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Tied Up... ?
May 23 2014
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I'll tie you up....... lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Harry Handcuff Houdini...could show you some magic tricks!! Sadly, he died. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't have any issues being tied up... And blindfolded. Hmmm been awhile actually. :-/
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madotara69
11 years ago
ankles secured in the stirrups on the sex swing is more exciting, hands so busy holding on while suspended in thin air, so many more angles of approach. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me'So is it just me , or is everyone the same. ? and prefer to top rather than being on the receiving end.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is where it is meant to take you....... You are taken away from your natural habit of portraying yourself in the best light, you cannot move into a favourite position, look back at yourself and break down where you started to feel uncomfortable........ You cannot direct or control your sexual environment........... I found most of all, the final acceptance is that inability to give back, which we are all sub-conscientiously trained to do....... Once you accept the ministrations of your lover, without that expectation to reciprocate, you might just find that relaxed state that being tied up can give........... Then it becomes so much more.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
something you should only enter into with someone you trust. I like to restrain people but am like you when being restrained. I have been at the point sexually where my orgasm just will not stop if someone keeps at it and it is like being out of control when being tickled and I don't like that sensation at all so to be restrained and have someone do that to me would be terrible. It is bad enough when that happens and I am not restrained.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
errrrrrrrrrrr ummmmmmmmmm *tongue tied at present* Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thought you explained that very well' made a lot of sense.. Losing control is a biggy for me. As you said, the need to reciprocate is a very strong emotion and that's where I think I was at . I doubt if I could easily give that up..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with you on this one... I'm happy to go along with anything as long as I'm not the one restrained... lol. But by the right female, who knows...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Harry Houdini ? Had my share of escapades ' but that time I lost the plot... Must admit ' even though the big O was super intense, I was happiest when my hands weren't free again..
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Is it actually a feeling of vulnerability.. or is it a unfamiliar feeling of trust... or relinquishment, or submission? Well, whatever it is to you, if it feels like you're pushing a boundary, then I say keep pushing. Actually I think I say keep pushing quite a lot lately. Lol Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, I find being bound - rope wrapped snuggly around me with my arms next to my body, very arousing as it gives me a sense of security (ironic, I know). It feels like having strong arms holding me close. It's like the time when he was standing behind me holding me tight against every inch of his body as he took me to orgasm. And he held me tight against him, keeping me upright, as I spasmed out of control. It was one of the most intense and erotic moments I've ever experienced. The blindfold would just intensify the other senses. And of course, I'd only be bound and blindfolded by someone I fully trust. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
BAHAHAHAHA I was going to ask Jay_Me what his name was!!! Lol but now I know!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't mind being tied up, blindfolded, and my partner arousing my other senses. You become in a state of mild hyper vigilance. The thought of "what will she do next??" Is quite a turn on for me... However.... If that stimulus was pain orientated, I'd be the first one out of there at this point in my life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
If Houdini had taught you a few tricks or two, you would've been able to free yourself at that crucial moment. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Damn SuperFoxxxy.................. YOU ARE HOT!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Send her a message dude geez - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tie me up,but I do love a blindfold....any kind of restraint makes me hyperventilate.....I am so not submissive,a lover once held my hands above my head..he really wished he hadn't done that :-) xx Q
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thank you Foxy
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madotara69
11 years ago
How true, saves getting ones head crushed or a broken wrist, the crocodile roll can be dangerous
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have often heard a croc though Mado....Circus I am liberated enough I think:-) ..and yes I have trust issues hugs xx Q
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madotara69
11 years ago
It's true, Tara is only just over five foot tall, but Oh how she does not know her own strengths, especially in the thighs, crushing it can be. Thank goodness the stirrups are strong on the sex swing.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
