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Tips for Couple Happiness?

May 14 2013

I was just reading a thread about the final straw in relationships and wondered if it might be good to have a thread where we might be able to share and pick up tips for happiness from other loving couples. Recently, we as a couple, wrote down our individual lists for individual happiness. The rules were to not consider the other person and write down what you believe would make you happy. One of the things we both had on our list was, believe it or not, cooking classes.. So we booked and have been having a ball together. Mr. shyloving2 described in his list what he believed Love is. He believes love to be a huge mirrored jigsaw puzzle. The pieces are of various sizes in thousands of shapes. When some of the pieces are missing you can still see the basic picture but not the whole picture. The small things are equally important. The first one out of bed putting the toothpaste on both brushes, putting the kettle on when you hear the car pull up, ringing to say "I love you" followed by a giggle and then hanging up and hundreds of other little things that make us feel young and fresh after 22 years... Love develops and continues to grow, learning from others both good and bad are critical. So please, if you have something, be it minor be it major, we as a group could learn from you and maybe integrate in to our own relationships, please share.

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Cheekyarses

12 years ago

We have been together for 23yrs.... And it hasn't been all roses, romantic getaways, sunshine n rainbows... We have had to make it what it is- through the hard times - giving up hasn't been an option.... We are both very different ppl and have had to disagree to agree.... What makes us happy - this is for and and what works for us does not mean it will work for others. communication - you must know what the other wants, needs n desires.... Honesty - be honest with each other.... If you like or dislike something - speak up.... Trust - only a 5 letter word - but if you can't trust then why bother.... Encouragement - help each other achieve their goals whether this be for work, sport or play.... Acceptance - no one is perfect. Accept each other as they/you are... Laugh - at silly things - laugh until you cry.... Love - love with everything you have Respect - not only respect yourself - but respect your partner... A marriage really shouldn't be hard work - a marriage should be fun, dynamic, inspiring, of course you will argue, piss each other off, bang your head against a brick wall - but don't forget why you married them or why you live with them...... Sometimes you will drift apart and nothing will bring you back together, but at least challenge that.... Marry or spend the rest of your life with your best friend......

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Mr_MrsAraps

12 years ago

1. Honest communication - the longer you are with someone, ironically sometimes the harder it gets.2. Respect thats shared.3. Two way street - both still giving a shit compared to life and 50 million other priorities getting in the way.4. Still sharing and exploring intimacy and great sex.5. Own space when needed to be yourself - Own hobbies etc

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justfforfun

12 years ago

wel we haven't had 23 years although we look forward to it. We believe the trust is the big part we have full and total trust prob a good thing to as he works away for two outa three weeks and she is living in perth at the moment dealing with treatment etc for our daughter and raising a bbi with our third on the way. With all the challenges were going thru and facing us the thing that keeps us going is knowing from the minute we wake that our thorts of each other and the love we have and sacrifices we are making that we have each other,and the fact we can Skype ring or face time each other. And when we are together we get to make up for the time apart and enjoy each oher,and believe me two weeks apart makes the sex like the first time!

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RHP User

12 years ago

Be thoughtfulBe kindBoth share responsibilitiesYou know, an occasional mealGo out together...do stupid stuffHAVE FUN!

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Paradisepair

12 years ago

Been a game changer for us

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RHP User

12 years ago

communicate.......honestly and openly......on all things. and if there are things that do make you uncomfortable and uneasy, work on these in particular, but do it with respect and dignity. we end our day by having a chat about the things that disturbed us thru the day....and as time goes on, we are finding these things to be less and less about us, and more about things outside our relationship, out of our control. most importantly......... never ever go to the marital bed upset or sad with each other in any way. the bedroom is a place of love and of peace, don't ruin that for the sake of some pettiness or misunderstanding. its where you 'make love'....treat it with the care and dignity it deserves.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Reading this made me warm inside.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Reading this made me warm inside. I know what you mean - it's givin me the FUZZY WUZZIES... Foxy

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'Paradisepair' Been a game changer for us Don't sweat the petty stuffIt's the petty stuff that leads to the real problem; or should I say the straw that broke the camels back?BOTH have to LISTEN properly to each other and understand exactly what is being said .

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RHP User

12 years ago

Forgiveness and sorry. No one is perfect and if you can not forgive someone you love, and give a true felt sorry it will never last. Resentment, blame, expectation, conditions, miss trust, are natural and can invade any couple and lead to unhappy life. With true unconditional forgiveness, true love will last.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Thank you for sharing... It goes without saying but needs to be said that 'communication' in an open and honest way is one of the big mirrored jigsaw pieces.

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RHP User

12 years ago

After having left a 16 year marrigage to a man that became closed off and settled into a world of binge drinking and self absorbed lifestyle with all of the mental health issues and relationship issues that come with that lifestyle I am able to look at both sides of the coin so to speak. When I look back I can categorise it into a few things. First comes the lack of communication and trust, lack of respect and then the lack of touch. When the touch goes from a relationship the relationship dies. Always remember to touch your lover in some way every day, be it a cuddle or great love session or fun dirty sexy play or even if your just near each other and stoking him/her or giving them a cuddle or holding thier hand. We all want to be desired and touch is the best way to make your partner feel that way. Sex, communication and trust are the most important things. Not a day goes by where my partner and I don't touch each other in some affectionate way. My opinion may vary to some others but the most important thing in a healthy relationship is SEX and sexual compatability, then Communication and all of the other little thoughtful things. If you don't fuck well together then what's the point. Couples that play well together stay well together. There needs to be a mix of good sexual compatability and good psychological connection. I and I suspect so many other people in life picked the wrong person to marry. Yes the sex was good in the beginning but it wasn't mind blowing. Never settle on anything less than great. If you can't say the sex is amazing and we are just "So into each other" then give it a wide birth and go find a better one. Life is too short. Yes I can acknowledge that there are some relationships out there that exist harmoniously where sex is not the main factor and good luck to those people, but I would not be happy in that situation and was in that situation, albiet I can appreciate that they might be happy enough. Get the sex and touch right and if you also communicate well, be respectful, be honest and get on well together you will have something great as I feel we do. Not meaning to brag, but I am the happiest I have been in a very long time now. I'm needed, respected, Loved, wanted and desired and it feels fucking great.

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RHP User

12 years ago

We find that a big part of happiness is just letting your partner be who they are. Don't expect them to change or try to change them. If you are with your partner because of who they are now you will be happy. If you are with a partner for who they could potentially be, you are in for a world of trouble and bullshit.

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RHP User

12 years ago

connection..... be a couple. don't be 2 singles in the one house. live your lives together, and share in the things your partner enjoys, don't reject them outright. everything you do with the one you love, has the potential of becoming a wonderful memory.... guys....do 'girly' things with your lady, and girls....do some 'boy' things, you'd be amazed at how much fun you can have, experiencing these things together.... be your partners 'bestie' in all ways.

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