to their own.

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  • cbdlivin

    cbdlivin

    10 years ago

    An interesting question from the OP, and whether the choice is there. Even though I did not know what D/s was for many years I was always a person who took charge in the bedroom, and getting into the D/s scene there was only ever be one choice for me. I will say if you can switch that is very worthwhile to get the view from both sides of the fence and some of the very lovely ladies on here who I know switch, well a switch would be pretty handy as depending on the mood you can have the fun you want. Bryan

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