Jay_me. I don't really like being tied. I can handle safety cuffs (the ones with the little latch that can use to open them if you lose the key... Saves having to keep a hacksaw in the bedside table), because i know i can get out if i want. I've only been with one girl who liked to be tied up before, sometimes just in ropes sometimes to things. They were really into it, but occasionally they did get a bit anxious so I had to say something soothing. I can also only deal with a blindfold if i know i can take it off if i have to (so safety cuffs or not tied at all). Everyone has different levels that they are comfortable with. Just go with what makes you happy. As to safe words, "green, orange and red" work well. Green = keep going, Orange = I'm getting anxious, Red = "Lemme out lemme, out, lemme out!" i'm actually amused that this came up... I was thinking recently on a slight modification to the norm. Cuffing her to the bed, but then going blindfolded and having her tell me what to do. I won't be able to see, but she can only guide me with words. I think it would be fun. Can't wait to find someone willing to try it out with me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will never be restrained in any way, shape or form. Restraining is not open to negotiation. I'm not sure I would be comfortable tying up a man either. A dark room is blindfold enough for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes please!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'somethinew' Restraining is not open to negotiation. Is that because you've tried it and hated it? Or you haven't, but the thought is so repulsive you know you'll never want to do it?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Speaking for myself I enjoy giving up control (too much of that at work) and love to be restrained in many ways, cuffs n stuff included :o) MrD has allowed me to hang him from the ceiling hook and do all the sorts of wonderful things he does to me, and it does nothing for him.... Except to know what it feels like. Gotta love a partner who is willing to share both sides of the experience. MsD - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't allow any person to put me in a weak position when as lovers he should be my equal. I love when sex is in a room so dark your eyes can only adjust to the outline of the others body but you can't see their face or body properly, however, you have a way out, you can turn on a light, if you're restrained, no matter what the safe word is, you cannot get out of the situation unless the other person allows you to. To me it's not trust, it's a power play. Does that make sense? I can see why some people would find it exciting, but it's not for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love that idea.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'somethinew' Does that make sense? Yeah, it does. I don't think anyone here would doubt the statement about both partners being equal. People find excitement in challenging that sometimes though. From both ends. Not for real, just in a game they play in the bedroom. Quoting 'somethinew' you cannot get out of the situation unless the other person allows you to. That would be true for serious, inescapable bondage, with steel chains and leather straitjackets. But there's always other things like plastic handcuffs, silk scarves or satin ribbons. Something that can be used only to paint a picture, and let your imagination do the rest.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I think it power too the one restrained, It's about taking them too higher levels of the intensities while on the edge of orgasm, can only speak for ourselves, but what happens is Tara has these incredible urges to pull away when she is on the brink of an orgasm and edging her to heighten those impulses takes her to much stronger orgasm. Hope that makes a little sense, that she is not pulling away from pain only reflex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The attraction to light bondage, I understand the surrender to pleasure when you'd normally back away. It's like when I say 'stop' at the beginning of orgasm and he makes it clear we are going past that point, and it's delicious! But restraint is not for me. Oh and I really need to learn how to do that quoting thing you all do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'somethinew' The attraction to light bondage, I understand the surrender to pleasure when you'd normally back away. It's like when I say 'stop' at the beginning of orgasm and he makes it clear we are going past that point, and it's delicious! But restraint is not for me. Oh and I really need to learn how to do that quoting thing you all do. - Posted from rhpmobile But the reason we restrain Tara's ankles is for my own safety,(crushing) ha ha. We don't restrain her arms, but she needs them too hold on too the bar of the sex swing, she can only let go for short moments, then I have long hair and she can get a good grab on it. ( she trusts me, but can't trust herself) It's very passionate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The use of rope can be both erotic and sensual especially the aspect of touch as you are tying it. Quite often it is used for artistic purposes. Sometimes it might be bound to the bed, tied up in a standing position or simply to hold a body position. Some of it is about taking away control during an act which is fun to do. Other times I have used rope to create a body harness to hold onto. It is important to establish boundaries though and make sure there is trust between the two parties to eliminate the fear aspect. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I haven't tried being tied up/hand cuffed before, but it's one of my top fantasies to do so :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I haven't tried being tied up/hand cuffed before, but it's one of my top fantasies to do so :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes please though have to trust someone a fair bit and be on same wavelength
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PL1963
11 years ago
Best experience of my life, my ex tied me to the bed & blindfolded me, then went & had a shower, came back, I could hear putting on lingerie, smell the perfume she put on, she would touch me, rub her bald pussy in my face etc. Anytime she thought I was enjoying something she would stop, if I tried to continue, she whipped my arse. I wasn't allowed to drink or smoke accept when she allowed. My dick was harder than "Chinese Arithmatic" for 4hrs, she orgasmed many times by various methods. She finally wanked me till I popped the "cork", pulling my blindfold off just in time to see me blow about a metre high. Sadly the next day she said she didn't like the role. I'm happy to be the giver or receiver with a lady I trust. Cheers Pl.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...Yet to experience and not for want of trying. Good topic , at least I know I'm not the only one ....
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Greidiawl
11 years ago
if you are unsure about being restrained then take matters into your own hands - literally... grasp a short length of rope in your hands and twist it around your wrists... you have the physical sensation of being restrained and can pull against the ropes while retaining total control... it is a good starting point to see how you feel with restraints...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' We all have animal desires In another thread you said, and I quote: "we all have self esteem issues" Are you really that qualified so as to always speak on behalf of all of us? I for one feel uncomfortable reading that... don't like being forced to support someone's (very questionable) point of view.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i love being tied up and used mmmmm
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Erotic_novice' I haven't tried being tied up/hand cuffed before, but it's one of my top fantasies to do so :) I havent had a lot of experience tying anyone up or being tied up, but the few times I have tried it I have found it very...satisfying! I encourage you to give it a go. Because I am pretty new to the whole idea I have only ever used scarves, tied in a way/position where they can be undone pretty easily (IE by pulling on one end with your teeth). Being at someones mercy, or having someone at yours can be a very intense/pleasurable experience...although I find being unable to do what I want incredibly frustrating (as others have mentioned) so have found that I make a poor candidate for being tied up! Have fun exploring :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's truly special ! I've only done it with One Person and I trusted her absolutely ! It was my introduction to Prostate Massage. Wow !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love being on both ends of this. Dont like the blindfold however, the eyes say so much when seeing your partner not being able to do anything about the pleasure being received (we call it "servicing" LOL), and I want to watch when I am tied. An alternative that is cruisy is to have your partner wear headphones with some nice chill music (or whatever he/she likes) going thru them. They cant hear anything, including themselves moan. We have also experimented with having more visual aides too, like being tied in front of a big screen with some sexy imagery skipping across the tube. Hot stuff! Love to say more, but thats for a private convo. Shhhhhh.
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MattLSX
11 years ago
yep ended up breaking that bed...... lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
After Speaking to a few girls including myself. I found that a majority of girls feel it is too restrictive and dominate for them. BEING tied up appears to be a more male fantasy. More males enjoy the thought of being tied up and taken advantage of. It is about the element of trust for us girls. We need to be trusting of those doing it to us. Of cause there are still a lot of girls our there who enjoy the thrill.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am reasonably new to the joy of tying people, having opened myself up to the experiences with my wife. We would be happy to help people in Perth experience the feeling if asked. Also happy to take it as slow as needed to ensure everyone is comfortable with it. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Mmmmmm, yep restraints are fantastic, well I love them anyway and blindfolds are all good too, but the blindfold has to come off at some stage because I need to see the eyes......😍
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RHP User
11 years ago
They call it the "Lifestyle"....those in the know....the BDSM Community. Diverse, respectful and aside from all the other superlatives...done right, could be the best experience of your life! It's a journey...doesn't just happen. To answer your question, you choose....succinctly, if it doesn't crank your tractor then you don't do it....do what does....you don't have to collect all the badges!
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flashjack7
11 years ago
Ha ha We just posted our pics from last Saturday night in the Ameature section. I think you will be able to tell what we think about this game.....
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HappylilMunchkin
11 years ago
Thank you for your insight. The unfortunate side of the Dom/sub play is when you trust someone so much you let them take you to that place and then they fail you... they don't care for you after or they completely break you heart and then you are left questioning what it was that you really enjoyed about it and whether or not you can ever go back there because even thinking about it makes your throat tighten and you heart beat faster and you find yourself wanting to be sick and unable to breath properly. ..... To all those who have never played like this before be careful... very very careful about who you open yourself up to like this.... it is very powerful and amazing but can leave deep scars that haunt you years later. 💖💖💖💖💖 Munchkin
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RHP User
11 years ago
With any relationship (normal or dom/sub) you need to be careful, especially if you pour your heart into it to obtain what you get out of it. Trust is an important part of the dom/sub approach but Playmates can take each other places without necessarily involving falling deeply for that person. The craving that you get from that style of play may be more intense though which creates the feeling of loss if it goes. It also means that people should look hard at finding the right partner for that lifestyle AND not just expect that they will look after you completely. The sub needs to take a little responsibility around communication and ensuring that basic needs and aftercare are met. Of course though if you are able to obtain the craving, trust and love from one relationship then that may be better than all else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mr likes tying & blindfolding me up.Tends to invite people over when he does too although i don't know anything until i have several hands or tongues on me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And Yes I bet the invited Guests think there Very Lucky to have such a Prize to play with.... Lucky Buggers!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I bet those invited over can't believe their luck when they see who is tied up! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
my man has containers full of ropes, I asked about being tied up, he said it takes too long to do it properly, haven't talked about it since, hes hiding something from me the bugger....hmmmmits a game aint it, I want it ask for it and still don't getit
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was with a woman a long time ago who wanted to be bound, blindfolded and paddled. I tied her up and blindfolded her and just left her on the floor while I watched the footy and had a few beers. I'd reach out very now and then and rub her pussy with my foot. She went off??? Go figure??? Can't say it did much for me though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
She was do aroused one evening that she said she wanted me to tie her diwn and do anything I desired. So I did...... and went fishing for the weekend :)
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On_Safari
11 years ago
😈 all hell would break loose once I was free. (In a cold, chilling, dangerous tone)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'pierced_wind' I bet those invited over can't believe their luck when they see who is tied up! - Posted from rhpmobile I'm glad you enjoyed yourself it was the aim of the night.She was very impressed with the whole senario.....lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Butt_Boi' And Yes I bet the invited Guests think there Very Lucky to have such a Prize to play with.... Lucky Buggers!!!! The lucky bugger in question posted right below you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
than tying a guy up and watching him squirm
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not a huge devotee of tying up although it is fun when I've done it. I would never do it with a casual guy. I only partake in this with my regular honey bunny FWB because you are so vulnerable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And has to harp on about safety again, sorry all.... I'm going to start with physical safety, when restraining anyone, look at the body part and consider blood flow. It doesn't matter if you are using satin ribbons or steel cuffs. Especially neck & wrists. Think about blood flow. NEVER leave a bound person unattended. I think ollysway & Circus covered emotional safety, I've got the flu, I'm running with it. As to the original OP question, I think it floats your boat, or it don't. I absolutely agree about trust being essential, but you know if it ain't your thang. To put an awful and unsafe analogy to it, I think many subs who desire that kink will let people they should never trust in places of power when they shouldn't. You risked an experience safely, they didn't. But you obviously didn't enjoy surrendering. So you felt as unsafe?
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is so fucking sexy... how open minded are you to allow mr to arrange such a sexy thing.. Gotta luv people who know how to go with the flow....
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RHP User
11 years ago
So agree with you there, I've said before it took me around 4 months to find my Sir and trust me, there were some weirdos out there, that only through research and questions could you get a hint at........ I started looking again after my Sir and I parted, but just couldn't find anyone I could give that level of trust to, thought I would have to just miss it all......... ( Thankfully, Sir is back again and with his ropes )
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' That is so fucking sexy... how open minded are you to allow mr to arrange such a sexy thing.. Gotta luv people who know how to go with the flow.... I know he wouldn't put me in a situation were there was a risk he couldn't control.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Coriander. When tying someone you need to be wary of blood flow issues (cold limbs, tingling) but also nerves. There are many places a rope should never go and nerve issues may only show days later. When untying someone always make sure you rub the bound area to get the circulation going again. For quick fun, use cuffs - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' So agree with you there, I've said before it took me around 4 months to find my Sir and trust me, there were some weirdos out there, that only through research and questions could you get a hint at........ I started looking again after my Sir and I parted, but just couldn't find anyone I could give that level of trust to, thought I would have to just miss it all......... ( Thankfully, Sir is back again and with his ropes ) So glad you got your safe place to fall back on without needing to risk anything. I'm really happy for you. Huggles xxx Quoting 'ollysway' Thanks Coriander. When tying someone you need to be wary of blood flow issues (cold limbs, tingling) but also nerves. There are many places a rope should never go and nerve issues may only show days later. When untying someone always make sure you rub the bound area to get the circulation going again. For quick fun, use cuffs - Posted from rhpmobile Sorry, I agree & stand corrected, nerve issues too, and it can take days for any issues to come to light. And there can be long term consequences. Tread warily and with sensitivity. And yes, massage constricted areas thoroughly after play.
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MissSarahCurious
11 years ago
At a rope bondage workshop I attended for a few months we routinely practised tying and being tied and while I could stand it for a while, there was an occasion where my hands had been bound for too long and I just had to get out. Despite being in a perfectly safe, fully clothed, fully supervised, non-vulnerable situation, having my hands bound just wigs me out. I hate it. I'll never be a rope bunny. Tying others, meanwhile, is a delight xx Sarah
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RHP User
11 years ago
My ankles were tied to a bamboo pole and upon release I got a rigorous rub down and then a talk about not playing tennis for the next couple of days and what to look out for with my ankles.......... I think Sir covered all bases......... Gotta say though, it was seriously hot being bound in such a way...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Now as a psychologist in training.... I do have a few theories (nothing I would discuss with patients since they are only theories and never bothered to research on it) It all goes back to primal instincts. personally, even the thought of being tied up turns me on ;) the feeling of being totally out of control and totally open to be consumed turns me on. it takes a great deal of trust to have someone do it to me though, I'm generally a control freak, especially in terms of emotions and feelings. So letting go and enjoying the ride is a great way to relieve myself of everything. Having a man tie you up is in some way giving yourself to him, if you think of lions, being pinned down and having his bite on your neck is the same thing.
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MissAce
10 years ago
Nothing wrong with that Some people dont like to be vulnerable or submissive, not just you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
So it seems some are quite happy to hand them-self over to their lover to use as they wish. ? Then again' others tend to hate the thought of losing any sort of control.. I guess its the mood and the person your with. Trust is the word that keeps popping up ,so I guess that's the key .
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